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Stop feeling hopeless, used and empty. That is not the way out. Move on. It is life, sh!t happens.

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This is why in a relationship, we shouldn't invest what we can't easily let go. Because things might go south tommorow.

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Until s/he becomes your husband/wife, keep your investments to yourself so that you won't invest in someone else's future husband/wife and later regret it.

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Relationship is like betting. The chance of it working out is 50/50. That you were dating him doesn't mean that he must marry you. No, it doesn't work that way! There's no law that said that boyfriend & girlfriend relationship is one-way to marriage. So, it is all trial and error. When it becomes an error, you move on. Case closed.

Upset700:
Hi guys...I know most of you will judge me badly.im human, we all make mistakes.i met this Igbo guy 27 when I was 17.yes I was 17 and I fell in love....I'm from Akwa ibom state.we kicked off in 2017...I got admission in school..he was serving his brother and he later got freedom and got his own shop..we both were growing.....I was there through thick and thin with him...same for me.
When I got did my genotype test in school..it was AS...I didn't bother asking his cus I felt they made a mistake with mine... growing up I always childishly said I was AS...cus I'm athsmatic...he went for a test one day and I saw it was AS...I was broken.that was our third year of dating.families know each other.got pregnant twice and aborted cus I wasn't ready.he was for the second one.we didn't talk about the genotype issue.. although we knew.This year would make it 6years..he started giving Funny signs dis January...like he was seeing someone else.it got to the point he blocks my number at night to answer her call.we fought.we discussed the issue...he then said he has someone.he had been making plans to marry since last year december.infact he has gone to see her people and she's pregnant.that I should move on...he can't marry me cus of our genotype.he did all this for 5months and never for once told me his plans...I have so much devotion for love that I never saw anyone else all these years.ryt now it's like any time I breathe my heart aches.tot of taking my life cus I feel hopeless...empty...used...rejected.pls all in the house I need your message support cus I'm at the edge...did I really deserve what he did...am I that worthless....pls I need your advice.thanks

Okay

Don't worry, you will be alright. Just forget about the past, build yourself and move on.

This is why It's Always Advised,... No matter how sweet that Kpekus is and no matter how sweet that gbola is, one of the Early questions you should ask that your crush/early stages of your relationship friend is his/her genotype... Asking the "Genotype Question" very early is because it will trigger the other person to suddenly pick interest in knowing their own genotype Status, because some people don't even know what "Genotype" is.


The Lord is your Strength.

No more will you continue to be weeping and gnashing your teeth.


It is well with My Soul..... Amen.

We keeping making same mistakes by ignoring important questions on first date...
Sorry babes, just count your loss and move on.

I'm from Akwa Ibom too,in case you need a Big shoulder to lean on you can count on me

SmellySperm:
We keeping making same mistakes by ignoring important questions on first date...
Sorry babes, just count your loss and move on.

I'm from Akwa Ibom too,in case you need a Big shoulder to lean on you can count on me

Ikenga

moving on is not easy but you should finally accept defeat, as you've ignored the obvious signs for way too long.
few yrs from now, you will meet someone else, fall in love, have a great family, then think back of this day and smile of how young and clueless you were about life.

True

Xenry:
Stop feeling hopeless, used and empty. That is not the way out. Move on. It's life, sh!t happens.

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This is why in a relationship, we shouldn't invest what we can't easily let go. Because things might go south tommorow.

---

Until s/he becomes your husband/wife, keep your investments to yourself so that you won't invest in someone else's husband/wife and later regret it.

---

Relationship is like betting. The chance of it working out is 50/50. That you were dating him doesn't mean that he must marry you. No, it doesn't work that way! There's no law that said that boyfriend & girlfriend relationship is one-way to marriage. So, it's all trial and error. When it becomes an error, you move on. Case closed.

Thanks alot everyone..I really appreciate.

Okay firstly how old are you and what are you up to now

Upset700:
Hi guys...I know most of you will judge me badly.im human, we all make mistakes.i met this Igbo guy 27 when I was 17.yes I was 17 and I fell in love....I'm from Akwa ibom state.we kicked off in 2017...I got admission in school..he was serving his brother and he later got freedom and got his own shop..we both were growing.....I was there through thick and thin with him...same for me.
When I got did my genotype test in school..it was AS...I didn't bother asking his cus I felt they made a mistake with mine... growing up I always childishly said I was AS...cus I'm athsmatic...he went for a test one day and I saw it was AS...I was broken.that was our third year of dating.families know each other.got pregnant twice and aborted cus I wasn't ready.he was for the second one.we didn't talk about the genotype issue.. although we knew.This year would make it 6years..he started giving Funny signs dis January...like he was seeing someone else.it got to the point he blocks my number at night to answer her call.we fought.we discussed the issue...he then said he has someone.he had been making plans to marry since last year december.infact he has gone to see her people and she's pregnant.that I should move on...he can't marry me cus of our genotype.he did all this for 5months and never for once told me his plans...I have so much devotion for love that I never saw anyone else all these years.ryt now it's like any time I breathe my heart aches.tot of taking my life cus I feel hopeless...empty...used...rejected.pls all in the house I need your message support cus I'm at the edge...did I really deserve what he did...am I that worthless....pls I need your advice.thanks

Upset700

I am very very sorry for what has happened to you. I don't blame you. Love has a way of making people lose their mind. I understand the pain you are going through and you need time to heal but you eventually will. You are young and you have your life ahead of you. I know you can't see beyond him now but trust that his decision to move on is for the better. It's better for you and your unborn children.

It's hard to let go and move on but trust that you are moving towards something better. One day you will be grateful things didn't work out with him. Trust that something much better is waiting for you. You are not only moving from the past but you are moving towards a better and safer future.

turning 23... I'm an undergraduate and own a fashion store.... thanks alot...it really helps.

Don't we all feel like this when unthinkable things like being scammed, jilted e.t.c happen to us?

Sis, just move on. Forgive him and free yourself for something better is coming your way soon. Wear your makeup, takeselfies, go out have you and do things that'll make you happy.
Enjoy.

Upset700:
I feel hopeless...empty...used...rejected.pls all in the house I need your message support cus I'm at the edge...did I really deserve what he did...am I that worthless....pls I need your advice.thanks

Upset700:
turning 23... I'm an undergraduate and own a fashion store.... thanks alot...it really helps.

I'm AA if you want let's get married

FirstProphet:
I'm AA if you want let's get married

you are SIMPly hilarious

Konor:
you are SIMPly hilarious

don't judge what you don't understand

FirstProphet:
don't judge what you don't understand

who's judgin? You SIMPly lack comprehensiveness

Konor:
who's judgin? You SIMPly lack comprehensiveness

what's this one talking about, wetin bring comprehensiveness to the matter? All you saw is 'I'm AA if you want let's get married', you don't know what's on my mind so STFU and find someone else to show your stupidity to

FirstProphet:
what's this one talking about, wetin bring comprehensiveness to the matter? All you saw is 'I'm AA if you want let's get married', you don't know what's on my mind so STFU and find someone else to show your stupidity to

I don't know how else to SIMPlify you

Op take heart...shit do happen, most of us have falling in love like MADand have falling out of it like CRAZE and have fallen into it again like DIE........at the end of it all, life goes on.

I remember, Early this year my sister's baby was hospitalized at the pward of a Federal Teaching Hospital.Three days later I went to see them and know how the baby was doing but something caught my attention then.A baby about 3years was rolling, crying and making that loud horrible sound,for almost 20mins no one was attending to them,the child was just on drip with the mum massaging and asking the baby "Tell me where naw"?.After Some time I couldn't bear seeing the child in pain and called for the attention of a nurse passing to attend to the baby naw but then my sister stopped me and told me"He is a sickler and has sickle cell Anaemia that that's how he barks when in pain since they came in.I just sat down there looking at the mum with so much disgust.Like in this age and time?
Please @OP,You're matured enough to understand Sickle cell isn't a Joke.
Any man you're attracted to and getting involved with should show what they bring to the table first in terms of reproducing.And that should be a priority for any AS looking to have kids of their own. You can't always get what you want in Life so learn and move on.

I hate to break it to you but he did what was best for both of you, it's no ones fault it took you guys 6yrs to find out, but you should know right in your mind it was going to come to this, if you'd decided to progress with the relationship, it will lead to unfathomable problems in the future which you both will regret. You just have to put on some maturity and forget everything(won't be easy ) Find a compartible partner, and don't make the same mistake twice.

First of, i understand your pain. You are not worthless. He shouldn't have hurt you this way. But you'll live. You'll meet someone compartible and it'll be bliss!

Are u trying to say u prefer to marry him and have two or three SS children? Abi you are just being stupid?
What do u want the young man to do?
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U are just 23... ur husband will come.

I always knew it would end.i Don't want any SS baby either......but I was so committed that I didn't have any one to go to.ive built a wall around me for him...but what's really hurting me is that he planned all this while we where dating...went for introduction while I was even in his house..came BK and made love to me. ..
Like he has a family now and he is happy.what I get is just try and move on....just like that.thanks all.

such is life dear, i will advice u wipe ur tears and move on. may God strengthen u to forge ahead.

SmellySperm:
We keeping making same mistakes by ignoring important questions on first date...
Sorry babes, just count your loss and move on.

I'm from Akwa Ibom too,in case you need a Big shoulder to lean on you can count on me

Alaye sha wan Kane person pikin anyhow without getting to deliver the much desired trophy...
@upset700, life happens in ways we cannot comprehend, so many mistakes from you both. All you have to do now is repackage yourself and move on, don't dwell much on it...

It could be hard but you have to move on. You don't need to force yourself on who doesn't want you. Besides, the genotype combo is enough to part ways.

SmellySperm:
I'm from Akwa Ibom too,in case you need a Big shoulder to lean on you can count on me

Big shoulder kee you there

@Op, your own is small...my ex chased me away like a criminal..like am worthless....she blocked me from chat, will never open her door to me, blocked me from calls ND messages..if you visit her at the office,she plays dumb like u are invincible...making u look like slowpoke....

It beats me how people could just switch on a very new opposite attitude...

Now do u know what my crime was...? Don't worry it's not cheating, beating badmouthing , losing or being ugly or uncaring or not principled........my only crime is.....y didn't you have money after dating you for two and half years....?

Like is a book, we learn nu chapters daily

SimplyFacts:


Big shoulder kee you there

Lols...my shoulder is big enough for her bros. Na u get dirty mind