Rubbiish:

Getting married is really going to be difficult for u o. U are already used to the single life. How do u deal with pressure from family & friends?

sayle1952:
@Spice123 do you do this after saving a little of your salary? Believe me women can be funny. I am married, we have tried this at some point because the madam kept asking what I am doing with my salary. Forgetting that after I have sent her money for upkeep there are miscellaneous I have to cater for before a new month comes. Meanwhile, the man's money is the family's while the womans money is hers.

AmazonTopaz:


I thought in marriage two shall become one and both of them become inter dependent on each other.

A man who is for the time being not well to do should swallow whatever pride he has and get something doing even if it is at the home front,some men have no idea how helping their wives with chores at home makes them happy and joyful instead of being idle and having unnecessary pride it will be good for the husband to help out at home and spend more bonding time with the kids.

How a man can be jobless and still expect his working wife to still be attending to all the chores at home is beyond me.Help out and relieve your wife of stress if your wife runs a business you can also help her and won't even remember that you are jobless

Valuc:
Some women grew up in a home where der father does practically everything,. Some have that mentality of taking care of the house financially is a man calling and not theirs.. if u have dis type of wife u will suffer.. just tell God even if any thing will happen to you let it not be lack.. am in that soup as I write

Romanoff:


You are right sha. The woman I cited above who just bought a house and car, her hubby takes care of the kids and runs the home while she's at work. She doesn't come back from work to start rushing to the kitchen to cook.

Hubby would have done that.

Weekends, she cooks soups, hubby does laundry.

Romanoff:


The moment I realized that many of them have their manhood tied to their pockets, it made me see the need to hustle very well.

Na money some dey take buy submission. Without it, they don't think a woman can submit to them.

Really sad.

spice123:

My brother, I was out of job for like 6 months and wife took care of all the bills excluding rent and school fees and nobody noticed or knew I was out of job. No negative attitude showed up and I will tell you why. A close friend gave me this advice and I will share same with you. When you get your salary or business profit, remove your t-fare/car fuel and give the rest to your wife to manage the home. I was very hard for me to do but t I summoned courage and since 3+ years I started it, I have complete peace. Infact, my wife was praising me on how I was able to pay all bills and manage funds. By the time your wife will mismange the home funds (feeding, rent, kids sch fees e.t.c) she will wake up and realize that paying for gas in the home is the least issue. You will have utmost respect bro. I have been married for 7 years now.

brownemmanuel43:

Having worked in different areas mostly with an NGO that is into human rights, child abuse and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, I can confidently tell u that my figure is accurate and nothing else.
I have come to realise that sometimes what women displays as domestic violence is not in actual sense. We have handled cases in which the man lost his job or business the next thing the wife would start nagging and the rest.
My dear let's forget matter bcs story plenty for my head about women and their wahala.

DontBullshitMe:

Another impractical advice.

So someone who finds it hard to contribute for the seldom refill of cooking gas and is always quick at referencing her contribution when any issue related to it comes up should be further persuaded into making more notable financial contributtion to the running of the home? Huh?

It is at this point that the OP will experience hell. Any point of disagreement will be met with the constant reminder that he isn't the sole provider for the home and that she (the wife) has been contributing even far more than he has when in reality that is not the case.

Women are just not meant to be providers. QED.

chatinent:


For this bravery, I owe you a bottle of my friend udeme.

toren:


When you people come online to complain about your wives I always wonder what made you marry the said wife in the first place. Beauty only? That must be it, if not, the signs are always there for you to make a decision to stay or opt.

That said, which kind wife una dey marry sef? No content, nothing. Because a smart, intelligent woman already knows that she has the responsibility of supporting her husband in all matters and areas of both their lives.

bepositive11:


I honestly don't have respect for men who depend on their wives for money, but if his wife is earning more, I don't see that as a problem as long as he's not financially dependent on her and he's helping his woman with house chores if they don't have a house help

Men need to understand that their value goes beyond how much they earn. A man who is supportive, reliable, responsible, present, knowledgeable, wise, good at giving advice, good at making judgements, good at being a father, and the list goes on. All these things will make a woman cherish and respect you regardless of whether you earn more or less than her, but a man's huge ego can prevent him from being all these things

Dizzyyish:


"Any qualities in a man that a woman finds useful, she calls masculine, all
others, of no use to her or to anyone else for that matter, she chooses to call
effeminate."

"By the age of twelve at the latest, most women have decided to become
prostitutes. Or, to put it another way, they have planned a future for
themselves which consists of choosing a man and letting him do all the
work. In return for his support, they are prepared to let him make use of
their vagina at certain given moments. The minute a woman has made this
decision she ceases to develop her mind."

"Woman's greatest ideal is a life without work or responsibility — yet
who needs such a life but a child? A child with appealing eyes, a funny
little body with dimples and sweet layers of baby fat and clear, taut skin —
that darling miniature of an adult. It is a child that woman imitates — its
easy laugh, its helplessness, its need for protection. A child must be cared
for; it cannot look after itself. And what species does not, by natural
instinct, look after its offspring? It must — or the species will die out.
With the aid of skillfully applied cosmetics, designed to preserve that
precious baby look; with the aid of helpless, appealing babble and
exclamations such as "Oooh" and "Ah," to denote astonishment, surprise,
and admiration; with inane little bursts of conversation, women have
preserved this "baby look" for as long as possible so as to make the world
continue to believe in the darling, sweet little girl she once was, and she relies on the protective instinct in man to make him take care of her."
- Esther Vilar (The Manipulated Man, 1971)

bepositive11:


I honestly don't have respect for men who depend on their wives for money, but if his wife is earning more, I don't see that as a problem as long as he's not financially dependent on her and he's helping his woman with house chores if they don't have a house help

Men need to understand that their value goes beyond how much they earn. A man who is supportive, reliable, responsible, present, knowledgeable, wise, good at giving advice, good at making judgements, good at being a father, and the list goes on. All these things will make a woman cherish and respect you regardless of whether you earn more or less than her, but a man's huge ego can prevent him from being all these things

Albertone:


Udeme is a great man

spice123:

I replied one of the mentions so you will see the response to that. Thank you.

fortune1968:
Most Nigerian women 99.9% of them are just like that . Very selfish and insensitive . They think all they have to offer a man is sex .And as at that ,they consider it a favour .Most of the analysis some people have been doing here doesn't relate to Nigerian women .And it is because some of them are having money to maintain the home .If they should experience any downturn ,it is then they will know the meaning of a woman in Nigerian context .

vickydevoka:

So wen u loose ur job u should commit suicide. While de woman live with her money. Abeg anybody can be jobless for sometimes

spice123:

I am into IT and I have side hustles. My salary belong to my family while my side hustles take care of the rest. Lest I forget, I have a pension scheme. It's not everything I will expose on-line.

Mac2016:

7years is just a fresh start jare. That his method is catastrophic. The safety net for the home is gone. So when there is a need to salvage financial situation he would be unprepared and be putting forward meagre tfare or what. What if the kid gets injured and the wife had used all money for upkeep. The father would be saying ehn ehn..
I just pray he doesn't enter emergency zone else he will be in soup. He doesn't even have any reserve just in case as safety or buffer for the family. He's just saying nonsense.

Bennethchiso:
. My brother what you just wrote is true. Many men with bouyant account think their wife is nice. They should just pray not to experience economic downturn like me. Then they will understand that women are really worst than wicked. They see men as object of financial gratification and as long as that money is not there, that man is useless. Pls bro, if you or any other man here have a sort of job link or business pls assist me. Since I lost my job, my home had been hell. GUYS I NEED HELP PLEASE! BBC

Asour:


Tfare & fuel alone?

So you have no personal savings other than Tfare & fuel expenses from your salary?

I would really be surprised if your wife believes this.

Ha!

FreeConCiencE:


Chai! See what men are becoming! So, to have peace now, I must handover my salary to my wife to manage, after removing transport fare. This is a tragedy.

chatinent:


That means you know God. Lol.

spice123:

You're getting me wrong bro. If you read deep meaning in what I wrote, you'll understand better. I am not saying I don't have peace in my home. No! I want my wife to be empowered, manage the home properly now that I am alive and it's working out very fine. This is the reason when most men die, their wives will be left stranded, for in-laws to deal with them. Worse case they start sleeping with men outside to feed them and kids. If I tell you that since I started this, my wife has added 4 things in her business to expand it. Business ideas are coming in. She uses part of money given to her to run and expand her business and the profit she uses for feeding and kids fees. Many will not understand this and I won't blame them. Build your home the way you want it to be.

spice123:

You're getting me wrong bro. If you read deep meaning in what I wrote, you'll understand better. I am not saying I don't have peace in my home. No! I want my wife to be empowered, manage the home properly now that I am alive and it's working out very fine. This is the reason when most men die, their wives will be left stranded, for in-laws to deal with them. Worse case they start sleeping with men outside to feed them and kids. If I tell you that since I started this, my wife has added 4 things in her business to expand it. Business ideas are coming in. She uses part of money given to her to run and expand her business and the profit she uses for feeding and kids fees. Many will not understand this and I won't blame them. Build your home the way you want it to be.

Dizzyyish:

You could check out Jobberman(.)com for jobs in your area, just polish your cv/resume real nice and submit to the jobs you're interested in.