Stats: 3,191,766 members, 7,945,385 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 September 2024 at 04:02 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One (40310 Views)
How Did You Later Discover You Were Dating Who Was Not Dating You? (photos) / My Friend Married A Narcissist And I Am Now Her Emotional Wastebin / I Hope I’m Not Dating A Corporate Olosho? Help, It’s My Girlfriend & Waist Beads (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) ... (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by shepherd316: 4:50pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Bryan88:You have no interest on this forum if reading a well educated post as this is your luxury |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by bukhety(f): 4:52pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
abbey621:A psychopath can kill, a narcissist will likely not kill but enjoys tormenting u emotionally. He is envious and wishes worse for his perceived enemy. A bipolar could be good at sometimes bad at other times. But u see narc, they are ever calculative. Looking for opportunities to strike. Worse if them is the covert narc 2 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by shepherd316: 5:02pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
I blame narcissism on two things : "demential" and lack of good "parenting" , human true behaviours can't be modified immediately. Another issue that leads to narcissism is drug abuse, mad people see themselves as the best mentally fit persons. Heaven knows I will only see the reward of the wicked but I will not allow terrible people to come across my path - I've had enough of this narcissistic zombies and idiots. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by abbey621(m): 5:09pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
bukhety: LMAO....What if I told you they all have the ability to do all the things you mentioned ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm sure you've heard of Adolf Hitler, as a child he was very bipolar, he even tried to commit suicide. As he grew up he became more in love with himself and having people adore him(Narcissism), and we all know about the Holocaust and World War(Psychopath) in his adult role. The point is simple, shine your eyes, human beings are capable of anything givien the right set of catalyst. Majority of Nigerians when analyzed by professional psychologists would qualify as having one mental issue or the other, you'll be shocked how easily most of us are on the spectrum/border between sanity and mental degradation. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by AmazonTopaz(f): 6:24pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Loud it dear 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by bukatyne(f): 6:55pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: @bold: Which religion? You think only men exhibit the behaviors in the OP? Who nurture these men? |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by BRATISLAVA: 8:34pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
bukatyne: You already know which religion(s). Not only men exhibit them, but it is men who frequently do and hide narcissism under being men and taking the wheel of other people's lives. They call it leadership. When exhibited by women they paint it as tyranny, lack of submissiveness (the horror) and pure, concentrated Jezebelic evil. Other men nurture them. That is why they refer to non-narcissistic men as "mummy's boys", simps, etc. Are you done with the questions? Or will the one-sided exchange continue? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Moji12(f): 9:18pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
bukhety: You are very apt. Thumbs up. |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Dliquidmetal(m): 9:36pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
HRSweetness:I trade forex,its a different game when you immense your self in it,you would have a different perception because I'm aware alot of people have little understanding of it. If you really wanna master the market you would have to change whole self and your emotions are to be tamed. It's very deep but I think you get it |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by samuel19222(m): 9:58pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
shepherd316: hey man, I don't do dating and I don't see any reason reading that write up |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Moji12(f): 11:02pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
pansophist: |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Moji12(f): 11:08pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
pansophist: 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by bepositive11: 12:05am On Aug 07, 2021 |
abbey621: Please read my comment again. Your interpretation is false. You're not getting my points "Narcissism" is a personality disorder theoretically defined in the study of psychology. "Wife beater" is not. "Psychopathy" is also a personality disorder. Those terminologies cannot be used loosely. The person needs to be diagnosed by a licensed practitioner. Narcissists and Psychopaths have no empathy. Anyone who has narcissistic traits but has empathy is not a narcissist because they can change. Narcissists and psychopaths can never change because they have no empathy, which makes it a personality disorder. Again, regarding your story, learn more about his history. Some families look happy, but behind close doors, they are highly dysfunctional. The narcissist I encountered was the same. He had a lot of empathy growing up but there were subtle signs of narcissism. It seems that his life experiences later on strengthened his narcissistic traits and he lost all empathy. Narcissists get worse with time. They start developing those narcissistic traits in childhood to varying degrees, then as they transition into adulthood, they either become narcissists or learn to change their ways. If they do become narcissists, they will never because by then, they will have lost all empathy |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by abbey621(m): 2:08am On Aug 07, 2021 |
bepositive11: Narcissists and Psychopaths have no empathy. Anyone who has narcissistic traits but has empathy is not a narcissist because they can change. Narcissists and psychopaths can never change because they have no empathy, which makes it a personality disorder. You're still confusing yourself! Personality/mental disorder are known through the way a person behaves, yes they are diagnosed professionally but the traits manifests through actions, a wife beater often blames his wife for any and all things, the mental disorder is there even if many of us Africans discard it as just anger. I already told you don't focus on words/theories alone but real life application. You said someone can exhibit narcissistic traits and not be a narcissists just because they showed some empathy and I call that pure hogwash! Many people walk around everyday and switch between one personality/mental disorder but are never diagnosed, do not use diagnosis as your main measurement, it is a farce argument. It seems you're confusing low empathy with no empathy, narcissism occurs on a spectrum, people range from low empathy to no empathy, this has been proven by various researchers so I will not bore you with details. I suggest you study the life of Adolf Hitler, especially his childhood. From bi-polar to narcissism to full blown psychopath, till this date many top psychologists and researchers can't explain what cause narcissism and many agree that they can change or control their narcissism with time and therapy but you want to tell me you know more than those top researchers? Bruh ![]() ![]()
|
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by bepositive11: 4:19am On Aug 07, 2021 |
abbey621: I'm tired of you. You're not getting my points. And btw, I got my info from top researchers. 1. People with narcissistic traits who have empathy will change their ways because they can see how it affects their loved ones and it makes them sad. They will eventually seek help from therapists. These people are not narcissists because they can change -- they don't have a personality disorder 2. People with narcissistic traits who have no empathy will never change their ways because they cannot see how it affects their loved ones so it doesn't disturb them. They will never seek help from therapists. These people are narcissists because they will never change -- they have a personality disorder 3. If anyone should notice a potential partner with narcissistic traits: 3.1. If they have empathy, stay away till they change their ways 3.2. If they don't have empathy, stay away forever because they will never change their ways 4. "till this date many top psychologists and researchers can't explain what cause narcissism" -- I don't know where you got this information from. Please do some research. As I said earlier, it stems from dysfunction in the form of abuse, neglect, abandonment, etc. especially in childhood. Please do some research 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Regex: 5:10am On Aug 07, 2021 |
bukhety: Knowledge is power. Application of knowledge is supreme power. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Regex: 5:12am On Aug 07, 2021 |
slimkhalifa: You have to watch out for it. Check your life in the past and know whether you have suffered from it without knowing and also check if you are the one that is narcissistic. Dasol. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Regex: 5:17am On Aug 07, 2021 |
bukhety: I even forgot to update that during my secondary school days, I had a friend, same name same age, we were more like best friends, but he was too domineering and all. Trying to control me, but I never did. Had a fight with a class mate, also wanted me to hate the guy for no reason. I did not and that broke into a fight, well it was the end of it. Lost contact as soon as I left school. Later reconnected, noticed he hasn't changed, immediately I deleted his number and moved on with life. Like Pansophist would say, you can not go into silly banter with a self aware man. Both narcs wanted me to go into a banter (talking trash to each other on WhatsApp) but not me. Regex does not have that time. 3 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by abbey621(m): 5:44am On Aug 07, 2021 |
bepositive11: My guy stop arguing and accept you do not know what you're talking about. Here are some fantastic article that explains it to you in simple form: What causes Narcissism? https://www.psycom.net/personality-disorders/narcissistic/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662 Can Narcissists change? https://marriagehelper.com/can-a-narcissist-change/ https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/do-narcissists-cry#ability-to-change Here's another one from a top researcher I admire very much: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/romance-redux/201309/can-narcissists-change At this point if you still maintain that narcissistic people have zero empathy and they can never change then it is pointless and my time is better spent reading a good book....PEACE! |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by bepositive11: 7:40am On Aug 07, 2021 |
abbey621: Enjoy reading your book. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by HRSweetness(f): 9:34am On Aug 07, 2021 |
Dliquidmetal: Hmm interesting. You must be a heavy risk taker LOL. Yeah I agree, when making high risk investment decisions, you can't afford to be driven by emotions. How's it going for you so far? |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Dliquidmetal(m): 12:48pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
HRSweetness:I'm dont take very big risks,I know my risk appetite so I stick to that. And you are right you cant mix emotions and financial decisions together he no go gel,you gas dey rational. |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by DonroxyII: 4:57pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
33bandit:true that !.... Your woman is who you are except she is very strong headed !! |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Nobody: 7:46pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
DonroxyII:Leave her black ass if she's strong headed |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by FORWARDEVERLY: 9:35pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Red pill is a cult and they are narcs ?? Lol.. FYI feminist and their movement is a cult and all of them are narcissistic and Toxic.. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by DonroxyII: 10:22pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
33bandit:I love them strong headed !! |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by fineberry(m): 10:35pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
Quite lengthy bou it worth the read. Narcist are every ajeh #hundred 1 Like |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by BRATISLAVA: 10:56pm On Aug 07, 2021 |
FORWARDEVERLY: Education on their origins, methods and what they teach will enable you to distinguish what each is. One is a cult, the other an inclusive necessity. You can guess which one is inclusive, and it's not the narcissist mgtow, redpill, etc, which is a male superiority cult very similar to the KKK. But it's okay jesha.l/etc. You don't have to accept the truth. |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Nobody: 6:10am On Aug 08, 2021 |
shepherd316: Can you please share some of your experiences? Thank you. I'll like to learn |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Nobody: 11:15am On Aug 08, 2021 |
DonroxyII: Loool ..im sure you don't value your peace of mind 3 Likes |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by DonroxyII: 2:56pm On Aug 08, 2021 |
33bandit:Lol, my own strong head must at least be reasonable if not na to Japa o ... I can't come and go and die young ! |
Re: Who Is A Narcissist And How Are You Sure You Are Not Dating Or About To Date One by Nobody: 3:40pm On Aug 08, 2021 |
DonroxyII: ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
(1) (2) (3) ... (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (Reply)
She Rejected My Request To Date, I Moved On, Now She Wants To Move Into My Lodge / My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. / His Uncle Refused To Marry A Lady Because She Has A Lot Of Siblings
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 103 |