Debbe:
I dONT KNOW WHY MEN ARE LIke this

Are you a virgin?

Bimpe29:
Let him disappear into the thin air as he is not the lucky guy.
Mr Right is on the way sis.

Lucky guy indeed!!!

Like say the Debby na virgin.
Omo make we hear word, you no wan Bleep u enter relationship. They find no sex till marriage.

Vanilla4:
You have to leave girl, there should be mutual understanding between partners.

Its very rare seeing a NL female moniker commenting reasonably on issues lyk this. Are u truly a girl?

SimplyFacts:


Lol,,,, you mentioned yourself with one moniker & answer with another. All to sell yourself to OP. We don tey for NL, no mind the day we registered these monikers o.

Una problem for nairaland na too much sense

silvoclaira:


Dont be evasive. "He dumped you"

Are you a virgin

You say men??

hmm mm mm maybe the place is well and she don't want the guy to know b4 marriage

InvestorRicky:



Its very rare seeing a NL female moniker commenting reasonably on issues lyk this. Are u truly a girl?

What a question, I am.

And don't go into that crazy gender stuff, I'm aware there are many of them but I know two of 'em are the real deal (male and female), I'm not tryna judge. Let's not talk about it please.

Kobojunkie:
So because she is 38 and 40 is around the corner, she shouldn't have desires and standards of her own?.

Because she is 38, she should open up for anything to throts her way resembling a dick because 40 is around the corner?

Because she is 38 and 40 is around the corner, desperation should cause her to seize as a human and instead walk around with shame?

If your very own sister was also 38 and unmarried, would you also enjoy having your friends speak of her as the wide-borehole desperate for marriage willing to open up at the mention of the phrase " I go marry you"?

oh really, I made her understand that am a sexual man from the beginning, she should have told me about her age but no she rather lie about it from the start.
a relationship that begins with a lie what do you expect?

Kobojunkie:
So because she is 38 and 40 is around the corner, she shouldn't have desires and standards of her own?.

Because she is 38, she should open up for anything to throts her way resembling a dick because 40 is around the corner?

Because she is 38 and 40 is around the corner, desperation should cause her to seize as a human and instead walk around with shame?

If your very own sister was also 38 and unmarried, would you also enjoy having your friends speak of her as the wide-borehole desperate for marriage willing to open up at the mention of the phrase " I go marry you"?

Guy wetin be your own sef. Why na to defend women be the matter wey you carry for head. Abi you be white knight? If you live your life by women's standards then be careful. Nobody is a saint or angel

Vanilla4:
You have to leave girl, there should be mutual understanding between partners.

leave? Someone already dumped...

Babe pls kindly look for a Simpson
See all this Red pillars don woke.

I don’t understand this
How long did you date that you claim he dumped you
Did you both discuss and agree this from day one when you both agreed to date that no s*x and now he wants it or what?
There is no write or wrong in a relationship
It involves 2 to agree and no decision should be forced on the other. He wants you don’t so move on to your next as am sure he will and you both will be happy.
Don’t see the reason for “men” in your post. If men are so bad, well stay off completely and create a thread for that so we celebrate it
Also for the guys saying women…let me not assume everyone is so bitter at other gender yet every weekend marriages are happening. Where do these ones find themselves?
State your relationship criteria from day one and if your toaster can’t deal move on to next and if you can’t find your spec become a nun or stay happy choosing. We don’t care what your opinion is of the other gender

Iyaebe:
Sex is strictly for your husband, don't open leg for some yeye boyfriend, its not worth it.Let him leave,the deserving one will come your way.

Well, this may be appropriate if she hasn't been having sex with other guys before (i.e virgin).


For a girl that has been Bleep in different styles by different guys to be insisting on 'no sex before marriage' for the husband-to-be look funny to me...if after 24 months of no-sex courtship, the husband now enter the womanliness on the wedding day, only to discover an over used puuusy, what and how do you expect him to feel?

oyatz:



Well, this may be appropriate if she hasn't been having sex with other guys before (i.e virgin).


For a girl that has been Bleep in different styles by different guys to be insisting on 'no sex before marriage' for the husband-to-be look funny to me...if after 24 months of no-sex courtship, the husband now enter the womanliness on the wedding day, only to discover an over used puuusy, what and how do you expect him to feel?

If she had sex before and she gave her life to Christ,that automatically makes her a new creature and a virgin before Christ, so she has the right to say no to premarital sex.

Debbe:
I dONT KNOW WHY MEN ARE LIke this

lol just find someone who can wait or stay single.

Iyaebe:
If she had sex before and she gave her life to Christ,that automatically makes her a new creature and a virgin before Christ, so she has the right to say no to premarital sex.

I hope her pussy will also be a new creature.

TheManOfTheYear:
I hope her pussy will also be a new creature.

very important

SimplyFacts:


I can take it up from where he stopped if you're a virgin & keep to your decision. If you aren't, I no fit o. Check my recent post to know why I can't dare going into such r/ship.

Debbe:

You gree?

SimplyFacts:

You gree?

hmmm

Debbe:
hmmm

Good girl, lemme DM you then.

Iyaebe:
Sex is strictly for your husband, don't open leg for some yeye boyfriend, its not worth it.Let him leave,the deserving one will come your way.

Money is strictly for your wife, don't open wallet for any yeye girlfriend.

Qatar2022:

Why will you go into a relationship when you know you don't want sex, better stay on your own instead of tying another woman son down

OP made a good point. The hypocrisy of some men wanting to marry virgins yet disagreeing to be in a relationship with a woman who wants to wait till marriage

Some of those men even disvirgin the woman then move on to another

nijaomegacode:
Op, you think the man is stupid? No he's not. He's a wise man.
You want to say no to sex with while you spread you smelly pvssy to other men when kongi hold you?
Who do you think you're fooling?
I blame him too sha. He should have looked for a virgin girl.
Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin. She's a curse to her children: born and unborn.

How many women have be disvirgined and dumped?

Debbe:
I dONT KNOW WHY MEN ARE LIke this

Who does that in the 21st century.

Women are wicked

Debbe:
I dONT KNOW WHY MEN ARE LIke this

You made a decision, but you didn't see a problem in it, now he made his, as well. You are now crying foul. Why are you this manipulative and selfish, you want to collect but you don't want to drop something. No be juju be that Move on, What's with the sad face .

Malawian:

Money is strictly for your wife, don't open wallet for any yeye girlfriend.

lwkmd

bepositive11:


OP made a good point. The hypocrisy of some men wanting to marry virgins yet disagreeing to be in a relationship with a woman who wants to wait till marriage

Some of those men even disvirgin the woman then move on to another

This is not a valid point my friend, stay on your own if you don't want sex in a relationship, you don't want to give him sex but you will ask him for money

Debbe:
I dONT KNOW WHY MEN ARE LIke this

Are you a virgin ?
If you're not a virgin and you told him no sex, it means you are a heartless somebody

takimsipho:
Guy wetin be your own sef. Why na to defend women be the matter wey you carry for head. Abi you be white knight? If you live your life by women's standards then be careful. Nobody is a saint or angel

I am not simply for defending women as you chose to see it. But instead for standing up for commonsense
aka wisdom, something majority of you are strangers to.

4ckyou:
oh really, I made her understand that am a sexual man from the beginning, she should have told me about her age but no she rather lie about it from the start.
a relationship that begins with a lie what do you expect?

If the lie is really really you are wrought about why didn't you simply end it at that? Why the statement about a 38-year old woman has no right to have standards and desires?

The lack of wisdom among so-called Nigerian men is severely alarming!

This one the OP is being bashed left, right and centre, I thought she'd be you boys' dream girl? A non-olosho, non-ashawo?

1. A girl decides not to sleep with men before marriage - a problem to the "logical" and "intelligent" gender.

2. A girl decides to have sex with men before marriage - a problem to the "logical" and "intelligent" gender.

Can you "logical" fellows decide what you want? Do you want;
A. Girls who open legs, or
B. Girls who don't?

Your response concerning the matter will be highly appreciated.

Go back to your first guy, that where you belong