Forthepeople21:
This is some backwards azz, archaic thinking. If I were a man, I would run from a leech female like you. Marriage and a relationship are partnerships. You help each other with whatever needs it at any given time. The responsibility shouldn’t be solely on one person when there are two adults.
Go back to your daddy for that shxt. If I were a men, these Nigerian leech females wouldn’t get one second of my attention.

Friend22:


Oga.
Oga!!
Oga!!!
I am a man.
I have beard.
And my father never split bills with my mum.
My mum only comes in to help in matters of food and sometimes our clothing but not this 50/50 nonsense modern day emasculated men preach.

Don't get me wrong,if a lady sees her husband is not able to meet up with certain essentials despite his best efforts she can come in and shore up that vacuum not that you now make it a responsibility on her.
You will turn her to something else by doing that. And when she starts splitting bills with you believe me , your respect and awe goes down the drain.

Women naturally look up to men who have something they don't possesses- power,money, knowledge and influence.

And one of it is the ability to provide.
I know its not easy under our current economic realities, but the best way to do it is tell our wives(though I am not married,but hopefully soon) to focus on the needs not wants...
Except you are married to a thoughtless money grubber she should understand how the country is.

A country where I heard kilogram of gas now sells at almost if not #700.

Know this man,when you share that(responsibility) with her you lose her gradually.
Women know this but they won't say it

They are not designed to hustle like men; theirs is to tender and raise children and provide psychological, mental and spiritual support for their husbands.

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Toks2008:


I don't need their type.

I am the type who can invest on my woman so that she will start contributing. It needs not be 50|50

Iyaebe:
The first age bracket.

advanceDNA:


No Nigerian man want 50/50...that I can assure u...men are too proud for that as long as they can afford it...
Nigerian men just like women to step in without being told And not having the mentality that your money is yours alone, but his money is for both of you...

The average Nigerian woman just wants to take, take, take immediately the relationship starts....are u Nigerian government...

Iyaebe:
The first age bracket.

Toks2008:

Yen yen yen yen. Nah person wey una go kill still enjoy his wealth with another man una dey find.

Even in great countries with good economy, there is a sharing formula between couples howbeit naija with crazy economy.

Toks2008:

Yen yen yen yen. Nah person wey una go kill still enjoy his wealth with another man una dey find.

Even in great countries with good economy, there is a sharing formula between couples howbeit naija with crazy economy.

Ruby458:


God bless you for this. You have said it all.

Ruby458:


You want a marriage where there is a sharing formula, all good and fine if that's what works for you.

I have a different mindset and belief, and it doesn't make me a bad woman. Why do you have issues with it? So a man providing for his family means he will die early?
Most men take pride in providing for their families as much as they can, it is a God-given responsibility, and they do it without complaining.

Toks2008:


Ofcourse your choice cos it's not you that do the providing. Let the man choose what he wants.

If he wants you to contribute he will tell you and assist you set up a business or give you the chance to go look for a job.

See times have changed, country is hard so if you are still having this leechy mindset I wish you luck.

What am I even saying... I dare you to travel out of naija and still have this mindset if you will not remain single for life.

It is in naija that this mindset stays.

Ruby458:


My hubby will have no issues whatsoever providing for his family, and I will appreciate him for that. It does not matter what happens in other countries, even if I relocate to another country, or even marry oyibo, he will derive joy in providing for me and our children

TheOnlyUyai:


Is Pansophist one of them?

TheOnlyUyai:


Who told you Pansophist is married? He's not. Better shoot your shot. Na my person. And he's a traditional man to the core. Just the way you like them.

TheOnlyUyai:


You're right. But the thing is, most of them don't comment here like all these Romancelanders small boys. Most are married too. Na Acidosis I been wan corner, but e leave me go marry. There's God sha. As Franchasng don tell me say him don marry, na to look Pansophist side now maybe him go fit consider me. Another one wey I dey look now na Cannicus. But, that one too like woman. Tufiakwa.

TheOnlyUyai:


That one is a no go area. Just avoid him like a plague or else you will regret it.

Cannicus is a good dish too and has money ehn. But, the way he loves women annoys me so much.
When I have his time, I will tame him personally. Pansophist is a good one too, rich, young and handsome. But, his problem is that he's too stubborn. But, when I have his time, him go hear am.

franchasng:
Another thing ladies must take note of is this, as guys age and encounter life challenges, they become better and better as they understand life more.


Maybe who I was some 8 years ago would have made u put rat poison for my food if we had dated then

Iyaebe:
There's nothing like a stubborn man babe abi you no sabi why some women ties wrapper to the right? lol The strongest and most stubborn man to ever liveth was tamed by a woman,a true woman.

pansophist:


Yes oh. I don suffer for this life. When I write a lot here, it all stems from a dark place of experience, agony, and the inner strength that led me out of my predicament, and somehow, makes a man better. DIfficulties strengthens a man, and that is the exact meaning of ''to be a man is not a day's job''.

pansophist:


How you go take tame am exactly? Minus sex (your trump card, and only card) and manipulations, how exactly would you tame a man? you think say na ever man send sex? Or you look me pansophist finish as someone wey woman fit tame? me that eat and dine with the gods one on one? No de overestimate yourself abeg. To let a man pursue you, just be good. Taming only work for mumu men, men wey no get sense. Men wey never swallow big time, not to talk of men wey de produce the swallow itself

If you go get a real man, trying to tame him is counterproductive. Be a virtuous woman, and men will come naturally. All the singles wey full outside, you think say them no sabi tame? How many e work for? Me wey de read human being like book, na him you wan tame. De calm down abeg. And I will tell you something. Men have a particular lense they see women from, and women will never be able to see themselves through that lense. Hence some women do so much for a guy, but keep wondering why he no wan settle. It goes both ways as well, women have their own lense.

So a new superpower you should try to have is to develop the ability to see yourself from the perspective of men, and of course, every group of people (e.g your parents, friends, employers, enemies etc). Oya come tame me, sha carry money come sha. The only thing that can tame me is money. I am waiting

Iyaebe:
Lol who am I to tame a stubborn married man like you? well, uyai is waiting for you stop proving stubborn. I talk am say you stingy,see you asking me to bring money shishi you no go see.

pansophist:


Na only stingy you know? I am also greedy, parsimonious, and penny-pinching. Yuu want to reap where you did not sow, oya come and reap

Iyaebe:
I keep reading and hearing your last statement from most successful Nigerian men but life most times doesn't play by that rule,a woman or man as the case may be must not be part of your difficult times to pass your judgement and if that rule is strictly followed then all African/Nigerian men should marry their mum because in the real sense of it she's the only one that deserves that space.

pansophist:


Good, so if you want a man at his best, are you at your best as well? Or is entitlement now a virtue? Because all I hear is what you want, not what you are giving. Life is give and take my sister

Iyaebe:
Well I agree with this but most times men really don't appreciate and value good women,that's the harsh reality. Try and cut down on your stinginess, don't let the westernized life takes it's toll on you,we are Africans and African men are structured to be generous and good providers.

pansophist:



And African women are?

As usual, keep telling me what I have to do, not what you have to do.

Iyaebe:
Uyai said you are not married, is that true? you once subtly talked about been a married man but she said you are disguising.

Toks2008:
if I'm your husband, I will rather invest for you so that you can start making money and start making contributions towards the home-front.

It needs not be 50/50 but you must contribute.


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TheOnlyUyai:


You're right. But the thing is, most of them don't comment here like all these Romancelanders small boys. Most are married too. Na Acidosis I been wan corner, but e leave me go marry. There's God sha. As Franchasng don tell me say him don marry, na to look Pansophist side now maybe him go fit consider me. Another one wey I dey look now na Cannicus. But, that one too like woman. Tufiakwa.

pansophist:


You've heard from the horse's mouth that I am married, you still de wonder wetin another person talk?