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Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Basicend: 11:20am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Temptee101: I agree with you absolutely. Hmm, the ladies now adays, are brutal, especially Nigerian ones. I am speaking from experience. Don't just go for beauty ooooo, pray for God's mercies and leading. Hmm. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by mercy87(f): 11:23am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Trust in the Lord and he will give you the best. You can't actually get the best if you're evil. God will not link his children with evil people. You should think of being the best version of yourself. Some men and women are unfaithful and they want the faithful ones. Who are you deceiving? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Johel(m): 11:24am On Aug 11, 2021 |
larryeffizy1: Don't be scared of marriage because no money on ground yet,just work man...work... I'm of your age too, unmarried and even without a child yet but I'm unbothered...it's money first for me and making mama proud or no marriage cos I can't marry poor,it's a taboo for me as I hate poverty,I've tasted it,and it's really bitter than bitterness itself, I don't want it near my kids...I don't believe in superstitions,so I rather work to build my home than fantasize...Just work... settling at 35-45 isn't so bad if u ask me,just that society will always say rubbish...refused to be pressured...chase that money,chase that deal and win that contract...believe in God and let his grace rest upon you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by mercy87(f): 11:27am On Aug 11, 2021 |
ibechris: God bless you sir. I don't know why this platform is used to perpetuate continual hatred against women. It's terrible. |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Juliearth(f): 11:31am On Aug 11, 2021 |
doctor306: Let me reject this on op's behalf. Marriage is not a game of numbers or probability. Put in your best as a couple and see it flourish. The Devil has imbibed this fear and belief and that is why people go into it expecting it to fail and what you expect is what you get. Alot of couples go into marriages, expecting it to be a fairy tale, whereas in actual sense, it is a battle field. Not a battle field because either of the couple is a misfit, but because the devil has sworn a war against marriages. Now, its left for the couple to put on the full armour of God (read about what these armour are) and fight or relax and expect a miracle. A lot of failed marriages banked on the latter, hence why the marriages failed. Please put your right hand on your chest and say " my case is different! My marriage will last." |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by seyz91(m): 11:32am On Aug 11, 2021 |
You don't have to have an experience of things personally We learn from people's mistakes and experiences frozen70: |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by mercy87(f): 11:33am On Aug 11, 2021 |
All what they do is blame women here for their woes. I am not saying everywoman is perfect....no! No man is perfect either. We need a home where there will be respect, faithfulness, love. Let's build a better society irrespective of religion. |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by OlawaleBammie: 11:36am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Nelson21: For this u said, i respect u sir, I dont know u but may u always find peace in ur endeavour. Ur last statement just ease the burden and pains in my heart. May God bless you and your family abundantly sir |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Juliearth(f): 11:37am On Aug 11, 2021 |
doctor306: Also, your fourth paragraph is flawed. There is nothing wrong in a couple starting from the scratch together (our parents did that, so why shouldnt we?). That brings about respect and understanding. Marriage is not a price you cash out on the finish line, it is an armour you acquire or wear in the course of your life journey. |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by RMoneyInTheBank: 11:40am On Aug 11, 2021 |
larryeffizy1:..look for a woman you like and make her your baby mama... When you have children, the phobia disappears... Don't get married and later divorce... Better have a baby mama from start... Marriage is something that 98% of married men which they were not...for peace of mind and happiness, baby mama is the way.... And she will for ever be submissive to you |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by HoneySwag(f): 11:44am On Aug 11, 2021 |
larryeffizy1:I'd advise you download pastor Kingsley Okonkwo's relationship sermons |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by xavier01(m): 11:48am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Put someone that makes your food in order. She will end you. Rinoxy: |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Blueelf: 11:48am On Aug 11, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: So you were his midwife the day he was born abi? Oga, the devil (like all demons) are spirit beings and do not have a gender. Dont be silly and ignorant at the same time 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Rubbiish(m): 11:48am On Aug 11, 2021 |
kodix:Single life favour women more than men in Africa?? U don't know what u are saying! Who go through hell to provide for family? Do u think as a woman, if u don't provide for family the society will blame u? Even the bible is against a man that can't provide for his family. Then when the children are of age, they tend to give mothers more attention than fathers. How is marriage now favouring men more than women? Look nobody will respect u if u don't have money, not even your kids & wife, they will get tired at some point. How many married men of his age are respected like Don jazzy who is single? People only respect your age if at all money is not involved, not because u are married! People will respect a single elderly man of 70 years more than a married guy of 30 yrs. Age is what people respect, not marital status! 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by xavier01(m): 11:50am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Why then do we have some pastors with broken home? mercy87: 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by lakefist(m): 11:53am On Aug 11, 2021 |
larryeffizy1: What you are feeling is perfectly normal. No fear just pray to God for maturity. It takes maturity to be in marriage. |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by emmnprince(m): 11:54am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Nelson21: OP disregard the bold. If you marry simply to bear children to take over your wealth and property, why marry in the first place when you can have a babymama/babymamas, or do a "contractual one", adopt, or better still will your wealth to charity or some worthy cause after you pass on! Marriage is more than just bearing children for the sake of passing inheritance to them. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by alexola20(m): 11:55am On Aug 11, 2021 |
Marriage doesn't worth the pains that comes with it. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by zexy2030(m): 11:57am On Aug 11, 2021 |
I don't know why people think, it's the woman that makes marriage fun...the woman expires after 3-5yrs into the marriage but the kids will be your passion to keep your home. Don't make kids with a woman, you may never like to meet again. Being a baby daddy maybe fine for you. Imagine you met a lady, who in her past relationships has aborted babies or killed some, such ladies don't see your life as anything if u r the baby daddy (having a surviving child for you).You must do all her commands. See, so many ladies are possesed with evil spirits. Raising a kid with such a woman is another hell on earth. You would wish the child never came through her, with all the sense of entitlement trailing your wealth up n down. If you want to marry, ensure you are the man in the relationship, otherwise you will be enslaved by the woman. What makes you the man, you must earn her respect, otherwise your home will be hell. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Nobody: 12:04pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
siofra: Aunty you go school. You know something. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by mercy87(f): 12:05pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
xavier01: Being a genuine child of God and being a title holder are two different things. |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Hassanmaye(m): 12:20pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
MALIGNANTGuest:This is serious o, most Americans are now rushing to Russia to Get wives. |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Angelina996(f): 12:22pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
larryeffizy1: I'm above thirty and single also. I had this feeling when I was around 29 and I had to sit myself down to get to the root cause of it cos I know I'm naturally family oriented. So having the fear was a surprise to me. You have to sit down and analyze some things, things that likely were the origin of the fear, that you might not have been paying attention to. I hope you know that marriage is sweet. And it has a purpose contrary to what the world has made us believe. You might be scared of all the bad news you've been hearing about marriage which most of them would have been avoided if the author of marriage has been duly consulted. One of the best ways to a successful marriage is to get married to your best friend. I mean start off getting to know each other in this order: spirit, soul, body (and this body is only allowed in marriage). Look around and within you to note what's causing the fear, then you can know the way forward. I'm not married but I know marriage can be sweet although tasking. It is responsibility. It takes work because it is a call to work and war. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Hassanmaye(m): 12:29pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
SenecaTheYonger:Hahahhahahaha bad boy |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by MadeMan01(m): 12:33pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
SenecaTheYonger: A married woman that can be fvcked is not fit to be a wife 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Kennyking1234: 12:36pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
MALIGNANTGuest:Sir, why did they gang up against the man? |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by FORWARDEVERLY: 12:38pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
Go and get a baby mama.. simple.. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by neyoohhh: 12:40pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
The modern woman is damaged, that's why everyone is scared of marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:42pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
greenguy: Lol. Just tell am make him write thesis for you na. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Nobody: 12:44pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
Kennyking1234:It could be for political reasons. But no tape showing where he raped nor manhandled a Lady. ITALIANS have a unique way they greet people. And this is an age long practice. POPE does it too. Africans are unique in their ways too. Now 11 WOMEN ganged up against him stating he has got awful ways of greeting women which they see as harassment. He further buttressed his facts with picture evidence of how he has been greeting people even before he was elected. Now he has resigned. A Lady has emerged as the New Governor. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by kodix(m): 12:55pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
[quote author=Rubbiish post=104670985] Single life favour women more than men in Africa?? U don't know what u are saying! Who go through hell to provide for family? Do u think as a woman, if u don't provide for family the society will blame u? Even the bible is against a man that can't provide for his family. Then when the children are of age, they tend to give mothers more attention than fathers. How is marriage now favouring men more than women? Look nobody will respect u if u don't have money, not even your kids & wife, they will get tired at some point. How many married men of his age are respected like Don jazzy who is single? People only respect your age if at all money is not involved, not because u are married! People will respect a single elderly man of 70 years more than a married guy of 30 yrs. Age is what people respect, not marital status! : How many men will be like don't jazzy just be realistic and how many men provide all for their family,many women are Ceos now,a least u will have a family if ure not don jazzy and be respected bcs of ur family, Anyway try and be single don't marryooo if u have not! |
Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by Kennyking1234: 12:58pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
MALIGNANTGuest:As some one has watched the movie "Godfather". I think I know the greeting. This only goes to show how men are being pushed aside. The future might be bleak. 1 Like |
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