Being a good husband is a sacrifice that most times involves putting your wife first and yourself second. I know this is a difficult concept for most men to grasp. Unfortunately, most of us spend our time and resources planning our wedding, but little or no preparation for our marriage. Meanwhile, weddings are the ceremonial segment of marriage, designed to last a few hours, but marriage is a lifelong commitment.

If you genuinely want to become an ideal husband to the woman you cherish, then it’s never too late. Here are some action steps to keep the flame of love burning in your marriage, making you the kind of husband every wife would be proud to have.

1. Pay Attention to Personal Grooming

She probably wouldn’t have given you a chance if you had looked like a garbage man the first time you approached her. An unattractive appearance is repulsive and a deterrent to romance. At a point in marriage, you become too comfortable with each other and gradually take certain things for granted, especially your appearance.

Good grooming is not a pre-marital activity exclusive to the female gender. Therefore, make concerted efforts to be good-looking for your wife. She will be proud of you for going the extra mile to groom yourself for her.

2. Shower Her with Love

Most African men find it challenging to express their love to their spouses. However, women love romantic gestures, especially when it’s coming from their husbands. Simple deeds like giving her random kisses and hugs during the day, buying her gifts, reassuring her of your love, and other chivalrous behaviors, will go a long way to brighten her day. To crown it all, look beyond her imperfections and focus on making her happy. Such an unconditional display of love has the potential to turn even the vilest of women into an angel.

3. Be Her Best Friend

A strong friendship bond between you and your wife is the foundation of a happy and long-lasting marriage. Nothing excites a wife than having a husband who is also her best friend. You should be able to freely share your feelings, good moments, bad moments, and even secrets with your wife before anyone else. By that, you build the trust and confidence required to keep your marriage afloat. Spend quality time with her, gisting, gossiping, and having fun together as best friends do. Trust me, being your wife's best friend will alleviate boredom in your marriage.

4. Be Protective

Believe it or not, it’s a harsh world we live in, filled with cruel people. Therefore, you must take it upon yourself to protect your wife from danger. Not just from physical threats, but also emotional, mental, and even spiritual insecurities. Do not watch others mistreat her. Never tolerate insults or unsavory remarks directed towards your wife. If she’s wrong, don’t make jest of or scold her publicly but correct her privately. Make it clear to everyone that you are always on her side, no matter what. Be her hero.

5. Enjoy the Meals She Cook

She may not have the culinary skills of the president's chef, but as long as her cuisines are not poisonous or harmful to your health, my brother, savour and appreciate it. Instead of complaining, be honest about the taste and gently point it out to help her improve. But regardless of your preferences, continue to appreciate her.

6. Be Supportive

When you have the time, assist your wife with some house chores, especially if you sense she’s fatigued from the workload. Also, support her dreams and aspirations. Never mock or laugh at her dreams, no matter how dumb they may seem, because that will crush her spirit. She should be confident to count on you, even if the world thinks she is crazy. Make her believe she can achieve anything she sets her mind to do. Then thank me later for the love and kisses you will receive from her for your unwavering support.

7. Remember Special Dates

Their birthdays and wedding anniversaries are two events most wives don't toy with. To avoid sleeping on the couch that night, never forget these dates or any other dates she mentions as significant to her. However, remembering these events is not enough. Go the extra mile and purchase some gift items for your wife to make her happy on that day.

8. Be Romantic

In marriage, it is common for romance to gradually wane with time. Being romantic should not be limited to when you want to have sex. In an online survey, couples were asked to list the top 20 physical things they want their spouse to do to them. For the husbands, sex was number one, yet it ranked below the 5th position for the women. Instead, romance was among the top three priorities for women.

Women are not wired like us. They love romantic gestures, so endeavour to keep the romance alive in your marriage. One way to achieve this is to continue wooing your wife. Repeat the things you did during courtship such as taking her out for dinner, surprising her with gifts at unexpected times and not only on special seasons, sending her love SMS while at work, etc. There are endless options of nonsexual romantic gestures. Just keep treating her like a queen and watch her fall in love with you repeatedly.

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17 tips to gain a very good man
1. Trust GOD and listen to next level prayers everyday..yes go back and watch it on weekends
2. Listen to all pastor Bolaji tapes on marriage and do the prayers
3. Engage in prayers and fasting on ur own using the tapes on mystery of deliverance from apostle Joshua Selman
4. Open your Instagram DM
5. Follow important pages on Instagram esp d quiet successful pages and business..as d spirit leads
6. Comment intelligently
7. Run from fornication by all means...
8..run from masturbation,Indecency sites and literally anything that wld ofend GOD
9. Take beautiful professional.pics on your Instagram and intelligent posts as well
10. Be productive and read so wen on dates, u can have what to discuss not just gossips on Tonto
11. Complement him always...if there is nothing to complement, just keep quiet
12. Don't look down on anybody plssss..speak to Evryone with respect..don't let ur body language mock d person
13. Apologise wen wrong
14. Call them..yes call and call..no vex abeg
15. Don't ask for money if possible..u can throw d hint but don't look to ur man..if he is not thoughtful , then at least u now know he is stingy...never ask I beg u..earn ur own money and be content with it
16. If he Ghost u, don't take it P...just leave it be and move on..I swear a good man awaits
17. Be who u are but if wear small makeup, make ur hair, shape ur eyebrows, paint that toenails and waist trainer occasionally lose that weight as well





Hey, this sunday..come and hear what God in store for u

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17 tips to gain a very good man
1. Trust GOD and listen to next level prayers everyday..yes go back and watch it on weekends
2. Listen to all pastor Bolaji tapes on marriage and do the prayers
3. Engage in prayers and fasting on ur own using the tapes on mystery of deliverance from apostle Joshua Selman
4. Open your Instagram DM
5. Follow important pages on Instagram esp d quiet successful pages and business..as d spirit leads
6. Comment intelligently
7. Run from fornication by all means...
8..run from masturbation,Indecency sites and literally anything that wld ofend GOD
9. Take beautiful professional.pics on your Instagram and intelligent posts as well
10. Be productive and read so wen on dates, u can have what to discuss not just gossips on Tonto
11. Complement him always...if there is nothing to complement, just keep quiet
12. Don't look down on anybody plssss..speak to Evryone with respect..don't let ur body language mock d person
13. Apologise wen wrong
14. Call them..yes call and call..no vex abeg
15. Don't ask for money if possible..u can throw d hint but don't look to ur man..if he is not thoughtful , then at least u now know he is stingy...never ask I beg u..earn ur own money and be content with it
16. If he Ghost u, don't take it P...just leave it be and move on..I swear a good man awaits
17. Be who u are but if wear small makeup, make ur hair, shape ur eyebrows, paint that toenails and waist trainer occasionally lose that weight as well





Hey, this sunday..come and hear what God in store for u

Nigerians and God God God all the time. Even when God has given you wisdom to run your home you still dey worry God again. You folks forget that it was God that gave Eve to Adam yet Eve led Adam to his fall. If na anointing dem dey take become good husband Pastor Chris Oyahilome and Rev Chris Okorie for no break with their wives while Charlie Boy is still with his wife. My dear, some things are not prayer and God but simple application of principles and wisdom.

You can do all these things and yet be betrayed, cheated on or ruined by your spouse. First things first, make the right choice. No amount of learning can help an ant have a successful marriage to an elephant. To make the right choice, seek the LORD GOD in prayer and trust His counsel. Now to make the right choice is one thing, but to sustain a marriage is another thing...to sustain the marriage both spouses must agree with the divinely ordained rule that husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the church and wives must submit to their husbands as unto the LORD. Both spouses must get closer to God to allow them meet the conditions of sustaining their marriage.

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You can do all these things and yet be betrayed, cheated on or ruined by your spouse. First things first, make the right choice. No amount of learning can help an ant have a successful marriage to an elephant. To make the right choice, seek the LORD GOD in prayer and trust His counsel. Now to make the right choice is one thing, but to sustain a marriage is another thing...to sustain the marriage both spouses must agree with the divinely ordained rule that husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the church and wives must submit to their husbands as unto the LORD. Both spouses must get closer to God to allow them meet the conditions of sustaining their marriage.

You have a point bro. But then, your comment is lopsided because it makes it look like no unbeliever can live a happy married life, which is untrue in reality. What will you say about atheists that live successful married lives while pastors break up with their spouses? What do you have to say about moslems and unbelievers that are successfully married while christians file divorce every now and then? My brother, there are certain rules that when you adhere to them you get the desired results irrespective of your faith and its God that made it that way so man can live by the rules of life. Thats why if an atheist and a christian plant crops in the farm, both crops grow as long as they keep nurturing it. But the problem with christians today is that they feel as long as they have God they dont need to water or nurture the seed. They just need to have faith and give offerings to a man of God and then everything will fall into place. Thats why we have so many successful unbelievers than believers. God has given man the wisdom to run his life and that wisdom is embedded in principles. Put God first, rely on God, but follow the principles of life. This article just gave out some principles. There may be exceptional cases where it may not work. perhaps due to the individuals involved or to wrong application of these principles.

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You have a point bro. But then, your comment is lopsided because it makes it look like no unbeliever can live a happy married life, which is untrue in reality. What will you say about atheists that live successful married lives while pastors break up with their spouses? What do you have to say about moslems and unbelievers that are successfully married while christians file divorce every now and then? My brother, there are certain rules that when you adhere to them you get the desired results irrespective of your faith and its God that made it that way so man can live by the rules of life. Thats why if an atheist and a christian plant crops in the farm, both crops grow as long as they keep nurturing it. But the problem with christians today is that they feel as long as they have God they dont need to water or nurture the seed. They just need to have faith and give offerings to a man of God and then everything will fall into place. Thats why we have so many successful unbelievers than believers. God has given man the wisdom to run his life and that wisdom is embedded in principles. Put God first, rely on God, but follow the principles of life. This article just gave out some principles. There may be exceptional cases where it may not work. perhaps due to the individuals involved or to wrong application of these principles.

Very true. Some unbelievers make marriage work but I believe that the principles to make marriage work are by God and can be applied by anyone even though they don't believe in God or believe in Christian principles. Paul spoke about people who may be gentiles but follow the law of the LORD GOD as it was delivered to their heart (Romans 2:14-15). This was how Naaman being a Syrian soldier and not believing in the LORD GOD obeyed the Prophet Elisha and was healed so also many unbelievers can believe in God's leading and receive the reward of obedience even if they do not believe in the very God that inspired them. So you can find an atheist, who doesn't have faith enough to believe in the existence of God, but he believes that there is woman out there that matches him and that he is to put down every mundane criteria and listen to his heart. He decides not to exploit ladies or take advantage of them and he pays attention to identify that golden lady that matches him and he matches. If he follows his heart he will marry right. And if he sees marriage as an opportunity to learn, grow, lead, evolve and become a better person he would be an atheist but a great spouse and will sustain his relationship for years...this is why no one should condemn anyone due to their faith because they may be unbelievers but yet they heed the voice of the LORD GOD in their heart so much that the LORD GOD favors them much more than He favors the so called believers...and at their death, the LORD GOD can play the ultimate rescue card seen in the verse Exodus 33: 19 and make that once upon a time unbeliever enter into His eternal kingdom.

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Very true. Some unbelievers make marriage work but I believe that the principles to make marriage work are by God and can be applied by anyone even though they don't believe in God or believe in Christian principles. Paul spoke about people who may be gentiles but follow the law of the LORD GOD as it was delivered to their heart (Romans 2:14-15). This was how Naaman being a Syrian soldier and not believing in the LORD GOD obeyed the Prophet Elisha and was healed so also many unbelievers can believe in God's leading and receive the reward of obedience even if they do not believe in the very God that inspired them. So you can find an atheist, who doesn't have faith enough to believe in the existence of God, but he believes that there is woman out there that matches him and that he is to put down every mundane criteria and listen to his heart. He decides not to exploit ladies or take advantage of them and he pays attention to identify that golden lady that matches him and he matches. If he follows his heart he will marry right. And if he sees marriage as an opportunity to learn, grow, lead, evolve and become a better person he would be an atheist but a great spouse and will sustain his relationship for years...this is why no one should condemn anyone due to their faith because they may be unbelievers but yet they heed the voice of the LORD GOD in their heart so much that the LORD GOD favors them much more than He favors the so called believers...and at their death, the LORD GOD can play the ultimate rescue card seen in the verse Exodus 33: 19 and make that once upon a time unbeliever enter into His eternal kingdom.

God bless you brother

nice one