Please don't mind my errors but I need help because I am really confused...

To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State.

2018 I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused, they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen. It got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic. I felt very bad, but how will I do, I moved on with my life.

That same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad, I congratulated her without any grudges. They got married and this year the man died but they have a son, the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me, infact as it stands we are more than lovers.

But I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back, because she said nothing will stop her this time. My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%?

To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State,

Ikwerre?

I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen it got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic.

Ok?

I felt very bad, but how will I do I moved on with my life.that same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad

I understand how this feels. What I don't understand is do we blame the parents who suggested who she should marry or she who decided to marry the “abroad” person? Why I am saying this is because 99.8 percent of Naija babes cannot use ear and hear anything abroad.
Let's continue reading your story sha.

I congratulated her

That's the feeling, man.

without any grudges they got married

Tah! Who you dey deceive?

and this year the man died but they have a son,

What?!! My condolences.

the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me

Make I no talk, let's hear you finish...

infact as it stands we are more than lovers

You mean you didn't even let her mourn him?
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but I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well

Is that so?

and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back,

Ok. Ok. Next? Have you thought of her son in all these rancho-krishna drama?

because she said nothing will stop her this time.

Make I no spoil show. Carry on.

My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%

I won't mince words with you.

I know death is inevitable...but I am wondering sth, shey she has another parents? No bi the same parents? Where these morale come from?

Abi are we just blaming innocent parents?

Una dey yarn when the husby dey alive? Cos I can't believe it was when you sent your consolation that this new relationship began. Shey you mah dey plan relocate go live with am for the husband house abroad?
Make I mind my business...
Back to you sha, let me tell you a story about Nigeria.

Goodluck Jonathan was the Vice when Yar'Adua was the president. Yar'Adua passed away. And by virtue of the death, the constitution allows the Vice to become the President.

In another news, Goodluck was seen shedding tears and said he wished Yar'Adua hadn't died...*Some text missing*

My network is poor. Sb may finish the story.

Discussion continues..

Anything wey you wan do, tuale! Nothing we go talk go change you.

you are free to contact her but since the parents are not in support, it's somehow difficult. Try your luck

VlamesIffect:

Bola146:

Why na?

Well, lalasticlala come and see food for front.

I don't think you're sad about the man's death

Sometimes i do ask myself, is there anything called true love, I've heard people say they can't do without their gf/bf before, well one of them dies and then you see those “I can't do without my BF,” getting engaged after few days, then you gats ask yourself but them say our love na eternal..

My own contribution be make you move on, as you say you don move on, if the husband no die nko, say you no go marry?

There are billions of women in the world, dey toast dey go until you meet another bone of your bone.

Do you want to marry an Ibo lady that her parents are against it?No try am O.Na when she die them go show you pepper with heavy billings.Free her.

Op pardon me but you're a very big fool, a simp of the highest order.
They never wanted you to Marry their daughter at first they want someone better with more money and status it's not about tribal difference or religious views (Catholics can marry protestants). They already have someone better for their daughter and if the girl really love you she would have objected but I guess she didn't.
While dating the parents knew you're not of the same tribe neither are you a Catholic but they allowed you to be with their daughter which I know they were using you or something of that sought.
All of a sudden her husband who she left you for died and she now wants you and you want her back guess you now know why I call you a fool. Was it that all those years she was married you didn't move on or what? Do you think if the husband was alive she would have give a second thought of you? Wise up man she wants someone to take care of her and her kid and the parents are going to accept you wholeheartedly now...
I've gotta stop here.


Don't be foolish bro. Think well

You don kill the man wan come marry him wife...and probably take over his kid and some properties




Interpol arrest him

I dislike regurgitation...To be frank

A widower for that matter

Blackfire:
You don kill the man wan come marry him wife...and probably take over his kid and some properties




Interpol arrest him

Even if that's not the case, it's very logical to reason about

Leave the girl beg,her parents no go still allow you,and now she's even got a child,gbagbe o bobo

Op,abeg show some respect to the dead husband . Na small thing dey vex some people ghost Especially when e be say he even leave him banny behind for vultures like your type wey don dey ginger to wound her

Because e fit be say him spirit self never waka far........Allow her to mourn her dead husband before you go think of engaging her

No rush am, because e dey very obvious say na urgent 2k lashing dey hungry you so

Dskillful:
Please don't mind my errors but I need help because I am really confused...
To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State, 2018 I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen it got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic. I felt very bad, but how will I do I moved on with my life.that same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad, I congratulated her without any grudges they got married and this year the man died but they have a son, the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me, infact as it stands we are more than lovers, but I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back, because she said nothing will stop her this time. My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%.

This time around, her parents will give you 100% approval to marry her

Keep in touch with her

But give her time to mourn her husband and find out how long is the period of mourning, I think is one year

Meanwhile, don't leave her at this period, be there for her as she will fight anyone that wants to spoil this second journey of your love for her

You can move on, so African magic tv can have more scripts to act.

wahala

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My brother is not love is the toto , the thing too sweet and u done want to lose it

Noted

Dskillful:
Please don't mind my errors but I need help because I am really confused...

To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State.

2018 I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused, they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen. It got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic. I felt very bad, but how will I do, I moved on with my life.

That same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad, I congratulated her without any grudges. They got married and this year the man died but they have a son, the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me, infact as it stands we are more than lovers.

But I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back, because she said nothing will stop her this time. My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%?

Dont try that rubbish

This love go soon clear for your eyes now.

Na half past one you wan marry?

Tokunbo?

Better look for a single girl and start afresh.

E be like say she don give you kpekus fuxck.

Shout out to folks like us that can cut emotional attachment with anyone easily.
Like OP mentioned, people are bend to think he prayed for the dude to go.

Has its good and bad side.

Allow her to grief the loss of her husband, then try again

Who gives a fyck about who u love,
Lovr nwatiti kee u dere

I am so sorry for what you went through because of love and tribalism in Nigeria.
Firstly,give her space a bit so that she can mourn her husband and people won’t accuse both of you of killing him,do not touch her during the period at all Pls.
Then after the mourning stage is over,you can go back and propose to her again and inform her parent that you want to marry her this time violently lol.
You guys are obviously soulmates looking at the circumstances.

You're taking away the fact that you were discarded the first time. What happens if another guy from the abroad wants her hand in marriage again?