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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Hathor5(f): 3:51pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
don4real18 You dodged a bullet. The girl is not very sensible and very selfish (judging solely based on what you have told us about her and the wedding plans). The lesson for you is not to get mesmerized too much by a lady's appearance to the point that you ignore all the red flags. A girl who can forget you easily because of some distance has never truly loved you in the first place. That was the first red flag. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by don4real18(m): 3:59pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Klass99:Thanks. I'm not as heartbroken as I once was. I'm moving on. 4 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Klass99(f): 4:19pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Hathor5(f): 4:25pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Klass99: You have actually said the same thing using different words. Had she formed a deeper bond / loved him more/truly, she would not have given up so easily. Or ... she would have at least tried to make it work before she would give up. 2 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by crackhaus: 4:59pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
don4real18:That's just what I was waiting to read from you... What you need now is just a cold drink... a very cold alcoholic drink. 7 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by mariahAngel(f): 5:49pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Op, next time, avoid any lady who can’t decide on anything without consulting, (then as time goes) and making you speak with her pastor, because for such ladies who don’t seem to have minds of their own (nor can make decisions for themselves), whatever pastor says is final! There’s nothing more irritating than discussing and agreeing on something, then she goes on to discuss them with pastor. You’re better off without her. Trust me! 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by cococandy(f): 6:03pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
As in. Very irritating. Ndi “my pastor said” Don’t get me started on those ones that call their pastors daddy. I’ll slap you. I don’t want to hear it mariahAngel: 22 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by mariahAngel(f): 6:32pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
cococandy: Also very annoying. Like I respect you but don’t be all up in my business! I had a friend who went through a similar situation as the op. At a point, he got so emotionally frustrated, he had to let go of the lady. 15 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by don4real18(m): 6:34pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
mariahAngel:Thanks. I appreciate the advice. 2 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ishilove: 7:47pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
I'm always wary of well written posts on Nairaland. This one in particular is really suspish. Make one Hints writer no use me catch cruise 4 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Hathor5(f): 8:34pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Ishilove: Many threads are unrealistic but never mind. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ishilove: 8:37pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Hathor5:I'm tired of reading made up stories so all threads are assumed guilty until proven otherwise. 2 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by don4real18(m): 8:54pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Ishilove:Hints writer? That magazine brings back memories. Well, you should know that I have no reason to make up this story. It's personal, true and it has caused me so much pain. You also have every reason not to believe it's authenticity given the made-up stories we get to read everyday on the internet. 5 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Hathor5(f): 9:07pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
Ishilove: All threads? |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by flokii: 9:13pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
@OP Thank your stars and move on.. that kind of girl lacks wisdom, she is the type that'll force you to live beyond your means and probably dump you later when she feels you can't meet up. Marriage is something that can make or mar a promising young person.. If you enter marriage with the wrong person, everything in your life will be affected. 5 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by 1F30M4(f): 9:38pm On Jul 23, 2021 |
You write so well, I must say you're really good.. I'm actually glad that you're moving on now.. Must've been crazy having to deal with all of that, talk about covid & how it affected your business too.. I do hope things start to look up for you & your path crosses with that of a special someone who is reasonable, compassionate and supportive. 4 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Elporo(m): 1:02am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Klass99: Your name should be Ifeoma . if if everywhere 3 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ishilove: 3:02am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Hathor5:Yes. ALL 1 Like |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ishilove: 3:03am On Jul 24, 2021 |
1F30M4:That's why I became suspicious. It's been long I read such lyrical, well written prose on Nairaland Quite sad how so many people can no longer communicate effectively, and when we stumble on one who does, it is like a drink of fresh water in a burning desert. 4 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ishilove: 3:09am On Jul 24, 2021 |
don4real18:I must say you write very well. I got distracted by the flow and smooth transitions while reading, and this made me assume it is fiction. Well, you have been given lots of solid advice and I have nothing new to add. Your lady does not seem to be mature enough for marriage. Perhaps, in time, sense will fall on her and by that time she will set her priorities straight. To borrow Toni Kan's byline- Things Kan Only Get Better 6 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ghostrye: 3:12am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Congratulations on dodging a bullet 1 Like |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Nobody: 6:35am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Sorry o. Breakfast don reach you be that. Na all of us go chop am. I be chief breakfast chopper. Go find orijin drink. Pele. 4 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by don4real18(m): 6:44am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Ishilove:Thanks a lot. I really appreciate. |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by don4real18(m): 6:46am On Jul 24, 2021 |
1F30M4:Amen. Thanks a lot. 1 Like |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Klass99(f): 9:22am On Jul 24, 2021 |
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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by DonroxyII: 9:39am On Jul 24, 2021 |
don4real18:I ThanGod for you ... Some of you failed to realise when God is helping you .... You need to pay attention to your brain because that's the only way God speaks to Human and other animate objects! Abuja spirit has entered into her and Abuja spirit is all about "spend and finish" .... Majorly, Average Abuja people are Lavish and Mouthish. Abuja People spends beyond their pockets and being a resident of Abuja , Her Family, Friends and neighbours would have subjected her to Higher Standards beyond your means and of course, Her Means. It's not just the wedding but also your marriage would also be toxicised from one extravagance to another. Na frustration go later wound you and you will bow out crying! Go and do Offering as you have been delivered from evil spirit, Extravagance and ultimately depressing frustrations !!! Let her go and date Senator Pickin and all these Monies Missed Road Alhajis & Sons dem ...... She is possessed now and her eyes may never be cleared or she might come begging !! 11 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Goldbw122(m): 9:58am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Marriage is not easy, but God will give us the power and the grace to over come amen |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by DropsMic(m): 9:59am On Jul 24, 2021 |
Yawn |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by loadedvibes: 9:59am On Jul 24, 2021 |
She ain't so lovely afterall |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Romanoff(f): 10:02am On Jul 24, 2021 |
If she wanted a big wedding and could afford up to half the cost at least, e for better, if her siblings can also contribute to give her the kind of wedding she wants, e for make sense. She's not ready to marry. As for the counselling part sha, I understand where she's coming from, you should be able to sit together to take a few classes, even if it's once. But it's not enough to call off the wedding and her reason should not be because of a supposed man of God. Based on my first paragraph sha, she never ready. 5 Likes |
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by AfroKnight: 10:02am On Jul 24, 2021 |
I have never read so many “did” in my life before. Calm down with the “did” abeg. Don4real18 So, in short, asking for a virtual session with a priest is disrespectful to God. I don hear another one today. She decides to be “woke” and dismissive when your mum offers advice but suddenly wants to conform to tradition when her priest is involved. She’s taking a hard line in two different directions but on similar concepts. First of all, she has no principles. She needs to grow up. One of the first things she would have learned in that counselling session that she cancelled is compromise - reasonable compromise. It is always reasonable to save money. It is always reasonable to use tech to make things easier. It is always reasonable to avoid calling off a wedding on a whim. People are only able to call off weddings this hastily for a couple of reasons: immaturity and disenchantment. Immaturity is self explanatory. Disenchantment here refers to the proverbial scales falling off her eyes and revealing the suppressed truth that she actually had doubts and those doubts were valid to her. This could be for a number of reasons including the presence of a new guy she is considering. If this is how she is in courtship, omo, I wonder how the marriage will be. Will you even have a say in the home at all? Sorry bro. Nobody deserves to be dumped by a fiancée. 5 Likes |
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