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Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Golden147: 8:03am On Jul 19, 2021 |
hapheeyxz: Thank you so much. |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by StPete: 8:09am On Jul 19, 2021 |
Yusufisraelj: Who gave you the right to determine whose advise is good and whose advise is not? I don't know the first commenter you quoted from anywhere but seeing your comment just infuriated me. What fvcking rubbish! All you posted is pure gabbage and a waste of nairaland space. Nonsense!!! You're not the custodian of knowledge nor the determinant of what is right or wrong so you have no fvcking right to determine another person's comment. Just post your rubbish and get lost. As for the OP, thinking of marriage at this time while you're in school is a setback except of course, you're not determined to make good grades, you just want to pass through school. Marriage at this time is a big distraction for someone your age and educational level and carrying a burden bigger than you yet complaining is total folly. Don't start what you can't finish 6 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by iLegendd(m): 10:10am On Jul 19, 2021 |
Mommy's boy. Before you marry, make sure you have these 3 important skills 1. How to handle women (in and outside the bedroom) 2. How to make money (online and offline) 3. How to manage money From your writeup, you lack the 3 things above and you seem like a mommy's boy. Trust me, you still have a long way to go. In fact, you also need to improve your written and spoken English. Don't be in a hurry to marry. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by seanwilliam(m): 10:22am On Jul 19, 2021 |
anthonyuncle:this is deep 3 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by seanwilliam(m): 10:32am On Jul 19, 2021 |
In addition to all the pieces of advice on here, I’ll say make sure your girl is working and earning before you wife her no matter how much u have .. and u see, it is until u marry that’s when u can fully chest beat if you’re financially buoyant or not.. All what you have are not really a big deed bro, calm down , make sure she ticks all your boxes, make sure you can put up with her condition before u marry her. Dem no Dey marry out of pity. I wish u the best .. cheers 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:13am On Jul 19, 2021 |
[s][/s] Liballo:You and I know the age got you saying this,that guy really has no problem,maybe you don't know but men of 40+ still get goosebumps on the thought of marriage. He is ready,Westin again we dey find They have money and love,these are the only things they need after God 3 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:21am On Jul 19, 2021 |
StPete:Abegi na lie jare Who set the standards for the right marriage abeg "Nigeria's sentiments" Saying it will affect his school bla bla If it doesn't affect it nko All you see there is their age,you need to read your Bible and also read History,early marriages were even more secured marriages than these times,Bible talking about the woman of your youth He is progressive,they have love What again are you looking for? Grey hair ![]() OP indecisiveness is what is doing you,work on being a bit stingy,yes I said it,build your discretion to be stronger,money and love is the only combo marriage needs, don't mind anybody here screaming about age.. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Rubbiish(m): 11:21am On Jul 19, 2021 |
Golden147:This is why some persons are saying u are not ripe enough for marriage! For a man, marriage is leadership! U are about to lead a family!!! As a man, when u set your mind to do certain things, u do it & damn the consequences. Why are u going about trying so hard to convince everyone? Are they the ones that will sponsor your wedding? If u want to lead a family, u should be able to make certain decisions & stand by it! The way u are wavering on this tells a lot about your level of maturity! 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:24am On Jul 19, 2021 |
cayorday89:I like you |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:31am On Jul 19, 2021 |
horlahwaley:What is life really? In lif ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:38am On Jul 19, 2021 |
Rubbiish:Chill man We Nigerians are too hostile We see the problem but we make it so grievous we end up not being effective in proferring solutions This same situation can happen to a man of 39,he is a bit meek,all he has to do is work on his stance, I won't give them money, I'm marrying your sister and not your burden, I'll give when I'm inclined to and it won't be a compulsory thing,this is something he can work on within weeks,not going all "level of maturity"...Wetin,what is bad in a 24yr old wanting to settle?? 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:42am On Jul 19, 2021 |
okoroemeka:Thank you very much Sir Me I didn't even know marriagenow comes with age group 29-43yrs old ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lucrativress(f): 11:52am On Jul 19, 2021 |
Liballo:I logged in because of these comments Ahn ahn what happen ![]() Nigeria's mess has really shaped us,we now have a new agenda of doing things How horrible or apologetic should things go to the extent that when we see something positive we still lace our comments with poignant negativity The young woman in question feel ashamed of her people,she understands it's a stain on her dignity,so please what else do you need Ma? This guy has assets,lady is educated,just this issue alone will make her pretty supportive of him,so why make life so hard? 5 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Golden147: 12:23pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Rubbiish:thank you too. |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by AutoChick4U(f): 12:57pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Golden147:My dear you got an old soul. Don't mind jealous agbayas telling bs because they don't got their lives in order. Simply say no to the brothers requests after all they are men like u. Better start showing them u no pushover and won't tolerate laziness. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by AutoChick4U(f): 12:59pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Golden147:Better be firm if not when married, they go press u die. |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Yusufisraelj(m): 1:07pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
StPete: I'm not the custodian of knowledge clearly, always improving at areas of lack. By the way I didn't mean that in derogatory way to the writer. Mind you this a public forum every opinion is subject to personal interpretation and scrutiny. If you don't want your opinions quoted then don't write, it's that simple, as you've picked offense with mine, I have no issues whatever with it and that's my response to you. 3 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Stevenbright(m): 1:17pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Golden147: Look, you are probably your own problem not the lady or her brothers. You said one is owing you some amount of money and you paid for the release of another from prison. Were you forced at gun point to do any of these things and others you have done for them? Is the lady the one disturbing you to help are siblings? I know the answer to the first question is no. As for the second question, if the answer is no, you can safely get married to your lady. But if the answer is yes, you can talk to her about it and ensure she promise to desist from such habit of getting you involved in her family's issues, otherwise walk away. In essence, stop living a life of showing off and stop carrying other peoples problems on your head unnecessary. If you don't learn this now, you are most likely to repeat the same mistake in your next relationship. |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by ibechris(m): 2:45pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
If ur parents are rich and are ready to support u,u can go ahead,but if not, I pity u. Sorry,I may sound harsh but the financial burden in marriage is even harsher. Pls,check urself to know if u are ready to marry,because if u are not,pls just wait a little when u must have graduated. In view of the above,i say good luck. |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Klass99(f): 3:20pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
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Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by anthonyuncle(m): 4:23pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
seanwilliam: but it is the truth |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lostchild(m): 4:37pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Golden147 I will not advice you to marry for now because both of you are still too young. My only advice is for you to keep helping her financially, see it as just a Godly help as long as you have the financial means to push her along her education. REMEMBER: both of you are still too young. |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lostchild(m): 4:45pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
You don't need advice, both of you need time. Just focus on your career. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by cococandy(f): 5:30pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.Yikes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by cococandy(f): 5:34pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Golden147: Where you there when the three guys came? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by debbydams(f): 6:22pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Greystone:yes oo |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by limcar: 6:56pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
Lucrativress:I'm 19, i have a girlfriend, should i go ahead and get married? |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by jantman(m): 1:22am On Jul 20, 2021 |
@Golden147 At this point of your life marriage is not what you need. When a women feels something for a man, they will confess I can't live without you; You are the apple of my eyes, if you leave me, I will commit suicide and die, bla bla bla. But when that which they feel fade away, there comes the regret of your life. I will advice you to remove marriage from your thought right now as you are still too young. Pursue your life and your destiny. In 6 years time both of you will become two different persons because time will tell. Time will put both of you to the test, and if both of you prevail, then you are good to Go. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Teleprompter(f): 7:22pm On Jul 20, 2021 |
At 22, you can not really ascertain your woman's true character. She might be acting nice because you are her provider. She does not have to bring suicide into the matter. I would not also trust the parents who are alive and comfortable with the fact that you are paying the daughter's school fees as a boyfriend. Those brothers would not go away even if you ignore them. Their behaviour is as a result of bad upbringing. If it was just one I the brothers acting like a beggar, I would not judge them but for all four to be like this is not the kind of family that a young successful man should get entangled with... You must find a way to test your woman for true love before going ahead to marry her. At 24, you might be financially stable but for the Nigerian society, you might need to be a little older to be able to face the challenges of being a married man to an awkward family, at that. 6 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by frozen70(f): 8:39pm On Jul 20, 2021 |
Golden147: Having read all these, am not a man, but tell me, What exactly is the rush for marriage commitment on her Is it because you don't want another man to pick her before you Is it because you have spent on her and you realy want her Is it because your mates have married and you are willing to get married too Now look at the pross Her brothers are nuisance am sorry to say this, so getting married to her, makes you to have a link with her brothers, it could be direct or indirect link Secondly, you are having a percentage in her educational sponsor and you too you are in school, is that the kind of burden you are building yourself with, what if she becomes pregnant, would you be able to shoulder the responsibilities till she finds her bearing Are you realy set with the money you need for her marriage rites, or you want to deposit on her head, what if you no longer want to go ahead, would you go back to withdraw your deposit or both of you will remain in an inconclusive relationship Pls for your own interest, think twice but dont rush yet As for her, she may see you as her last hope because she really wants to leave her family as she is tired of her brothers attitude Marriage is more than the pictures you see about marriage 3 Likes |
Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Gloriagee(f): 11:46am On Jul 21, 2021 |
She's obviously a good girl whose only fall back option is prostitution. I hear you, I really do. Greystone: 2 Likes |
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