Nice one op

Nobody cares about you.

God forbid

Kind of thread that endeared me to nairaland. God bless the mode that pushed this to front page.

Moneywirer:
This is the major reason why everyone has to have a very cordial relationship with the Holy Spirit, He guides you into all truth and even in the aspect of who you should get married to.

You find God during a relationship with a narcissist because they make you believe no one will love you after them.

My neighbor helped free me from my narcissistic partner her big mouth is the reason I will always be grateful for a second chance at life.

He even joined his ex wife to insult me once I laughed they divorced as the love always dies quickly when you gang up on others and they are emotionally aware and can change reaction aka end the supply

A better question would have been; how are you sure you're not being narcissistic or tending towards narcissism?

We humans like to point fingers at others when we should actually be checking ourselves first.

We just wanna be happy and relaxed.

Here comes another reason to break up..... Babe I'm sorry, I'm a narcissistic

Narcissistic ko Nazisim ni

Who get time to dey monitor wether you be Narcissistic or Nazism

If I give u chance you try use me play. Come form entitled join. I don ghost you be that. Na online you go dey see me. Cos I no go even block you. You will be seeing me...but I will ignore you like I never meet you before.

One preferred me and her to be chatting. She want come over my side last week...but I don evaporate from her life like vapour I sent her friend request she refused to accept or add me on her friends list so that I will not access her posts, stories etc. She locked everything. She come get 2 whatsapp etc. Me I no get time. Na so I leave her go my way...her messages sef I no dey reply

binarymachine:
I thought you loved me… you used to be so charming and nice to me, texting me almost every second of the day…..oh babe, you’re so nice, you’re beautiful, we are so compatible. Come meet my mom. Two months into the Relationship, Boom. The real narcissistic personality comes out. They are not able to regulate their emotions any longer. They become very angry quickly especially when they’re not getting their way, they become very hypersensitive to criticism. They literally doubts you on almost everything leaving you feeling like you’ve gone crazy.

Narcissistic partners are very captivating at the initial stage of a relationship and with time, the relationship becomes very challenging, how well do you know your partner? How well can you tell if they have these traits? Accordingly, There are certain things to look out for in your partner to conclusively tell he or she is narcissistic.

The term “Narcissism” is most times used in recent years without understanding it’s indept meaning. Let’s look at the meaning of narcissism.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism as otherwise seen as Narcissistic personality disorders (NPD) by psychologist is defined as a trait that solely relates to insecurity, a pattern which is characterized by lack of empathy, controlling, arrogant, inability for one to manage any kind of disappointment, chronic validation seeking, feeling entitled, grandiosity, extremely self centered with some degree of selfishness. Study shows that there are 4 types of Narcissism and not all Narcissist are the same. For the purpose of this topic I may not want to go into that. Alot of people have either found themselves in relationships with such partners or encountered people who exhibit these tendencies.

Who Is A Narcissistic Partner?

Narcissistic Partner is an insecure person in a relationship who seem very charming and nice at the start of a relationship but later becomes that person who lacks empathy, feels entitled, always expecting special treatment to be given to them but nobody else, they’re very concerned about their appearance, very prone to throwing tantrums, with too much sense of self importance, they get angry very quickly especially if they don’t get their way.

How Well can you tell if your partner is a narcissist?

Ever noticed your partner liking and showing so much care at the beginning of the relationship and later declines as the likability decreases, they only tend to appreciate you when in need? They become highly self centered, Your value comes when you’re able to meet their needs, they get hurt and lash out easily, their only concerns are their goals and reputation, lacks empathy whereby your significant other should be loving. They are all about knowing how you feel about them. all about themselves. Desperately needing validation and adoration, Very controlling, watch their reaction toward criticism, do they over react? Are they very manipulative and defensive? Do they make you feel bad for ever speaking up? Are they the type that’s always on the “ I know more than you” side? Feeling too important, acting like they know more than their partner while their partner is always wrong? Projecting everything they can back at you leaving you feeling You’re not enough, Are they ready to sacrifice anything on the platter of their ego? With too much sense of entitlement? These are signs you should look out for in your partner, if you find these traits in them, it’s safe to say they may be narcissist.

Ultimately, Being in a relationship with a narcissistic partner takes alot of work and patience because they make you feel very special until these feelings start to shift , as soon as there are some stress in their system, maybe things not going as planned, work day didn’t go the way they want, kids behaving badly, they become manipulative, Gaslights you, egocentric, extremely self centered and you begin to blame yourself for their actions, you devalue yourself, you loose focus and self esteem.

Narcissistic partners projects issues or fault back unto their partners, they say things like, “you made me do what I did, you didn’t allow me to finish what I had to say, you interrupted me” . Once this happens, you may not want to confront them any longer, they dismiss you with that, they make you understand their point is more important than what you had to say. The point you’re trying to make at that point doesn’t make any sense. They make you look like you’re the controlling one while they are ,trying to make you feel you’re the one with the issue here, and you’ll just pull back and begin to apologize. This is exactly what they want ,they want you to feel you’re the one with the problem and not them. If you try to point their mistakes or remind them, maybe they forgot to pay some bills they promised, they will be like” because you’ve done it before, please face your problems.

People in this relationship always feel they’re not enough“ If I was enough, he wouldn’t cheat on me, if I was enough, he wouldn’t insult me, if I was enough, he would be present when I needed him, if I was enough he wouldn’t do this and that” These aching feeling of not being enough is one of those Signs you’re currently in a relationship with a narcissist, you keep making excuses for them , hoping they’ll change, but no matter how you try, they just make you feel you’re never enough. Oh please, just stop this, the truth is that it has nothing to do with you, they just can’t regulate their self esteem, they’re are now insecure, they now feel entitled, broken inside, they tend to protect it by all means, they feel no one is better than them.

Unfortunately, people with narcissistic personality often see nothing wrong with what they do, as such there’s no point for change in them, in as much as a narcissist cannot completely change, there are certain things they could do in hope to recovering such Relationship. Narcissistic partners should break out of the norm and focus on showing more empathy for others, they should care about how others feel, they should drop their ego, Stop thinking they are better than others, they should welcome critics as a step to their growth and reviving a narcissistic Relationship.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/06/25/narcissistic-relationship-how-well-can-you-tell-if-you-are-dating-a-narcissist/

I can't believe I'm a typical example of this

I want to change pls

NoFucksToGive:

This topic has been so over done on YouTube and on dating websites.

There are over a.million articles and videos online telling you how to know if you are dating a narcissistic person.

Yet this was brought to front page ?

Is it there is no content available or what ?

. What other topic do u need if i may ask?

I can relate. It takes me just a week to know that this sweet girl that is in front of me was a narcissist, even worse, she suffers from Princess syndrome join. But I first doubted it, I knew something was off. So I was observing, entering a month, then it becomes clear. My next strategy was to exit, but again, you want to exit in such a way that they can not revenge because they are very vengeful and to hurt them deeply, treat them with indifference.

You only need to experience one narc, to know them. They are perfect chameleons, and always target good guys, but very stupid. Their behaviours can only go far with people that are insecure. If you're self assured, autonomous and not insecure, they will have nothing over you. This emotional vampires can easily be spotted by INFJ personality types.

TheWolfen:
I encounter narcissistic minded people both as friends, colleagues at work and in romantic relationship.
One this I can say about them is that they had so much Mastered the art of playing [b] Mind games and Gaslighting and one can be free only when he or she understand narcissists for what they really are [/b]

Swear

For me those who use the word narcissist are the real narcissist

A narcissist worst nightmare is an educated empath
Everyone has to be educated about narcs
I nearly lost and sanity and life when i dated one
Now I can smell them from a mile

Here's a shocker, majority of humans in this world are narcissists. It is one of the core traits of being human, let no one tell you otherwise! In life everything must be looked at in terms of severity, we all have that dark side but majority of us are fortunate to have anchors that limits that darkness. Behavioral analysis of the human psyche is a controversial yet often misguided journey, what you call narcissistic, another will call assertive or leadership. For example in the business world, the best and most successful business moguls are by definition narcissist, they are obssessed with their craft and often will break your heart if you don't have a thick skin. In relationships, if you are dating a man or married to a man that basically does everything for you then naturally you've given him the power of a narcissist, same goes for guys who can't cook, sleep or think properly without their girlfriend/wife.

It's part of life and it is completely unavoidable, the real question here is this, how does one narcisst maintain a relationship with another narcisst? Think about it, unless you don't have an emotional connection with your partner, how do you resist the urge to have a say in how they dress, eat, mingle etc? Your woman did hair, makeup and you didn't even notice due to hectic work schedule, do you call her a narcissist for having emotional tantrum or getting upset? You are broke and could not fulfill a promise to your wife so you bone face and start a fight just to avoid that promise, are you a narcissist? It's one thing to throw around fancy words and use theories, it's another to actually view things in practical/real life.

maureensylvia:
This table shaa

one of them spotted already

Yh

Every relationship have someone acting in a way that brings out these sort of trait from the other person

lovchalice:
A narcissist worst nightmare is an educated empath
Everyone has to be educated about narcs
I nearly lost and sanity and life when i dated one
Now I can smell them from a mile

You try. I feel your pain. I nearly date one like that but I catch am during earlier stage. Yes, an educated empath is their best victim if he/she loose guard, but their worse enemy.

100%

Summary description of my ex. Boy! That guy do me strong thing. I thank God daily for my deliverance.

president Buhari is a Narcissism

I have some of these traits and it started after I caught her cheating and forgave her
Am I wrong for being that way?
I was relaxed before
But now my trust level has dropped and now I’m insecure.

Benard5050:


I can't believe I'm a typical example of this

I want to change pls

Una no fit change, but carry your case to baba God, maybe miracle de there. But as far as studies on narcs are concerned, your situation is everlasting.

Yea I no them even without been told...

Moneywirer:
This is the major reason why everyone has to have a very cordial relationship with the Holy Spirit, He guides you into all truth and even in the aspect of who you should get married to.

An idiot shows up

dannyrhymes600:
Op you are on point. Nairalanders won't understand or care to read because it doesn't have pornographic content. Best post I have read this week

Me too. Nice one, binarymachine

sunshineV:
lol i'm staring at one right now

Your cup of tea

lovchalice:
A narcissist worst nightmare is an educated empath
Everyone has to be educated about narcs
I nearly lost and sanity and life when i dated one
Now I can smell them from a mile

Once you figure them out they will flee. Although I feel Empaths need them at some point in their life. They tend to speed up awakening/enlightenment in Empath. Did you notice how you become fully aware and enlightened after your encounter with one?. Now I have mastered their crafts, I can smell them from afar. Like you said a fully aware Empath is a Narcissist worst nightmare.