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My Threat by IamSandra: 12:16pm On Oct 29, 2021
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Hi everyone i will like to make this straight and simple. After i finished my studies and graduated i stayed for a long time without getting a job, i finally got a job which is not what i studied and very well underpaid but i had to go for it because there's no choice. Along the line i met my wife, i had to save some money from my salary we settled down. As the responsibility started popping in i realised i had to get a better job. After so many failed trials my wife and i went to one of her uncles that do give her some cash at times. We got there and he agreed to employ me into one of his firms just because of my wife pleaded with him oooo. Well my concern is that ever since then any time i have a misunderstanding with my wife at home even when she's wrong and i dont settle it with her fast each time i get to work the next day i my wife's uncle tend to bring uo some bad attitude towards me up to the point of threatening to fire me. This has made me feel less human for many times now. Please i need your advice on how to handle this issue.
Re: My Threat by mariahAngel(f): 12:39pm On Oct 29, 2021
Look for another job, quit that job, then put your home in order! (In that order)
Never leave yourself at the mercy of any human.

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Re: My Threat by Nobody: 12:44pm On Oct 29, 2021
Wahala be like frog way wear pant. cheesy cheesy
Re: My Threat by ahnie: 12:48pm On Oct 29, 2021
Divorce your wife and walk away
Re: My Threat by brownemmanuel43(m): 1:19pm On Oct 29, 2021
This is pure shit, I have come to realise that the way u present yourself to people is the way the will take u.
Seeking for favor from someone is not a sin but a sin would be trying to please the person.
U have nothing to prove to any uncle, best thing is to find any possible means to stand on your own and leave the godamn work and also separate from that wife of yours, she doesn't deserve u at all. It shows that if the table turn around she would even humiliate u in public
Re: My Threat by Nobody: 1:31pm On Oct 29, 2021
You too, drop that your ego and always try resolving your issues with your wife before getting to the office.

By the way, what is that thing you do to her that gets the uncle so upset to the point of threatening you?
Can you stop it? At least for peace in your home.

This might just be a way to keep you in check because I'm sure if you were working somewhere else, your marriage would have prolly packed up because you won't feel the need to apologise in time to save nine anytime there's a misunderstanding.

Ignore those saying you should look for another job. They are only encouraging you to be wicked and uncontrollable which is not healthy for your marriage.
At least, with your present experience, you'll learn self-control and how to better manage your home and handle your marriage issues amicably.

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Re: My Threat by Oizee(f): 6:03pm On Oct 29, 2021
Mercychen:
You too, drop that your ego and always try resolving your issues with your wife before getting to the office.

By the way, what is that thing you do to her that gets the uncle so upset to the point of threatening you?
Can you stop it? At least for peace in your home.

This might just be a way to keep you in check because I'm sure if you were working somewhere else, your marriage would have prolly packed up because you won't feel the need to apologise in time to save nine anytime there's a misunderstanding.

Ignore those saying you should look for another job. They are only encouraging you to be wicked and uncontrollable which is not healthy for your marriage.
At least, with your present experience, you'll learn self-control and how to better manage your home and handle your marriage issues amicably.
so judgemental, I wish you could have asked him to brief u of their fights before blaming one person.

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Re: My Threat by Kobojunkie: 7:06pm On Oct 29, 2021
IamSandra:
Well my concern is that ever since then any time i have a misunderstanding with my wife at home even when she's wrong and i dont settle it with her fast each time i get to work the next day i my wife's uncle tend to bring uo some bad attitude towards me up to the point of threatening to fire me. This has made me feel less human for many times now. Please i need your advice on how to handle this issue.
1. You can only escape your uncle by getting a job elsewhere and hope that he does not have a line in through to your new employer to get you fired should you maltreat his cousin even then. undecided

2. Your wife needs to have a job of her own. Not a store since not everyone has and is born with business skills. She needs to get a job so she can contribute to the upkeep of her family too.

This ought to be commonsense in the year 2021 but I have been made to realize that it remains rare even for Nigerians. undecided
Re: My Threat by Nobody: 7:28pm On Oct 29, 2021
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Re: My Threat by Truvelisback(m): 7:28pm On Oct 29, 2021
IamSandra:
As seen and posted

Hi everyone i will like to make this straight and simple. After i finished my studies and graduated i stayed for a long time without getting a job, i finally got a job which is not what i studied and very well underpaid but i had to go for it because there's no choice. Along the line i met my wife, i had to save some money from my salary we settled down. As the responsibility started popping in i realised i had to get a better job. After so many failed trials my wife and i went to one of her uncles that do give her some cash at times. We got there and he agreed to employ me into one of his firms just because of my wife pleaded with him oooo. Well my concern is that ever since then any time i have a misunderstanding with my wife at home even when she's wrong and i dont settle it with her fast each time i get to work the next day i my wife's uncle tend to bring uo some bad attitude towards me up to the point of threatening to fire me. This has made me feel less human for many times now. Please i need your advice on how to handle this issue.
Try to iron out issues with ur wife and live peacefully with her. Ur wife loves u otherwise, she wouldn't have told her uncle to help u with a job.
Re: My Threat by Whyzaid(f): 7:42pm On Oct 29, 2021
Tor, they want to use the job to colonize you
Re: My Threat by RightToReject(m): 8:35pm On Oct 29, 2021
Mercychen:
You too, drop that your ego and always try resolving your issues with your wife before getting to the office.

By the way, what is that thing you do to her that gets the uncle so upset to the point of threatening you?
Can you stop it? At least for peace in your home.

This might just be a way to keep you in check because I'm sure if you were working somewhere else, your marriage would have prolly packed up because you won't feel the need to apologise in time to save nine anytime there's a misunderstanding.

Ignore those saying you should look for another job. They are only encouraging you to be wicked and uncontrollable which is not healthy for your marriage.
At least, with your present experience, you'll learn self-control and how to better manage your home and handle your marriage issues amicably.


If you and your ilks cannot stop making a bigotry contribution, and exhibiting pettiness in general on this kind of matter, then do not cry bullying when sternly called out for your pettiness. There are other sections of the forum to exhibit pettiness other than this section. Be warned.
Re: My Threat by Nobody: 8:52pm On Oct 29, 2021
RightToReject:



If you and your ilks cannot stop making a bigotry contribution, and exhibiting pettiness in general on this kind of matter, then do not cry bullying when sternly called out for your pettiness. There are other sections of the forum to exhibit pettiness other than this section. Be warned.

What right have you to tell me what to comment and where?

Do I look like those you go about trolling on here like your life depends on it?

Come on!..... buzz off my mentions and don't ever mention me again!
Re: My Threat by SeaTrade(m): 9:26pm On Oct 29, 2021
mariahAngel:
Look for another job, quit that job, then put your home in order! (In that order)
Never leave yourself at the mercy of any human.
You never hustle before na why you dey quick to spit this kind thing.
Life is in stages,
At first you will be at the mercy of humans till you find your footing.I mean you have to kiss a lot of ass to be able to stand firm on your own.
I still kiss ass and I make sure I lick it sparkling clean.

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Re: My Threat by RightToReject(m): 9:43pm On Oct 29, 2021
Mercychen:


What right have you to tell me what to comment and where?

So I look like those you go about trolling on here like your life depends on it?

Come on!..... buzz off my mentions and don't ever mention me again!




After deactivating that your most recent last moniker CharisEleos, after being called out because of your usual petty attitudes, and now using this one, one would have expected you to start living your age fair-mindedly. But no, you can't afford fair-mindedness because bigotry and pettiness in general are ingrained in your DNA. Lol.

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Re: My Threat by Ulunne777(f): 9:49pm On Oct 29, 2021
I just feel for you,that's all.
I just wish she didn't have to report you to them.If you finally take a walk from the job,she will still suffer it.

Pls ,you guys should meet halfway and douse this matter.

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