bigjackass:
What rubbish. You and your husband are too gentle. Since they have refused to listen the next thing is to change it for them especially the girl. Next time you see her in your house use stick pursue am comot. Nonsense

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

EngineerOloye:


This never spoil nah...
Wait for one of the days he will sneaker her in, but make sure it is on a Friday night, so you are sure the next morning the girl no dey go work.
Buy yam, palm oil, small aso ebi & small small engagement things... Around 2 am Saturday morning, Knock down into the room and bring those things in. Tell him you are okay with the choice he has for his future, be serious and talk about future with the girl and all. Finish all your shenanigans before 4am to leave their room, but make sure to tell tham that you are following him, taking those things to the girls house by 7am in the morning. Afterwards, excuse them and let the fighting begin. He will get sense by force to decide if that is how his destiny wants to run his tomorrow for him!!!

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Solatium:
Sorry mama,
i can sense your fear for your son safety and well-being,if you ask me i think he will cope,the young man he's just been a man,they will go their sperate ways when the time comes,when he's more engage with making money,just keep an eye on him so he doesn't take to Drugs.

Secondly your husband is safe,she is not going to come close,not even when your son is smashing her.
stay safe mama

sisisioge:
It's the pussuyy at work.

Biko return to her work place and warn her again. Tell her the next time you notice she slept over, you would call the police and ger her arrested as an intruder and report her at her office.She no well at all.

As for your son, start making the house hot for him. If he wants to behave like abroad pikin, he should complete it. At past 18yrs, they are either contributing to the bills in the house or completely moved out. He should be very guided.

bukatyne:


The comment I was looking for.

@Madam OP, when you are ready to stop the girl from sleeping in your house, you will.

Shedrack777:
the truth is: she's a friend that makes him happy because she always knows how to make him cum

Okay, I understand now. She makes him happy by giving him a happy ending.

Your father's school fees he paid for you did not waste.

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

elonmuskbaby:
e be like say she be all this civilised modern day oyinbo mom

Typical African mother go don drag her by her hair and fling her out with cane, broom or water.some go even pour kerosene for her body or soak her clothes inside water and drive her out naked


Fear sef go dey catch the girl to near that house again

shantti:


She cannot throw a man out of his father's house. Only his father can do this. It his her husband's house not her personnal house unless she bought the land herself and erected the building with her money

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Vireani79:


U know u are a total idiot
Na ur papa make the gal prostitute
That a person smokes doesn't mean she is a prostitute
Grow up
Leave nigeria for once
Even go to Benin republic
It's will cost u just 3k from mile 2
Una no know anything
I have lived in the UK and these things are normal
I have been here long enough to know what is woke and what's not
The woman's problem is she thinks the gal is beneath her family
If she like agree if she like no agree
That gal is here to stay and the son loves her
She do pass herself she go carry belle to solidify her stand
And nothing a fool like u will do about it
Anofia

Tushmanny123:
Its better he is doing it in your presence, than doing it elsewhere Where anything could happen. Leave them, just advice him. He's a man now

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Vireani79:


U know u are a total idiot
Na ur papa make the gal prostitute
That a person smokes doesn't mean she is a prostitute
Grow up
Leave nigeria for once
Even go to Benin republic
It's will cost u just 3k from mile 2
Una no know anything
I have lived in the UK and these things are normal
I have been here long enough to know what is woke and what's not
The woman's problem is she thinks the gal is beneath her family
If she like agree if she like no agree
That gal is here to stay and the son loves her
She do pass herself she go carry belle to solidify her stand
And nothing a fool like u will do about it
Anofia

elonmuskbaby:
Mr man this is Nigeria,if the boy doesn't know what he's doing or he's naieve,the girl knows what she's doing and she's like a wolf patiently and cleverly waiting for an unguarded moment to exploit.she is looking for where to put her head.

@wisemum you are putting snake inside your pocket thinking it will not harm you because it is still calm and peaceful.

It's very possible the girl might get pregnant with another person's child and hang it on your son because she sees he has prospects or is an ajebota or she could actually trap him with pregnancy and force all of you to get her married to your son.all this she's polite Na just acting.it is not something you should overlook.if it happened in UK at least there's still support system to protect all parties involved but this is Naija where people are exploitative and the girl is looking for the family she wants to enter by force through pregnancy.dont let it slide.its an issue that you should deal with asap because Nigeria is already a misogynistic society,if push comes to shove,you will be blamed and you won't escape it.this is not a time to be doing ajebo.get police and take her to the station.she should write an undertaking and sign in the police station that she will never step into your house again and she should be arrested if she does so

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

dfrost:


The banny no go show.

The meeting should be a surprise. Either chase her out on time or simply make the meeting happen on one of the nights she sleeps over.

Burst into the room (EFCC or Gestapo style). If they are naked, it's their business, after all the lady is comfortable walking around the house naked.

bigjackass:
What rubbish. You and your husband are too gentle. Since they have refused to listen the next thing is to change it for them especially the girl. Next time you see her in your house use stick pursue am comot. Nonsense