It's a dicey situation. If you don't tell your brother now and he finds out later in future, he might feel betrayed and the kind of hatred he would have towards you might be intense. Same with the girl. They both deserve to know cos this is a lifetime decision they are about making. Your parents might be disappointed in you in future for not speaking up if they find out too. Save everyone that trouble by maturedly putting it across.

You see this cycle of fornication, e go reach all of us las las.

The person you're using as side chic or friends with benefits, na your brother or cousin or best friend go marry am.

The person that is your sugar daddy, side nigga or friends with benefits, na that old man fit be your future DIL, that side nigga fit marry your sister or that friends with benefits fit be your best friend hubby.

Until we shun fornication, na so all of us go dey recycle nonsense.

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Lets say i let em be,,,but as a lady would you feel comfortable in this kinda situation?...

Lemme assume that the "friends with benefits" means you guys were having sex...
Now lemme paint you a picture...
If after getting married to a woman, you later discover that she was sleeping with your brother and neither parties informed you, how will you feel??

Yes it may have been in the past, but the fact that that, a family member is included in that past complicates things...

Well it's your choice whether or not to tell him...

But if I were your brother, I'd definitely want to know...

I can't get married to anyone my brother has had a thing with...NEVER!!! My family sef no go kuku allow am

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Na her welfare i care about nothing more....

Just her welfare?? How about your brothers welfare, doesn't that matter to you?

Tell your bros o.. I repeat.. Tell your bros o..
Alpha.. Tell your bros o...

Abort mission.. Leave them.. If ur bros wise,by now he suppose don code

You've date her before bro it's healthy you let your brother know about it now than later then when your brother decided to marry her still stay away from both of dem don't ever visit they're home if you want to see your brother let it be your family house or your brother coming to your place without his wife Las Las delete every contact with that vigina person make we no come read another Tory I no fit settle matter oo

Something like this almost happen to my senior bro I cought the girl my s man about to marry on bed with an step brother pant down oo I see both of them unclothedness oo and they still deny but as a nigga way I be I make sure say person way give me space inside same womb doesn't marry that vigina farm tool


Fear those people they can deny anything

Bro stay safe

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I met this beautiful damsel around 2012,we got admission into same institution same year....

We dated from 2012-2016,,,,

During service we parted ways and met again 2018 but ended up becoming friends with benefits....

By 2019 distance(different states) kept us apart due to life plans.....

And we don't have each others contacts again

So i was chatting with my elder brother this morning and he told me about his fiancee, i asked for her picture... Lo and behold she was my ex and friend with benefits.....


Now there is no way she will know that we are related except on their wedding day coming up next year if i attend.....

I don't know whether to tell him or just let them be

Tell him

She don de knack your bros when una de but coded,, who told you she doesn't know his your bro.. Oboy leave females o, they like knacking siblings scatter...

With this i think you and your bro don't have that strong brotherly bond. See if it's my bro, i will tell him and leave him to decide. If he still chooses to continue I'd still be happy for them. In fact na me go dance pass on that wedding day

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I have been thinking of connecting with her but i remembered that she deactivated all her previous social media handles due to her job...

She is the understanding type but I can't say same with dat my bro.....

I fit tell am now make he just flare up...

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Wahala ..

And dem go do introduction by January..

Imagine the scenario.brother wife and ex lover in the same room

Dimex03:
With this i think you and your bro don't have that strong brotherly bond. See if it's my bro, i will tell him and leave him to decide. If he still chooses to continue I'd still be happy for them. In fact na me go dance pass on that wedding day

Because of backyard wey you go dey chop fah!

nijaomegacode:

But d fvcking can't pass away. No magician can return the glory of a non virgin who is not married to the man who disvirgind her. She's a curse to her children: born and unborn

says who?

nijaomegacode:

Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin. She's a curse to her children: born and unborn.

Jesus

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I met this beautiful damsel around 2012,we got admission into same institution same year....

We dated from 2012-2016,,,,

During service we parted ways and met again 2018 but ended up becoming friends with benefits....

By 2019 distance(different states) kept us apart due to life plans.....

And we don't have each others contacts again

So i was chatting with my elder brother this morning and he told me about his fiancee, i asked for her picture... Lo and behold she was my ex and friend with benefits.....


Now there is no way she will know that we are related except on their wedding day coming up next year if i attend.....

I don't know whether to tell him or just let them be

I am wondering why all this while she hasn't made the connection between both of you by your surnames.

Myzubby:
Let them marry
After the marriage it will be an interesting story for both of you .

Make sure you are the type of person your brother can trust with his wife otherwise if your brother becomes aware your past relationship with her he may feel insecure .

And hope your relationship with her was not romantic
Thank you

Aswearugaaad

You dey hear FWB and your still asking if the relationship was romantic? No, they were fụ̀cking platonically.

As for you, OP, you've done nothing wrong yet, but don't you think it would be a precarious situation when both of you are in the same room together? If you can handle yourself, which is doubtful, can she? Don't put yourself in a situation where you might end up fụ̀cking your brother's wife when they are married.

Actually, I can't think of any reason in the world why you wouldn't tell him.
You're thinking only about yourself by not telling him and that would be really selfish.

Do the right thing. Be a brother. Tell your brother.

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She is not the promiscuous type....

Do you suggest i find means of connecting with her so as to let her know who she is about getting married to?

Bro i just dey confused...

Bro,it all depends on you,since you know she's not promiscuous type,just let them be,and I think theirs no need of telling your brother about it because you might not like the outcome
My only fear is that if you will not be using advantage of knowing her before on her

If he is ur elder brother by blood..... Discourage him by telling ur parents that they've caught both of you together many times.
If it is a distance cousin.... Nothing spoil

Mistaken Identity issue...

One lady some time ago fell in love with me because I looked so much like a guy she fell in love with some time back.

I got to know in one of those random conversation couple have while cuddled up on the sofa.

In your case, you bestie saw you in your brother and wanted to taste the water.

The only issue here is that she might have deduced from the surnames and weighed the probability.

Which opens a whole new avenues for some potential senister motives from her.

Just be on the lookout, some things are like trophy to some ladies and this situation my friend might just be the case unfolding.

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I met this beautiful damsel around 2012,we got admission into same institution same year....

We dated from 2012-2016,,,,

During service we parted ways and met again 2018 but ended up becoming friends with benefits....

By 2019 distance(different states) kept us apart due to life plans.....

And we don't have each others contacts again

So i was chatting with my elder brother this morning and he told me about his fiancee, i asked for her picture... Lo and behold she was my ex and friend with benefits.....


Now there is no way she will know that we are related except on their wedding day coming up next year if i attend.....

I don't know whether to tell him or just let them be

Please delete this post and let them enjoy their lives.

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She is not the promiscuous type....

Do you suggest i find means of connecting with her so as to let her know who she is about getting married to?

Bro i just dey confused...

Why her. Why don’t you tell your own brother whom you owe something? You don’t owe that girl any explanations. What type of relationship so you even have in that your family that your cannot speak yo your brother?

Better tell your brother now and let him make his decision because if you keep quiet and he gets to find out later after marriage, hmmm he will never trust you again. That's how family problems starts..

Bola146:


Likewise this man doesn't know that he has already slept with what his sibling slept with!!!! How would you know when you don't know. Get the fact. What of some cases that she is pregnant?! Haba!

Sister, are you in this situation? It's only ladies that are arguing rhis. Will you let your sister marry a man you've had sex with without informing them of this nifty little detail?

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I have been thinking of connecting with her but i remembered that she deactivated all her previous social media handles due to her job...

She is the understanding type but I can't say same with dat my bro.....

I fit tell am now make he just flare up...

Pimine:

Aswearugaaad

You dey hear FWB and your still asking if the relationship was romantic? No, they were fụ̀cking platonically.

As for you, OP, you've done nothing wrong yet, but don't you think it would be a precarious situation when both of you are in the same room together? If you can handle yourself, which is doubtful, can she? Don't put yourself in a situation where you might end up fụ̀cking your brother's wife when they are married.

Actually, I can't think of any reason in the world why you wouldn't tell him.
You're thinking only about yourself by not telling him and that would be really selfish.

Do the right thing. Be a brother. Tell your brother.

Wa gbayi

Hamzaaaaaaaa:

Bro,it all depends on you,since you know she's not promiscuous type,just let them be,and I think theirs no need of telling your brother about it because you might not like the outcome
My only fear is that if you will not be using advantage of knowing her before on her

Person wey op dey yansh is telling you she is not the promiscuous type and Yu believe him!

Myzubby:
Let them marry
After the marriage it will be an interesting story for both of you .

Make sure you are the type of person your brother can trust with his wife otherwise if your brother becomes aware your past relationship with her he may feel insecure .

And hope your relationship with her was not romantic
Thank you

How can you ask members of the opposite sex that were together for years didn't have a romantic relationship? Even people that go to camp for weeks find love even though they may not marry. And Yes, it would be romantic.

Bola146:


Jesus

son of Mary

NevetsIbot:


But just be quiet about it. It’s been a long time since y’all had anything to do with eachother. She didn’t to anything bad by choosing to have sxx with you.. I mean, you both agreed to have mutual sxx.and that period is over.

Unless she has an history of hoeing that you know of. Leave them be.

Your turn don pass... no spoil another person garri with your sand

Truth be told, even if she has a bad history, she may be a changed person. Let's learn to let sleeping dogs lie.

CyberWolf:
Better tell your brother now and let him make his decision because if you keep quiet and he gets to find out later after marriage, hmmm he will never trust you again. That's how family problems starts..

Trust is small nah!
Na gbas gbos gbish
Uppercut
Tables,ladders and chairs
Hell in a cell
Cage fights
And so on

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Me sef never recover from my own shock....

So how i go take shock dem?

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Me and her no get any issue bro....

I just dey ask dis question make i no go do wetin go make her sad.....

Na her welfare i care about nothing more....

I weak.....

if this is the case,just try and connect with her and let her know so that she wont be shocked when she sees you at the wedding and again,assure her that there is no cause for alarm,it is a secret between you both....

And never have d intention of having anything to do with her again in d other room...