I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since September 2019. I intend to marry her.
The problem is that, I don't desire her sexually. Any intimate touch from her feels like the touch from a blood sister. Very uncomfortable.
She is a strict Christian with a policy of no premarital sex. So we have never had sex except for occasional kissing and romance which I sometimes initiate.
However, since January this year, I lost sexual attraction towards her and I avoid even simple touches. In fact, last Sunday we were walking down the street and when she placed her arms round my shoulder, I stylishly evaded it. I don't feel like this towards every other woman.

I'm currently not seeing any other lady but I have had sexual flings with two different ladies including an ex.

Question is: Is sexual attraction/desire neccesary for marriage? Is it normal not to feel sexually attracted to your partner? Can this be a basis for break up as I fear it might persist in marriage and make me cheat on her.

Just quit bro coz sexual attraction odikwa necessary.

But why did you accept to a nosex before marriage relationship? What if she's shallow with the P? You need to F her to know if you both are sexually compatible.

Stop deceiving yourself, she told you no sex before marriage and you are too ashamed or weak to press on for sex, so u allowed it as a brother cos she's a holy church sister right?
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Truth is her not allowing u to fvck her since 2019 lol, has lead to frustration on your part...and the frustration has turned to subtle hatred and bitterness against her touch that u are now under denial and disgust of her sexuality....

Same church sister is being piped doggy style from all angles in one secrete room every weekend.
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Truth is u are acting weak..and u are hating her and urself for being weak and unable to control sex btw both of u
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All those things u wrote up there is just living in denial and communicating subtle frustration....
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The day u man up and fvck her letft right and centre to stamp your power, that's the day u will realise wot uve been missing and cure that frustration u interpret as not having sexual interest for her.
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You sound like those weak church boys sha

U are childish and confused. So because she didn’t sleep with u, u now want to sister zone her?

zyphr:
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since September 2019. I intend to marry her.
The problem is that, I don't desire her sexually. Any intimate touch from her feels like the touch from a blood sister. Very uncomfortable.
She is a strict Christian with a policy of no premarital sex. So we have never had sex except for occasional kissing and romance which I sometimes initiate.
However, since January this year, I lost sexual attraction towards her and I avoid even simple touches. In fact, last Sunday we were walking down the street and when she placed her arms round my shoulder, I stylishly evaded it. I don't feel like this towards every other woman.

I'm currently not seeing any other lady but I have had sexual flings with two different ladies including an ex.

Question is: Is sexual attraction/desire neccesary for marriage? Is it normal not to feel sexually attracted to your partner? Can this be a basis for break up as I fear it might persist in marriage and make me cheat on her.

op you have two options. Either you opt for kayamanta or you call it quits.

Why will she say no sex before marriage? Is she a virgin? Who confirmed her virginity?


A Nigerian girl deflowered with noodles and eggs telling you no sex before marriage is mere manipulation and demonic.

Flee from such shackles!

Don't start what you can't finish. Sexual attraction matters alot in every relationship. Nevertheless, sex before marriage is wrong.

Bluntguy:
Don't start what you can't finish. Sexual attraction matters alot in every relationship. Nevertheless, sex before marriage is wrong.

Rubbish post by a kid...stupid contradiction...trying to appear smart abt relationship and appearing holy at thesame time.

Bluntguy:
Don't start what you can't finish. Sexual attraction matters alot in every relationship. Nevertheless, sex before marriage is wrong.

Marriage before sex is detrimental.

Kriss216:

Marriage before sex is detrimental.

Highly detrimental my OG

Stupidquestions:

Rubbish post by a kid...stupid contradiction...trying to appear smart abt relationship and appearing holy at thesame time.

From your moniker to your post everything sounds stupid.

Intimacy during courtship is very essential....

Op, don't take this the wrong way o. I think you have become a mugu on a leash.

2019! And you haven't shined her "Kongo" for once?

You are officially reverend sisters not bf & gf.

I EARNESTLY urge you to test run what you are about to pay for and if the commodity does not meet up to your expectations, please go in good conscience to another trader!

Let her apply to the nearest Convent where her monastic vow to chastity is cherished.

Me I believe that before I marry any girl, we must be sexually in sync. I must be so free with her to the point that she would have known all my sexual psychology while I know hers.

Marrying someone you're not sexually compatible with is a recipe for disaster.

Maybe she's a Deeper Life member.

You can't blame her for that bro, bcs you already know her for that before asking her out

zyphr:
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since September 2019. I intend to marry her.
The problem is that, I don't desire her sexually. Any intimate touch from her feels like the touch from a blood sister. Very uncomfortable.
She is a strict Christian with a policy of no premarital sex. So we have never had sex except for occasional kissing and romance which I sometimes initiate.
However, since January this year, I lost sexual attraction towards her and I avoid even simple touches. In fact, last Sunday we were walking down the street and when she placed her arms round my shoulder, I stylishly evaded it. I don't feel like this towards every other woman.

I'm currently not seeing any other lady but I have had sexual flings with two different ladies including an ex.

Question is: Is sexual attraction/desire neccesary for marriage? Is it normal not to feel sexually attracted to your partner? Can this be a basis for break up as I fear it might persist in marriage and make me cheat on her.

And you're not ready for pre marital sex right?
If you're, this would prompt your sexual urge towards her the more.
If the relationship is healthy, serious and secured then, you can try that.

Letz look at this from another angle. How are you sure ur fiancee is not getting the dick from another? If she is no virgin why let you hold on to no sex shit before marriage?

That is the bane of your problem.

Omo this one pass me o
You’ll definitely have tendency to cheat if this goes on and on oo
Maybe things will change after you shine the kongo but are you willing to take that gamble

toffyz:
Maybe she's a Deeper Life member.

You can't blame her for that bro, bcs you already know her for that before asking her out

There wouldn't have been room for pre intimacy...if a lady could allow pre intimacy before marriage...just beware. Something is wrong. You can't be hungry and suffice with water to claim u r satisfied. If you r hungry eat food not water. Rather stay away from food totally, deny hunger. Water cannot replace food. Drinking water to delay hunger is flushing the system but to be honest, more injuries would happen, if u take water for too long waiting to break with food at a particular day.

its possible that you guys see each other often, try to spend a month apart. Only phone conversation, you might miss her again and if you don't... just japa

Op sex before marriage is wrong nomatter what anybody think or say. Wrong is wrong and people being peer pressured to do it still doesn't make it right. Having agreed to her on the 'no sex' since 2019, that says you might be a Christian. Continue on that good path even with future relationships. You should also look in wards to find what may be the cause of this lack of feeling as it's definitely NOT caused by your abstinence. Maybe something about her physical appearance, scent, dressing etc might be irritating you unconsciously. Sexual attraction is very much needed in marriage.

Please respect her stand and don't coarse her into what she doesn't want to engage in due to her faith.

And then Op, this is 2021☺️ 3years since engagement, abeg do something. Una sopoz don study unasef finish and 2021 is about rounding up..�

Ok

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Nor be juju be this?

I hope she's not collecting money from you before marriage o!

Contact the roasted BBQ griller to help you

zyphr:
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since September 2019. I intend to marry her.
The problem is that, I don't desire her sexually. Any intimate touch from her feels like the touch from a blood sister. Very uncomfortable.
She is a strict Christian with a policy of no premarital sex. So we have never had sex except for occasional kissing and romance which I sometimes initiate.
However, since January this year, I lost sexual attraction towards her and I avoid even simple touches. In fact, last Sunday we were walking down the street and when she placed her arms round my shoulder, I stylishly evaded it. I don't feel like this towards every other woman.

I'm currently not seeing any other lady but I have had sexual flings with two different ladies including an ex.

Question is: Is sexual attraction/desire neccesary for marriage? Is it normal not to feel sexually attracted to your partner? Can this be a basis for break up as I fear it might persist in marriage and make me cheat on her.

u are indirectly telling her u no longer interested or better not b banging outside while u all acting innocent

E concern you