yomi007k:
Fantabulous....


This must be some African magic stuff.


You self no try. If things are hard for you then you should have called your mum.

If she don't want any help from outsiders then I guess it's becos she believes she is capable.

You need to ask her the way forward.

Romanoff:
She is your mum and I kind of understand where she's coming from, especially if you have a very spiritual mother.

If you had asked her reasons why she doesn't want you taking money from the man or other relatives, I believe you'd have understood her position.

The deed has been done now, just beg her as much as you can, tell her to forgive you and ask her how you can make it better.

In order to prevent asking relatives for money for school, get busy during the holidays or on your free time.

If it's site work, manual labour, washing and cleaning for people, do it so you can self reliant.

Supreme145:

My dear if its about working to be self reliant, forget that one, there's no kind of legitimate hustle I don't involve myself in to survive, I take care of over 80% of my school expenses. Things been just choke for me.

Franzinni:
Love conquers all.. From the look of things your mom knows what she is talking about ... the heart of man is not wicked... but desperately wicked.

My 2kobo. Is go and meet her one on one and let her see how sorry you are .. the love of a good mother has no end.

But guy you make your mama cry like that ..omo better carry nice gift follow body too. ... Just make her happy and laugh because a good laugh can brighten the soul.

Peace

Romanoff:


I pray things work out for you. I understand what it means to have no one else. This is coming from someone who lost her dad at 19.

Like I said, just keep asking your mum for forgiveness, she's your mum, she will eventually forgive you.

falcon01:
Mcheew I'm angry at this, the fact that Parents have to Drag children into their superstitious beliefs, and personal Life choices haba!! Buddy, truth is we all need help one way or the other, what you did wasn't wrong and I want you to know Parents make mistake and because they are our parents doesn't mean they are perfect or know it all. Don't feel bad about what you did

Supreme145:
Good morning N'landers, I will make this post as brief and concise as possible.

Some months ago while I was home on break from school, I visited one of my in-laws that owns a school to introduce a software to him for his school. The man complained that I was too distant from him, citing how I never call him or ask him for favours whenever I'm in school. I told him I will reach out to him more often.

I told my mom about my visit and she told me without mincing words to resist collecting money from the man. My mom is the religious type and has been skeptical about the man's source of wealth.

When school resumed things were difficult at home and I couldn't resume school. I spent close to three months after resumption at home due to lack of funds.
Note that since my admission from my first year to my final year, I've never asked any relative for help no received any help from anyone aside my immediate family.

I lost my resolve not to ask for help when my project supervisor called me and scolded me over the phone for my inability to resume school. I sent the man a text soliciting for help, he sent me 5k which I added to the little I had and resumed school. I didn't tell my mom because I knew she won't be happy about it.

In school things were so hard for me, during a particular period I went almost one week living on just water, that period I'm sure I would eaten food sacrificed to a deity if I had access to one. I called the man again and he reluctantly sent me 4k after many calls and text messages.

This early morning I got a phone call from my mom, she was crying over the phone. She was hurt and said I betrayed her because I went behind her back to collected money from a man she told me to avoid. She said that singular act of mine has destroyed all her efforts and prayers to break us free from bondage. I tired to explain that the money wasnt a physical cash hence it has no effect on me but to no avail. She said I've broken her for life and she would never forgive me.

I have a very close relationship with my mom and everything she told me really hurt me and I'm confused on the action to take. I am 28 but I hardly hide anything from her, I didn't tell her about the money because I know she wouldn't approve of it and I needed it. This is the first time any relative has contributed to my education ever. I don't even know how she got to know.

Please how do I pacify her and get her to forgive me? I really love my mom and can't bear to see her this heartbroken.

Supreme145:

Thank you....I will keep begging her, because all my struggle is to put smiles on her face. I just hope she forgives me.

Mmadu2:


With all due respect if your mom can't provide food for you and you have to starve for a whole week and you had to skip school for 3 whole months, you have every right to beg for help from a relative or friend even if he's a criminal. No apology!!

I've seen parents allow kids to starve and suffer for no sensible reason. If the reason is genuine then I'd understand.

Parents should stop this level of emotional blackmail and punishing their kids unnecessarily. Imagine her telling you she won't forgive you for life for such a little understandable forgivable matter. That easily proves her Christianity is not genuine.

If she doesn't want you to beg others let her provide for you period. Its her responsibility.

yomi007k:
Fantabulous....


This must be some African magic stuff.


You self no try. If things are hard for you then you should have called your mum.

If she don't want any help from outsiders then I guess it's becos she believes she is capable.

You need to ask her the way forward.