Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by FreeSpirited: 11:23am On Oct 09, 2021 |
dapadawee:
Believe not all report This is fiction Not all stories are true In fact 99% percent write are lie Mohammad You be mumu Wetin wẹ don ṣee, If wẹ put am for Nairaland, mumu pikin like u will say na lie...... . U will understand when u grow up. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Kinzo0917(m): 11:24am On Oct 09, 2021 |
falcon01: I'm sorry to say this but ive tried so hard not to but i literally feel sick if I attempt not to say this but sir you are a big fool! On behalf of men and other reasonable people we are disappointed in you. I mean what kind of a low self esteem idiot are you? Don't you have friends? I 100% concured with you. That guy is the biggest MUMU in this 21st century. So dissapointed with him. He saw the hand writing on the wall and still went ahead. I don't feel single pity for him. How can he go for a court marriage without none of his family attending it? Its not as if they are dead or none is alive.. That guy na the simp of the year. MUMU |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by OLRAYS(m): 11:24am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu:
I managed to get the phone number of the biological father of those children
I called the man And asked him if he is the father of the 3 kids He said yes He also said that he didn't do anything on her head at all I asked why He said cuz of family backgrounds
What should I do?
I know I made mistakes If u guys don't help I may end up dead Baba my little piece of advice is to dissolve the the union because it ll definitely ruin you..move on with your life ..although it will be difficult but in the end you will be glad you did. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by sisisioge: 11:25am On Oct 09, 2021 |
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Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Wholegeria: 11:25am On Oct 09, 2021 |
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Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Pat081: 11:25am On Oct 09, 2021 |
falcon01: I'm sorry to say this but ive tried so hard not to but i literally feel sick if I attempt not to say this but sir you are a big fool! On behalf of men and other reasonable people we are disappointed in you. I mean what kind of a low self esteem idiot are you? Don't you have friends? you say it all sir some guys are foolish wen they see what is between the legs of women |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by frankson1(m): 11:25am On Oct 09, 2021 |
sabreal:
If I were your blood relative.
Call off the nonsense for non disclosure of saliebt facts.
If she hide such information from you, she will eventually kill you.
Questions she must provide genuine details:
1. Why did she hide those information from you?
2. Who are the fathers of those children?
3. Where are the children staying now?
4. Where will they be staying, with you or who?
5. What happened to her marriage if she was married?
6. Find out if you are the one responsible for pregnancy.
7. Ask her, how many of you (men) are in the queue now.
Women of this generation are so reckless and useless
There's no need for thsese questions, the time has passed. He should pack her belongings to her parent's house, dump them in front of the house without saying a word, and this should be done at night where they will all be present since the family knew but decided to hide it. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Rubbiish(m): 11:25am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu: I don't know all those things I started dating at the age of 30 with sugar mommy who took my virginity I don't know what to do
Don't be too hard on yourself, u were naive & she took advantage of it. This can happen to any male virgin without relationship experience. But this your current wife, where did u meet her? Were u the one that approach her or someone did it for u? |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by TonyBby: 11:25am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Please what do I do ?[/quote]
Nigga Man, am a young lad though I won't insult you literally, but you deserve the insult, which I won't do. But the advice am gonna give you for a good mental health and peace of mind than committing suicide or been depressed and becoming a drug addict is leave the fuckin Bitch alone, cause she played her role well like game of thrones or prison break or any other manipulation movies. Cause she lied to you, played with your intelligence, and if you're stupid enough to continue let her in your life, just know you're going to see a hell in your life if she continues staying, cause that will be a win for her and her family while you will be a fuckin bastard to your family. Now what you gotta do is separate and do your right on the pregnancy as she claims it's yours which I don't know if that's a manipulation too, once the child attains a certain age, claim your child, by then you should have gotten a better woman not the fucking bitch ass Woman that literally saw you as a Holy JJC. Heed to my words, it will be dangerous, like a hell bent one if you keep living with cause more damages are coming, so wise up right now at the early stages of your problem and cut it off. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Wholegeria: 11:26am On Oct 09, 2021 |
![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) FreeSpirited:
Now this is to tell u that such woman that have power and control over u can still be made to apologise if u know how to do it and take control. By cancelling that wedding, u acted like a bold man who is not going to bend to her will and she sees shes losing u by that act, that's why she apologized. . So if u always bend to a woman's will cos u are acting gentle like a Christian lol... she will never apologize even when she's wrong cos she knows u will comeback to bend to her will....its a pattern of habit men make the mistake of. . That's why men are told to date a woman and not make her too comfortable by always bending to her will, thinking u can't do without them. By always bending to a woman's will, it will make her have power over u and she will use it to maltreat u. If a woman sense that in u that u can't do without her, her body, her pvssy, her food or anything...she can use it against u... those are the little things u need to know abt all women .
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Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by flakkybakky(f): 11:26am On Oct 09, 2021 |
If u are to be my relative u are already disowned,a lady did this to u nd u are still simping around,if a man do me dis kind thing despite being a woman,he go hear am.let her give birth nd raise that child till weaning stage then shock her with divorce,no go give am another belle o nd give her no reason to suspect u.i feel for u bro |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Haywhystar: 11:26am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu: Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation
There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.
I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me. She started disturbing me about marriage rights.
On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man. I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no
A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.
All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos
My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early. That's how I cancelled the church wedding.
Court marriage 30th September Church wedding 2nd October But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage
We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court
I don't know what to do in this situation oo
Her first son is 13 years 2nd son 8 years 3rd girl 6 years And now she is pregnant for me aa
Am 30 years while I don't know her real age
We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this And during this period we have been together She controls me alots and that make me sad She shout at me too If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem
Please what do I do ? She jazz you ni � |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by GerogeI(m): 11:27am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu: Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation
There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.
I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me. She started disturbing me about marriage rights.
On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man. I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no
A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.
All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos
My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early. That's how I cancelled the church wedding.
Court marriage 30th September Church wedding 2nd October But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage
We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court
I don't know what to do in this situation oo
Her first son is 13 years 2nd son 8 years 3rd girl 6 years And now she is pregnant for me aa
Am 30 years while I don't know her real age
We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this And during this period we have been together She controls me alots and that make me sad She shout at me too If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem
Please what do I do ? Logged in Just to let u know this. 1. Ignore the nay sayers and idio.ts that fill this page. Many of them have worse issues than yours 2. You can have the marriage dissolved in a magistrate court easily on the basis of her falsified information and mis representing her status as a parent. Once you Tell the judge that you do not feel properly equipped and emotionally prepared to be a step father to 3 kids all of a sudden. And that you fear being a negative impact on those innocent children. He will dissolve the marriage in the interest of the kids. Who signed the court documents does not matter. 3. As your marriage is barely a month old, she is not entitled to any of your properties, talk less of half, as she has made no contribution to them 4. Your responsibility in front of the court will be to support your unborn child only. 5. its better you fill for divorce now, not later. Else after some years she can claim to have contributed to your life. 6. Find out if she has been previously married. It’s most likely she was never divorced formally. If so, the marriage you have is already invalid. Approach a lawyer to help get the registry to strick it off records. 7. It is also important you stop co-habiting with her, in western countries that can mean that you accepted the marriage and her secret children after learning of them. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Burgerlomo: 11:28am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Smartb0y: his is a special case. He was foolish on multiple grounds.
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Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by kbright2(m): 11:28am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Now I see the course of your problem. Destiny destroyer passing you to themselves as a ball; from sugar mummy to after 3. This is never a marriage she deceived you from onset and still plays on your foolishness by telling you about her fake dream when she knows you'll find out her secret last last. How sure are you that the pregnancy is even yours? There no doubt that she is older than you by far that why she can't take a shit from you. Note this: If truly you want her no more: AVOID HER IN ALL WAYS (s*x, food etc) SEND HER PACKING OR PRETEND YOU ARE TRAVELLING AND TELL HER TO STAY WITH HER PEOPLE OR COOK UP A STORY THEN CHANGE YOUR KEYS. If you don't avoid her now that you still have a little sense to think and even throw this here for help, when she goes for the final round of her voodoo my brother, even if she brings a man home you will be the one to fetch water and clean up the bed after they are done and even ask the man their next meeting ChineduChinedu: She said she dreamed were I cheated on her and marry someone else that's why she insisted of leaving if I didn't do the court marriage
All their family members hide this secret from me, they intend to tell me after the wedding
You guys may be wondering how I enter this problem I wasn't into girls at all I don't anything about girl cuz am a very shy type For 30 years am a Virgin until I met a surger momy who toast me and took my virginity. I broke up with my sugar momy immediately I met this girl
I don't know anything about women at all That's how I landed into this problem Make una help abeg |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Blackdisciple(m): 11:28am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Hmmmm...!
Ogaoooo....
She messed up for not letting you know from unset so you could know if it's to accept her and the kids or not.
So in this juncture what ever decision you take is right, don't mind some kind of advice people will give you...
WHAT EVER DECISION YOU TAKE IS RIGHT. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Kinzo0917(m): 11:29am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu: I don't know how I enter this problem Please help me YOU ARE THE BIGGEST MUMU OF THE YEAR. YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO MEN FOLKS. OGEDE |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Wholegeria: 11:30am On Oct 09, 2021 |
None o ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Justbehave: Funny but not funny. @ OP,you have nothing to worry. Court can easily anull such marriage based on deception and they will even fine her. My life is good o. I have kids without any woman to worry about. Tell these simps and sissy idiots that calls themselves men to be wise and never trust any girl of this generation,they will not hear. Watch as non of them will comment here because they are all the same. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by APOSTLECHUMA: 11:31am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Marriage related problems, are the most complicated problems on earth. First, fine out if she was officially married with the man she had those children with and whether her bride price was paid. If she was and they broke up and the man has not collected the bride price, it means that she is still that man's wife. If on the other hand it has been collected, she might be free to remarry based on the reason of their break up. If the reason of their break up is such that will allow her to remarry, my brother, you can marry her if YOU TRUELY LOVE HER. Love covers a multitude of sin but the only thing I have against her is her hiding it from you, which means her accepting to marry u was not on good faith. Another way to look at it is that she must have kept it secret for fear of losing you. Are people trying to insinuate that a young lady who lost her husband can not remarry if she finds a new love ? Her mistake was her hiding it, call her back and let her sit down and tell you the true story and if it is something that can permit you to go ahead and marry her, you should do so. Who knows what the one that doesn't know any man you are going to marry after leaving her, will turn into tomorrow. Her trying to control you is wrong, two of you shoul live together on co-equal basis though biblically, a man is the head. AT TIMES EVEN HARLOTS MAKE BETTER WIVES, MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR KIDS BUT FOR MATURED MINDS. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Kayyus09(m): 11:31am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu:
I managed to get the phone number of the biological father of those children
I called the man And asked him if he is the father of the 3 kids He said yes He also said that he didn't do anything on her head at all I asked why He said cuz of family backgrounds
What should I do?
I know I made mistakes If u guys don't help I may end up dead I'll be frank. Divorce her immediately! Or would you rather wait till she have 3kids for you too before you do so? No sign of good future with you and that lady. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by delpee(f): 11:32am On Oct 09, 2021 |
She deceived you. That's a ground for divorce I think. That is assuming that you've fallen out of love.
Accept responsibility for the child you "ordered". That's your fault. Live with it. You don't have to stay married to her to look after your child. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Kingsasian(m): 11:32am On Oct 09, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:
When a man is so naive and inexperienced abt women..once u enter into relationship with a very experienced one, even if she's not that experienced, most women are cunning, so she will use the power of her wet pvssy to control u.. because u haven't had much experience abt sex, she will fvvck u very well, she will make u experience the sweetness of sex and at same time use the power of her pvssy to control yoi because She knows she has tied u to her pvssy...dats wot women do... It's ur dependence on that pvssy which is something u can't control that she will use to control u and maltreat...she will make u beg and apologize otherwise she won't give u the sex you are now used to.... ...She will make demand and u must fulfill it, else she won't give u sex ......and u will miss the sex and her sexiness cos she will be hostile to u..so u will now try to appease her.... . The cure for this is to be experienced to know when she's trying to manipulate u and stand ur ground instead of accepting her terms.... ....Another is why men have sidechicks cos when their babe manipulate them and refuse to give Dem sex..they will go and meet the side chick... So start looking for another babe or else she will continue to use her pvssy juice to wash ur head and ur mumunity will double. The reason u are confused is because u have been pvssyfied.. she has used her pvssy to control u . U must break that control, so u will need another woman.....and at thesame time...u need alot of stuff to know abt women.... otherwise even ur new woman will still take advantage of u you just described in details exactly what I experienced in the hands of a single mom I dated. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by fayomim: 11:33am On Oct 09, 2021 |
You are in trouble...simple 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Selfmotivated: 11:33am On Oct 09, 2021 |
The error has already being made. So in this kind of situation, if you divorce half your property will be her so bear with her. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by dapadawee: 11:33am On Oct 09, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:
You be mumu Wetin wẹ don ṣee, If wẹ put am for Nairaland, mumu pikin like u will say na lie...... . U will understand when u grow up. I will understand when I grow up Okay But me I no need insult u no need to call mad man mad man because its obvious You no be mumu U marry person wet done they born pikin for over 13 years u no no. Anumagboku animal |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Samuelriano1(m): 11:33am On Oct 09, 2021 |
them suppose swear for the mod wey push this post come front page
![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) them suppose swear for the mod wey push this post come front page |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by tctrills: 11:33am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu: Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation
There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.
I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me. She started disturbing me about marriage rights.
On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man. I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no
A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.
All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos
My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early. That's how I cancelled the church wedding.
Court marriage 30th September Church wedding 2nd October But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage
We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court
I don't know what to do in this situation oo
Her first son is 13 years 2nd son 8 years 3rd girl 6 years And now she is pregnant for me aa
Am 30 years while I don't know her real age
We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this And during this period we have been together She controls me alots and that make me sad She shout at me too If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem
Please what do I do ? You made the worst mistake you can ever make. Don't ever continue in that path. Break up with her today. It's not too late to make a u-turn |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Kinzo0917(m): 11:34am On Oct 09, 2021 |
ChineduChinedu: She said she dreamed were I cheated on her and marry someone else that's why she insisted of leaving if I didn't do the court marriage
All their family members hide this secret from me, they intend to tell me after the wedding
You guys may be wondering how I enter this problem I wasn't into girls at all I don't anything about girl cuz am a very shy type For 30 years am a Virgin until I met a surger momy who toast me and took my virginity. I broke up with my sugar momy immediately I met this girl
I don't know anything about women at all That's how I landed into this problem Make una help abeg . FROM THIS YOU WROTE, I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU. BUT WHAT DO YOU WANT? A DIRVORCE OR TO STAY PUT? A WOMAN THAT CANT RESPECT A MAN IS A NO NO NO. YOU SHOULD HAVE STOOD YOUR GROUND FROM THE BEGINNING. DONT LET A WOMAN CONTROL OR DOMINATE YOU |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by somehow: 11:34am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Very simpe case
Go to court and file for divorce citing deceit and lies.
They will grant you your wishes. |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by Abelino(m): 11:35am On Oct 09, 2021 |
![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) chatinent:
Ok o.
We will come back to this later.
Okay?
Okay?
You gotta be kidding me.
On the wedding day, you were sleeping with her?
Okay?
If you cancelled the church wedding which was in 2nd October, it meant you did the court marriage two days ago with her.
I thought as much. Remember the first day after court wedding was October 1st? And second was the wedding you said you cancelled?
The same day you cancelled the wedding? You are begging her to stay?
Not adding up anymore. Well, let's continue.
Ok?
I pray you are not up to forty yet. I just pray because there is a permanent adage waiting for you.
Okay?
30 + 10 = 40. Okay, e no go tey.
Eight months? She controls you? She shouts at you? If you refuse, tell us the truth, she beats you blue and black.
It's okay, my brother.
Hello, I will tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. But before then, let me recap what you told her when you met intially:
This is what you told her, and that is what she did for you.
Now back to what I was saying, I will tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. I won't lie, ibu onye iberibe. In anything you are doing in this life, try as much as possible make me and you no jam for road abeg. ������������������ 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by FreeSpirited: 11:35am On Oct 09, 2021 |
dapadawee:
I will understand when I grow up Okay But me I no need insult u no need to call mad man mad man because its obvious . Go and date fine babe and live together without even marrying....u go dey geh sense small small |
Re: I Discovered That My Bride Has 3 Children On Our Wedding Day by ogbenimax007: 11:35am On Oct 09, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:
since she can not terminate the pregnancy even if you tell her...I don't know what stage of pregnancy she is.. The only solution is to divorce her...it's left for u to decide when to officially divorce her, either now or till when ur pikin is a bit older if the pregnancy can not be terminated....if u can wait till she's older...u can endure living with her, and acting calm and all..but looking out to search for new woman....woman plenty for outside .. At same time...u need orientation about women..cos if if not..ur next women can take advantage of ur mumunity ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) MUMUNITY |