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Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by pacespot(m): 12:46pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Given today's materialistic nature of women, I subscribe to this idea. Some women don't even want to see a poor man in their dream with the way they are so deep in this culture of materialism today. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Amhappy(f): 12:52pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
If you think being modest about your achievements will land you true love go ahead but don't over play the game. And it also depends on who you are aiming for. Modesty will not help any man aiming for Otedolas girls for instance. I think as a lady you should bring on your A game to land a good man. Show your best part not your worse. And don't allow anyone guilty trip you for going for the best. There's nothing wrong with a man with money. No matter how you pretend we ladies love to have wealthy man or a prospective one. Forget Nollywood love stories. Can he provide for me and my children is not being materialistic. Just make sure you bring something to the table also. Everyone love a good life 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by jaxxy(m): 1:01pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
pansophist: How do u experience life without tests or trials/tasking situations or is it buy partying all nite or wine tasting together? People fake alot of things u will be surprised. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by pansophist(m): 1:07pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
jaxxy: I'm speaking from my own perspective, and I usually do not jump into a relationship straight up. I become friends first, then progressively transition into romance. This way, the propensity to be an actress, and for me to be an actor will not be there. I mean you can only fake it when you know there is a prize (relationship) to be won right? So from the above response, there is a divergence of paths. I start as friends first, while your statement implies the traditional method of going for a date and so forth. I don't do that. In this area, I'm weird. Friendship will test her patience, there will also be scenarios where her virtue of contentment, dignity, and integrity will be tested. It is after this preliminary stage, negotiations for dating will occur. I don't want to start discovering you while dating you, I want to have already known you to a reasonable extent before dating. The usual way of first dating, they have lots of sex, then later realize the person is not for you after uncountably forking each other is just wrong, I don't do that. This is my formula and so far, it works for me. I don't want to have the emotional baggage of numerous women in my mind, and wishing I never slept with them. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by jaxxy(m): 1:29pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
pansophist: I appreciate the bolded. I think I get ur perspective now. Nice |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Yankee101: 1:53pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Absolutely do it if you can |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Gruvychuky(f): 2:03pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
You don't need to belittle yourself. You should start with friendship, the woman will have no idea of your intention. Simply friendship. By then you must have known her personality, if you are still interested then you can graduate to dating. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Quahl: 2:07pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Not only wife material... and vice versa!!!! |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by koyyess: 2:16pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Nothing good comes out of deceit. Pretend all you want, you go still land on top the same type of women you want to avoid at all cost. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by onlyhope: 3:07pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Phew! I read this thread from beginning to the end. My contribution is, a man should do what pleases him. If you're yet unmarried and you're viewing this thread as a man, do what you like o. No be the woman go feed you o. You can check the advice from the ladies here, only one lady agreed that you should keep a low financial profile when looking for a wife. Me, even if I have the money to buy a car, I no go buy am. Also, if I have a house, I'll tell you it's a rented apartment. How do people even determine who has something to offer? I've never looked for a relationship from a woman because she has money. So, let's assume that a lady is 20x richer than me and I did not know but she agrees to date me. If I now discovered she is 20x richer I will run away? B.S. As a man, appearing as if you have nothing is the best approach to getting at least 'a compatible' companion in the present Nigeria's context. Everybody dey street o. Whether you like it or not, dating is a game and it will remain so till Jah comes. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by InvertedHammer: 3:11pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
LagosNissan:/ The only thing you should disguise about yourself is your wealth. Just be yourself but act like e no dey. Money is like honey that attracts bees. Hide the honey so that you can sieve through the hives. It is very necessary these days...very very necessary! / |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by hahn(m): 3:15pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Potatochips: She was only trying to rope you. If you had accepted her the way she portrayed herself she would have still kept her real status secret and continued to use you as an atm. You are a sharp guy 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 3:53pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
oldienavie: all of you should go and rest. The funny thing is that most of you don't have shishi to your name! see these ones oooh. Men too are out preying on rich ladies for married, so it goes both ways. Stop talking trash abeg! it's always broke asses that seem to have an opinion about everything. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 3:56pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
oldienavie: another nairaland nitwit who thinks abroad id heaven! I put it to you that you dont have any money anywhere. Can you borrow or get loan? Yes you can. But you don't have anything to your name. Rich my ass....Bush boy |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 3:59pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
oldienavie: Poverty stricken man that ran abroad to wash plate. Keep your useless advise and opinion to yourself.. See how this bushrat is talking as if he owns the world. Adviser general.. Is abroad heaven? All these so called abroad people and their unsolicited advise. For your mind now you're hotcake! Living borrow borrow loan mortgage life, you call that rich. Stick to the topic you fool! besides, men are even the gold-diggers nowadays... looking for who to pay their bills..rubbish 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 4:05pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Lucrativress: Don't mind the dolt and all the useless men on this nairaland that talk trash about women all the time! Everyone go and hustle man ooh, woman ooh. that way you can choose and pick your speck when it comes to marriage! mocking women as if they are not born of women. Mumu 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 4:12pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
LagosNissan: Are you minding this useless omega male hypocrites we have on nairaland. Honestly, this site is very toxic against women, behaving like if their daughter shows up with an exconvict who has nothing, no education, or job, they would agree. Funny enough, all these boys on nairaland are dead broke, nothing to offer anyone 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 4:13pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
deltateam: Likewise women too.. Too many gold-digging mean on the prawl |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Hathor5(f): 4:17pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
How refreshing! A man wants to downplay his achievements. I am yet to meet a man who doesn't exaggerate his. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by okwadatigbogal: 4:20pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
OhiOfIhima: Are you minding these useless nairaland boys? Hypocrites. They go for highclass high maintenance girls? because they like what they see and are attracted to her. Why not go for village girl or moderate looking girl? Everyone has their levels and you cannot force someone to come down to yours because you have watched several nollywood movies of prince disguising as beggar. Pure nonsense 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by space9880: 4:23pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
blizard44:liar |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by razible5384(m): 4:37pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
pansophist:well said bro 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by onlyhope: 4:41pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
I wasn't planning to quote you but I like the way you presented your argument. However, your argument is flawed. You even used the word 'modesty'. Damn! Are you saying you will not marry a modest man? Let's even assume the man is not wealthy. So, what you imply is that, if I earn a nice salary, drive a Camry 2014, you will choose someone that drives a Mercedes Benz 2020 over me? Given that both of us (me and the other guy) has the same net worth? See, net worth is what matters. And, actually, you should not be able to tell someone's net worth except they want you to know it. Amhappy: |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by efficiencie(m): 5:20pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
LagosNissan: Dude, listen and listen good. A woman that will not partake in your suffering but wants to enjoy your success will dig your grave faster than your village people...I assure you. A woman that does not join you in paying the price of success will give your prize to strangers who will mock your stupidity! |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
space9880: Pele. |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Gfskw: 6:06pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Yes coz women of this generation only smell money you need to act broke to know their true feelings |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Raydans: 7:37pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
BABYharder:What's your right track ? |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by cayorday89(m): 8:44pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
pansophist:This has always been my way of getting to know people especially ladies, but there is always a dilemma at times, like in the course of this friendship what if someone else ask her out and she agrees, with you still trying to get to know her, how does one deal with this? |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Klass99(f): 9:06pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by pansophist(m): 9:13pm On Jul 27, 2021 |
cayorday89: You let her go, that's how you deal with it. Its not that complicated. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right To Hide Or Belittle Yourself To Find "Wife Material? by Konquest: 1:00am On Jul 28, 2021 |
Skyfornia:Deep! |
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