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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by KarinaLove(f): 12:44pm On Oct 01, 2021
DMerciful:
Are you serious right now? If she cannot fulfill her conjugal duties then she should give space for a woman who can
Sex is one of the most important thing in marriage for men!

Really...

Man shall not live by bread (SEX) alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of the Lord.

Read your scriptures darling.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 12:45pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Exactly, i tried this, but when i recommend position, she says she is tried and not used to it

guy stop all this nonsense, you need to gain control. Right now your wife is in control of your marriage and you.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Solatium(m): 12:45pm On Oct 01, 2021
thorpido:
You need to be patient with her. She is a 'learner' when it comes to sex. It's like just learning to ride a bicycle. It's rough initially and full of falls.
Keep doing what you're doing... pre-intimacy. It will help her become more receptive. You also need to make love to her mind. You keep talking to her.


Still learning how to Bleep when the marriage is almost 2yrs?
Una funny for this forum

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 12:46pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Sexual incompatibility is a huge stress in marriage. I am not sex-sex type while my ex was. I could stay a year without sex but she would want sex 24/7, I couldn't cope at a point and we have been separated for 7 months. Leave the poor woman alone. Sex no be food.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by DenreleDave(m): 12:46pm On Oct 01, 2021
thorpido:
You need to be patient with her. She is a 'learner' when it comes to sex. It's like just learning to ride a bicycle. It's rough initially and full of falls.
Keep doing what you're doing... pre-intimacy. It will help her become more receptive. You also need to make love to her mind. You keep talking to her.

Good day sir thorpido, how have u been doing
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Dbb01(m): 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
While in other marriage some wife will be complaining their husband d*ck is too small..
your own wife they complain it is too big
ogbeni go get side chick make you confuse the devil wink

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Goke7: 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
you guys should seek for professional counselling, don't allow third-parties intervention please
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Originalsly: 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
Bro.... don't ask.... when she is all pumped up and ready for the oral ... tell her when you're done ... at least you guys can try to see if it works ... but if at any point she finds it painful then you will go no farther. Add that she can't be selfish... that at least... she should try. You also need to finger her... it will give you a good idea of her passage... if she's not complaining about two fingers then you may have to think deeper. On trying to enter... look for fear in her eyes... try entering when there is none... fear locks up down there. You need not go all the way in ... just control yourself and if thenhead alone enter... that's good enough for starters... do not force your way in... if she feels good about it... you will feel the passage opening up and you being gradually sucked in... again... do not force. If she bluntly refuses to try.... you got a problem... is for you to figure it out... you not going to hear it from me.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by DavidNative(m): 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
Well, am a very romatic guy, about 8 months into our marriage , sometimes i drop poems by the bed before leaving 4 works, send her love notes while at work and gifts randomly, but i lost intrest in al this 3 months ago.
Sens8:
I don’t think its your size you worried about..you are just worried that she might be loosing interest in you or you not doing it well. If she was a virgin then you prolly doing it the wrong way. Buy lube and make sure she’s really into the sex before you penetrate her, don’t try to impress her, just do things differently like spank her ass, dirty talk softly, and maintain deep eye contact slowly next time you inside her. Lastly, sex is not about in and out, since she’s tight, do it vert slowly and use your hands to be doing other stuffs on her body. Things that she’ll remember and it will be ringing in her head. Goodluck
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Imagynation: 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
Your wife has something to do with lesbianism.She enjoys MouthAction,heads and all that but not the main sex.She has been into either lesbianism or masturbation for too much of a time to get use to the real thing.

Op,confront her with this reality and set to help her relax by making love to her mind as someone says and engage in pre-intimacy up to the point she will loosen up by herself.
Rock her world with romance without having sex at the back of your mind.Little by little,she will loosen up and guide you in herself.Good luck.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
KarinaLove:


Really...

Man shall not live by bread (SEX) alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of the Lord.

Read your scriptures darling.

STFU
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Zizicomm: 12:47pm On Oct 01, 2021
Tripssy:
She is a lesbian shocked

This one go far gaaaaan....hmnnn.
Oga @DavidNative True talk dey be like nonsense Talk at times. Don't turn a blind eye. Please you still need to know your madam very well. Its better to know what's what now to avoid tommorows WHAT!!. Marriage lo far Gaan!! I wish for you inner peace. Also, make decisions that will give you rest of mind you need to be careful cos health is wealth. SHALOM
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by bethyz(m): 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
Take it gently with her. And if she complains about you taking too long find a means to keep her engaged during sex. During the day put her mind to it that you will like to enjoy her. Send her messages and sweet talks here and there. She will program it in her head that tonight is action time.
During sex try to tell her how sweet she is and how you feel about her. Tell her sweet things here and there. Women like sweet talk.

Turn her on and during sex if she is getting dry her mind is moving away from it. When the woman interest is not in sex she gets dry and inturn sex becomes painful.

If she is enjoying it she continues to get wet.

When you give head dont make her cum. Try to make her cum with your d**k. If she cums she may not sustain that urge with you. Go in half way when she is wet.

Touch her gentle down there. Talk to her what she enjoys about sex. Ask her how she likes it. Let her tell how she likes it.

Tell her how you adore her.

Gently Gently .
Sex is painful when a woman is not enjoying it. The whole place becomes painful to touch when she wants to wash. The thought of doing again is dreaded.
Some women get sour after sex with partner. They may not say it. Somtimes they engage cause he wants it not because she does.

Ask her if its painful during the act.

Was she circumcised? Thats another angle. Some dont know how to enjoy sex . The once that do have programmed themself ,there mind to enjoy it.

Good luck

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by akaahs(m): 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Pls i need an honest and kind advice . I will deeply appreciate
I was in the same shoe with u bro. We are 5 months now, no sex during courtship. In my case, I continue to talk to her about my frustrations even as far as thinking to engage the services of a phycologist. She cried and pleaded I shouldn't go to that length, she promised to change and truly there are alot of changes.
Just continue talking.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by awa(m): 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

What can you do? Why asking again when your wife had already said that you should understand her. My brother please understand your wife. That is the only solution

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by MrMacinterchi1: 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
hmm. Thank you Sir 4 this, this is what i had been doing, i had tried not to even react negatively since, but could get tiring, sometimes i had to masturbate of if i cannot bear it again , last week wen i brought it up with her even in a very gentle and romantic atmosphere , we could not sleep as she was crying all through that i was not understanding , i had to plead with her never to bring it up before we could sleep at midnight
That's it.
Your wife is a manipulator. lolgrin
She's making you to feel bad on top what is rightfully yours as her husband.
Your wife should be learning and trying to improve on this subject matter instead of trying to manipulate you.

She should stop being egocentric if she cares about you. Marriage is compromise, you have compromised on your part by trying to understand, she should also try to compromised by making effort to balance things ... because if things are not done soon, it will drive you crazy and it will surely affect your marriage.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
DMerciful:
Are you serious right now? If she cannot fulfill her conjugal duties then she should give space for a woman who can
Sex is one of the most important thing in marriage for men!

Not all men. Some of us have much more important things to do than sex. Sex should not be the only thing binding couples in marriage.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Debra911(f): 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
KarinaLove:
Try and respect her decision. She said she is not the sex type. Then leave her.

Must marriage be all about sex?

I don tire.

Everytime Men And Sex....Tueeehhh angry

Can't men use their time for something more productive in life
Stop being a hypocrite

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Gaddafih001(m): 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2021
MrHighSea:
whatever the solution.
No side chicks.
Another marriage can be the solution

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by PointZerom: 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

It is either she masturbates secretly or she's a lesbian. These are the two things that will make her not to be doing it with you.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by georgeakins: 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls



Fake story!

Women don't complain about big pricks, they all love being serviced by big rods.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Solatium(m): 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
She has been exposed to porn in the past from what she said. All saying am comparing her to other ladies. i had bought books sex to help, she enjoys its when i perform romance and oral o her, but when i request for sex or she should give me some, she says she cant cos of my size and i should give her time, but its been a year, hence why i had to voice out
Thanks alot once again for your comment ma




She won't change until a situation forced her to, don't sweat it dude,just look for one coded babe wey go dey satisfy you outside.

Don't touch her once you get a side chick, obviously she will know you are making up elsewhere,if she wants to keep her home she will learn to adjust.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Omonigho1976: 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
chatinent:
Make sex enjoyable, then, since that is the only option you both have. Of course, you know cheating is never an option.

You never indulged premaritally, she likewise. Good one!

Big Gbenga shouldn't be a problem with the perfect how-tos.

Now let's hit the bulls eye!

Try lubrication, fair play, lubrication again.

Don't replicate porn roles you watched. Don't watch it... because you'll start replacing her with the other figures you fantasize on.

Don't do fantasy oo! Just have it as a blessing of marriage!

Try not to be a sexaddict too! You know na person daughter. You can't be having it twelve times daily na, baba. You both need to discuss on the perfect time!

Tell her hoo haaa she has to learn to love sex; that's an only option for her too!


She has to be in with the right stimulation, yeah? Learn it.

Make stimulation good.


And where it's about to hit 10pm, reach for the sky.

I still feel you missed sth during courting. Yes, no to premarital sex but you had to discuss this situation since you think you know it already.

By the way, be a stimulant! It works!

Enjoy.
Lol. Don't tag me.

This brings me to the true question, What really do women want You guys are just a complicated and confused lot. The op seems to be what some women call a dream man!!! Loving, pampering, big gbola, not a 5 second man, pre-intimacy hero yet a woman somewhere is still complaining about him. Fellow Men my candid advise to you is not to go to a needless and unnecessary early grave trying to please any woman in any sphere of life or living because you CAN'T O. Do your comfortable best and enjoy your life o.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Kilotat: 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
Sex before Marriage is very Good!
See am na, una for dey married to the right person by now, dey enjoy marriage!
Sex before marriage Good die!
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Sheriman(m): 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
If the dick small dem go complain why d thing small now the dick is big still dem dey complain why E too big. Nawaa ooo for Virginia people self
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Osanoghodua1: 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
Don't over trust, and don't go too deep down and ejaculate 5mins or 10mins by using the brain.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by goodmorning40: 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Staying too long and gboola too big are the two red flags that will make her not to be the sex type . those attributes are for wild girls not for normal home girl. However if you can have normal sex without prolonging time big gboola wouldn't be much of a problem. So your aim should be shortening the thrusting time. Work on your system in order to attain ejaculation quicker. If you experiment with drugs, alcohol, sex enhancers you should stop and try not to demand sex frequently

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by enonche85(m): 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
Foodqueen:
Continue talking to her, one day she will reciprocate.

Continue talking ni!
Recipro-fire ko! angry

Continue talking till he grows grey hair abi?

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by trevorhorace(m): 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Exactly, i tried this, but when i recommend position, she says she is tried and not used to it

Ask her to tell you what position she would like to try or the ones she dislikes. If possible bribe her into agreeing to experimenting different new positions. Let her know you're making efforts in making things work for her especially so she should co-op .
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by DMerciful(m): 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
How can a woman not know how to express herself to her husband? If she's not comfortable with him, why marry him?

From the posts by the Op, he communicates but she on the other hand doesn't. You married a wife not a child!

The challenge the op has it that the woman is not into sex so it's like a difficult chore to her and with that mindset, she'll not be lubricated and receptive making sex unpleasant. It's psychological and it's for long. Na one chance the Op enter cos it's gonna get worse. Women tends to have continuous fall in sexual drive as kids come blaming it on tiredness
nairaman66:


The question you missed is can’t the husband communicate? While making love, you’d sense how your partner is responding.

Generally, women don’t know how to express themselves. They only do this with other ladies of their kind.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by mistijude: 12:50pm On Oct 01, 2021
I want to ask op a question; is she with kid already?

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