chatinent:


This scenario reminds me of Jude and Eniola Badmus that was always cartoonized on The Sun Newspaper.

That means if she were the one providing the meals, ọ ga -esiri gị ike ga ahu banana nke a rapuru fo.

Mehn..

Nothing dey vex me pass references to every little efforts you make forgetting my daily stabs to make you happy.

Most women cannot be men even for a day.

Only one evening my cousin sister took me out, I never even remove my shoe naim I read her status: “I like the woman I am becoming. Always learn to man your womanhood.”

The only thing most women tend to appreciate is credit alerts..or send your account number. They will become so emotional..they can even cry.

Let the case be the reverse.

Make she just take care of you for two days.

You go hear weeen. She go even remind you how she carry you for stomach for nine months.

“Richie, what is this na, can't I have peace after coming back from work again? How can you eat and cannot wash your plates again! What's this na!”

“Baby, why are you shouting? The neighbours are at...”

“Don't baby me. What have I not done to make you happy? Will I kill myself? Am I the only married woman in the world..what is this na.”

(You try to hold her hands to calm her down...she slaps you damn hard).

“(She is crying now..tears flowly freely). Just see what you made me do. Just see it. Everything is just wrong with this world.”

You mah wey dem slap go still go meet am for parlour where she dey cry dey pet am (and that is after checking your cheeks if blood dey comot). You go come humbly tell am say no bi you eat, say na the one she eat for morning..but anyways, you forgot to wash it.

Another matter don dey brew.

She will now come to the parlour and sit, ask you for the remote and change the football to Telemundo and mutter these words you'll never hear: “work e won't work, such a failure. It's only remote e can pass.”

You will try to look at her with your side eyes but meet her full eyes staring at you in disgust. Mumu you go come smile enter bedroom.

As you are walking into the bedroom, the volume of the muttering is increasing but it's still inaudible.

In the oza room, just respect yourself. Don't even dare..unless you want the whole world to know how you will be idle and want to kill sb’s daughter after working all day!

“oh, it's your plan, Richie, baa? To kill me so that you can now go and meet Ishilove, baa?”


Only you go dey like Stone Cold Steve Austin sleep.


It will be normal...the “honey, darling etc.” is going to die. You will be called your name...two seconds, she will stop calling your name and just be giving out orders.

Abeg, don't even remind her you are the husband. You will get the insult of your life. She will say “no, say it loud na, let mama Chisom hear you. How many husbands stay at home watching football and their wives are left to do all the work!”


But na you still dey pay rent, buy foodstuff, and children fees.

Baba, kuku collect that responsiblity back. I hate to talk much. No dare shift any of your responsibility to woman...even if she persists to want to help. E kuku better she dey do am willingly than you register her name on it.

Only women, babies, and pets are loved. Men are respected when they man up. Na the respect we dey translate to love.

bukatyne:

Follow the convo to understand the context of his statement.

He said a lot of women move from their parents' home to their martial home hence they have never been in charge of bills or financial management.

Hence the statement you highlighted.

In that context, it makes sense that most women with that experience need a while to learn how to manage money.

Rubbiish:

Honestly u have a good wife!
See how her support is making u to focus on your site. Imagine she keeping all her money to herself, how will grow?

Davash222:

May God have mercy on His people.

E no go better for poverty!

JESHAL:



Men rarely disrespect women, the issue is that most people see women's submission as disrespect and a man can't tolerate a woman who won't defer to his authority, no man wants an headache

Emmanuel909090:
Most women are selfish and self centered, they want you to keep doing but find it diffcult to do for you.

Not all, but most.

Zico007:


My brother is not easy o. Stopped her taking any responsibility after her reaction. At the moment I do all I can solely. I trive hard to carry responsibility. Sometimes she believes in me than I do

bepositive11:


I agree with you but I don't think she's one of those women who will listen empathetically. She may even use his vulnerability against him

Maybe I'm wrong, but OP will know for sure. If she is understanding, OP should be open, direct, and honest

alexola20:
Many women lack common sense even if you try to talk with them.
The only thing they want is credit alert.

smasher1:


Communicating is critical, very important. But that's who the woman is. It would take a more matured woman who the lady may see as a friend and complain to, to correct this silly behavior from her. The husband may try it. But the result can't be predicted with accuracy.

emmanuelewumi:



So what percentage of the household income do you invest for the long term to take care of your retirement, how long can the family emergency reserves take care of household expenses when the unexpected happens

Romanoff:


That's why a lot have their manhood tied to their pockets. The moment they don't have money, small talk wey their wife go talk, they will conclude it's because they are broke.

If your wife only submits to you cause you're older than her or cause you're the bread winner, that is not a marriage but a master and slave relationship.

When the tide turns, that woman will treat you the exact way you treated her.

bukatyne:


Hahahahahaha!

When someone marries a church goer in the name of 'I married a Christian'

Please read 1 cor 13 v 1 - 8 and tell us if it aligns with your thought process above.

I am assuming you go to church because you are attempting to explain what headship means in the Bible.

While you are reading that passage, please point out the Bible passage that says a husband should not do chores at home (forget his financial status now).

UncleKoboko:

Give all money to your wife?
U no get ambition to build your own house and other projects?

I pity you.
Money she can start using to take care of her boyfriends...

reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.

I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.

My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?

How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?

What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home?

FutureIsFemale:
This red text is affecting my eyes.

DavidEsq:

Does this mean she gets to takes care of the rent from the money u give her? So she gets to deliver at the end?

FreeConCiencE:


Chai! See what men are becoming! So, to have peace now, I must handover my salary to my wife to manage, after removing transport fare. This is a tragedy.

Ficient:


If you give her the rest of your income, what will be left for projects, savings and others?

kushme:


So, now you know. I came here to read the experiences of men on the subject, only to see them flood the thread with their rubbish defensive traits and trying to advice men on how to handle the situation.

Any advice they try to give you, is on how it should favour the female gender.

They see men as tools and get angry when they can't use the tools .

Romanoff:
Me I don't see any problem in this o.

Na only one bill she dey pay, yet she wan turn terrorists for your head. You sef, always remind her how expensive DSTV and foodstuff costs as often as you can.

You can add the rising cost of rent too.

Treat people how they treat you and watch them adjust.

Just cause your own wife is like that doesn't mean all women are that way.

I know women who are bread winners and you'd never know, even n their house.

One just bought car and house that her family just moved into. Na her husband dey drive the car.

So don't conclude all women who are bread winners are like that.

placeofallure:


Many men won't like this your advice. My husband does same for me. He's not a 9-5 person. He's his own boss but I manage his finances. He's never had complains or anything cause he knows I'm a better manager. I get everything for him and for the house even up to shaving stick and boxers, foodstuff, DSTV and all. If anything, he's grateful I have taken the burden of deciding which one to do or forgo off him. We only communicate that's all. Sometimes, I add my own money to do stuff, nobody hears about it. I am happy to do it because I know he doesn't hold back. It's been like this even before we got married.

On the flip side, you can only do this with a woman who is not given to frivolity. A serious minded woman, who is purpose driven and have the overall interest of her man and home at heart. Not your everyday wig and eye shadow women if not OYO is your case.

Midas01:
Baby you smart....

SmilingImabong:

God bless you bro.
There are men who take good care of there family like this man and they have worth and money.
Marry your friend and don't marry for breast and yansh
The reason why many men suffer this from women is because they were after last and the lady is aware that's why if he lacks financially she treats him like a puppet while she earns

Gval123:
Baba also learn to remove ur savings oh, very important. In fact, why don't our men have joint account with their wife in Nigeria? You should, so both of u will know how much u earn, from that money, each should have separate savings acct, that will be proportionate to what both of u contribute to the act. that is, if both of u are working. Separate calculate ur household expenses, keep small 4 savings. Nor be big deal oh, just that some women nor know priority, even some men too. e fit go use money buy makeup or ogogoro.

Asour:


Tfare & fuel alone?

So you have no personal savings other than Tfare & fuel expenses from your salary?

I would really be surprised if your wife believes this.

Ha!

spice123:

I am into IT and I have a side hustle. You think I'm dumb right? Lolssss

JovialJune:
Lol, jobless married men should be useful in the house by doing the chores, cooking, and taking care of the kids, believe me, no woman will insult or demean a man like that, instead, she will make it her life's goal to get him back on his feet again. A man cannot be useless at home and useless in providing leaving everything for the breadwinner to do, then expect respect and cuddling, mbanu, it doesnt work like that, you guys should stop the whining, make yourself useful at home.

As for what your wife did abi is doing, carry your cross like that, rebuke her, or ignore her, you knew who she was before you married her.