DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

i have same issue I got outside chick to handle that my wedding is ten year now with three kid

DavidNative:
Lagos , why?

Run , you have what she's been looking for. Kidnap awaits.

DavidNative:
Not yet

She is not cheating trust me. But she really not crave for you. Get her libido booster from phymacy. That's all

Are you serious right now? If she cannot fulfill her conjugal duties then she should give space for a woman who can
Sex is one of the most important thing in marriage for men!

KarinaLove:
Try and respect her decision. She said she is not the sex type. Then leave her.

Must marriage be all about sex?

I don tire.

Everytime Men And Sex....Tueeehhh

Can't men use their time for something more productive in life

philipstanley:
I feel your pain
I will advise that you be gentle while making love and don't try to force yourself on her and don't insert it all

On another thought she may have spiritual husband which makes her not to have sexual feelings/affections for you.
(Just a thought Sha)

And that did not affect your marriage Sir?

5Gnetwork:
i have same issue I got outside chick to handle that my wedding is ten year now with three kid

One reason why I don't buy the "no sex before marriage" bullsh!t. This could jave been avoided.

What Many women are dreaming for is this woman's nightmare.
In her Next world she no go try 'no premarital sex
Bad market. In her eyes then girls wey dey engage in premarital sex re worldy and carnal. They will not join the rapture.hahhaha

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Now, that you didn't have sex during courtship, why didn't you discuss this during the courtship or did you think it was a Sin to?
the problem you are having now could have been prevented during courtship.

When u choose not to engage her in sex during courtship did u ask for our opinion? Now it have backfired and u are here asking us. Bro abeg carry ur cross comot for road make I pass.



Meanwhile u fit use ur endowed self produce porn.

Honestly , my regret Sir

MrMacinterchi1:

Now, that you didn't have sex during courtship, why didn't you discuss this during the courtship or did you think it was a Sin to?
the problem you are having now could have been prevented during courtship.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Omo go get yourself a side chick before you start being resentful and treating your wife any how. Love your wife and enjoy your side chick(s), too many girls out there craving your dick. Be wise as you move though make side enjoyment no scatter your marriage.

Na underage you marry? Is she a virgin? Was she circumcised?

DMerciful:
Sex once a month is too much? That's outrageous! Should be at least twice per week.

He needs to understand her sexual needs? Can't she communicate?

Clearly they're not sexually compatible and that's why no sex before marriage is a recipe for disaster!

The question you missed is can’t the husband communicate? While making love, you’d sense how your partner is responding.

Generally, women don’t know how to express themselves. They only do this with other ladies of their kind.

@DavidNative

I'm not married but I have an advice that might seem helpful.

Women dey get plenty nut atimes.

You're a good man. Change. Pretend to be a bad guy. Come back home smelling drunk, maybe pour drink on your body. If she ask where you're coming from, tell her you went hanging out with your friends, maybe late into the night (not too late before she gets used to it).
Stop some of the help you've doing at home (I didn't say stop providing money, maybe the kitchen help and things).

Stop looking needy, like you need sex and all. Afterall she no dey give you the sex for weeks, kukuma pretend like say e no dey hungry.

Try this exercise for some weeks and see. If she complains, ignore her, don't complain, don't say anything to explain your new attitude.

When she attempts to come close to you for sex, be strong and say no, pretend....maybe she'd turn needy. Na person wet get upper hand dey get negotiation power.

May your family be blessed.


Disclaimer: I'm not married. I'm not a relationship expert.

baba try use lubricant and with time she will get used to the size.

Ds Kain big preeq tins like mine de choke Sha

DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

The truth is that this will never stop.
I once passed through this for ten years.
I said no this year.
I cannot remain celibate while married.
God forbid.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Get in the mood make sure she is wet before you penetrate ,settle family issue as well

DavidNative:
Not yet

Meanwhile I'd suggest you you utilize sexual positions that prevents you going too deep. Communicating is also very important. Follow her body language, ask her to tell you when she's enjoying or enduring. Try not to go too deep. Focus more on her and in making her cum really hard. Get materials that will teach you how. Be patient more outside the room. Show her love more, get her gifts more, complement her more.

Amen, but i do not drink or smoke either, but thanks 4 the advice, i tried not to look needy, but am just this person that cannot pretend not to be something i am not, i had tried changing but could not sustain it

ChocolateWine:
@DavidNative

I'm not married but I have an advice that might seem helpful.

Women dey get plenty nut atimes.

You're a good man. Change. Pretend to be a bad guy. Come back home smelling drunk, maybe pour drink on your body. If she ask where you're coming from, tell her you went hanging out with your friends, maybe late into the night (not too late before she gets used to it).
Stop some of the help you've doing at home (I didn't say stop providing money, maybe the kitchen help and things).

Stop looking needy, like you need sex and all. Afterall she no dey give you the sex for weeks, kukuma pretend like say e no dey hungry.

Try this exercise for some weeks and see. If she complains, ignore her, don't complain, don't say anything to explain your new attitude.

When she attempts to come close to you for sex, be strong and say no, pretend....maybe she'd turn needy. Na person wet get upper hand dey get negotiation power.

May your family be blessed.


Disclaimer: I'm not married. I'm not a relationship expert.

How will you feel if she was your sister? You knew what you were doing when you tell her no pre marital sex because you knew she was going to turn your marriage proposal down if she saw the size of your dick, i believe your dick is the same size with that of my room mate back in my university days, his dick lenght almost touches his knee like that of a cow, i have never seen a dick that big in my life before, THIS WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO, DURING SEX BE PUTTING ONLY THE CAP OF YOUR PENIS MAKE YOU FOR NON GO KILL PERSON DAUGHTER BECAUSE AM FEELING SORRY FOR HER OR YOU DIVORCE HER AND GO LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT HAS A VERY BIG WIDE DEEP PUS*Y THAT LOOK LIKE WELL TO MARRY PROBLED SOLVED

Tone down your sex drive...."Giving head" makes me think you are too wild. Personally, I run away from sex maniacs. As someone rightly mentioned, LEARN MODERATION!

I was in your shoes, bro.
She's probably vaginismus. It takes patience.
Mine was a virgin too and scared of sex, she said my thing was too big. I and was only able to penetrate her after some weeks into marriage, but now we both enjoy it. The key is patience, prayer, pre-intimacy, lubrication, and more sex talks. I wish you well.

DavidNative:
Well, i believe .r

You believe what? what she told you or what you saw and experienced when you first had sex ?

I think your woman is manipulating you .

This is what some woman are looking for

Women are the most confused people on earth.

What do they really want

When the man isn't active in bed they complain.

When the man is active they complain of too much sex.

When the dick is small they complain.

When it is big they complain.

When the dick is short they complain.

When the dick is long they still complain.

When the man doesn't touch them maybe do to stress they also complain.

When the man always touch them they still complain of disturbance.

When the man stays long to release they complain.

When the man releases early they still complain.

Well me I sabi hammer sha if she like make she dey complain dey go.

DavidNative:
Pls i need an honest and kind advice . I will deeply appreciate

Find yourself a side chick, many women like what you have. 2 things will happen either you will at least get to satisfy yourself or she will learn to accommodate you for fear of losing you. She said no sex before marriage, you obliged her, she cant now come and say no sex after marriage too.

Exactly, i tried this, but when i recommend position, she says she is tried and not used to it

trevorhorace:


Meanwhile I'd suggest you you utilize sexual positions that prevents you going too deep. Communicating is also very important. Follow her body language, ask her to tell you when she's enjoying or enduring. Try not to go too deep. Focus more on her and in making her cum really hard. Get materials that will teach you how. Be patient more outside the room. Show her love more, get her gifts more, complement her more.

I don’t think its your size you worried about..you are just worried that she might be loosing interest in you or you not doing it well. If she was a virgin then you prolly doing it the wrong way. Buy lube and make sure she’s really into the sex before you penetrate her, don’t try to impress her, just do things differently like spank her ass, dirty talk softly, and maintain deep eye contact slowly next time you inside her. Lastly, sex is not about in and out, since she’s tight, do it vert slowly and use your hands to be doing other stuffs on her body. Things that she’ll remember and it will be ringing in her head. Goodluck

First of all, show is a picture of your 3rd leg let's know how mighty is it.
Secondly, take it easy either her and get lub to crease the place before you started slidding in.
Try also to have a good and long pre-intimacy so as to reduce the length of time to spend thrusting.
As someone already said, try and find out a less painful position for her so that you can take it. Please don't forget to send us the picture.

DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

She said?she said?how can u be telling us "she said".what did u find out on ur own?