GenAbacha:
And what is wrong if she quits the marriage?

Why are you bothered? What ideas are you looking for?

A contract has been breached and it’s only right you terminate it.

GenAbacha:


You dey mind am.

He wants his sister to stay in a marriage full of infidelity but he can’t stay in one himself.

His blood sister we’re talking about here.

Last last enlightenment is key.

It’s no longer enough to be educated


What are you even saying? The op clearly said that her sister is a dependant ,if she quits the marriage, she and the children will suffer and more importantly the financial burden will rest solely on him and from what he said he doesn't have the financial backbone to weather the attendant storm . You are here yarning okpata as if you will come to their aid when the chips are down.

2ndtimeuncle:


I honestly don't know how the instance you gave relates to my story. I am pro family, my first instinct is how to preserve my family.

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

bepositive11:


This situation is really sad. I feel even more sad for the kids.

You claim to be pro family but you need to understand something. You may have heard of physical abuse but there's something even worse than that -- emotional abuse. The wounds are not visible but they are there and they are deeply damaging

Your sister has only one life to live. Do you want her to keep being disrespected and mistreated for life just to hold a family? Do you want her son to learn his father's ways and do the same to his own wife when he grows up?

Please, stop thinking about what you want and think about what your sister wants. It's her life. If she wants to leave, let her leave but try to make sure that she can take care of herself financially first

Marriage is meant for couples with genuine love and mutual respect for each other.

There's a difference between a healthy functional family and a dysfunctional family. The one your sister has is dysfunctional and it will scar her children psychologically for life

obiekunie01:


But why is your sister always checking her husbands phone??

you see the thing is, CHECKING YOUR PARTNERS PHONE IS LIKE PUTTING YOUR FINGER IN THE ANUS - IF YOU DON'T FIND SHIT, YOU WILL FIND MESS OR BOTH - AND YOU WILL NOT LIKE EITHER OF IT!

so for your peace of mind, AVOID CHECKING YOUR PARTNERS PHONES!

Your sister opened the door to breaking her home by checking her hubby's phone!

emmanuelewumi:



What is your recommendation?

She should leave?

How about finance?

The husband will send money to her

GenAbacha:


You dey mind am.

He wants his sister to stay in a marriage full of infidelity but he can’t stay in one himself.

His blood sister we’re talking about here.

Last last enlightenment is key.

It’s no longer enough to be educated







what are you even saying? The op clearly said that her sister is a dependant ,if she quits the marriage, she and the children will suffer and more importantly the financial burden will rest solely on him and from what he said he doesn't have the financial backbone to weather the attendant storm . You are here yarning okpata as if you will come to their aid when the chips are down.



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2ndtimeuncle:


It rains everywhere, I don't want her to make a decision she will regret for the rest of her life.

Richy4:
She is an Adult and she can make her own decision... But advise her not to be in a haste to leave her marriage... she should think it through and draw a final conclusion either to stay and work out a fine line between both of them or go...

Your sister's husband and the other woman have something in common which is the baby girl...Your sister can throw all the tantrum she wanted from Jerusalem to Jericho it will not change anything... that man can deny all he wanted that he will have nothing to do with the other woman for those that cares to listen... the reality is, that baby girl has come to stay... and will always connect them both....The earlier that sinks into her, the better for her.

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

vickydevoka:

Na normal thing na. Come Abuja u go see 2 days marriage.

Gunayo:
lf men's usefulness is money, what is women's usefulness if not for that thing in between their legs. Women are their own problems. Mind you, not all men are useless. You sound like someone that had similar experience or heart break before.

tesseract:


This is the advice she should take...the truth is the man will not leave the side woman alone... They are bound by the baby they have together. She must establish herself first before she takes any drastic decision. Also the other lady is more than willing to replace her as soon as possible if she decides to exit the marriage.

tunwumi:
Just a simple question. What does your sister tends to gain if she quit? Did she think that the baby mam will not become the real wife in 2 days? Just thinking out loud niii

Redpillar:
I am here for the logical gender’s post. So far they are not disappointing me.

2ndtimeuncle:


It rains everywhere, I don't want her to make a decision she will regret for the rest of her life.

GenAbacha:
And what is wrong if she quits the marriage?

Why are you bothered? What ideas are you looking for?

A contract has been breached and it’s only right you terminate it.