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I Have Never Been So Confused! by arabbunkum: 9:01am On Sep 27, 2021 |
It's all about settling down. I have two options. 1. A lady of about 32yrs, working (nurse). Unattractive but with good character and very independent. 2. A lady of 24yrs, student (HND 1), young and BEAUTIFUL. Good character and hardworking/hussling spirit. NAIRALANDERS, rescue me o! |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by falcon01: 9:05am On Sep 27, 2021 |
Number 2 jare but make sure you are a full Man and have control, if not at that age she still has small Chance to Bleep around just small sha. So Take her In and do what you gonna do |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by FreeStuffsNG: 9:07am On Sep 27, 2021 |
arabbunkum:Very uncomplimentary. Obviously, she is better off not being married to you. 18 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by ahnie: 9:41am On Sep 27, 2021 |
Short and ugly. Wouldn't it have been better if you addresses her as not *attractive** Pls I want to become a feminist...how do I go about it? 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by arabbunkum: 9:50am On Sep 27, 2021 |
FreeStuffsNG:Modified � |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by arabbunkum: 9:51am On Sep 27, 2021 |
ahnie:Modified |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by FreeStuffsNG: 9:58am On Sep 27, 2021 |
arabbunkum:okay sir |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 10:05am On Sep 27, 2021 |
ahnie: You don’t have to do much dear. Just hold all men in contempt. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by Annie1st: 10:08am On Sep 27, 2021 |
How old are you? Are you younger or older than the 32years old lady? 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by ahnie: 10:11am On Sep 27, 2021 |
mariahAngel:Just like that? Owkay awon feminist please welcome me aboard. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by JovialJune(f): 10:15am On Sep 27, 2021 |
How a man is considering a dependent beautiful student to an independent nurse with good character is beyond me, and I bet it is cos she is unattractive and her age, las las you will go where your heart desires. 7 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 10:17am On Sep 27, 2021 |
1 Like |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by Danielomisco(m): 10:21am On Sep 27, 2021 |
Student??lol no go upgrade girl wey no reach o.Marry ur social class |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by Mleeperbother: 10:34am On Sep 27, 2021 |
arabbunkum:None. Marriage no be ny force. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by Richy4(m): 10:39am On Sep 27, 2021 |
What do you yourself truly/really want?...The answer lies within you if u pause for a sec.. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by ahnie: 10:41am On Sep 27, 2021 |
mariahAngel:E se pupo omo iya mi. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by bukatyne(f): 10:44am On Sep 27, 2021 |
ahnie: You know I will always fight for Papa Zino abi? Feminism ko, Chemisism ni |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by ahnie: 10:45am On Sep 27, 2021 |
bukatyne:Hahahaha you again . Always appearing from nowhere lolzzzz |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by ahnie: 10:47am On Sep 27, 2021 |
Richy4:I prolly think his heart lies with the student. You needed to see how he described the older lady with appalling words like **short and ugly** We had to lash at him before he modified it to **unattractive** 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by bukatyne(f): 10:58am On Sep 27, 2021 |
arabbunkum: How do you have two women? Did you court the both of them? Do you KNOW the both of them intimately? Their dreams, visions, ideal husband type, the kind of wife they plan to be, vision for family, ideals on child training, ideas on marriage/gender roles, idea on in-laws, ideas on money, idea/attitude on sex, idea on recreation and sooooooooo many other moving parts of marriage? Or is it just she is fine, she is not fine that you are concerned about? |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by bukatyne(f): 10:58am On Sep 27, 2021 |
ahnie: |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by arabbunkum: 11:01am On Sep 27, 2021 |
Annie1st:I'm older...34! |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by arabbunkum: 11:08am On Sep 27, 2021 |
bukatyne:I'm codedly courting both of them. I know them deeply and they both have pretty good visions. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by arabbunkum: 11:10am On Sep 27, 2021 |
JovialJune:I understand that the older lady is your choice. Thanks for coming here. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 11:36am On Sep 27, 2021 |
arabbunkum: Why would you describe someone you’re considering for marriage as short and ugly? To be honest, at first I didn’t take your post seriously when I read that part because I thought you were just seeking attention. Take this advice; Never marry someone you can dare to describe as short and ugly. That short and ugly is someone else’s perfect. 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by Richy4(m): 11:55am On Sep 27, 2021 |
ahnie: 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by bukatyne(f): 11:57am On Sep 27, 2021 |
arabbunkum: How can you codedly court someone? Is courting a one way thing? Based on your coded courting, choose however codedly meet your standards. As others have advised, end your codedly relationship with the older lady; you are not attracted to her and would start feeling you are doing her a favour. |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by anthonyuncle(m): 12:03pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
you didn't describe yourself 1 Like |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:14pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Marry the one whose visions, purposes, and desires matches with yours or are somewhat similar to yours. That's the first step. Marry the one who's compatible with you. For starters, we don't know these women you're asking us to chose for you. So, choosing for you here will be based on sentiments and not necessarily who fits your specification of a wife. For you to have called the "Nurse" short and ugly already tells that you are nothing close to being attracted to her. Physical attraction is important as other things we seek out in a partner. I don't know if you are just considering her because she has a high prospect in the job market or that you just want someone you can call a wife. Using such condescending adjectives on a prospective wife shows you have and will not have any iota of respect and affection for her. Stick to the latter. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by cooooooks(m): 12:41pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
If you are ~ 35, marry the 32 year old lady. If you are under 29, wait for the 24 yr old lady to graduate first. Marriage no be joke. Who are you to call someone short and ugly? If she was soo despicable looking, why are you "courting" her? Who have you known longer? Who will you call if you're sick, in a predicament? Who would you trust with your life? arabbunkum: 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by Nobody: 1:21pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Smh. With the way you described the first lady (whom you're clearly not interested in nor attracted to, but perhaps it's her money you're after), you don't sound like a catch. They both deserve better than you. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Never Been So Confused! by OG1BABY(f): 1:41pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
You don't deserve any of them 3 Likes |
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