So I came across this post in a group

NL guys have you experienced this?, also share your view.

I NEED ADVAISE FROM A MALE READERS:

And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA.
As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I would rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch TV. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I have been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.

During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these banks, She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.

Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did.
Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks.
I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.

When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to sleep with the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers sleep with different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.

To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”

She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”

Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.

Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there is such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.

Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.

The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.

Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘LovePeddler’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? How will my friends see me? I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.

I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?

Iamagoodgirll:
So I came across this post in a group

NL guys have you experienced this?, also share your view.

I NEED ADVAISE FROM A MALE READERS:

And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA.
As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I would rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch TV. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I have been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.

During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these banks, She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.

Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did.
Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks.
I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.

When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to sleep with the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers sleep with different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.

To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”

She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”

Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.

Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there is such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.

Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.

The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.

Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘LovePeddler’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? How will my friends see me? I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.

I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?

You should be ashamed of yourself if you are a man of dignity. But no you choose to take advantage of the girl.

Mehn desperate times. I pity the young girl that pressure made give up her cherry. Anyway trust me what you’re feeling isn’t love but LUST, you just want more of her body and not her heart. Sex can make you confuse love for lust, with time the feeling will fade and you’ll get tired of her. Banks and slavery

Ok

Na wa oh.....

Op,if you think you've got feelings for her,why not ask her out? . Na your friends wor help you decide wetin you want for life?

Well, sometimes,those girls whom we tend to see as the highly promiscuous ones are often the decent ones while the holy than thou types willingly give out their pot of beans to every man who has got a wallet with money..

Op,no loosegaurd a good girl because of what your friends may wanna say..Be a man who knows what he wants...No dey mumu around

Wow

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Don't feel bad about any rubbish guy or lady here has to tell you here on nairaland and pls don't lose that lady... Get close to her.....

Being her first and as a marketer that she is means alot.... Since you have money, you can tell her to quit the job and get her a better job...

Girl wey no fvck till she became adult and got a job means she kept her morals.... She only let you sleep with her because she likes you... Opening a bank account was jsut another avenue to keep contact with you..

She really likes you and wants to b with you

Okay

Okay

Fishers everywhere!

This is surprising

Not again

People really pass through a lot trying to put food on their table

This young lady must have come from an average Nigerian home whom the parents are now expecting to reap the result of their sacrifices in training in in school

I wouldn't forget the pressure the parents will soon be mounting on her to get a suitor

It isn't easy being a Nigerian not to talk of being a Nigerian youth male or female

Since you're having feelings for her, why not find a space to employ her in your big company so that she won't be pressured to meet such target and start a relationship with her?

Fake story.

A gal will not Keep her virginity for so long avoiding all the wolves in uni and Nysc only to give it away like a chicken without any hesitation or resistance or conversation unless she has seen a deeper reason than u can imagine.

Modified: To make it more fake. We didn’t need to know ur PA booked a hotel for u or she came with a bike to see u and ur frnds. How did u know all these information on the gal? She a banker told u she entered a bike? Lol

Nice script.

I believe anyone that has an intention of being with a partner already has the picture and specs of what they want or become attracted to persons for reasons..

In this case, friends shouldn't allow you settle for what your friends wants.. It should be what you want.
Don't let your guys make you settle for less so as to fit in..
You should fit in for who you are.. Friends are meant to compliment not complete..

In my pack, we support not oppress..
This your clique is not a good one..


For the little lady..
Take her off the job, set her up with something good, that's after letting your intentions for her known and she in agreement..

Change and upgrade her to your status

Be the change your guys will envy..

The "Deputy Director character" in this movie that was just narrated is the main culprit.

Took advantage of a poor girl, and still has the effrontry to come online and shamelessly narrate the whole ordeal.

And karma is gradually leading him into his waterloo in the name of love.

How do you manage a relationship that was transactional from the begining.

You'll still return here to tell us the story of how she slept with all your friends to get bigger accounts, that is if it doesn't end like the case of Chidinma.

Are you a good person?
Did you let peer pressure get the best of you?
What do think you could have done differently?

All these yeye lie and stories. Mtchewww.

So you didn't know during entry but only after you finished and saw blood ? Lai will be so disappointed in your lies.

I regret booking space before reading this rubbish

Rowewo:
Long

dimmyj:
Okay

tradepunter:
Not again

JosephXavier:
G

SimSify:
S

Front page hunters

Wtf

Absolute nonsense! Op what are you feeling like? Na people like you dey go round to tell people sey you don fok a girl. Abeg grow up jo

Na mehnnnnn, u can write for Africa ohhhhh
Well, in as much as there more bitches around than non bitches.
U sound like somebody that's too emotional, I perceived that from your Epistle.
Whichever way, always make your intention known to her, if u want her as one of the bitches or one of the few non bitches
Still b... Uying 25kobo at 7k per one

arshavineering:
All these yeye lie and stories. Mtchewww

no mind the guy

When men come online to complain about their women being promiscuous, and consequently, ignorantly raising another man's child. I do well to inform them about their willingness to ignore red flags their women showed at the start of the relationship. And these red flags were shown to all men, but they just ignored. Women always show men red flags.

Now, you are looking like a guy who is somewhat willing to wife up a girl who has shown him her desire and willingness to fucckk a man she knows not to save her job. Now, this is your first red flag, and you are willing to ignore.

Any woman willing to fucckk a stranger for material benefits ain't your wife.
Do you know the number of solid women who have walked away from jobs that could pay them properly, just because they won't compromise their principles of not fucckking strangers? These are the kinds of women you marry, and you'll be safe from emotional trauma to a large extent. A wife is one with strong principles.

Moreover, that girl is still young, she's just 21. She needs to learn about life. If you really like her, be in her life as a friend, not someone willing to wife her. Try to understand her principles, try to covertly understand how she relates with other men. And over the years, if she has shown herself to be a good person who you can tolerate her excesses, and you feel like you want her in a home, fine. It's your decision to make, not ours.

What's the name of this movie

You could be very sincere about your feelings towards her. You might ask her out and she'd agree but it'd be a relationship without trust. How do you think she'd react in the future if she sees you with a marketer from another bank?
Bet you'll still have thesame feeling if you have sex with another virgin female marketer. What you have is pure LUST not LOVE.