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Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by seyz91(m): 9:42am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Confirm! Skyfornia: |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by OhiOfIhima: 9:43am On Jul 27, 2021 |
LagosNissan:All these are not something needed man. Don't just enter it show her you have d cash or the qualifications, just be normal. You might hide ur house from her as of now but be real about ur education and ur job, that will lit her hope a bit. At least you sef need a moderate classic lady to company with you. No be say naw one typical village girl u dey find. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by seyz91(m): 9:43am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Go rewatch coming to america movie, the first one then you would understand better his point LagosNissan: |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by bakesntakes(m): 9:45am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Yes that's the best way to find a woman that truly loves and cares for you At your lowest point 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by folake4u(f): 9:45am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Any man that wants to form "The Poor Prince" does so at his own risk. Come as you are. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by anointedlinks: 9:47am On Jul 27, 2021 |
If you're well to do (rich), look for a well to do woman as well. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by wallarwallar(m): 9:47am On Jul 27, 2021 |
It is 100% right especially in Nigeria where dere is no true love but base on what they can get from you. In this country if you hv nothing to offer nobody will love or want to associate with you but if u find just 1 please never let go cos it is very rare in this Jungle. Family, Marriage, Friends, Church, Mosque, place of work. Na only person wey get money pastor dey know dere house 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Nobody: 9:48am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Peace of mind is the greatest asset love can give you. Life scenarios will place you were you will meet the right partner but also other connections can ruin that as well. I met someone when I was dead broke and they were kind and had money. Things changed for me business picked up they lost money and I was helping them everything we worked together for when things picked up the ran to others to register and copyright. I withdrew years later we reconnect they have money now but their flaunting it I’m like it’s cool we both have… Later sha ….they needed help again I helped sacrificed and they mocked me with it that they always had. Ok cool so why pretend? You want someone to love you for you be yourself. Money comes and goes but loyalty when you have or don’t have is everything. I don’t care how rich my husband is but if he is disloyal it will bring poverty. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by RightToReject(m): 9:50am On Jul 27, 2021 |
No. Vulnerability is one of the true tests of compatibility and, by extension, a sign of a mutually healthy relationship. If you have a woman in your life, and vice versa, who, giving a chance, will take advantage of you/cannot stand firmly for you/treat you respectfully after seeing you in your vulnerable state, then she does not worth your closeness and trust - love and its benefits in general. Provided that you are coming from a conscientious position with a set standard in place, you can never get it wrong. 5 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by UcheforGod(f): 9:58am On Jul 27, 2021 |
[quote author=LagosNissan post=104064290]Good day! I want to know if it's right to hide one's achievements like educational, monetary etc because one wants to find true love. Does it make any sense? Would a woman be considered bad for rejecting you, if you said you squat with your brother whereas you own a house? Or that you didn't attend a university whereas you did? Or that you you didn't have a job whereas you did? Note that all these are in a bid to test if she is a wife material. Is it wrong for women to insist on certain things like wealth, educational background, etc? I will say its not wrong but don't take the disguise to the extreme like pretending as not having anything at all. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by ford101: 10:00am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Lucrativress:when you say a man has absolutely nothing, please what do you mean. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by jy2kbeyond(m): 10:00am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Lucrativress: You can imagine a daughter of Eve's perception. Gawd! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Nobody: 10:01am On Jul 27, 2021 |
pansophist: Judging from personal experience in Nigerian dating culture, I disagree with you. Things like marrying within your class isn't as simple as you put it. First of all, a lot of ladies never want to marry in their own class, they usually aim higher and when they do, they assume themselves into your class and there isn't any way you can find out except you do some diligent research about this person and ask the right questions. They can tell you they work in XYZ corporation, how do you find out? Some people don't even have an online profile. Now in the process of asking the right questions, you can keep a decent low profile that is presentable until you actually know who they really are. Don't go on dinner dates talking about how much you have, how many cars you drive, what properties you have purchased or your actual earnings. The purpose of this is to allow her truthfully justify if she likes you or not, without money clouding her judgement in any way. In Nigeria, if you don't shine your eyes, someone will shine it for you. Dating is crazy outchea. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by jaxxy(m): 10:03am On Jul 27, 2021 |
pansophist: Do u know there are people who pretend to be sophisticated to click with other sophisticated people? Bt they are not really sophisticated. Why? because they only aquired these skills to catch a prospect not because it’s who they genuinely are or want to be either or with the best intentions. There Are Wolves!!! 2. Look at a man like dangote, or zuckerberg. He walks into a room and interacts like a nobody, dangote a naturally shy man just keeps quiet and minds his business, while enjoying the simple things. Don’t they have class? They sure do but it’s not in them to loud it. These are difference in personalities. Why do u think zuckerberg married a Chinese and dangote dates low key American ladies who can’t immediately tell who he is?? Some people best attributes and values are sometimes not the ones they glorify or glamorously project to the world. A lot of people are private. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by ford101: 10:05am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Lucrativress:so now that I have a girlfriend who I no is fucking other men.and I chose to endure all this cos I don't have much and think I shouldn't even be in a serious relationship.so if I make money now should I marry her?the ans is never.i ll never marry Grace Ahmadu 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Nobody: 10:05am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Lucrativress: I actually agree with you to a large extent, It's always people telling me money doesn't make a man but then, how do I get a roof over my wife's head. I do agree a combination of things make a man but If you have all things without money, you are still worthless to the world, so what's the point. A man can have money and still be useless, toxic or money miss road as they call it, but not having money at all wouldn't even qualify you to be a man. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by teejaymmm(m): 10:06am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Interesting discussion, I believe Oldie and Lucre are saying the same thing just in different ways. Truth is no reasonable person will see poverty and run into it. Even if the man is humble at least the lady will something that shows tomorrow will be better, meaning he must be promising. I believe disguising to have a wife is pure deciet. Be yourself, there's always someone for everyone, just like Lukre said, you must know what you want, you must be deliberate 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by WantsandMore: 10:12am On Jul 27, 2021 |
A High Valued man should only seek the hand of a high valued woman in marriage. Compliment don’t berate 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by bucho1: 10:13am On Jul 27, 2021 |
it is not bad to hide your achievements when finding a wife, but it wrong to hide your educational background because even you that is talking will not marry a hawker in the street that has no school cert. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by hahn(m): 10:14am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Potatochips: So what is her real status? She is obviously a manipulative biatch. You are lucky to have jumped and pass 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by teejaymmm(m): 10:14am On Jul 27, 2021 |
[quote author=UcheforGod post=104141331][/quote] I feel it's totally unnecessary, everyone has a standard and taste except someone that doesn't know what he or she wants. Saying you are not what you are, means you'll get what you don't deserve. I believe being deliberate and being yourself you'll get what you deserve. That people are unfortunate doesn't mean you'l be. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by ford101: 10:17am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Lucrativress:have u ever seen a visionless man?even a mad man has a vision. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by CodeTemplar: 10:20am On Jul 27, 2021 |
I think it is safer to allow attraction come as you are then once a relationship is on, fake hard times to see if the other person isn't just a gold digger. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by detectivejones: 10:23am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Whether you belittle or show who you are if it's been predestined for you to end up with a karishika you won't escape it 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by NaijaDonCast(m): 10:24am On Jul 27, 2021 |
LagosNissan:you never watch coming to America 1 |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Greatzeus(m): 10:25am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Reminds me of one of the best literature books I read in secondary school, " She stoops to Conquer" |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Lucrativress(f): 10:30am On Jul 27, 2021 |
LagosNissan:At times we make life happenings shape us soo bad we stop thinking straight,it happened to Mr A,it happened to me before,so we set up standards that varies on probabilities,yet we take it as fact,so we stop thinking. Please leave whoever will decide not to think but act irrationally and give himself unnecessary stress cause of past deeds.. Life isn't black and white 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by OK1(m): 10:31am On Jul 27, 2021 |
I think the question is rather funny. There are basically three kinds of spinsters in the Nigerian marriage space 1. The girl who won't settle for less. She'd only consider you if you have something to offer. They spend so much to look damn good. Call her "runs girl" if you want, but she won't marry you if you are not rich 2. The girl who has achieved something in her life. She has a good paying job and can foot her bills. She just needs a partner. Most of them have certain achievements they expect their potential partner to have made. Don't expect them to fall for you when you pretend with a low profile, even though they may 3. Finally the girl who does not have much to show by way of career achievement. She's due for marriage and can feel the pressure on her shoulders since all her friends are already inviting her to their wedding. If you like claim say na you poor pass, once you can pay her bride price and can afford to take her in, she will say yes. For her, any man will do, after all, she will "learn to love" the man. My point, pretending to be less than who you are does not in anyway guarantee that you'd find true love, it can only guarantee that you'd find someone who's comfortable/in love with that personality you have put forward My humble submission 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Lucrativress(f): 10:32am On Jul 27, 2021 |
Anazp:When people go vulgar,I only see someone who has nothing intelligent to say So I pass Thank you 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by MrSamsung(m): 10:36am On Jul 27, 2021 |
oldienavie:Thank you. You have spoken my mind, most especially the southerner aspect. Abasi udiong. |
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