bummyla:
I understand your pain Sir! Am in it presently! You are lucky your wife cooks, my own hates to cook and when she cooks she serves me like a slave or a houseboy. Sometimes when I see my food I weep inside, sometimes I eat, sometimes, I ignore! Me and you are the same, I buy suya every night to avoid, trouble at home. Most times the eba is hot while the soup is full of ice, she will say use the hot eba to dissolve the ice soup or go and employ a house girl. The only difference is that mine is from Akwa Ibom, when she cooks she must add all the protein in large quantity.

So why are guys hyping marriage?
You get married and return to days when you receive orders and restrictions from your parents as a kid. You are scared to complain because you don't want "wahala". Na your superior you go marry?

Your wife consider dishing food for you as slavery So she serve you iced soup lwkmd. I swear I will rather divorce and stay single than allow some shit you married folks allow cos WTF!

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

did you marry a lady from a poor background


That is how they behave...they were raised like that

Mariangeles:
Your wife is acting based on the way she was raised.
When it comes to food, men adjust in the ways of their wives.
Besides, too much meat is not good for you and your wife is protecting from being overfed.

overfed Gini any man that do the work must do the eating infact, eating to your satisfaction well is a sign of good living

You're complaining as if she locked the kitchen and put the key inside her bra.... Oga no dey disturb us wen never marry abeg... If she serve u and u no dey OK, Waka enter the kitchen and serve yourself........ And as e dey finish, make sure say you dey drop money to replenish the foodstuff and protein o..... No be say wen e happen, u go come nairaland dey ask us how your wife dey use the money wen food dey quick finish

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Maybe she doesn't know how to tell you that you don't need too much of protein(red meat)

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Did you wife read economics as a course in University? Why I'm asking is because that's exactly what my wife also does. In her case, it is understandable, she read economics.

I have resorted to dishing my food myself. In short, the both of us had an understanding for me to be dishing my food myself.

Sijo01:
Op was a 21 years old law student less than 2months ago.

Now, he's a working class man, married with kids.

What an over night transformation

Mariangeles:


She's probably too stubborn

This is exactly the problem!

That's why teachability remains one of the major things I look out for in a woman. If she doesn't have a good reason for not serving him well, then I wonder why she isn't doing it.

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Hmmm ,I pray what is not enough will be more than enough someday ijn,,try to make sure after eating what she serves and not satisfied, ensure you
request for more food or meat as the case maybe,provided its still available in the pot ,if she keeps going back to give you more everyday,she will adjust to what will be enough for you each time she serves you and if she claims it has finished tell her to go and cook it as you are not satisfied yet.You can't be working hard to feed the family and not feeding well.
Above all,make sure you are working hard in the other room too o,by doing that ,she won't think twice to serve you more than enough, because most women know you need strength to do it and still have to recover to keep the work going well *wink*.

Barrister026:

Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature

that mean you never know hunger strike I don't care what people will say so far is my house and na my money they should keep it up to say what they like

Mariangeles:

E be like say you wan be like cubana chief priest.



Unless his wife allows it or is unavailable, that is disrespectful.

Is like we would start seperating pots

Barrister026:

Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature

No b everything una go dey bring come online abeg..

Na lie from d pit of hell unless ure not d one buying d food,u insist till she gets used to it.my wife has given me so much freedom with meat that i can eat half of d meat in one meal because once it finishes i buy another one.i manage 2pieces of meat.ideally i eat 4pieces

Mariangeles:

E be like say you wan be like cubana chief priest.



Unless his wife allows it or is unavailable, that is disrespectful.

Munzy14:

Definitely

O ga awu ndi daddy a eji tray ekuputara nri..

But then, wife should listen to hubby na, ya wuru kwam, ngwa nwaanyi several times ya ju, Mu ajuru ya nri.

And you know how painful it can be..

I hope she listens and adjusts.

Not to all o. Some no send you o.

Op, divorce her with immediate effect. How can you be living with a woman who wants you to have deficiency of protein?.
I will advice you not to condone that behavior in her at alllll.


Una say wahala be like wetin again?

So in this buhari season some people are still cooking with plenty meat to the extent of quarrelling over meat. Oga you be yahoo boy?.

But seriously OP, instead of letting this become an issue, stand up and add more meat to your food anytime she serves you with lesser meat. In a bid to prevent you from being compelled to take more meat (which she will probably not be comfortable with), she will do the needful.

Also make sure you are giving her enough money to buy meat because it is expensive now. Let it not be that you gave her 2k and you are expecting 4-5 pieces of meat in one dish.

Eat less so you will have Sixpack or do u want to have potbelle nii? ���

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Supervise the cutting of the meat it the kitchen to your desirable size. Instruct her on quantity per meal

Have a meat timetable and paste it on kitchen's wall like

Rice= 2meats

Swallow: 4meats etc

Barrister026:

Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature

Jus try it with time she'll begin to adjust

ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?


Why ordering Her, when you can persuade Her?. Is She a child, a domestic animal, a slave or an adult with no reasoning capacity?

If you don’t like how She serves you, then serve yourself. Your hand they pain you? Or do you think cooking or serving food will make you less of a Man Na wa ooo.?

OP it seems you married someone from a family where they see eating meat as privilege. It is difficult to stop operating in that kind of mentality. You should also understand that women don't have the abundance mindset that most men have. This is one reason why operating under a female boss is hard. She go dey refuse approval of projects anyhow. Also it's mostly stay at home wives who use aggressive money saving tactics like this. Perhaps you should increase her allowance or empower her if that is what she wants. Again, I think that you should relax and feel free to walk into the kitchen to top up your plate.

Mariangeles:






I hope she listens and adjusts.

Not to all o. Some no send you o.

Nwunye ya di ka owu oku...


You nko, so ajuru gi nri you won't send?

Get a new wife.

femi4:
Supervise the cutting of the meat it the kitchen to your desirable size. Instruct her on quantity per meal

Have a meat timetable and paste it on kitchen's wall like

Rice= 2meats

Swallow: 4meats etc

Una go kill me with laughter here o..

Pasting it on kitchen wall..lmaoo..

He should draw size of Eba he needs, and paste there too..

mcdokwe:


But you come of as being greedy to me right now.
It is so very possible that your wife is coming from a background where moderation is key, but you want all the meat in the pot served once.

I don't see a problem here unless your wife dishes more for herself than she serves you.

greedy untop my own food?

Barrister026:


Disrespectful you say?

So she starving me of my own food is respectful?


The only reason I don't want to do that, is because I be ashamed if the issue escalated and neighbors gets to hear that we are quarreling because of quantity of meat and fish. It doesn't make sense at all.

You have every gaddem right to go to the pot of soup you provided money for. Ignore nonsense talks of disrespect or no disrespect.
Who should respect who here? Is it not the wife?

In our house, the way my mum treated my dad's food like he's a king. She'll pack meat to the point my dad will be the one saying reduce it or share to us that were still Small then.
We grew up and continued with that trend. So, if she doesn't know how to serve the head of the house well, go and serve yourself.

Disrespect my foot!

ITK na him full everywhere these days

PlayMaker14:
I believe she's not restraining you from serving your desired portion.... Kindly go and serve yourself if you are not satisfied with her portion.


Na small issue wey you fit coordinate as a MAN.

case for don close since

Mariangeles:

E be like say you wan be like cubana chief priest.



Unless his wife allows it or is unavailable, that is disrespectful.

abegi , move ..why is going into the kitchen disrespectful to the wife ?. All na common sense to keep women in the kitchen.

Barrister026:


Disrespectful you say?

So she starving me of my own food is respectful?


The only reason I don't want to do that, is because I be ashamed if the issue escalated and neighbors gets to hear that we are quarreling because of quantity of meat and fish. It doesn't make sense at all.

Your wife is obstinate. Sit her down and talk to her and tell her if she continued, you would stop eating her food completely. And if she calls your bluff, buy take away everyday to eat at home as she watches. It will speak to her. But pls no raising of voices or fighting.

God bless your marriage.

i926:


One of the greatest lies ever told to deceive men.

Op, dish your own food by going to the kitchen

Team eating like bear going into hibernation sighted

Grumbling? Is it that the money given for the food or source of protein isn't enough? Because I see no reason for this reluctance to change to how you want your food.

Barrister026:

You don't know how irritating everytime have to ask her to take it back, and dish it properly.
Her grumblings that comes with it is making me angry, I just can't continue to accept this behavior.

Best advise is...

Avoid eating her food..


After one week without eating her food and each time your response is that you've loaded your stomach to the brim before coming home, she'll adjust except she don plan to starve you to stupor