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Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by HBB1(m): 5:31pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
danny56: Is that what Paul said about Marriage? You people just pull sentiments out of your 'where-the-sun-don't-shine' and run with it. Is Marriage for everyone? No! Will everyone get married? No! 2 Likes |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by tuoyoojo(m): 5:32pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
In a society like ours there is "pressure" to get married once you have attended a certain age or a financial standing. As someone who is married for a couple of years, I can share some experience with us based on what I have passed thru Marriage is not for everyone. So like what most people above me have stated know what works for you. Just like we have some unmarried unhappy people so we have some single unhappy people. Mang people who are enjoying their marriages are not heard of on social media. Na the one when them pour acid for each other body you go hear for news. The happy ones usually have keep a low profile As a married person, I sometimes miss the "freedom" in being single, freedom in ability to take decisions without consulting anyone, being able to do what I want when I want...but in the same breath....nothing beats companionship that you get from a couples who love them All these you can get outside Marriage but as a woman would you be willing to stick to a partner and dedicate 20, 30 or 40 years of your life just like that without something to fall back on. Granted Marriage does not give any "assurances" of a life lived happily every after but its sure a good way to hope to achieve one Furthermore you could have kids outside wedlock and still raise them but is that the best. Because you can use ur legs to control a steering wheel of a car does that make It cool But once again it boiling down to individuals.....to be continued 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Nobody: 5:32pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
rickyrex: 1. Yes....neither can you get it all being married... There are pros to married life and there are also pros to singlehood, you just have to find out what works for you and go with it... Marriage is not for everybody and marriage will not bring out the best in everybody... Some marriages will make a person feel like he/she is in bondage, some will turn others to beast, others will make you do despecable things you never thought you'd ever do....but marriage to the right person will make hell feel like heaven.... You just have to find the right person ((that is if you're interested in getting married)), but until you find that special one, stay single and don't allow desperation to make you enter wetin you go regret later.... 2. Yes we have a culture, I agree, but even at homes, do all married couple display "the public show of love" you spoke about?? 2 Likes |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by tuoyoojo(m): 5:32pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
....Marriage to a person who loves you the way you love them...especially when the love is healthy could bring a great sense of satisfaction and accomplishment which feels secure under the cover of Marriage When kids comes into the mix, marriage is pretty stressful. Nothing is stressful as being an individual others depend on. Despite the struggles, there is a satisfaction that you can only get from Marriage when u see that you effort on ur kids is yielding the desired results If you are marrying because of sex, bros just stay single responsibility may likely push that to the back burner....not as though married people do not have sex often but a time would come were sex would not be a big deal as it is to you now In summary, if Marriage works for you, pray to find to find a good person. If it doesn't work for you, cruise you single hood. Do not say castigating someone's else's decision I'm other to validate ur own 4 Likes |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by seedsower(m): 5:34pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Mercychen: The comparison is always between a bad marriage and singleness, maka why? 3 Likes
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Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Toks2008(m): 5:36pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Companionship. Very very vital |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by mrkings84(m): 5:37pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Loxleyy: 3. As a man you start paying bills for two |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Chukwudi4naija(m): 5:38pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
CountVersailles:Kindly explain what is wrong with the sentence. 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Mariangeles(f): 5:38pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by danny56: 5:39pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
HBB1: Marriage is a MYSTERY. Don't think you understand it until you are sure you know. I don't argue! Just live by what you know. |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by HBB1(m): 5:41pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
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Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by luuvv: 5:42pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
You will understand later in life Mercychen: |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Toks2008(m): 5:42pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Mariangeles: You mean I will have lots of it. Abi you don't know what polygamy means. 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by edunaragold(f): 5:42pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
No marry stay there ,when u begin sending another woman pikin message ,and she worns u never to send her child again ,and u feel bad,that's when u will discover there is joy in marriage 3 Likes |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by dchem(m): 5:43pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
You have not married before and therefore not really in a position to speak about the specialty of marriage. Allow the married or divorced ones answer. All you are saying are either what you perceive, heard or watched, and not what you experienced. Marriage for me is special as it gives me a sense of purpose. Also when I am down I have someone I can confide in and she listens to me. Marriage is special for those of us who are not selfish. Truly its not a compulsory affair as not everyone can stay married. Like everything in life marriage also has its challenges but that does not in anyway invalidate its specialty. The major thing Op should be concerned about is to marry for the right reasons. Then it becomes special. My first requirement for marriage is marry him or her if she possess something no other person can give you. Sex, food, beauty can be gotten from so many a place but you see "peace, purpose, companionship etc. They are rare. Once you marry for the right reason and also understand what marriage truly is I am sure it will remain special for ever. I have been married for 5 years now with 2 kids and truly I would marry my wife over and over again. Mercychen: 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by luuvv: 5:44pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
This lady wey I marry na big achievement for me. I go through a lot of stress without her. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Amos1423(m): 5:44pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Thunder fire your head there! You go come count children wey dem dey born for Nigeria as blessings when you dey struggle on how much salary? It's no blessing but you bringing another soul to this traphole called Nigeria. Weting dey do Nigerians sef abeg! 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Godszilla: 5:45pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
simple answer - nothing. society basically hype most thing. i would say the only thing it gives you is focus or a purpose. guess thats why they say your are responsible. Truth is there is nothing really. when you are are child you dream of been an adult now that you are an adult whats special about it? Dainy1: 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Mariangeles(f): 5:45pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Toks2008: Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehe There's no true companionship in polygamy. |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by wamide042(m): 5:45pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
My brother nothing is special about getting Married oo, just wait till your friends begins to tell you how their children came home to visit them during holidays or don’t you think you get older everyday and a time will come when you can no longer do the basic things you do now, you will need people around you.. or don’t you want to see your children’s children?? |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by tarboshi(m): 5:46pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
DON'T SEEK MARRIAGE ADVICE IN NAIRALAND BEACUSE GREATER PERCENTAGE OF THE USERS HERE ARE INEXPERIENCED SINGLE YOUTH. By the way, if you want to live longer, please marry (science said that) 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Mariangeles(f): 5:48pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
[s] Amos1423:[/s] You are a suffering soul. You're not happy. Free yourself from all negativity so that you can be happy. 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Miarose: 5:49pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
She may not be as wretched as you are. Frustration is eating up your soul. Chill out bros. Love and light.. Amos1423: 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by PhilipReigns(m): 5:51pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Mercychen:Hahahaha hahahaha Lwkmd. Everything you said is true. I am a married man and I must tell u quickly that what u described is a family that's a little comfortable and has some money to sort things. If not that am busy I would have created time to discribe a typical Nigerian home with little or no finance, it's even worse for those in this category. That's why till today I admired the igbos so much, although most Igbo men marry late, when they do, they make sure there's enough money to carter for the family, and by extension, his relations and his wife's relations. All these things u mention, whether u want to believe it or not, can be made easier with money, u agree with me right? You can get a house help, but is it not family that are well to do that can afford a maid? You can get a driver? same thing apply as above. Conclusively, marriage is sweet, sweeter and sweetest when there's money. Let me emphasis that it's usually women that pushes men into marriage, so when talking about stress for a woman whose Lifetime dream has been accomplished, multiple the stress for the man by cube root of ten. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Grandmeister(m): 5:52pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
wordapostle:Number 2 is the main reason for ME. Not for food or sex or even kids..Just for a lifelong companion....but recent experience(s) is beginning to shift my ideals. 1 Like |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Nobody: 5:52pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
dchem: I never said it's bad to get married. Don't you guys understand the difference between "marriage is bad" and "nothing special about marriage"? Please, I'm not discouraging anyone from getting married neither am I consoling the singles. All I'm saying is, married people are not better than unmarried people. Nothing special.! 2 Likes |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by myked(m): 5:54pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
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Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Asour: 5:54pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Hathor5: Obviously some would have great experiences in life's endeavours like marriage. Moreso, it is that which gives us much hassle that makes us the happier. Jobs, family, Business, Professions. Why? Because we would have avoided the hassle if we didn't find it beneficial/important. It's arguable but I don't really think anyone can truly assess whether another's marriage is happy. Marriage is not perceptible vicariously. Only the parties know best. Marriage is great, otherwise God would not have instituted it. However any venture that involves sharing concensus, views, permissions & responsibilities with other parties (a spouse) can soon become a hassle. Since it creates friction of 'another' interfering in your 'space'. Corinthians 7:28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 3 Likes |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Truvelisback(m): 5:54pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Sex and bearing of children are the major reasons people get married. |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by rickyrex(m): 5:55pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
Favfables1:down to the last point show of love depend on how it works for a couple. The romantic has a different ways of doing it. Not everyone likes this regular pre-intimacy. Learn to do things that turn your spouse on |
Re: What's So Special About Getting Married? by Limassol(m): 5:56pm On Nov 12, 2021 |
rickyrex: Say no more |
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