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My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by TMTR: 4:20pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Hello, good day , https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded, At one point , I wanted to go with my mum at least to show that I had no ulterior motive but then again I thought to myself, you can do this on your own and I am glad I overcame. I began the process in mid 2018 and it was not until it late 2018 that my application was granted, I then proceeded with the rest formalities and I took my daughter home, she was 3 when I adopted her . The first thing I did when we got home was to change her wardrobe, I took her shopping and bought two big boxes filled with clothes and shoes, also bought some female toys and other stuffs. She was shy at first around me but with time ,she got used to me and became more free with me. Mehn I must say so far adopting her was one of the best decision I have ever made in my life , I even tattooed her name on my arm, made me more responble in a way And also in addition, chicks dig babies, like babies are like ladies' magnet. I never believe those statements to be true till I got my baby, like mehn you need to see the attention I get because of her, I mean we get because of her. Don't get me wrong, ladies trip and drool over me before she came into my life but the amount of attention I get before her more than doubled . Before y'all start thinking this is the major reason I am happy I adopted her , let it be known that this is the least reason why I am happy.. All-in all she is God's blessings to me and I bless the day that I made the decision in adopting her. She is such an Angel and a darling I love her so much Fatherhood is sweet 369 Likes 25 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Mgreat(m): 4:24pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Nice man 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Davash222(m): 4:27pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Congratulations guy. Please be very careful with those magnet ladies , forget their gimmicks and smiles, the moment you give them attention or a chance in your life, they will start maltreating your innocent girl. It's in their constitution. Avoid them, please. 296 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Kobojunkie: 4:32pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
TMTR:Can you give us expo abeg! What state did you adopt the child from, and what orphanages did you visit before you decided on the one and why? 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by mariahAngel(f): 4:33pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
I’m so proud of you. Children are the sweetest. Did you meet her before deciding that she’s the one? 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Davash222(m): 4:35pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
mariahAngel:I'm glad you know. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Mrsoft3(m): 4:37pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
TMTR: I am proud of you. Responsibility is another definition for maturity, continue to be the best dad she will ever wish and pray for. I pray for more strength and Godly wisdom, never forget to imbibe Godly character in her. Continue to soar. 68 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by mariahAngel(f): 4:40pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Davash222: Who doesn’t? |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Mrsoft3(m): 4:41pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Davash222: Well as true as this sound it should not be generalized, some ladies have the heart of gold, it takes prayer and wisdom to discern which one is real 28 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Lamanii22(f): 4:44pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Awwwwn I'm super proud of you.... She's a blessed child.... The Lord will watch over her for you, you won't regret having her in jesus'name... What's her name? 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Richy4(m): 4:53pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Nice.. I'm glad U didn't give up when they were giving you some grief... 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by WoundedLamb: 4:57pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Great! You have contributed your part to making the world a better place. Nigeria should encourage adoption. A lot of babies out there looking for somewhere to call home. Now, do your part to make the world a safe place for the girl child. 50 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by greenie77: 5:09pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Hmm....a bachelor who was not up to 25 years old, just a young adult being legally granted adoption of a child especially a female toddler by a State's Ministry of Social Welfare is so ODD! 186 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by deekseen(m): 5:09pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Much as I'm saying kudos to you for this feat I still think it's proper to raise a child in a family setting - A father, a mother and the child(ren). Consider this. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Kobojunkie: 5:31pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
deekseen:Why? Because All children raised in 2-Parent homes turn out to be much better than children not raised in such homes? 27 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Kobojunkie: 5:32pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
greenie77:Obviously not impossible as the OP has made it clear to us all. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by TMTR: 5:34pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
greenie77: yeah right but I did it , though it wasn't easy Sometimes though the orphanage pays us a visit to check up on her and they can testify that she is doing great. Put her in the best school I can find in my state, the school that she attends is also being attented by children and relatives of politicians in my state of residence , trust me she is living the life of a princess The orphanage are now the ones telling me to adopt more but I am like nah for now maybe later in the future So no stress 163 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by TMTR: 5:38pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
deekseen: Lol, I am not sure if I am ever going to get married , but I know where you are coming from, my younger sister is so fond of her, she spends school holidays with her abroad so she is covered so don't worry. 106 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by GboyegaD(m): 5:41pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Great. I need to start the process for one of my niece. I am hoping it will be smooth. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Imustnottalk: 5:42pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Op can we see her picture you can blur her face .I will love to adopt one day maybe African Americans kids I love them .lol 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by TMTR: 5:43pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Like seriously I tire o, it's not a must for a child to grow up in a two parents home before a child can be " properly raised" Her last report card, she was commended for good behaviour in her class so I am not doing a bad Job in raising her , my family helps me out a lot too 82 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by WoundedLamb: 5:52pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
TMTR: Getting married is a choice and if you don't want to, it's perfectly okay. However, whatever you do, don't be a wayward father. The child's self esteem will stem from how you treat women. Let her know that there's more to life that being a good wife. Tell her that regardless of her gender, she can be anything she wants to be in life. Tell her that it's not cool to refer to women as "bitches", "vagina people" or "that gender" cause they are human as we are. Tell her to always voice her opinion even in a society where it doesn't seem to count. Tell her to look beyond the stigmatization of Nigerian girls and pursue her dreams head-on. Tell her to be careful with the boy child but know that he's not an enemy. 66 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by deekseen(m): 5:56pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Relax Kobo. It has nothing to do with your sarcasm. I think the op understands my point from one perspective - having a female play a very prominent role in her life. The other is psychological. It may affect the baby a little while growing up, but she may easily get over it when she's mature enough. TMTR:Were you raised in a one-parent home? Or were you adopted? You'll never understand the psychological part if you were not. All in all, I think op is a good man and means very well for her. 12 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by Kobojunkie: 6:04pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
deekseen:Even Jesus Christ said God created some to be Eunuchs, some became Eunuchs and some chose to be Eunuchs. That child is probably much happier with having just the one she currently has. 12 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by AutoChick4U(f): 6:12pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
deekseen:Do you know if he's capable of doing so? Let him be |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by AutoChick4U(f): 6:14pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
I must commend the op for the bold move, kinda weird but very very impressive. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by AutoChick4U(f): 6:15pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
GboyegaD:I for ask you to come adopt my baby but she all I got now. Very cute Lil lovely love. God is good abeg |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by mariahAngel(f): 6:20pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
AutoChick4U: My dear, keep your baby. She’s your gift. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by deekseen(m): 6:20pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Kobo, There's no point for arguments. But be careful how you bring the Bible into this so you don't mislead others. When Jesus talked about eunuchs, he said, "some were made eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom". Op is not a eunuch neither did he adopt the baby for the sake of the Kingdom. Everyone must not marry, but I still feel the baby deserves a prominent female figure in her life. And to add, the earlier op understands the psychological effects of growing up in a one-parent home, the better he will help her overcome these worries when they come. Once again, good step op. 13 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by deekseen(m): 6:29pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
AutoChick4U:My point is not whether op has the capability of taking care of her or not. Read again and gain understanding. |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by StPete: 6:30pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
As much as I applaud your effort, I don't see why you couldn't just fvck a woman and get her pregnant for you and birth a child especially as you're still young abi is ya thing not working? 8 Likes |
Re: My Experience Adopting A Child In Nigeria As A Young Guy by TMTR: 6:41pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
StPete: Lol, I was expecting a comment like this and I wasn't disappointed, like I said in my earlier thread, 'I no fit for baby mama wahala' Well I considered that option but I thought about it and was like nah, maybe later in the future but definitely not now. And about my thing not working hahaha Bring ya sister to come spend a night with me, she go testify give you in the morning about the marvelous work of my thing 65 Likes 6 Shares |
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