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Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by MufasaLion: 7:43pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece: I'd just urge you to advice your mom to return her back to the village if she's not ready to change her bad attitudes. There are many kids out there that are willing to be raised by any guardian. It's better to let her go and meet her parents because an outsider seeing your mom beat her would assume she's being maltreated always. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Kobojunkie: 7:44pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:When you resort to flogging a child regularly it means you are absolutely doing something terribly wrong ! |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by MufasaLion: 7:44pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece: I'd just urge you to advice your mom to return her back to the village if she's not ready to change her bad attitudes. There are many kids out there that are willing to be raised by any guardian. It's better to let her go and meet her parents because an outsider seeing your mom beat her would assume she's being maltreated always. I am the type that hate unnecessary stress and shout. I detest beating also. I'd rather stay alone than have someone stress me. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
U should flog ur househelp and chileren alike when they misbehave, depending on the gravity of offence they hav comitted an so far they are stil below 20 years of age. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Kobojunkie: 7:48pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:The fact that she steals food speaks volumes though. So,if you are unwilling to ensure she is well fed each meal, please send her back to her parents. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 7:53pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Before i start putting i ask her to tell me when to stop and whenever she says its okay i stop |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 7:54pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
greenie77: One of the 7 house helps stayed with us till adulthood |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 7:55pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
MufasaLion: That's the thing... she beats her in secret now so no outsider, i believe, has ever seen her beating the girl. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 7:56pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: My opinion exactly.. i don't like seeing the girl getting beaten |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 7:57pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Collinsaik: So you support floginf house helps. Why do you do so? |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 7:58pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: The stealing of food is something that happens once in a while o... its not very frequent |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Kobojunkie: 8:02pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:She is a stranger in his house. How can you expect her to be free in a house where she is flogged for existing? |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Kobojunkie: 8:04pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:Even at that, look into it so she can stop resorting to stealing food. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:..becos i love them and want to see them grow into responsible adults and be useful to society so i flog when absolutely necessary. not just househelps but my own biological children, |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by MufasaLion: 9:01pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece: All right. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:Tell your mother that what she is doing is nothing short of evil. No 13/14 year old child deserves regular flogging. She needs to send the child back to her parents. If your mother does in fact need a household, then she should be willing to pay for professional service. Treating a child, this in 2021 for that matter, like a slave because your mother can get away with it is pure evil. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by frozen70(f): 9:27pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece: Well that's her own ways of handling a child who bevomes naughty But to me, beating a child is not really a good idea Such a child will have all sorts of scars in the body and it means she never took care of her Best bet is to send her back to her parents before she collapses Some people have sickness that are hidden in them and can lead to fainting of passing out |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 8:31am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Collinsaik: Alright |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by oluwaseyi0: 12:47pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece: How many times did your mum brutalize you for taking meat? |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Nobody: 1:04pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:Abuse. All of these is unacceptable and is abuse. Your mom is abusing the poor child. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 1:09pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Bornsinner7:Nawa for you o! Where did op agreed to this your assumption of her being worthy of receiving lashes because of her bad habit? Op clearly defended the little girl and only stated her lapses which is normal of course. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 1:14pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Hismasterpiece:Were you flogged same way ? For instance, my mom flogged us like we were terrorists while growing up. She flogged us so much, you’d never believe we could survive living with her lol but it was out of love. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by bukatyne(f): 1:43pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
@Topic: No straight forward answer. I would have a problem with it IF the woman did not/wouldn't beat her own children for similar offenses. If a woman dashed slaps to her kids while they were growing up, I would not be surprised she does same to her helps especially if she sees them as foster kids. I would only point out other ways she can correct the maid and advise she sends her/him back if there is no meeting point. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by cooooooks(m): 1:44pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NEVER beat your househelp. Treat her or him like family, else what you have is a slave. Explain to your mom that NAPTIP is supposed to arrest her. Hismasterpiece: |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by descarado: 4:16pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
MufasaLion:So because she is a househelp, she can't watch BBN? The children of the so called family are all Saint? So because they want to sponsor her to university, she can't be human again who has errors? Is that your friend perfect? See pride and arrogance. If that girl is her or his sis, child etc, he or she will first of all train that girl to behave well with patience but nay, get angry and tell whoever have ear that the house girl is greedy with nasty behaviour. Why will you have househelp in the first place if not laziness and proud spirit. Do anybody need husehelp in Nigeria to survive? It's poverty and giving birth to many that make people send their kids away to become househelp 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by kay9(m): 7:04pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
@OP, Bro, the fact that you felt the need to ask if what your mother is doing is wrong indicates to me that deep down you already know that it is not right. No need for me to speak further. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by MufasaLion: 9:39pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
descarado: Shut up and read to understand. She had the privilege becuase my friend family are not wicked and selfish. Most homes with housemaid are selfish and very wicked. Moreover, I don't need all these your bullshit. The housemate was treated like a family and she finally stole money continuously, lied always and ended up running away to her boyfriend! She was never denied her rights! |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Nobody: 8:06am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Guy you people should shut it abeg, Bunch of self righteous wannabis.. The only wrongdoing here is the frequency of the canning, This young maid is obviously stubborn and has traces of greed which should be dealt with before she grows with it, Stealing from the pot when she is well fed is greed common with kids of that age and should be handled even with flogging to ensure she doesn't grow with that trait of thievery, Also how can a 13 year old knowing the pandemonium the loss of the phone she hid for days is causing,refuse to bring out but instead keeps it for herself, That's selfish and a daring and stubborn mind, She needs discipline . Aside from that,she is well fed, schooled,housed ,clothed, Mr Op..your mum is not and never a bad person, She is doing the family of the girl a favour by taking her as her houshelp and not denying her food and appropriate discipline,at 13 she is till young and coporate discipline is in order, but say as from 15,it's best she sticks to worded advice, Also it's not your must fault her parents are poor, it's obvious she is doing her best by not denying her the basic things of life, food, cloth, shelter, and Importantly EDUCATION.. Your parents are angels, Don't mind these self righteous idiots who want to vilify your parent by all means...see if their own grandparents alone are in need of house assistance, they won't hesitate to find a maid for them... Tell mummy to reduce the canning as she is becoming a teenager and can really take advice, aside from that Kudos to your parents... Many great Africans if repute went through coporate punishement and turned out fine @ Hismasterpiece |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by ImaIma1(f): 9:31am On Oct 10, 2021 |
I don't believe in beating them. I don't think I saw my mum beating the helps we had (whether family from the village or strangers). The girl should be cautioned just as a family member should be cautioned. She should be fed well too. Though, it just sounds wicked that someone would steal a phone and keep for days to play game while she knows the owner is looking for it. Or to steal food on the fire. Some of these kids come with bath habits from where they are coming from that needs correction or send them back to their families. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by weslay: 1:34pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Did you grow up with your mum? Does she treat you or your siblings the same way when you guys misbehave? If this treatment is melted out only on maids, then comma dey there. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 3:14pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Chidorx60: Noted. Thanks. |
Re: Is It Okay To Beat Your House Help? by Hismasterpiece(m): 3:19pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
cooooooks: Which one is NAPTIP again? |
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