AGNESikpuNNU:
I am sure if the man opens a thread here too, his side of the story will make you even more demonic.
You are never a saint. You already cheating on him too. And I am sure u have battered him emotionally too.

DIVORCE IS YOUR CHOICE and not for outsiders to push u into based on your onesided emotional stories.

Is either you make "your" marriage work or you get the fvck out of it!
And people who want their marriages to work don't come on Nairaland to demonize their partners. They go to marriage councillors along with their partners to seek true remedy.
But as for your hubby, I am sure he has lot to tell the world about you too.

Observation:
You are currently being carried away by your financial freedom which gave you impetus to start emotional cheating with another man.
You are already in a hole, it won't do you any good to continue digging. Seek professional help.

Wow, just WOW

I love this your post. Too much sense in one post. Kudos

notoracism:
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you can send me a pm,you deserve a good life and happy home.

Speak90:
you can send me a pm,you deserve a good life and happy home.

Send you a PM for what? Oga/Madam say what you want to say openly. The poster is in an unhappy place and is vulnerable to suggestions, both noble and dubious.

i Know you have invested so much in the relationship and calling it quit might be hard but come to think of it, what if he never change but keep graduating from bad to worst, before he doesn’t lay his hands on you but now doing that who knows what he might do next to you and such toxic environment is not good either for your children Incase you might be thinking of staying for the sake of your children. You and everyone else in an abusive relationship deserve better, only one man dey abuse you physically and mentally haba that’s too much

Ishilove:

Send you a PM for what? Oga/Madam say what you want to say openly. The poster is an unhappy place and is vulnerable to suggestions, both noble and dubious.

She needs counseling Nd needs to build her home back not flirting with another man due to the trauma.The counseling can't be done on this thread.I hope you understand

Kobojunkie:
Is another husband what she needs right now?

Is she better off than those who have no husband, no STDs and a mighty dose of peace of mind?

I don't know why people think that everyone must be married or that a bad marriage is better than no marriage.

This is what happens when two adults decide to mark marriage register just because everyone else is doing it. It is well....please take care of yourself. Just take care of yourself.

notoracism:
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these re all clear & advanced signs that u re dealing with a narcissist, dis is a dysfunctional human being. Let me tell u my dear, a narcissist can destroy u without laying a finger on u (@ he hardly beats me) emotional & mental abuse is covert murder but with clean hands. His treatment to is is programming u to autoself destruct. & stop kidding urself with I am modest, I cool & calm. That's not d case here. It's because u re not self aware, u lack healthy boundaries in ace to protect ur sanity & dignity. Read books this online here to empower urself & breakfast from ur narcissistic partner. U ignored early warning signs when u was dating, as he has always been like that. Read early warning signs that your re dealing with a narcissist " Read how to break away from my narcissistic husband

Speak90:

She needs counseling Nd needs to build her home back not flirting with another man due to the trauma.The counseling can't be done on this thread.I hope you understand

build which home?? Why do u Africans reason dis way? She can't build what d man is committed to destroying with his narcissistic behaviour to her. He can't change

Kobojunkie:
Is another husband what she needs right now?

Is she better off than those who have no husband, no STDs and a mighty dose of peace of mind?

In Nigeria, those without husbands don't have peace of mind...

Oblongata:
In Nigeria, those without husbands don't have peace of mind...

Lies!

I'm more at peace when I'm not into any relationship than when I'm in one.
The peace and space I enjoy is heaven on earth. Better than all the feelings of insecurity, battered emontions and regrets that is predominant in todays relationships.

If not for what society will say, I been don zero my mind. Seriously...

CharisEleos:


Lies!

I'm more at peace when I'm not into any relationship than when I'm in one.
The peace and space I enjoy is heaven on earth. Better than all the feelings of insecurity, battered emontions and regrets that is predominant in todays relationships.

if not for what society will say, I been don zero my mind. Seriously...

Exactly what I am saying (@bold), don’t worry, wait until you are almost 40 and then you will understand
Most Nigerian women’s breaking point is 35-40. By then you will know what companionship is. Many ladies said more negative things about men than you and ended up in one pastor’s bed.

Oblongata:
In Nigeria, those without husbands don't have peace of mind...

They don't? I know several who seem to.

Marriage is not meant for everyone. Even Jesus Christ made this fact know.

Hathor5:
I don't know why people think that everyone must be married or that a bad marriage is better than no marriage.

Abi oo...

Oblongata:

Exactly what I am say (@bold), don’t worry, wait until you are almost 40 and then you will understand
Most Nigerian women’s breaking point is 35-40. By then you will know what companionship is. Many ladies said more negative things about men than you and ended up in one pastor’s bed.

Hahahahaaaa...Now, let me shock you. I just celebrated my 40th birthday last month and it was about approaching my 40 that I totally lost interest in men and relationships. Though if I don't tell you, you won't know as I look way younger and that is the result of peace of mind. .

I can't stress my life Biko. Not with all the diseases flying here and there.

CharisEleos:


Hahahahaaaa...Now, let me shock you. I just celebrated my 40th birthday last month and it was about approaching my 40 that I totally lost interest in men and relationships. Though if I don't tell you, you won't know as I look way younger and that is the result of peace of mind. .

I can't stress my life Biko. Not with all the diseases flying here and there.

Congrats sis, mine is coming up in November ..
Marriage has it's ups and downs but at the end it is worth it.

Oblongata:
Congrats sis, mine is coming up in November ..
Marriage has it's ups and downs but at the end it is worth it.

Thanks.

Congratulations on your marriage in advance.