My dad called me on the phone 2 days ago asking if I be coming home for the holiday, which is unlikely of him, because I just left home not quite long and he hardly call. (I school within our state, studying law)..... while we were on the call he mentioned about the Dr appointment. (We normally do routine check-up every 2 months )

Throwing the question to me if I even know my blood group. (I replied, no)
At FIRST I thought it's just a normal question.

Am 21yrs old, eldest among 3 siblings and I think my dad has something planned out, he's an Internet freak even more than I, he's actively online on twitter, facebook, and seeing all the uproars about DNA test here and there on Nairaland, I think he's going to ask me to come to the hospital with him disguising it as me Knowing my blood group (for a DNA test.)

The thing here is am scared, because all my life I have seen people saying never to trust a woman (I love my mom, but still am scared)

What if it's a DNA test (which I strongly believe it is)
What if it's turns out complicated
Would he still accept me? Or abandon me to myself.
So many thoughts running through my head, they are reasons for that.

He's black, I am fair (though my mum says I took his father complexion)


Pls help me...am thinking to stay back in school or go home This evening.
Am confused.

Don't u trust your mum? Why scared then if u do U never talk wetin dey sup son. Anyway, shame no go be our last bus stop.

You're scared of what exactly,

If your Father wants you to return home, Obey that man and return home.

Even if it's DNA test he wants to carry out, are you the one that gave birth to yourself?, Are you scared that maybe you took his money without informing him and he's patiently waiting for you behind the door to tear you apart as soon as you knock on the door?,

So why exactly are you scared

Hehehehe, I'll be on the lookout for "m" monikers, let's see if they will be bold enough to bitch about since this one is a grown ass adult, of which his momma was born in the time past, and not females of these days.

Paternity Fraud don enter street.


Let me share one recent experience with a friend. The guy told me how a particular girl he met in the village came to see him. During the time he was not aware she was pregnant. 3 weeks into the relationship the girl told him she is pregnant. The guy took her to the nearest clinic, did pregnancy test and it came out that the girl is 2- 3 month pregnant. The nurse even politely said , oga e show for her body na.

That's how he take her back home, that's where she open up about the pregnancy and start beging the guy to help him abort it. Before the guy will say jack, the girl don google abortion drugs, make some calls and it was waybill which the guy paid for it. The matter long abeg.

The guy for marry and settle down not knowing say the baby no be him own, and for the girl to know the truth and still hide it is pure evil and should be seen as crime.


So OP no fear... And don't blame the man... Maybe mummy way no too clear, or maybe you de behave somehow and him won verify whether na him born you true true

DaddyRochie1642:
You're scared of what exactly,

If your Father wants to to return home, Obey that man and return home.

Even if it's DNA test he wants to carry out, are you the one that gave birth to yourself?, Are you scared that maybe you took his money without informing him?,

So why exactly are you scared

It's DNA sir am sure, he's asking if I know my blood group (which I don't)
But I believe he knows it, they might have done it before.

What if it turns out, am not his biogical child.
And me been the first child, I suspecting he's opping for the dna test.

So many reasons he might decide to do it, he's black, am slightly fair.
Honestly am scared.

Barrister026:


It's DNA sir am sure, he's asking if I know my blood group (which I don't)
But I believe he knows it, they might have done it before.

What if it turns out, am not his biogical child.
And me been the first child, I suspecting he's opping for the dna test.

So many reasons he might decide to do it, he's black, am slightly fair.
Honestly am scared.

The Lord is your Strength

If indeed your dad wants to do a DNA test, nothing will stop him.
You don't have to live in fear. As they say, there's nothing falling from the sky that the earth can't take.
Whatever the outcome(if indeed it's a DNA test),water will find its level.

I guess he is scared of the outcomes of the test if it comes out that he isn't his father...and what it would mean to his career.

Mehn..

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thorpido:
If indeed your dad wants to do a DNA test, nothing will stop him.
You don't have to live in fear. As they say, there's nothing falling from the sky that the earth can't take.
Whatever the outcome(if indeed it's a DNA test),water will find its level.

Yes, I love to know the truth, but am still in law school (200 level) what if it turns out complicated.

Barrister026:
Am 21yrs old, eldest among 3 siblings and I think my dad has something planned out, he's an Internet freak even more than I, he's actively online on twitter, facebook, and seeing all the uproars about DNA test here and there on nairaland, I think he's going to ask me to come to the hospital with him disguising it as me Knowing my blood group (for a DNA test.)

The thing here is am scared, because all my life I have seen people saying never to trust a woman ( I love my mom, but still am scared)

What if it's a dna test (which I strongly believe it is)
What if it's turns out complicated
Would he still accept me? Or abandon me to myself.
So many thoughts running through my head, there is reasons for that.

He's black, I am fair (though my mum says I toke his father complexion)

You cross that bridge if and when you get there.

Bro, you need not to worry but I understand your reasons. I really hope it would favor you but if it doesn't, you will scale through the situation.

Your dad has got nothing against you, so even if it's not favorable for him, all the fault would be on your mom.

Worry not!

Barrister026:

Yes, I love to know the truth, but am just in law school (200 level) what if it turns out complicated.

You are still who you are, a capable 200-level law student. Nothing can change that....

Op dey fear say he fit receive the greatest shocker of him life...

Mr. Man, you better man up and join your popsman for that hospital make una clear the whole thing once and for all

MufasaLion:
Bro, you need not to worry but I understand your reasons. I really hope it would favor you but if it doesn't, you will scale through the situation.

Your dad has got nothing against you, so even if it's not favorable for him, all the fault would be on your mom.

Worry not!

...but op’s life would be shattered.

Barrister026:


Yes, I love to know the truth, but am just in law school (200 level) what if it turns out complicated.

Tell him you can do the “blood group” test in school, then hear what he says next.

mariahAngel:


...but op’s life would be shattered.

Yes, it would only if he ain't the biological son of the supposed father but however, he shouldn't let it destroy his life because he's got a great future ahead.

His parent(s)' wrong decision is not a reason enough to let him be crushed! I'm sure that man is financially stable and also the OP might be of good behavior so it's possible he get support from the man if he's to be chased away which I doubt.

We all have one thing or the other that is crushing us emotionally and mentally but we're trying to fight it. He should brace up because people have had worse and they are still liviing and shooting for the stars!

His mom is the one that's gonna bear the brunt in many ways because she caused it.

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U are dark and ur father is fair. Hmmmm, he reach to fear sha! But do u think ur mum do av secret affairs with men secretly?

I can imagine how this feels. I don’t think you have a choice though. He has a right to know, in some countries you or your mom can't even refuse a dna test. I think he wants to disguise it as blood test to mitigate the psychological effect on you, but you still deserve to know the outcome if you want to

Truvelisback:
U are dark and ur father is fair. Hmmmm, he reach to fear sha! But do u think u mum do av secret affairs with men secretly?

this is immature.

nairalanders should we tell him the truth?

It seems your mom has already told u the truth.

Monkey hand done dey resemble human being own..

I understand your being scared.. all these years of calling him dad, all the memories of one sweet family might just turn sour with that test...

Damn!!!

Las Las na pikin wey no fine Dem dey do DNA ontop

even if it turns out to be what u are scared of remember u called him dad for 21years its nt easy to throw away a child....he's nt an alien he has conscience dont be scared hoomie

It's better late than never. If you aren't his kid I believe it will be impossible for him to hate you because of the loves he's shown you from birth.

Hmmm