Please help a brother, I'll try to make it brief. I got married to someone I don't really love but because of pregnancy. we met sometime around January, spent the night together around February we didn't have s*x 3nights she stayed, I live in a 1 bedroom apartment with sitting room well arranged, my kitchen was excellent and bathroom was neat. She was like you need to buy a dinning table, chair, she was like if I like her I should come and see her people I told her this is the first time we are staying together please calm down and let the relationship grow, we don't know each other before. I was beginning to like her gradually as we kept intouch. Then we met again March and this time we had s*x. Though I had another girl whom I really enjoy how we get along well and fun to be with knows me better but because I want to get into a real relationship I want the love between myself and these ladies to grow naturally both can take care of the home, can cook, lovely attitudes, both are same age, same name.
in a week time the girl called me that she's dead I was like what and said she's pregnant. because I don't want people to talk or put my family to shame I started telling my family that I have a girl I like I want her to come visiting that was where I think I made the mistake because she started getting into my family. The other girl knows the pregnant one by name coicidentally their names are the same as she usually call my phone but she would be like just follow your heart and I do like her because I said to myself since am average height I would like to marry a tall lady she's about 6ft, the pregnant girl is same height with me. April she lost the pregnancy and visited me after. awhile and made me slept with her that the nurse said she wouldn't take in even if I don't use protection because she's not seen her cycle yet and she took in within a month after a miscarriage. I didn't like how everything was going anymore and the likeness I had for her was no more there like before but because she kept saying just go and see my people before the pregnancy would show up I didn't think with my head I just started looking for money here and there. I made wedding cards and day I made it available 2days later she had miscarriage for the second time in less than 2mths. if I'd known I would have just done an introduction between both families that their daughter is pregnant for me call off the wedding. you wouldn't believe I didn't even know how I got money within a month did white wedding and traditional same day but each day I don't feel happy and we've been quareling and settling each day since February till now, we married barely 2mths now even in our honeymoon she was like she regrets marrying me and I don't feel happy within myself I'm sleeping and thinking, am bathing , working anything am doing I'm thinking like what have I gotten myself into marrying someone we don't love each other. she is like she is sorry for what she said I told her each day that everything happened so fast and I didn't even know how I came this far she said we can learn to love ourselves. my former girlfriend has blocked me on Facebook, WhatsApp, blacklist my number too but I still uses someone else's phone just go to search and look at her photos but I don't even go through my wife's photo at all. As married couple we barely have fun time or cuddle, fall to each other's body and tickle each other, I do say to her I love her but it's not coming am trying my best it things would work. She too has said she's getting tired already of the marriage because there's no fun like when we met newly. I don't want to discuss this with any of my family or anyone I know I feel very ashamed of myself already. All the plans have got for my future I think of them and see myself not getting there anymore because have just slowed myself down.
Please I need your advice am eating but ematiating everyday, I look sick because am thinking too much. I don't have peace

you all should stop all this fake stories

Well, sorry about the lost of the pregnancy, marriage is beautiful, put God first and let love lead, the bond did grow with time

Marriage is beyond lust,love and what have you.Abeg I tire for una

Pls separate your essay into paragraphs

Savloon:
Please help a brother, I'll try to make it brief. I got married to someone I don't really love but because of pregnancy.

Na you do yourself...

Manage her, or end the marriage.. Your choice.

It's not fake am sorry how lengthy the message is but it's happening to me right now. Am dying in silence. What should I do please advice me

chidekings:
you all should stop all this fake stories

incogni2o:
Pls separate your essay into paragraphs

Op was in class 7B when paragraph was taught.

Kuku divorce am nah

I can't even tell my marriage sponsor, nor my siblings .
And because am scare of tomorrow I don't want to use some words to her hearing that she wouldn't like and me regretting all rest of my life.
But both of us are already not comfortable, she's trying to make me laugh by saying some funny words at times and I do same but after a while I feel saddened in my heart like this isn't how I wanted my marriage to be like when I get married in life and now all this

Macsjebs:
Well, sorry about the lost of the pregnancy, marriage is beautiful, put God first and let love lead, the bond did grow with time

If I divorce her can I take any other woman to the alter again in future.
Am scared what about if their family now say oh you've disgraced our daughter and do some juju thing on me .
What if tomorrow something bad happens t me and all my mind keeps telling me that it's because of the marriage and that God is punishing me

Daniel61111:
Kuku divorce am nah

Reminds me of a book I read sometime ago--"LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH"

Well, marriage be like school.... It's not for the faint-hearted........

One thing that brings doom upon most marriages is when the couple stop doing exactly the things that ignited the relationship from the initial stage.

Don't ever try nor start what you can't continue especially in a relationship not to talk of marriage.

Na u hold urself, kuku divorce her & be happy or continue to check wetin people go talk.

Savloon:
If I divorce her can I take any other woman to the alter again in future.
Am scared what about if their family now say oh you've disgraced our daughter and do some juju thing on me .
What if tomorrow something bad happens t me and all my mind keeps telling me that it's because of the marriage and that God is punishing me

Na wa

Macsjebs:
Well, sorry about the lost of the pregnancy, marriage is beautiful, put God first and let love lead, the bond did grow with time

me too, this people are discouraging us jawe

The grass is never greener on the other side. Walk, work, and grow in love.

Savloon:
It's not fake am sorry how lengthy the message is but it's happening to me right now. Am dying in silence. What should I do please advice me

Twice she miscarried, were you involved in her hospital stay?

When she had these miscarriages yes I paid for her hospital bills .

greenie77:


Twice she miscarried, were you involved in her hospital stay?

The most important thing is that she loves you and she's trying to make the marriage work.

Sometimes we don't always get what we desire but with efforts from our side, we can turn that thing we hate into something we love.

From your description, she's not a bad woman, you have to love her and observe her good qualities too, na demonic women full everywhere oh.

The bottom line is that you are stressing yourself over nothing. That girl you really desire so much, when you live with her for a month , I am sure you would want this your current wife back.

Appreciate your wife she seems like a good woman.

Yes she's good and was the fist woman I woke in the morning with and said let's pray others don't.
At least trying with her job too. She keeps telling me that it would get better and I do tell her same too but inside our heads we feel we are faking it , I don't know

Connected1:
The most important thing is that she loves you and she's trying to make the marriage work.

Sometimes we don't always get what we desire but with efforts from our side, we can turn that thing we hate into something we love.

From your description, she's not a bad woman, you have to love her and observe her good qualities too, na demonic women full everywhere oh.

The bottom line is that you are stressing yourself over nothing. That girl you really desire so much, when you live with her for a month , I am sure you would want this your current wife back.

Appreciate your wife she seems like a good woman.

She said people do see for first time and get married too, that yes she knows we didn't date but since we've come this way let's make it work or let's speak to out parents and know what next to do

Klass99:
Does she feel the same way you do? Like she made a mistake too and she's not really vibing you either?

Stop searching for your ex's pictures
You are now married to another woman.

Sincerely it is difficult to be with someone you don't genuinely love, but I believe that if you stop fantasising about your ex, you might develop sincere feelings for your "LEGAL WIFE".

Be thankful that you married a prayerful wife, perhaps your ex would have brought you bad luck if you had married her.
Don't cheat again because the way you write I feel you are someone who will still cheat.
Above all, make up your mind and see yourself as a married man.

Better still, you could opt for a divorce before it is too late, before you start making babies and making someone's daughter go through unnecessary emotional trauma that might occur due to your unloving attitude towards her.


I would have said you should pray but when you pray, you have to work too.
Pray to God to instill your woman's love in ur heart and also work towards showing your woman true love.
"Heaven helps those who help themselves"


Au revoir brother.

You are your own worst enemy. When as a person, especially as a man, you don't believe in something worthwhile, you'll always fall for anything, especially the shenanigans of small-minded women and people in general.

No I don't intend to.
Honestly there's been some relief on my chest now have been carrying this on my mind wanting talk to someone who dont know me so they wouldn't laugh at me .

Even if I'll see a priest to talk about it I'll go to another parish where no one knows me just to get some counseling

I really appreciate the advices from you all your the best

Charmingrascal:
Stop searching for your ex's pictures
You are now married to another woman.

Sincerely it is difficult to be with someone you don't genuinely love, but I believe that if you stop fantasising about your ex, you might develop sincere feelings for your "LEGAL WIFE".

Be thankful that you married a prayerful wife, perhaps your ex would have brought you bad luck if you had married her.
Don't cheat again because the way you write I feel you are someone who will still cheat.
Above all, make up your mind and see yourself as a married man.

Better still, you could opt for a divorce before it is too late, before you start making babies and making someone's daughter go through unnecessary emotional trauma that might occur due to your unloving attitude towards her.


I would have said you should pray but when you pray, you have to work too.
Pray to God to instill your woman's love in ur heart and also work towards showing your woman true love.
"Heaven helps those who help themselves"


Au revoir brother.