thorpido:
If she had informed him she was building a house,then there's no big deal about moving there.
The issue here is that she kept it a secret.

so they can’t surprise you people again?

If this story wasn’t made up, it sounds like a romantic act she did for him.

This is enemy of progress vibes. Don’t be an enemy to your significant other.

SeaTrade:
That one no go work for me sha ooo.
Few months ago them increase my babe their salary ,the way I carry triple my efforts and sit up ehn,even me sef shock No be me you go pass lailai.
Not to talk of woman building a house and I go come pack my things go dey live with am,
Abeg ooo.
I believe say man suppose pass woman for things to dey right and for respect to be and she has to look up to you to fulfill your ego(yes,that is one of the things women were created for,to massage male egos).
When woman pass you financially ,educationally,even with common sense and exposure,whether she loves you or not you will be reduced to nothing,
Even if she don't show it,you can't stop to think it is what she thinks of you(as nothing) or you sef might feel guilty for being nothing.That's how the ego of a man works.
You and your babe go dey na una go go see her friends that just came to town or so and them go dey discuss their time in Paris on vacation or their study years for UK or dey argue which store for Milan dey sell quality or cheap pass and all those things and you go tell me say if you as a man no dey alright you go stay that kind relationship unto wetin?
Them go intimidate you die with ordinary lifestyle and your prick go dey shrink daily till e finally turn to TOTO
Make sure say you always pass woman,if by chance or miracle she come pass you,better leave am go to another smallie weh you pass well well for your mental sanity.

Enskynelson:

Of cos, they make money but they won't make themselves the head in the eyes of the world. There are so many rich men out there but the truth is that, their wives are the source of the money. A good woman has all the money yet makes her husband comfortable. How did that woman OP was talking about even get to build house and the world knows she is the one? The good woman will do same but everyone will think her husband did it.

So a woman is only good if she lets a man take credit for her efforts? Got it!!

SeaTrade:
That one no go work for me sha ooo.
Few months ago them increase my babe their salary ,the way I carry triple my efforts and sit up ehn,even me sef shock No be me you go pass lailai.
Not to talk of woman building a house and I go come pack my things go dey live with am,
Abeg ooo.
I believe say man suppose pass woman for things to dey right and for respect to be and she has to look up to you to fulfill your ego(yes,that is one of the things women were created for,to massage male egos).
When woman pass you financially ,educationally,even with common sense and exposure,whether she loves you or not you will be reduced to nothing,
Even if she don't show it,you can't stop to think it is what she thinks of you(as nothing) or you sef might feel guilty for being nothing.That's how the ego of a man works.
You and your babe go dey na una go go see her friends that just came to town or so and them go dey discuss their time in Paris on vacation or their study years for UK or dey argue which store for Milan dey sell quality or cheap pass and all those things and you go tell me say if you as a man no dey alright you go stay that kind relationship unto wetin?
Them go intimidate you die with ordinary lifestyle and your prick go dey shrink daily till e finally turn to TOTO
Make sure say you always pass woman,if by chance or miracle she come pass you,better leave am go to another smallie weh you pass well well for your mental sanity.

CORRECT GUY!


EVEN IF SHE LIKE, LET HER GO AND READ ALL THE BOOK IN UNIVERSITY TURN ASTROPHYSICIST.


NIGGA! IT IS A WAKE UP CALL TO INCREASE YOUR HUSTLE.



YOUR WIFE NO SUPPOSE GET MONEY PASS U, IT IS THE BEGINING OF INSULT.


WOMEN HAVE PHD FOR INSULTING, WHEN THE TIME REACH.

NOT DAT U WILL HINDER HER GROWTH OR STOP HER HUSTLE.


ENCOURAGE HER TO DO HER BEST AND GROW.



JUST MAKE SURE, U DONT FALL BEHIND EITHER.

hammerDK:




CORRECT GUY!


EVEN IF SHE LIKE, LET HER GO AND READ ALL THE BOOK IN UNIVERSITY TURN ASTROPHYSICIST.


NIGGA! IT IS A WAKE UP CALL TO INCREASE YOUR HUSTLE.



YOUR WIFE NO SUPPOSE GET MONEY PASS U, IT IS THE BEGINING OF INSULT.


WOMEN HAVE PHD FOR INSULTING, WHEN THE TIME REACH.

Na who no know them go tell those ones.
Even ten thousand naira deals I chase these days,just to make sure my net income surpasses hers twice atleast,just to be on the safe side and still maintain my same lifestyle..
The moment they notice they earn more than you do,they start slipping in authority small small.
All those men who were deceived by "the social status difference doesn't matter" by these women,90% of them are in hell in the name of marriage.
Most won't be verbal,but their actions will scream disrespect.
This one even build house no tell the husband,when she was done she asked him to move in,as her boytoy abi wetin?
And some people are defending her,wonders!

cococandy:
This is enemy of progress vibes. Don’t be an enemy to your significant other.

You don't know what enemy of progress means unfortunately.
Did I try to hinder her growth?Did I do anything or say anything to limit her potentials?
I simply tied my belt and hustle more,leaving no stone unturned so that I will keep being ahead,shikena!

SeaTrade:
Na who no know them go tell those ones.
Even ten thousand naira deals I chase these days,just to make sure my net income surpasses hers twice atleast,just to be on the safe side and still maintain my same lifestyle..
The moment they notice they earn more than you do,they start slipping in authority small small.
All those men who were deceived by "the social status difference doesn't matter" by these women,90% of them are in hell in the name of marriage.
Most won't be verbal,but their actions will scream disrespect.
This one even build house no tell the husband,when she was done she asked him to move in,as her boytoy abi wetin?
And some people are defending her,wonders!

THERE IS A NEW AGE CONCENTRATED EFFORT TO BRAIN WASH MEN.


MANY MEN HAVE BEEN BRAIN WASHED BY THE EQUALITY RHETORIC CHAMPIONED BY THE LGBT GANG.


A MAN AND A WOMAN ARE NEVER EQUAL.


THOSE THAT INSIST MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL SHOULD MAKE SURE WOMEN ARE SENT TO THE WAR FRONT AND FRONT LINE TO WIN WARS.


IF A MAN INSULTS ME, I MOST LIKELY FIGHT HIM BUT ALWAYS WALK AWAY WHEN A WOMAN DOES SAME, OUT OF PRINCIPLE BECAUSE SHE IS A WOMAN.


EQUALITY CANNOT BE SELECTIVE AND BASED ON GOODIES OR BENEFIT.


FOR A WOMAN TO BE FEEDING YOU, CLOTHING YOU AND PUTTING A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD, IS AN ABOMINATION.


SADLY, WE HAVE MEN THAT HAVE BEEN REDUCED TO WASHING PLATE AND CHILD MINDING WHILST THEIR WIFE IS OUT AND ABOUT RIDING ASSORTED PRIIICKS AT VARIOUS HOTELS, IN THE NAME OF CONFERENCE AND OTHER WORK RELATED TRIPS.

SeaTrade:
You don't know what enemy of progress means unfortunately.
Did I try to hinder her growth?Did I do anything or say anything to limit her potentials?
I simply tied my belt and hustle more,leaving no stone unturned so that I will keep being ahead,shikena!

This is the part I’m talking about.

I believe say man suppose pass woman for things to dey right and for respect to be and she has to look up to you to fulfill your ego(yes,that is one of the things women were created for,to massage male egos).

Make sure say you always pass woman,if by chance or miracle she come pass you,better leave am go to another smallie weh you pass well well for your mental sanity

So your woman has to make sure she never progresses more than you or the relationship is over. Basically she is supposed to decline promotions, kill her business ideas, turn down academic scholarships etc if there’s a chance any of those will cause her to rise above you financially ?
If that’s not enemy of progress, then what is?

And no, women are not here to massage y’all’s egos. You will be very frustrated if you bank on that.

cococandy:


So a woman is only good if she lets a man take credit for her efforts? Got it!!

That's how u read it. A good woman knows how to protect her husband from the mouth of people. That is how I meant it

cococandy:
so they can’t surprise you people again?

If this story wasn’t made up, it sounds like a romantic act she did for him.

Surprise is okay but in this case it wasn't.That she's demanding the move immediately definitely doesn't sound like she wanted to surprise him.

SeaTrade:
Women who can feed communities with their money are also looking for men who can feed CITIES with their money.
Don't deceive yourself,the only time a woman can settle with a poorer man is when she has run out of time and have limited options or maybe she has been married /committed to a man before her success came and most times the man's value start to diminish before them after hitting such pinnacles,
Let me even ask you,how can you expect a woman doing way better than you to look up to you?
Do you know the kind of people she meets daily,her interactions,friends and associates?
What can a broke man possibly know or have that she can look up to?
Better go find one corner sitdown if you have no experience on topics like this.

If this is your mindset concerning women,then it's either you have been around the wrong set of women or you just have a wrong mindset.
Not all women are the same.
If you say a successful woman will not pick a poor man,I will agree with you to some extent but that a successful woman will not pick a hard working, ambitious, disciplined and morally upright man who is far less successful than her is very wrong.
Many women who are driven and successful want just a man who is also ambitious but not necessarily as rich as they are.
If you also think money is all that a woman needs in a man also shows the kind of women you have been around.

thorpido:
If this is your mindset concerning women,then it's either you have been around the wrong set of women or you just have a wrong mindset.
Not all women are the same.
If you say a successful woman will not pick a poor man,I will agree with you to some extent but that a successful woman will not pick a hard working, ambitious, disciplined and morally upright man who is far less successful that her very wrong.
Many women who are driven and successful want just a man who is also ambitious but not necessarily as rich as they are.
If you also think money is all that a women needs in a man also shows the kind of women you have been around.

The bolded is not true,those succesful women in their prime will want nothing to do with a poorer man,if you like get ambition pass Warren buffet,no one cares.
It is only when they get old that they drop some of their standards and start looking for ambition bla bla bla.
I never said money is what succesful women want from you, heck they don't even need your money,
They just want you to have your own money,a lot more than they do so y'all could relate on same frequency and class.
As for the women I've been around,trust me I've seen and been to places,good places

I wouldn't have issues with that provided it is built in an environment I can live in and it is a good house. That said, how come she built the house without the husband's knowledge?

Dear women in all you do avoid some certain kind of men especially the kind of Nigerian men we see on nairaland for your sanity run from them.

A lot of them can never stomach a successful woman.

Men dont know what they want.

If a woman or girl says she wants her man to provide for her you people will insult her and call her liability.
Okay now women are making money and reducing dependence on men una still dey vex, you don't want her to progress past your level.

Sorry but the moment you males started shaming women for expecting you to be providers you should have known that things like this would happen, you can't tell wives to be self sufficient and independent and at the same time you want to limit how self sufficient they are, you want to limit their progress because your fragile ego cannot handle it. That is just demented and satanic behaviour.

AmazonTopaz:
Dear women in all you do avoid some certain kind of men especially the kind of Nigerian men we see on nairaland for your sanity run from them.

A lot of them can never stomach a successful woman.

Most of them who say they want a productive woman are yet to meet such a powerful force. Most of them can't stomach it.

Especially if she's better than them.

They usually say those things because they expect to be better than her.

Give them a moving woman and they will begin to look for ways to tie her down with ,"she's proud", "she's not submissive," "she left the children in the care of the nanny, she's not caring for my children", "she doesn't cook for me", "call your daughter to order," "I made her", "she's emasculating me", "that big deal you had, I know you slept with that man!"

There was a case where the man burned down his wife's thriving business because he was jealous of her booming success. Then he pretended to console her about it, because she didn't know he was behind the fire. All that to reduce her and make her dependent on him and worship him.

Terrible things are going on in Nigeria.

BRATISLAVA:


Most of them who say they want a productive woman are yet to meet such a powerful force. Most of them can't stomach it.

Especially if she's better than them.

They usually say those things because they expect to be better than her.

Give them a moving woman and they will begin to look for ways to tie her down with ,"she's proud", "she's not submissive," "she left the children in the care of the nanny, she's not caring for my children", "she doesn't cook for me", "call your daughter to order," "I made her", "she's emasculating me", "that big deal you had, I know you slept with that man!"

There was a case where the man burned down his wife's thriving business because he was jealous of her booming success. Then he pretended to console her about it, because she didn't know he was behind the fire. All that to reduce her and make her dependent on him and worship him.

Terrible things are going on in Nigeria.

Who did this to them?

Very terrible

BRATISLAVA:


Most of them who say they want a productive woman are yet to meet such a powerful force. Most of them can't stomach it.

Especially if she's better than them.

They usually say those things because they expect to be better than her.

Give them a moving woman and they will begin to look for ways to tie her down with ,"she's proud", "she's not submissive," "she left the children in the care of the nanny, she's not caring for my children", "she doesn't cook for me", "call your daughter to order," "I made her", "she's emasculating me", "that big deal you had, I know you slept with that man!"

There was a case where the man burned down his wife's thriving business because he was jealous of her booming success. Then he pretended to console her about it, because she didn't know he was behind the fire. All that to reduce her and make her dependent on him and worship him.

Terrible things are going on in Nigeria.

Am going to cite a particular example. My cousin's wife told him that she wanted to get herself a car in about 2-3 months time, instead of my cousin to be happy for the wife he insisted that she won't buy it.

That it seems that she is now so financially buoyant to start thinking of buying a car. I won't be surprised if the wife eventually builds a house without letting him know .

Mind you my cousin is doing very well financially, he even owns a house and 2 cars in the east.

...

Klass99:


It must be the redpill they claim to have taken, which only causes the sort of confusion and insecurities AmazonTopaz, Choccolate and Bratislava have aptly described.

Ladies, I love your energy and intelligence when it comes to dissecting some of these clowns and exposing their folly, e dey bust my head die.

Thank you.

I decided to stop ignoring posts that spread ignorance and bring suffering to women needlessly, except that men decided it out of selfishness, delusions and cruelty.

Hathor5:


Who did this to them?

The patriarchy and an environment they created solely for their benefit. They know that if they say those things, people will begin to question the wife, whether or not the claims are true. They are counting on it.

Most men with successful wives feel vengeful.

The late Mr. Usifo Ataga is a good example of what a man does when his wife is successful and he prefers to be pampered, and keeps his vengeance on a low.

cococandy:
Very terrible

If you know the extent men can go to to ground their wives success so that they remain the alpha and omega on their lives, you will know that they have deep issues.

Very few men are genuinely pleased if their wife is flying high and better than them. Very few.

BRATISLAVA:


If you know the extent men can go to to ground their wives success so that they remain the alpha and omega on their lives, you will know that they have deep issues.

Very few men are genuinely pleased if their wife is flying high and better than them. Very few.

Maybe not very few but the ones who don’t want their wives to progress are usually the loudest because they want to poison the minds of others who do support their wives in that way.

They keep repeating lies about how successful women are bla bla bla meanwhile many homes rely on their women’s successes and the heavens haven’t fallen yet. Instead these women end up taking on more and more responsibilities just so that they won’t be judged for being proud and what not.

Damned if you. Damned if you don’t.
Isn’t it exhausting?

Klass99:


It must be the redpill they claim to have taken, which only causes the sort of confusion and insecurities AmazonTopaz, Choccolate and Bratislava have aptly described.

Ladies, I love your energy and intelligence when it comes to dissecting some of these clowns and exposing their folly, e dey bust my head die.

BRATISLAVA:


The patriarchy and an environment they created solely for their benefit. They know that if they say those things, people will begin to question the wife, whether or not the claims are true. They are counting on it.

Most men with successful wives feel vengeful.

The late Mr. Usifo Ataga is a good example of what a man does when his wife is successful and he prefers to be pampered, and keeps his vengeance on a low.

I think this sums it up pretty well.

But the underlying insecurity is something else. I have never come across any other nationality of men so insecure in their masculinity.
This is why you will read things like 'she is too proud', 'she is not submissive', 'he is not an alpha if he does not control his wife', 'this one is a simp if he pampers his'. They have very serious issues and I see many dysfunctional families in the future.

Kirchoffs:
Am going to cite a particular example. My cousin's wife told him that she wanted to get herself a car in about 2-3 months time, instead of my cousin to be happy for the wife he insisted that she won't buy it.

That it seems that she is now so financially buoyant to start thinking of buying a car. I won't be surprised if the wife eventually builds a house without letting him know .

Mind you my cousin is doing very well financially, he even owns a house and 2 cars in the east.

His financial status can't make up for his feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. It's a psychological issue many men obviously suffer from.

BRATISLAVA:


The late Mr. Usifo Ataga is a good example of what a man does when his wife is successful and he prefers to be pampered, and keeps his vengeance on a low.

Notice how only a few people were sympathetic to her. Our culture is hostile to successful women. We tell women not to be dependent, not to be a burden. To stop having victim mentality and take their lives into their own hands. When they do and are successful, we don’t miss any chance to take her down a notch. Remind her that her success means nothing unless she’s actively using it to glorify her man.

O God forbid she doesn’t have a man and dares to be successful.