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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by mariahAngel(f): 11:30am On Oct 19, 2021
Lostchild:
GraciousGod190

I also blame you because at 36 you are supposes to use common sense to know that your girlfriend and his families are using your education as their proxy over their hidden agenda.

There are many factors they are not telling you.

1. You may be from a different tribe

2. You do not have enough finance to their expectation. They wanted someone with a more better career and money than you.

3. She is listening to her family to make choices for her over her future.

4. You should use your head. Marriage has nothing to do with education. It is left for you to move on and be pround of yourself, don't beg them, show self worth and your girlfriend will see your worth.

5. If your girl can't stand for you, she is not worthy to be your wife.

Some nigeria families with their gold digger mindset, they want to eat cook food without cooking the food.

You always so much to say/type when it has to do with females don't you?
You're not a fair minded person.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Acidosis(m): 11:30am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:


can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

lalasticlala, Seun

I hope the emboldened is from the place of hurt and disappointment not your actual perception of higher education?


..cos that statement is enough to disallow you from marrying their daughter. And by the way, discrimination can NEVER be eliminated in this world or the next. So it's always better for one to engage tactically and also learn to "read the room" to avoid some kain embarrassments.

With B.Sc and M.Sc. degree sef, only a few men can approach some type of ladies, e.g. Buhari's daughter. It's not discrimination per se but self respect. So before you talk to another degree holder, make sure you "read the room".

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Coolabbie: 11:30am On Oct 19, 2021
pocohantas:


Except her father himself is a professor, I don’t think it is a question that comes up when the man is doing well for himself. A man that they saw physically.

I hope with time men will begin to understand the times we are in. An educated YOUNG girl in her prime won’t just marry the average advanced bachelor when she has options. That thing ended in 1998 when Anambra traders were marrying doctors/lawyers and keeping her in their shops.

In this generation of iPhone and fur-slippers-girls, she will chop your money, help you to waste your time till you clock 40. Then she’ll disappear when you least expect it.

Love is not enough. Let’s all be realistic and strategic in this thing.
Shebi you have started again. undecided
You want them to accuse you of wanting this high value mail for yourself, okwaya? grin


@op, someone once said that "men are the prize" is only for men with money o!
Do with that what thou will.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by GraciousGod190: 11:32am On Oct 19, 2021
mariahAngel:


Did you give her a valid reason(s) for "knocking it off" or you just "knocked it off" because she suggested it?
it wasn't a serious discussion, just many of our random chats, that was 2years ago.
maybe she saw it coming but didn't say in a way I Will understand then. (like her parents won't agree and all)

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by descarado: 11:39am On Oct 19, 2021
This is the Nigerian system we are talking about.
You just integrate yourself into the system
Many traders went to outreach programmes. It's not even serious. Mostly weekend.
Why didn't you do that.
Sometimes money isn't enough.

Sometimes, so.e families will reject wife to be simply because of this except she is a student.

Go and enrol into the nearest school close to you.
Afterall orji uzo kalu become a graduate as a governor. Money isn't enough in this case.
When you enrol, go back again and meet them. They won't say no.
Unless you find the girl not worth fighting for. In that case, I will say, move on.

Most business men in onitsha are graduates.
Nigeria especially igbo value higher institution although we have chunks of graduates without work every year.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by descarado: 11:43am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

i chosed the latter, as soon as I heard it.
thanks
You never loved her.
No need. Move on

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by pocohantas(f): 11:45am On Oct 19, 2021
Coolabbie:
Shebi you have started again. undecided
You want them to accuse you of wanting this high value mail for yourself, okwaya? grin


@op, someone once said that "men are the prize" is only for men with money o!
Do with that what thou will.



When I talk, one redpiller will start quoting me with terrible English.

Despite the fact that our mothers married early, if you come for their 20yrs old daughters in 2021, they will pursue you! Affliction shall not rise a second time. They will tell you to allow her to graduate. Next they’ll tell you to allow her to serve. Then they will tell you to allow her to get a job. All this is to buy time!

The major exception is if you both are relatively young or they are so broke they need you to elevate. If not, they will look out for their daughter because the kind of men you would meet when you are working in KPMG is different from the ones you meet as a broke undergraduate.

If you are a man above 34, you must bring more to the table. If you want a very young educated girl from a middle class home, you must make her very comfortable. She can’t be trekking under hot sun and jumping Obalende bus with a man that conductors would mistake for her uncle/father.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by captainamiedi1: 11:50am On Oct 19, 2021
then leave her na. every shoe get size

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Tatashi: 11:50am On Oct 19, 2021
Go and look for your level.her family understands that you will become a jealous husband tomorrow when you see her excelling in her career. Go and look for your class

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Patrioticman007(m): 11:51am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

That's a baseless excuse, don't give up.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by KillingIsFun: 11:52am On Oct 19, 2021
Someone who started his story with
"am" hurt?

DaddyRochie1642:



Your English and your writing is good for an Ssce holder.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 11:52am On Oct 19, 2021
That's why I frown when I see men who struggled & became successful settling down for LEECHES.

When you become a successful bachelor, please don't compromise your marriage.
Make sure you visit the location where higher classes reside, then propose to any family there.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Liposure: 11:52am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.
i feel you be bro

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by jericco1(m): 11:52am On Oct 19, 2021
Chai
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Sunisonflex39(m): 11:53am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

getting married to a woman can't motivate me to upgrade my educational background.
already told her it's over so be it, she's the one shedding tears over here.


Redpiller spotted... You are the boss..

How can someone be earning like 200k monthly in is business.. And one girl brother and mama say e no go marry the sister because of paper.. If u check well now. OP is doing well financially that that her elder bro that has msc

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Liposure: 11:53am On Oct 19, 2021
KillingIsFun:
Someone who started his story with "am" hurt?
you are being petty

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by jericco1(m): 11:53am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.


Then you never loved her

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by nokspos: 11:54am On Oct 19, 2021
make more money , people will think you have phd

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 11:54am On Oct 19, 2021
DaddyRochie1642:



Your English and your writing is good for an Ssce holder.


They don't teach English in higher institutions. I even spoke better English when I was still in sec school than when I dey university. In other words, this comment of yours no follow

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Mleeperbother: 11:54am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by hardon1(m): 11:54am On Oct 19, 2021
Some families are backward sha, despite the fact that they may be educated

Na The girl hand everything dey. If she really wants to marry you . she won't let those excuses stop her

Or better still, give here belle. The family will chill

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by PrinceOfLagos: 11:54am On Oct 19, 2021
Maybe you no get money

Go and make money

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by drlateef: 11:55am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.



Marry an Igbo girl. I know of an Igbo female doctor married to mechanic.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by JuanDeDios: 11:55am On Oct 19, 2021
dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.
Upgrade himself to do what exactly? Whose standard is it that everyone must go to university? He knows how to read and write, add and subtract, and is doing well in business, yet you want him to think something is wrong with him?

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by hardon1(m): 11:55am On Oct 19, 2021
Mleeperbother:

So wetin una wan discuss as ssce and PhD holders.

Sorry to say... You are myopic

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by pocohantas(f): 11:56am On Oct 19, 2021
hardon1:
Some families are backward sha, despite the fact that they may be educated

Na The girl hand everything dey. If she really wants to marry you . she won't let those excuses stop her

Or better still, give here belle. The family will chill

There is nothing like really wants to marry him. On no account should a Nigerian woman marry a Nigerian man without her family’s support.

hardon1:


Ur opinion

It is not my opinion, it is the sensible thing to do. When you decide to return her to her parents house as you are fond of doing. Which house would she return to? The same one she disrespected and ran off with you? undecided

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Jemmysax(m): 11:56am On Oct 19, 2021
Thank God u have SSCE. It's not too late brother, u can still get yourself a degree, I'm sure the family will have a change of mind once they get the news that u're now enrolled into one tertiary institution.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by JuanDeDios: 11:56am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.
You have a sense of self-worth. You understand these things more than some PhD holders. You will go far in life.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 11:57am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

You can never satisfy that family. Look elsewhere. focus on human development and go for continue education in your chosen career.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Michelle55: 11:57am On Oct 19, 2021
Move on jare.. Getting a piece of paper doesn't guarantee a happy home. Na her people go tire
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Aforxzy(f): 11:57am On Oct 19, 2021
Why not have a discussion with your babe again and know the real reason behind this SSCE thingy. What led to it and how did she react. Did she just accept their excuse without a fight back orshe is with you despite this.

If you trully love each other then love will conquer this too.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Candidlady: 11:58am On Oct 19, 2021
2face na what?
get money and every other thing wil follow!

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