Tonnyray:
1. There was nothing wrong in getting her a job. Don't allow anyone guilt trip you over that. Be kind and helpful to anyone and everyone you find yourself in the capacity to. It's only a problem if you only do it for people you seek pecuniary or carnal favors from.
2. Doubtless she has given you vibes you are not her ultimate desire, but then 98% of women settle with men who are not their "perfect" male. What you have penned down depicts she will bounce when a better option comes. Nothing new. Even if you date and marry the woman that chooses you, there are no guarantees she still won't find a worthier male sometime down the line and emigrate (either physically or emotionally). Don't kill yourself over this. You don't know who is presently chyking her or what her circle of friends are telling her.
3. The most important information is what you have not highlighted which is: have you controlled the narrative of this relationship dynamics so far? You're an introvert, so am I so I can readily relate with your worldview sort of. Unfortunately many of us never realize the fact that in our quietness and solitude lies a strength very few other temperaments can match.
Now understand women are naturally fickle creatures. That she doesn't feel you're the best she can get right now does not in any way invalidate you. Know this and know peace. Majority of the ones called "evening newspapers" now once had hundreds of men wooing them that they referred to as not their spec. Less than 15% of women get to marry their spec in case you don't know and majority still end up regretting even after nailing this "spec". Don't for the life of you get drawn into their web of "hypergamic" confusion.
4. Way forward: Silence.
You need to blank her. If she values anything you have she will come running. If you blank her well enough she will add pleading and begging to the mix. Of course we all know it's because she has no better alternative but again that describes the generality of women. If she does not do the above simply move on. One of the positives of this thread has been the emphasis on having an abundance mentality.
In the event she makes the effort to get back it's now time to stamp your authority on things. Do not mince words. Tell her to go find what she wants and not waste both your time. If she makes it through this (usually with begging and claiming you misunderstood what she said as they always say) then it just might be worth the shot.
But:
1. Never again lose guard.
2. Control the narrative of your relationship dynamics
3. Eternal vigilance is key.
4. No repeat mistake is tenable.
5. Never fear to walk away

One love.

CsRockefeller:

Thanks so much. Quite insightful. Will pay heed to your advice.

Lightway:
My New Girlfriend Went Back To Her Abusive Ex Boyfriend
Please sir can you explain why a girl will go back to her abusive boyfriend
Even after the new boyfriend treats her with love care and affection

Herbsworks:
I am not encouraging guys to start sleeping with married women neither am I discouraging guys from getting married even though it may take divine intervention for me to get married due to what I have seen and experienced. Even if we decide to discourage guys on this thread from sleeping with your wife that won’t stop other guys not on this thread from going ahead.

As you’re getting angry that guys are sleeping with married women I hope you as a married man is not sleeping with single ladies cos those ladies are some guys “serious girlfriends”, fiancée and bethroted?

What my posts is all about is to teach some married men how to know if the wife is cheating on them and know how to put them in check from the place of my experience. But just like some men, blue pill men are emotional and illogical when it concerns the love of their life

I believe the redpill speaks from the place of logic while the female gender operate using emotions and an emotional man will always fall prey to the manipulation of women.

My knowledge in life is not just on women manipulation but on life itself cos I’ve been opportune by nature to have experienced life the hard way and that has armed me with life lessons that I’ve been using to defend myself against the attack of enemies.

Love & Light

CaveAdullam:
DAY 298, REDPILL 2021

In your dealings with women, you must understand that you don't have any point to prove!

Proves should speak from your outward appearance and your inner growth.

Let your greatest challenge be in improving yourself daily in all ramifications.

Authority: Grow!

Herbsworks:
I am not encouraging guys to start sleeping with married women neither am I discouraging guys from getting married even though it may take divine intervention for me to get married due to what I have seen and experienced. Even if we decide to discourage guys on this thread from sleeping with your wife that won’t stop other guys not on this thread from going ahead.

As you’re getting angry that guys are sleeping with married women I hope you as a married man is not sleeping with single ladies cos those ladies are some guys “serious girlfriends”, fiancée and bethroted?

What my posts is all about is to teach some married men how to know if the wife is cheating on them and know how to put them in check from the place of my experience. But just like some men, blue pill men are emotional and illogical when it concerns the love of their life

I believe the redpill speaks from the place of logic while the female gender operate using emotions and an emotional man will always fall prey to the manipulation of women.

My knowledge in life is not just on women manipulation but on life itself cos I’ve been opportune by nature to have experienced life the hard way and that has armed me with life lessons that I’ve been using to defend myself against the attack of enemies.

Love & Light

PrinxArthur1:
contrary to some opinion of guys here ,women don't chase money they chase the lifestyle money brings

Now think about it, why do runs gals still continue their lifestyle after they have made a lot of money from their simp magas, why will a fully grown woman like Ehiz( I forgot her name , the interior decorator) , maria etc will want to be a side chick rather than find thier own Man

Lightway:


Nobody in real life chase money. They chase the life

Why do yahoo boys keep doing yahoo.. because of the lifestyle.

It's the same for men and men

PrinxArthur1:
Explain how you chase lifestyle as a man without chasing money?

Tonnyray:
Never bother yourself about what any woman is attracted to.
Bother yourself about what you want in and out of life.
Be successful, never you be a lowlife.
Selah.

LordAdam16:


Unfortunately, women do not need a reason to cheat.

For some reason, people often treat cheating like it's always a rational endpoint. It isn't.

Most times, when women (and men) cheat, they settle on a reason after the fact to absolve themselves of guilt or rationalize the betrayal. Maybe if he complimented me more, if she took better care of herself... I wouldn't find myself in the arms of someone else.

A married woman who wants to cheat will cheat. A reason does not have to exist; she only has to be down for it.

A substantial minority of women rarely stay faithful. They're called cake eaters. They cheat on most (if not all) their partners. This bevy cheat while dating, while engaged, and from the first year of marriage. Their nightmare is being shackled to one c*ck for the rest of their lives.

For most women, however, there is no uniformity. For some, it might be biological: in the late 30's to early 40's, the libido of many women inches higher. This often coincides with their men going bland in the bedroom after the novelty has worn off. Naturally, they seek someone else to re-introduce that spark.

For some, it might be the natural ebbs and flow of long-term companionship. When things are going through the motions, they seek excitement elsewhere. Or they regularly find themselves in situations where they can get away with indiscretion; say because of their jobs (for instance as an air hostess) or the hubby is away for several days/weeks/months at a time. Or they face difficulties in some aspect of their lives, and while the spouse is moving the earth and moon to set things aright or is nonchalant (doesn't matter really); they gravitate towards an emotional tampon--be that a spiritual leader, a co-worker, an ex, a gym buddy...

None of these situations requires her to have zero respect for or zero fear of you. You could monitor her like the Five Eyes and she'd ask a good friend to be an alibi. You could give her no leverage at the start and she'd wear you down over time.

All told, it is virtually impossible to stack up faithfulness amongst married women. For some, it might be a single, memorable one-night stand. For others it might be a multi-year affair that results in paternity fraud. It might happen in the 6th year of marriage or after year 14 when they have a dead bedroom and for all intents and purposes live like roommates with their hubby.

Women do not automatically become less susceptible to male charm when they get married. Wolves do when they pair up. Humans don't. They still fancy studs they meet, they still develop crushes, they still have fantasies and daydreams, their sexual tastes evolve; and when they shut their eyes, conjure racy mental images, and hump pillows, odds are they aren't thinking about their husbands. A wedding band does not stop any of that. It might escalate self-introspection; but again that may have an expiry date.

In my opinion, a married woman is just as easy to plug as any woman out there; including strippers. The paramount factor is effortless connection or chemistry. Once that is established, and she sees herself going all the way, it becomes a matter of when. How she manages the affair depends on how clueless she thinks you are. If you're the eternal skeptic with a Sherlock Holmes alter ego, she'll be as secretive and ambiguous as an FSB agent. If she knows you're not observant or attentive, she could go as far as bringing her lover in-house with some BS cover story for kicks.

And should you get the drop on her and she still wants to stay, she'd put up an Oscar-worthy performance about how it was a mindless mistake or try to pin the blame on you.

Lastly, this isn't a particularly modern phenomenon. Married women have always been that way. Technology may have streamlined hooking up and keeping things under wrap. But I can assure you when men went off to war or on trips taking days; the women were not always sitting on their thumb being good, little, morally-pristine wives. Orthodox and religiously repressed married women as some of the most c*ck-hungry sl*ts in existence. If you know, you know.

-Lord

ubunja:
What do thugs have that successful respectful men don't have? Why are successful women attracted to these low lives?

Oyin2212:

Bro please get out. This is not the right thread for you.

ubunja:
Alpha Fvcks, Beta Bucks at its most cruel.

LordAdam16:
Unfortunately, women do not need a reason to cheat.
For some reason, people often treat cheating like it's always a rational endpoint. It isn't.
Most times, when women (and men) cheat, they settle on a reason after the fact to absolve themselves of guilt or rationalize the betrayal. Maybe if he complimented me more, if she took better care of herself... I wouldn't find myself in the arms of someone else.
A married woman who wants to cheat will cheat. A reason does not have to exist; she only has to be down for it.
Lastly, this isn't a particularly modern phenomenon. Married women have always been that way. Technology may have streamlined hooking up and keeping things under wrap. But I can assure you when men went off to war or on trips taking days; the women were not always sitting on their thumb being good, little, morally-pristine wives. Orthodox and religiously repressed married women as some of the most c*ck-hungry sl*ts in existence. If you know, you know.
-Lord

Think4Myself:

Nigerian culture is quite different,
The Yahoo boys are the equivalent of hood niggas(pookies and ray rays) so if you dey broke, e go hard to smash sha, except your game is top level

Tonnyray:
5 star post.
You nailed it effortlessly sir.

ubunja:
continue hiding behind that lame excuse. When you ready to face reality reality will be waiting for you.

ubunja:
continue hiding behind that lame excuse. When you ready to face reality reality will be waiting for you.

Smartb0y:
lmao,you just killed his internet pride

Herbsworks:
Because she’s using your picture as her profile picture or her family picture as her profile picture doesn’t mean she is not cheating.

Some time ago I met a lady on nairaland. My intention towards her was just to connect with people that lives in Abuja and not for sexual purpose. So I sent her an email and she responded, later on we shifted to WhatsApp. This is someone that has her husband as her profile picture. We chatted normally and she would always reply my WhatsApp status with preaching or reprimand me for being too naughty or raw. After enquiring about where I stay in Abuja she called me surprisingly one morning and told me she was coming to my place ah!! I was shocked but decided to maintain frame. Then she drove to my place in a flashy SUV after I had given her directions.

When she came she made comments about me not getting married despite the fact that I live alone in a two bedroom apartment and even offered to hook me up with her single friend which I agreed. Unexpectedly, while I was showing her around my apartment, she hugged me and started kissing me. She told me of how her husband doesn’t satisfy her bla bla!!! She promised me heaven and earth and even offered to buy me a car. She was shocked I turned her down cos I have learned to saw no to women. She later apologized after I told her to give me some time with the promise of giving her a life time sex next time.

She told me of how guys have impregnated her severally and she has aborted them and how the husband doesn’t cum inside her cos he suspects her. The way she spoke of the husband I knew he was a weak man.

Few days after, while in the office I got a text message from a strange number accusing me of sleeping with his wife ah!! After investigating I discovered it was the woman’s husband. The man even suspect that his wife was cheating so I think he started monitoring her WhatsApp conversation or put a tracker on her car. Few days later the man came to my apartment with some soldiers

Well we had to settle it like men after I told him I didn’t sleep with his wife and with the intervention of a friend who happens to be a senior military officer. Despite that incident I was expecting the man to either divorce her or probably send her back to her father’s house to teach her some sense but he didn’t. Which proves that she knows her husband is weak man which is why she keeps frolicking around.

Once a woman stops fearing you then she will start cheating on you and disrespecting you. Never be scared to put a woman in check cos once you give her the freedom she requires, she will fly away like a bird out of your reach.

Think4Myself:
How?

Think4Myself:

Bro, I'm speaking facts, Yahoo boys date all the attractive girls these days. It's a bitter truth