CaveAdullam:

If women are naturally polygamous why paternity fraud, unlike men that flaunt their wives, concubines and children? Don't tell me social conditioning because if it was so, it would have been established thousands of years ago.

On polygamy, men are polygynous in nature, a fact established by millions of sperm cells, quick ejaculation, short life span, promiscuity, attaching no emotions to sex. By the way, Men hold the record for the highest number of children (888), women(69). Though, the human male specie also partake in child rearing but the bulk of the work especially in early childhood falls on the female.

On the flip side, women are choosy in nature, go for only the best available male; an egg cell produced each month; takes almost one year to reproduce with the accompanying risks of pregnancy, invest more time in child caring; attachs emotions to sex.

From the little rough illustrations above, who do you think is polygamous in nature?

PS: notwithstanding, men are capable of pair-bonding and forming a monogamous relationship. While women can still engage in casual sex.

womwn are polygamous in nature just like men - women just want quality men need quantity - a woman is wired to always look for someone more quality than her represent mate while men are wired for quantity . The only reason why you people flaunt wives and concubines is because you are violent bullies . If women were wired to be monogamous why are they now cheating and committing paternity fraud ? Lol

okuta007:



men cheat - women gets hurt emotionally
women cheat - men gets hurt emotionally

1-1 no winner between men and women

on paternity fraud - women win men lose
on illegitimate child - men lose women lose

on paternity fraud and illegitimate child

1-0 advantage women

in all scenarios - men lose
women win on a successful paternity fraud

so what’s your argument ?

well men can flaunt girlfriends up and down , men can marry m9re than one wife , men can slutshame women , patriarchy is a bytch for women. Generally your lives are must better than women's - womwn should win too once in a while .

Sanchez01:

I do not support or approve of men cheating or fathering kids outside of their marriage. And as a matter of fact, all of the paternity fraud stories that made it to the news all have one thing in common—and that is the fact that the men were gentle. Men in this category are often prone to paternity fraud. But somehow, you, a female, found it ideal to equate or draw a comparison similar to what some irresponsible men do rather than condemn this. This is not a gender war but you somewhat turned it on its head.

If you are married, I pity the unfortunate individual you are married to. If you are not, here is one reason I advocate would-be partners should run social media checks on themselves as that is the only place where everyone is real and genuine these days. That said, you are morally bankrupt individual and it is noticeable from miles away.

loooooool - " the men wete gentle " how do you know this for a fact ? Do you even know what a fact means ? To ascertain the men were gentle ( whatever the he'll that even means) from a video or an article means you must be clairvoyant ? Was it.your crystal ball you used to read the man's character ? It doesn't matter what you approve or not , Mr man - our culture approves men cheating - and that's what's influences how people behave - a lot of you come out to say you don't approve of stuff like that just to make your argument sweet when it comes to issues like these but the truth cannot be hidden- a vast majority of men think it's ok for men to cheat - you people's hypocrisy will not let you reason properly. U think you want to be cheating up and down , lashing anything in skirts and your wife would not feel resentment towards you ? Loooooooool . Life doesnt work that way .

I'm just here laughing - a man calling a woman morally bankrupt ? Loooooool - your gender has absolutely no moral standing to call anybody morally bankrupt.

TWLifestyle:
well men can flaunt girlfriends up and down , men can marry m9re than one wife , men can slutshame women , patriarchy is a bytch for women. Generally your lives are must better than women's - womwn should win too once in a while .

by making a man pay for a child that is not his while footing her bills too abi? ok thanks sbd goodluck to you in your wurst to find a foolish man to win against - i will never be that man who won’t run a DNA test on my child

Gunayo:
Avviala come and see another useless woman. You see the reason l said women are useless like you.

For a married man, you are stupid. Your wife is useless as well.

Maybe the Man no sabi Kerewa well, and the woman na sex machine she be, he needs medication in his subsequent marriage so that women no go cheat am.

okuta007:



by making a man pay for a child that is not his while footing her bills too abi? ok thanks sbd goodluck to you in your wurst to find a foolish man to win against - i will never be that man who won’t run a DNA test on my child

abegi, move with the " footing her bills too " - this silly myth you people continue to perpetuate to make yourselves feel like men - majority of women earn a living nowadays - and put money into the household and their kids and can afford to buy themselves things . Its unfortunate that womwn have to hide paternity but if men impregnate womwn they hide it too - u can't play stupid games and expect the prizes to make sense - if society allowed women to be open about extramarital affairs like it does for men then women would he more honest about these issues - man , this pregnancy is not yours o - so you don't need to spend money and time - the real father would do it - but you people have decided that only your gender deserves variety is the spice of life - only your gender can't be eating rice everyday - lol .

addictiv:


There is nothing wrong with wanting to verify the origins of one's supposed offspring. Only a little minded person or guilty party will look at wanting a DNA test as casting aspersions on the integrity of the mother of the child. If organisations and embassies can request for these test results and we provide them willingly how much more the very man to which these kids are supposed to propagate his genes and possibly inherit his wealth

Is the man an embassy?

If every man is to be tested for all the children of his exes, it will become obvious that men are their own enemy. And if made a requirement before marriage or having children, it would be interesting to see men comply or remain single. If men got pregnant we would hear a lot of dirty stories and fear them. Somewhere the real father is hiding and acting like a saint.

If you don't trust someone enough to get married and have children with them, why bother when it's a transaction of insecurity? Be ready for transactions to always fail.

addictiv:

There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to be polygamous and father kids by different men, however why commit paternity fraud? Why lie to a man about the origins of a child that is not his and make him commit emotionally, financially, spiritually etc to the upbringing of the child? Why not just tell a man, look this pregnancy is not yours and allow him to decide on supporting you in raising the child on his own free will?

How many men tell their wives until the wife finds out?

They commit child fraud, if one can call it that, at an alarming rate.

They make the wife think that they are loyal while servicing and fathering other children outside the marriage and sneaking to see them and give them money. Making their wife pour her heart out in a fake relationship. Isn't that a great deception of the age?

Why so much outcry about parternity fraud? Is it that men like duping women, since they can't get pregnant, then get so strung up that women are doing it to them?

Men should be made to take paternity tests on the children of any woman they have every slept with and stop the charade.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to verify ones true children and not have someone from somewhere come up to challenge ones children from nowhere.

TWLifestyle:
womwn are polygamous in nature just like men - women just want quality men need quantity - a woman is wired to always look for someone more quality than her represent mate while men are wired for quantity .

"women are wired for quality and men for quantity" you said. Then, why are you still confusing yourself. Doesn't it sounds preposterous to you that women are "polygamous in nature but desires only quality males?" Hope you see the flaws you've created in your argument.

Since men don't care about quality, they tend to accumulate all sorts of women regardless of shapes, sizes and colours. (Though, they still desire quality in most of these women because of their fertility and reproductive advantage).

TWLifestyle:
The only reason why you people flaunt wives and concubines is because you are violent bullies.

If men were not violent in nature and incredibly strong, they won't be able to accrue women and defend their territory from intruders that desires their women and resources.

If women were naturally polygamous, they would have possess same strength on average like the male specie and be violent too, gathered many males, and defended their territory against other females.

Even the most powerful women in history never had harems of men. (Some may had, which is extremely unlikely, but even if they did, it can't be compared to that of the most powerful men).

By the way, you said "women go for quality men", of which strength and being violent is part and parcel of this quality. And of what use to seek other men of lower quality when she already has one or probably, "some". Is she not then turning herself to a cum bag and local prostitute? Even the aim of prostitution is to seek quality males.

TWLifestyle:
If women were wired to be monogamous why are they now cheating and committing paternity fraud ? Lol

Because they have arrived at an epiphany that their current spouses don't really possess the quality they desire. Hence, quality gene must be taken from a quality male even though he's poor and broke but still remain with the current spouse because he has enough material resources to cater for her and his "unknown step child". This gives rise to what is called the female dual mating strategy: women seeking quality genes and enough economic resources in a quality man. However, this is not usually the case, hence, women make alot of compromises and rationalizations. In marriage it is paternity fraud, outside marriage, it is female hoe phase and of which many gives rise to children which make them to be termed single mothers.

Paternity fraud doesn't prove polygamous nature in women because they hide their kids and lovers. If women are naturally polygamous in nature like you've said (though a flawed argument you are confused about), they would have hired their lovers to always fight for them, but you don't see these lovers fighting! Unlike the polygamous man that defends his wives and territory.

PS: in my first response to you, you didn't counter any biological/evolutionary claim I made but subtly avoided them.

I'm responding to you because of other readers. Normally I don't respond to silly arguments that's flawed from the onset, just like the one you're making.

Have a nice day.

Sonnobax15:

Wahala for any guyman wey build so much trust on a woman....

I still dey talk am,that no matter how the love shag me reach,I must make this DNA test a norm for any thing wey dey under my roof....Not even my dogs and their puppies will be an exception.....

Rubbish..

Guy u harsh ohhhh
All this things are for simps believe me, confirm guy man ought to be watchful about all this shit

Susily:


Yeah you're right, the best thing for them to do is get divorced and let the woman return the child to her biological father

The man is lucky he discovered early, he's not at loss. He can still HOPEFULLY get a better woman in the future who will give him his own kids

Yeah.

The woman can as well return to the strong loving arms of the girls father and hopefully they get married. She deserves a chance at true love. She made her mistakes, but may fortune favor her.

Susily:


You're wrong, infidelity (both in the man's part or woman's part) is a ground for divorce even in the Bible

It's his responsibility to dissolve the marriage let everyone go their separate ways, that's what a Worthy man would do

Anyway he's wrong by posting the girl's face, she's innocent of all these

His responsibility is to hold his family together. If a man can't do that, what is he called the head of the home for on the Bible?

Can't understand a childish man who is posting the girls pictures online. And posting the wife's pictures so that what will happen, people will kill her in the streets or what?

He's not behaving worthy. He could easily move on. Everyone gets heartbreak, but only foolish ones will carry it on social media. To what end?

TWLifestyle:
lol , unfortunately she can't- I'm sure if she could she would - most women habe no intention to cause you so much heartbreak - she probably just wanted to cheat exactly the way you people cheat - and she brought home a child instead of a disease like you people normally bring home. Is she supposed to abort the child ? Of course not .

LMAO.

What a post.

Avviala:


For a married man, you are stupid. Your wife is useless as well.

My wife is not useless. I am not stupid for being a married man. Do you know what it means to be a married man? You won't appreciate since you don't have any around you. My wife is not useless. She is very decent, beautiful and a celebrity for that matter unlike you slut that open legs to any random man for sex.

Useless idiot, which story Una go dey justify nonsense, dey use open eye dey support NONSENSE, society done destroy, BASTARDS everywhere because of people like you, which side of the story to reverse this DNA results no worry, dey encourage the useless gender to do nonsense and stand under human right, that's why people no free marry again, selling Toto up and down..fools

TWLifestyle:
abegi, move with the " footing her bills too " - this silly myth you people continue to perpetuate to make yourselves feel like men - majority of women earn a living nowadays - and put money into the household and their kids and can afford to buy themselves things . Its unfortunate that womwn have to hide paternity but if men impregnate womwn they hide it too - u can't play stupid games and expect the prizes to make sense - if society allowed women to be open about extramarital affairs like it does for men then women would he more honest about these issues - man , this pregnancy is not yours o - so you don't need to spend money and time - the real father would do it - but you people have decided that only your gender deserves variety is the spice of life - only your gender can't be eating rice everyday - lol .

its so obvious you don’t have a child yet- if you do, you will understand- until then, peace out!

Depressed101:
you are cheating yourself by remaining single, anytime you are ready for relationship, cos you will surely be, they will still cheat on you.., better come outside let's all cheat on each other

How is he cheating himself, relationship na food.. Did I need to be in relationship before I can Bleep or what do u mean

Gunayo:

come and see another useless woman. You see the reason l said women are useless like you

My wife is not useless. I am not stupid for being a married man. Do you know what it means to be a married man? You won't appreciate since you don't have any around you. My wife is not useless. She is very decent, beautiful and a celebrity for that matter unlike you slut that open legs to any random man for sex.

So cause I don't have a ''Nigerian'' man, I don't have anyone. Miss me with that. Beautiful, a celebrity, shut the fu*k up.
You know she rode different dicks before settling with a low life like you who can manage her shit. I just hope she doesn't hit you with the paternity fraud shit cause obviously you are her dumping ground. And guess what? You won't be able to afford the test except your wife gives you the money.

And point of correction, not every girl open legs for random strangers. But I'm not surprised. You are surrounded by ho*s and so, you can't see a lady for anything more than that. Decent wife after calling women useless. Decent, my ass. If she was, you will have a better view of women but guess what, she isn't alongside all the women in your life.

TWLifestyle:
this is a lie - womwn spend a large chunk of their money on the household and the children . My mother contributed nearly all she earned into the home - I don't know about yours . Are you trying to say men do not spend money in socialising ? The amount of money men spend socialising with their friends is more than what women spend to look good . Lol , I'm sure you love the Taliban - cos they are showing women , abi? Looooool move to Afghanistan nah .

But still men contribute more to the family, if him no do, una go abuse am. Men sacrifice more in raising a home.

I don't love the Talibans but you guys are supporting paternity fraud. Making somebody to raise somebody else' child in ignorance.
Nobody don ever give girl belle for outside come carry the pikin, give the pikin to him wife to raise with her money and sweat.

tidalstorm:

But still men contribute more to the family, if him no do, una go abuse am. Men sacrifice more in raising a home.

I don't love the Talibans but you guys are supporting paternity fraud. Making somebody to raise somebody else' child in ignorance.
Nobody don ever give girl belle for outside come carry the pikin, give the pikin to him wife to raise with her money and sweat.

that's because men earn more they also always look to marry women less successful than them because they are Intimidated by women as succesful or more succesful as them and even when the women is more succesful she is forced to act like the man is the breadwinner so as not to shame him 'although men behave anyhow they please when they are the breadwinner. Men do not sacrifice more in raising the home - women do - womwn pit money down and are also the mantainer of the home and caregiver to the kids - pls NEVER say men sacrifice more that's a blatant lie . As long as men do not have a problem with adultery then it is extremely hypocritical to be crying about methods- A man can hide an illegitimate baby a woman can't - babies are proceeds of cheating - it does not matter how or who cares for them- an illegitimate baby is an illegitimate baby . It pains womwn too when they discover their husbands have children outside . But you people have never felt that was enough to deter you from doing it - instead you brag about how you are "naturally polygamous " . Since you don't send us why should we send you If You send rat to me I send snake to you - you cant be crying about the difference . It is what it is.

MummyD2020:



Look at this bastard, i think u must be mother less to call all women fools. It shows that u crawled out from a dysfunctional family. And your miserable mom will be thinking she has a child not knowing that she is childless. Fools like u die on top of women so i get it. Did a woman break ur heart? No wonder u dont have reservations for them. Useless Nincompoop of a son. So u did not come out from a vagina ba?


Making noise like men dont subject women to such. What did p square do? Shebi u said Anita cant do nothing. But now u are grunting like a pig that u are. Aberration of a human being

Seun
Lalasticlala
Just wise
Dominique
OAM4J
Farano
Rocktation
Mynd44

Rule 2 has been viciously broken.. I need swift justice..

MummyD2020:



Look at this bastard, i think u must be mother less to call all women fools. It shows that u crawled out from a dysfunctional family. And your miserable mom will be thinking she has a child not knowing that she is childless. Fools like u die on top of women so i get it. Did a woman break ur heart? No wonder u dont have reservations for them. Useless Nincompoop of a son. So u did not come out from a vagina ba?


Making noise like men dont subject women to such. What did p square do? Shebi u said Anita cant do nothing. But now u are grunting like a pig that u are. Aberration of a human being

You are just a confused and bitter Wailer..
Cry me a River pls ..

FamTomx2:

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Na so one came last two months to tell me about her pregnancy, as an experience niggur I told her to put to bed,

Then after that we will head to DNA test for prove, bro up till now she no call me again not to talk of picking her calls..

Now I dey send threatening sms to her oh, not to abort the baby.

She wan run me street shoor!

LMFAO


Thank God for technology.. this gender has been doing this for centuries and going Scot free.. but not anylonger.. na game over for them now..

Lol.. your story just dey make me laugh like Mumu for here..

Ishilove:

Dem don do this one strong tin

Lol.. y'all feel that we must experience pain before we speak up..
If you have at least an average IQ .. you should know that people sometimes speaks from an angle of societal observations..

Women got nothing on Polygamous men like us (you people prefer to call our types CHEATS.. lol)..
Some of us have harem of women and are the one that serves breakfast..
Rest abegg

TWLifestyle:
you see why many of you deserve paternity fraud .

Lol.. na the stupid and weak ones would be dealt with nah..
Since I became knowledgeable about DNA.. I use to read it out to my harem of women that, paradventure of pregnancy.. I would conduct it after birth.. see, my dear, not every man is a Weakling.. some of us have balls to tell women what we would do without blinking an eye..

Bro, na street wise o

FORWARDEVERLY:



LMFAO


Thank God for technology.. this gender has been doing this for centuries and going Scot free.. but not anylonger.. na game over for them now..

Lol.. your story just dey make me laugh like Mumu for here..

Arewalegend:
Ur akanuche level is low...

Lol. No vex sir

TWLifestyle:
lol , this is how it pains women too when you people keep donating your pryck up akd down , have kids outside wedlock , using family money to cater for outside babies but you never know say e de pain until when it's done to you . Lol

It's well. I know many men are guilty of these too. It's bad and I condemn it. But the rate of paternity fraud in naija is now very alarming.

BRATISLAVA:


Is the man an embassy?

If every man is to be tested for all the children of his exes, it will become obvious that men are their own enemy. And if made a requirement before marriage or having children, it would be interesting to see men comply or remain single. If men got pregnant we would hear a lot of dirty stories and fear them. Somewhere the real father is hiding and acting like a saint.

If you don't trust someone enough to get married and have children with them, why bother when it's a transaction of insecurity? Be ready for transactions to always fail.

If the embassies thought trust and word of mouth alone was enough verifiable proof then they won't bother to request for dna tests. Why should a man stake the future of his geneology on the words of a woman that a child is his especially when there are strange and unanswered circumstances that surround the birth of the child?
If organisations that have no blood ties or vested interest in the welfare of the child or family request these results and it is made available without stress, argument or bad blood why should it be a problem when the said man who is expected to bear to major brunt of providing and catering for the welfare of the child till adulthood and independence requests for the same document? Children are not developed in the factory( at least not all) , they are made by the conjugal relations of men and women. So saying men are their own enemy doesn't change the reality that men are being deceived to raise kids that do not belong to them. And the only way a man can protect himself from falling into such circumstances is by either not getting anyone pregnant and hence having no offspring to propagate his genes or carrying out a dna test to verify if the said kids are his. Anything aside this such a man has left his genealogy to chance and should be ready for deep despair and grief should the choice be unfavourable.

addictiv:


If the embassies thought trust and word of mouth alone was enough verifiable proof then they won't bother to request for dna tests. Why should a man stake the future of his geneology on the words of a woman that a child is his especially when there are strange and unanswered circumstances that surround the birth of the child?
If organisations that have no blood ties or vested interest in the welfare of the child or family request these results and it is made available without stress, argument or bad blood why should it be a problem when the said man who is expected to bear to major brunt of providing and catering for the welfare of the child till adulthood and independence requests for the same document? Children are not developed in the factory( at least not all) , they are made by the conjugal relations of men and women. So saying men are their own enemy doesn't change the reality that men are being deceived to raise kids that do not belong to them. And the only way a man can protect himself from falling into such circumstances is by either not getting anyone pregnant and hence having no offspring to propagate his genes or carrying out a dna test to verify if the said kids are his. Anything aside this such a man has left his genealogy to chance and should be ready for deep despair and grief should the choice be unfavourable.

Is the man an embassy? Let's not avoid the question. How is organization suddenly equated to a man in love with a woman? Once a man does such transactions with his supposed wife, he must get the result of transactions.

Next, is the man certain he's not responsible for paternity fraud?

In as much as men sleep with people they aren't married to,, there's nothing so terrible about paternity fraud. Men have children with other women all the time, and the world is yet to end.

This is just an emotional topic for men. It isn't about heirs, because people adopt children and make them heirs. This is another male ego thing.

All men should do paternity tests on all the children of their exes and address the man on man fraud that's been going on.

Women are naturally polyandrous. Even if you do the test, the next one treated as a transaction will deliver dividends of transaction.

BRATISLAVA:


Is the man an embassy? Let's not avoid the question. How is organization suddenly equated to a man in love with a woman? Once a man does such transactions with his supposed wife, he must get the result of transactions.

Next, is the man certain he's not responsible for paternity fraud?

In as much as men sleep with people they aren't married to,, there's nothing so terrible about paternity fraud. Men have children with other women all the time, and the world is yet to end.

This is just an emotional topic for men. It isn't about heirs, because people adopt children and make them heirs. This is another male ego thing.

All men should do paternity tests on all the children of their exes and address the man on man fraud that's been going on.

Women are naturally polyandrous. Even if you do the test, the next one treated as a transaction will deliver dividends of transaction.

Maybe if this was the 19th century, what you are saying would have held sway, however we live in the 21st century. Where we have birth control of different kinds both conventional and unconventional in even the remotest of locations. There is no baby that is born in this time without the mother wanting the child to be born and there is nothing a man can do about it, nature has made it so. This is not an emotional topic, at least not for men but one borne out of necessity and reason. Personally I don't care if a woman is polyandrous or wants to get pregnant for different men. It's her choice and she has every right to do what she wants,however I as a man also have a choice and a right to ensure that kids she said are mine are actually mine. Which is a logical and reasonable approach given the different circumstances we have continued to witness. Facing the other men is of no consequence as unless she was forced the woman first made a choice to sleep with them, chose to get pregnant with their seed, chose to birth the baby, and lastly she made a choice to lie about the father of the child yet it is the man she slept with that should be blamed and held responsible. Perhaps it is also the same man that is guilty of lying to me and telling me that the child that was born is mine only because I am of favourable standing than the man who got her pregnant. Most men would never want their kids to be raised under another man's roof, and most men would always prefer raising kids that belong to them biologically than raising kids that are not.. The primary biological purpose for a man on earth is to progenate, and for a woman it's to Birth his kids. Back in the days, there used to be a saying "only a woman knows the father of her child" , but thanks to science a man can find out too if he is the father and I absolutely encourage all men to protect themselves from such situations by verifying the origins to avoid severe pains and anguish later. This discussion is not about female enlightenment neither is it about playing the gender blame game , this is about protecting men from crude deception, long suffering and ultimately a sad death. Peace