Esji80:
1. Collect her phone

2. Gather and beat the demon out of her with a very strong Koboko...Dorina

3. Pray and pray for her

4. Take her/admit her into an Islamic School that is SINGLE... females school only

5. Watch who are her friends and repeat step 2 whenever she misbehave and 3 everyday

Is everything ok with you Sir?

Lokojatoofar:
Pose as a lover, ask for her nudes and threaten to blackmail her
Maybe it will reset her brain

What if she becomes depresed and even commit suicide thereafter

If she has ears, let her hear this:

Such chats can lead to..
*early sex,
*paying less attention to her studies
*contract STI,
*Widen her 'abuna'

TundeWX:
Its just a phase,the latter teen stages where rebellion and peer group pressure takes the centre stage in ones fight for individuality....she'll grow out of it eventually,just let her be because the more opposition you create,the greater the rebellious attitude,just talk to her in an even but stern tone about her choice of friends.

Lol she’ll grow out of what?

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

Your sister has gone the way of the world. It's a normal dangerous thing in this generation. Show her more love, make her understand that her future is more important than the lies those guys are telling her on social media. The truth is, home is already boring to her and she is trying to explore. It is your job to channel it in a positive productive direction. For my youngest sister, she learnt musical instruments, tailoring, gele tying and make-up. Now she has multiple skills and she makes her daily while just in SS3. Isn't that wonderful??

CivilzedTyger:
Do u know u are a big fool? Not a small one. So u now as a Christian if ur sister or daughter is out there sharing nudes like an indecent star you'll applaud her and buy her more data cos you're the liberals right,? No wonder majority of online nudists are Christians.

Stop acting or reacting with emotion... Read between the lines... I am a Christian but can't you see that person you quoted is try so hard to get attention to himself the wrong way..

Na unah dey make all this tribal bigot dem feel important and continue in them way.. Read and ignore and see them fade away when no one gives them attention..

The guy just succeeded in getting what he wanted from you and that to make you feel pained by his reckless statement..

Next time read and ignore. It doesn't add nor take anything away from you.. Now you just Generalized something you can't prove just to hit back at him..

Peace

Kobojunkie:
When you say indecent chat, can you explain please? Do you mean like chatting with Nairalanders in romance section or what?

Ahn ahn

U c that tin called fone?
I swear it can corrupt a child faster than u can imagine!

The first mistake was getting her a phone that browses

I'm not a parent but I've met girls who were above 17 years n didn't own a fone... They only used their mums fone to chat n call

This topic attracted my attention coz recently a girl in ss1 got my number from her eld bro n gave it to another to call me... My ppl... The way she spoke to me I tot it was one of the girls I knew in the uni... I was just really glad I didn't say anything sensitive but kept on trying to detect d voice... Blv me ss1 one girl nearly burst my head with sweet words.... I was really glad I didn't fall for it all
These children dis days ehn... Mehn in the society no dei help them... Once dey c brezz they start disturbing them...

As I no b parent I no fit tell una weitin to do... But if na my house!
Only look wei I go look her she go don do her chores finish greet everybody sef
Sometimes u guys pamper dis children too gadamn much

Now this kind girl if I too change am for her... She go just run go stay man house next tin belle!

TundeWX:
Its just a phase,the latter teen stages where rebellion and peer group pressure takes the centre stage in ones fight for individuality....she'll grow out of it eventually,just let her be because the more opposition you create,the greater the rebellious attitude,just talk to her in an even but stern tone about her choice of friends.

Story... na its a phase ,its a phase na wetin turn Tina to ashana

Praktikals:
Yes, but the parents will also need to talk to the child and beat sense into her if need be

For how long will be a child?? Will still beat him or her if she or he continues being wayward at 30?? It's only the grace of God that make person live a decent life no be by beating.

Iamvetlander:




Is everything ok with you Sir?

No Sir,

How many people are ok in Nigeria?

Solsix:
Isllam and force are like 5 and 6. You don't force a way of life on an individual, you ask God to help the individual make the best of choice.

obviously your a reached hypocrite.
Na shame you no get that's why you had to take this into religion issues.
Shame of hypocracy na him you no get.
So no sensible Christian parents would do what her parent did.
Dull people every were..

What's your definition of indecent chats?

Call me old school but u see getting a boy or gal a phone at such young age will cause more harm than good. Instead of getting dem a phone, enroll them in a computer class to learn things. I started using phone in my year 2. Not like my parents can't afford it but u see this generation forming woke up and down, dem need strict rules. Imagine she refused to assist in cooking and greeting her parents and una dey look her. Person una go beat better beating. Stop her from going out, she won't eat if she don't assist. Na me fit ur sister

Give her lectures on teenage pregnancies and what she stands to lose from getting pregnant against what she stands to gain from keeping her legs closed until she is old enough.

She's at the age where "her bodi dey sweet her" and there are so many guys who are ready to take advantage of her being naive and curious about sex. It's your duty as an elder brother to bond with her, build trust and have no judgemental discussions with her about teenage living.

If you insist on using a hard hand to follow her up you might be giving her the effrontery to devise more cunning tactics to outsmart you all, land herself in a pregnancy drama which is where this kind of situation always ends and then her eyes will be cleared.

Esji80:


No Sir,

How many people are ok in Nigeria?

Savage

Xscape1993:
She needs to know more about life. This life is too deep for her.

Best advice.

RAFFIZY:
17years old

That's the age of exploration. At that age they are very inquisitive. You don't handle them with force. You should let her know the difference between good and bad , not with force. But to do that, your own life must be in order, worth emulating

She refused to greet her parents cos her phone was siezes and you said you guys were brought up well Lol..... I guess your parent self day fear her..... As I talk say I get chili and even married...there are still some shit I dare not donto my parents....them know say I day drink and even atimes perceive it in my mouth....but I dare not drink in their presence....no be say them go beat me ..but I still fear and respect them.... Your parents needs to see a councillor.... A child way. Born ...train for school no greet me We no fit stay the same house anyway .... Make I zip my mouth for here.... Good luck with your sister

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

It is far difficult to train a female than a male.. female can misbehave throughout the rest of their life..but male at a certain age they come to realize that they need to behave responsibly

TundeWX:
Its just a phase,the latter teen stages where rebellion and peer group pressure takes the centre stage in ones fight for individuality....she'll grow out of it eventually,just let her be because the more opposition you create,the greater the rebellious attitude,just talk to her in an even but stern tone about her choice of friends.

Not in the present generation, she will get lost in it all and irredemable acts may have been committed. Nija don change, there are crazy and unmoralistic individuals out there. Its best to curb it, before it becomes an uncurable sore

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

Not gonna comment on your sis but you.

Why did you say she refused to help your mum cook?
What happened to your hands or are you forbidden to cook?
Your mum is still entering kitchen when she has yu and your sis.

Zero upbringing.

Unless she insist and on some occasions, she has no business in the kitchen whatsoever.

I'm sure your daddy don't know where the kitchen is too?

Give her back her phone(before one guy buys one for her) but caution her about the dangers and harm her conduct can cause her. Speak to her like an adult which she will very soon become.

Beebah2000:
Na because she be girl na.
If na boy them no go even bother sef.
Na wa ooo

Eggzactly

She should be called and advised by parents and her elderly ones she respect. She should be made to know the dangers of what she's involving herself, also make her understand that they're lot of fake people on social media, and whatever decision she made today she will live with in the future. After that hand the phone back to her, if she persist other sanctions should be adopted.
Finally always pray for her

Get a female like her to advise her. There must be someone that means so much to her. Get the person to talk to her

Beebah2000:
Na because she be girl na.
If na boy them no go even bother sef.
Na wa ooo

Because girls are more vulnerable than boys. A girl of 15 can be lodge even in the Hilton hotel. Who dash a boy of 20? The thing is that when they try to help you, you take it personal.

My step sister said she is a big girl, we left her alone. Today she's traveling from state to state apologizing to us.

Totoo dey scratch her



Give me her
I got the cure

One night with me and every thing will be ok

She refused to greet your parents, under whose roof she lives, because her phone was seized, for good reasons? What's next? She might one day slap your mum or dad.....
Let your parents giving her some beating to reset her brain, for being rude...... Then you can talk to her and advice her.
Maybe the small breast on her chest, is making her feel like a woman.

My younger sister borrowed my spare memory card to use in her android phone.After a while,we quarreled and she returned it back to me.I have another old android phone that I normally put my Sim card to browse when my main android battery drains.So I slot the memory card inside,As I was going through my old files in the spare memory card I was seeing porn photos of couples fingerings and having sex.I come dey ask myself say"when last I download porn for my phone"I don't have porn videos and pix on my phone.Na there I go to memory card I come see say na she download am.And this my sister Sabi form holy Mary.

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

You didn't tell us how old she is.
However, it's an error and poor parenting for one to buy a browsing phone for an under age without setting the Parental control on the phone.
I think you guys that bought her the phone are the major cause.

Advice her
Take away the phone from her

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