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Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by penta(m): 10:09am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Solsix: Even the bible says, spare the roll and spoil the child.. I hope you it. So don't bring being forceful here. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by jaxxy(m): 10:09am On Nov 13, 2021 |
TundeWX: That little thing u call phase can make or break her. Some go through it and remain safe and some go through same thing and encounter the bad and even worst where they are lost completely. U have to guide a child through all the phases they go through or u leave them at the mercy of whoever they meet or learn from. U can’t stop them completely bt u can definitely guide them and it is ur duty as a parent or guardian. RAFFIZY: U have to play a tough love game with her. U must correct and guide her bt also give her certain level of space to learn for herself while giving her advice she needs. There is nothing wrong in punishing her when necessary and temporary seizing her Fone so she doesn’t get so addicted to it. Even adults get their Fones seized when it becomes a major issue. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by juman(m): 10:12am On Nov 13, 2021 |
She is too inexperienced for such act. She can be killed if not careful. Life is dangerous. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Starzo: 10:14am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Bluewitch:Yes I'm sure Christians mutilate females and marry them off before 12 Just know this, any freedom women enjoy in any society worldwide coincided with the emergence/spread of Christianity in same societies. If not for the freedom Christian nation gave women, una for the live like those inside Afghanistan and other Muslim dominated countries. And dem for dey use una as virgin sacrifice to please the gods in other to avoid 'famine' and 'guarantee victory' for inter tribal wars for the African traditionalists dominated ones. You guys should be grateful to Christianity. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Limassol(m): 10:14am On Nov 13, 2021 |
NoToPile: You have no idea,do you? The more hostility and agression shown to her the more she rebel... Seizing that phone only solve the problem temporarily. Many have been there, and if anything Is learned is that, phases like this are transitory and not a really a big deal if treated with empathy, understanding and diplomacy. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Eriokanmi: 10:14am On Nov 13, 2021 |
I've seized my daughter's phone several times too. She wasn't feeling good at all. On one occasion I seized it while she was chatting with her friends on WhatsApp. All I saw was gists, gists and gifts with her study group and female friends. I saw some messages sent by boys too, especially romantic words. Some would even type messages which could fill up a fullscap sheet but my daughter didn't respond to any of these , more than the "hi" after bois typed "hello". Since then, I had stopped seizing her phone but I do monitor her chats by sitting close to her and asking her to show me what she's doing with her phone. A good girl will be a good girl and a wayward one too will go that route. But as parents, we can draw them back by talking to and monitoring them. Many might not understand the consequences until they're told. Teenage addiction and peer pressure are normal and they'd pass the stage but the onus is on us to not allow them to pass the stage all alone without grooming, monitoring and guiding them and ensuring they don't fall down along that path. We were once there too. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Limassol(m): 10:16am On Nov 13, 2021 |
greenie77: Oil dey your head.. ![]() |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by TundeWX: 10:16am On Nov 13, 2021 |
jaxxy: Thats where the parenting up until that point comes in...the first test to see if you did a good job as a parent |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by ProphetJeroboam: 10:17am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Bro she’s at that stage. I still wouldn’t advise you to give up on her but it’s a slippery slope. Either she finds her way back or she convinces herself that she’s too far gone until her lifestyle ends her. Most of us found her way back and now we love our parents and want them to have a good life. When girls start puberty and their bodies starts changing, boys swarm like hawks , dishing out false compliments and promises, the same girls watch see what their female peers are into , it’s not easy I tell you but do your best to guide her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by elhafeez(m): 10:17am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Solsix: You just be an idiot. Na only Islam you see for the topic. Are Christians kids not rebellious. Hater. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by TundeWX: 10:18am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Drakkernoir: True in this present clime...but too much pressure and you push the child away into the hands of immorality 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Rilwayne001: 10:19am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Solsix: He said the bitter truth, but obviously your childish cannot comprehend. Smh |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by KillIgbohoN0W: 10:22am On Nov 13, 2021 |
RAFFIZY: Problem identification. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by jaxxy(m): 10:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
TundeWX: So the parenting stops after her ssce? When she was a toddler she faced different challenges from when shes at 15 and still needs ur impute and guidance probably even more. Nothing she learnt at 11 will be enough to get her through the challenges at 15/16. They are different sets of issues and most she hasn’t encountered b4. After 18/20 then she’s mature to navigate her way by herself if u did a good job. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Sleekfingers: 10:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
RAFFIZY: If your sister na boy....una go treat him like that? |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by cayorday89(m): 10:24am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Solsix:Your first paragraph is a no no, I am not a Muslim and any Christian, traditionalist, Hindu, Buddhist or any other form of religion will still act same way. Concerning your last paragraph, I kinda agree with you, there is no point seizing her phone, they should only try help her to balance things, speak to her and let her see reasons why certain things are not needed and possible consequences which will come naturally as a result of whatever good or bad decisions she makes. Preventing her from engaging at all also has it consequences, they should make her their friends, not seeing her as a daughter and also try to engage her friends and speak to them generally, at this stage of her life she needs them and also need her friends because she will need to go with the flows of her generation whether good or bad, that is when she can blend and take bold steps later in life. Mistake most parents make is they realize their own mistakes and force things on their teenage children who by then needs a certain level of freedom which they are not granted. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Germi9: 10:24am On Nov 13, 2021 |
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Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by TundeWX: 10:25am On Nov 13, 2021 |
jaxxy: I never said parenting stops after her ssce, I said "up until that point" |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by authority2006(m): 10:25am On Nov 13, 2021 |
TundeWX: Let her be as how? Like giving her back the phone to continue? |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by KillIgbohoN0W: 10:26am On Nov 13, 2021 |
[s] CivilzedTyger:[/s] The greatest Nigerian IndecentStar olosho of all time is Ajibola Elizabeth AKA Mummy Igbagbo and she is a devout Muslim. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by brodalikeme(m): 10:26am On Nov 13, 2021 |
This describe one babe I get that year called Eniola. I liked her though, she was adventurous and full of lies. Back to your sister, you guys need to use love and win her back. She’s been offered an illusion that is pulling her away. Let someone gain and trust and open her up. However, let the phone stay with your parents. What rubbish, small girl will be chatting boldly with guys outside and forming vex with the parents.she need have her brain reset |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by authority2006(m): 10:28am On Nov 13, 2021 |
xpressionx: My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone You wanted the op to spell it out for you or you wanted to be what you are? Learn to comprehend |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Freelane33(m): 10:29am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Olagbara , she go get sense after she don abort like ten times ![]() |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by CivilzedTyger(m): 10:30am On Nov 13, 2021 |
KillIgbohoN0W:Small small dey lie ogah. How Elizabeth take be Muslim name? The girl is a church going Christian, I follow her on insta. Every Sunday she dey snap with her Church outfits. Okay let's play a game. Mention a Muslim porn star's name and I'll reply with that of a Christian, let's see who run out of names first ![]() |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Omoluabi16(m): 10:30am On Nov 13, 2021 |
She's at THAT stage of her life where she thinks she has it all figured out. She needs to be properly and carefully guided. You can't beat her, or leave her to her fate. Moreover, it's quite extreme refusing to greet your parents or help with chores. What a shame. Seizing her phone was the right step. When I start raising children, I would totally control their social media until they're 18, or get their admission. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by TundeWX: 10:31am On Nov 13, 2021 |
authority2006: Seizing her phone will solve nothing if she has full access to her friends,thats why I emphasised on curbing surrounding friends |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by authority2006(m): 10:32am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Solsix: Just because Op mentioned being Muslims, something just triggered in your brain to attack Islam as usual. I don't blame you, it was the opportunity you were waiting for. If your female sibling is engaging in what Op meant by "indecent", you and your parents can encourage her for all we care. Just don't bring your stupidity here. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by CivilzedTyger(m): 10:33am On Nov 13, 2021 |
big7:I actually liked ur post cos you're right. I'm too emotional and I've got to work on that. Peace $ign |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by Drakkernoir: 10:33am On Nov 13, 2021 |
TundeWX: And too little pressure and enough freedom..you push the child into the waiting hands of wolves, pedophiles, drug users, destiny spoilers without the necessary tools to adapt. The rate of immorality in this present generation is really a pandemic. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by HonestFriend: 10:33am On Nov 13, 2021 |
CivilzedTyger: Keep kwayet... U talk like a child.. So now what is d difference between you and the person you quoted? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by bizzibodi(m): 10:35am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Let him buy her antikpekus itching cream. |
Re: My Sister Has Gone Out Of Control by authority2006(m): 10:35am On Nov 13, 2021 |
NoToPile: Thanks jare |
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