robortonia:



And if she is a parasitic one wetin go happen??

everyone go answer em Papa name

pheonixdld2:
This story is funny and uplifting as well. I legit laugh while reading. God bless your marriage Brother.

thank you

CHoccolaTE:


The problem with giving Nigerian men money is that you will give him money for his upkeep and business and at the same time be expected to submit to him. Nigeria isn't like western societies where husband and wife see each other like friends and partners. In Nigeria the man has the final say in marriage as he is expected to be the Head and leader.

A woman in USA or UK can provide for her husband with no qualms because the husband sees her as an equal partner and would never disrespect her bacause he was raised to see females as inferior. Not in Nigeria where religious and traditional laws have made men see women as inferior and less than men. Imagine providing for a man that still has no problems treating you as inferior to himself.
Haba

It would be very unfair to the woman to provide and still be expected to be the subordinate in the marriage, let's not kid ourselves here. Nobody wants to be taken advantage of like that.

Rich men in Nigeria can give their wives money because they get the wife's submissivenes and obedience in return, what the hell do Nigerian women have to gain if they start providing for husbands? She will end up being provider and home maker and submitter all at once while her husband just lives off her and bosses her around.

The only problem here is feminism, even if the man & woman swap roles today, it only a matter of time, the yeye wife will go out n find a default man that can cater for her needs.
Madam alakija is a billionaire, despite being richer than the so called feminist/woke wives, she said she still washes her husband cloth n cook for him by herself, tope alabi is richer than her husband yet still submissive
When we say women are illogical beings they take it as an insult, most footballers are richer than there coaches yet they still obey instructions from him n maintain respect, why must tinz alway be different in marriage.

Mayflowa:


I do not think we are on the same page. In my view, bossing around is different from submission. Do you intend to take the headship of the home because you are more fortunate to provide bread? Won't you still accord your husband the respect he deserves as a human being. Do you mean that men do not respect their wives they provide for? I respect my wife while in Nigeria and oversea. My brothers all do in Nigeria. Women have their subtle and feminine way of controlling a man whether rich or poor. I am taking about letting men take to demeaning and roles because you provide for him. I hope you noticed I was careful not to insult you in both of my position unlike you!

Oga I didnt insult you anywhere stop being sensitive.

The same bible or quran that taught you men should be the leader of their homes also said men should provide.

If he cannot provide he has NO BUSINESS demanding submission from the person feeding him. That is absolute rubbish. He should humble himself and let his wife take final decisions.

CHoccolaTE:


Oga I didnt insult you anywhere stop being sensitive.

The same bible or quran that taught you men should be the leader of their homes also said men should provide.

If he cannot provide he has NO BUSINESS demanding submission from the person feeding him. That is absolute rubbish. He should humble himself and let his wife take final decisions.

Lmao in Spanish

crackhaus:
And still they wonder why sensible people don't take them seriously ever.

Ndi gender equality activists...

Making up silly scenarios to explain why a woman should not support her man financially.

I have been laughing... LOL
This thread is a good reminder to every man out there who still believes that these women are capable of loving/needing you for more than what you can provide for them.

Really eye opening.

Its a lonely world after all, you've got just yourself.

NaBanga:
Any man who asks a woman for money, has immediately lost the respect of that woman. No matter what a man does, he must hustle and try without the woman's help. Once a woman sees that, she will stylishly help the man because he has earned her respect. Any man who is stingy with his woman, no matter how small his earnings will not be respected by the woman. Give what you have to make her feel important and she will give the world to you.

yiimu ! can you give ONE example of a woman that has given the world to her man in naija, or is it that no man as tried so far

you people will just be speaking grammar here, .. how about sync with reality

Women and money. If you don't have problem. If they have problem.
Why not divorce him and keep your money. Why must he "upgrade" to your standard?
He will be a free man and move on. Men don't bitch

CHoccolaTE:


Men cheat very boldly and with impunity. They see it as their god given right. A woman who is fed and bankrolled and wants to cheat will NEVER be so bold to let their husbands know unless they want to end the marriage.

Yes, some men do that and it wrong cos it affects the women self esteem, its a total disregard for marital vow and can lead to tons of nasty every nasty events.

But both genders cheat. Its not even about money. Rich or poor, someone who wants to cheat will.

Angeldemon:


A helper not partner. Adam was capable of doing everything before eve came along.
God saw it wasn't good for him to be alone. Meaning to be his company, make him happier and reduce his stress in life.
If a woman doesn't do those thing she must be done away with from your life swiftly or else she will destroy it.

If you cannot distinguish between the two and the whole essence of women's existence then I have nothing to say to you. Good day.

Iyaebe:
If you want to see jagbajantis then go to romance section where weed smokers are abound.Nothing wrong in helping a man becomes better and bigger since you chose to love him irrespective of his financial status.

I'm glad you dropped your feminism somewhere wrt this post.

The lady in question would have realized her wrong decision by now, that is if she has a conscience. 1

Aksnoopy:
I only engage rational Alpha male in discussion through quotes and you are clearly not one.

You will learn sooner or later.

You ain't worth my time,Bye!

Your post goes further to show how immature you are. Seriously... Alpha male? It is amusing how people think sometimes.
Speaking of time, I didn't quote you because you are worth something but because there was a need to correct your misconception.
Good day!

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

Where are the feminists @ what man can do woman can do better then why because of a lady earn a little higher cant spent on her man in peace! have learn or awareness is worst than not scholed oh

baby124:

The man has to be very humble. Some men will be dirt poor and walking around with ego, doing everything to destroy what the wife has accumulated so that he will be better than her. They can’t see past their ego. That building on what she has will be to the benefit of their family. A woman has to be wise and know who the husband is before parting with huge sums of money.

Some will even dump the woman that helped them once they make it. Because they want someone who does not know their poverty story. So, Don’t blame women who don’t part with their money.

Women generally know how to manage money far better than men. A wise man should seek his wife’s advice if she is successful. She must be doing something right.

Men always trying to prove to their peers that things are still great even when they are struggling. If you perfect humility, contentment and a lack of need to show off or compete in this life. You will go very far.

Go to clubs and see men who don’t have jobs spending their wives money on bottles to impress people who don’t care. Dem plenty. Kings of fake life.

Don't generalize please.

You're wrong in my own opinion.

You're just being emotional here.

For example, the girl I'm serious with relationship-wise is not even a graduate and she is doing a job that doesn't pay much and I have other side chicks doing WELL financially that wants us to be serious even marriage.

If your opinion about all men are true, I would have gone for the rich ones, or married to one by now.
You don't know anything about men, maybe you mean boys.

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

Not satisfied with his professional and financial status? So you mean if she had given him everything he asked she wouldn't have gone through what she did?
Is that before or after she somehow becomes the reason his various 'projects' failed and how the next one (always) is going to be the one to 'blow'?
Men like these are opportunists, they're just so and never anymore than. What is man without the basic drive to better himself?

PeachtreeReside:



True that. A balanced view and judgement would be to hear from the husband.

But for most men, when the wife is richer , problems are most likely to arise in the form she described.

Haven't you heard of men asking their wives to sign over their assets to them.

The last part isn't in the majority of men. And i don't have enough evidence to support the claim where problems arise when a wife is richer than her husband.

May God not give me the type of wealth that I can't use to bless others!

I assist strangers my little way,
Hiow much more my better half...

The lady is a self centered, vile scumbag!... Spits

kazyhm:


I can't ever understand women rationale about a whole lot of things...

You earn more but can't make your home peaceful and romantic but instead, hording your money and making him pay all bills with his lower income. By the way, she want him to double his hustle yet lending him money is a big issue ? Who still believes men and women are the same hence equalized both gender ?

He embraced his supposed lower income status and solicited you support his project, but you refused then claimed his ego is fragile........what a confused victim.

She want him to lead but first he must double cross her in earning.

In the same vein she claimed love is enough and far important than money.

The summary of this article is; I earn more, if you want to be the head, you must beat me in this earning competition.......,.I won't give you my money and if you ask me, the whole world will know.....and ontop of that I won't still part with my money.

The truth is, the husband was disappointed in her as a wife.......and as expected, disappointment often times begets resentment

The most interesting thing about the story is, the bride father knew this hence didn't support it but women cluelessness of reality make her embarked on this fruitless competition (marriage).

How i wish i can like this comment 1000x

jornwhite:




The only problem here is feminism, even if the man & woman swap roles today, it only a matter of time, the yeye wife will go out n find a default man that can cater for her needs.
Madam alakija is a billionaire, despite being richer than the so called feminist/woke wives, she said she still washes her husband cloth n cook for him by herself, tope alabi is richer than her husband yet still submissive
When we say women are illogical beings they take it as an insult, most footballers are richer than there coaches yet they still obey instructions from him n maintain respect, why must tinz alway be different in marriage.

This is what we've been trying to tell ladies o.
Thank you boss. May your days be fruitful

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

Read the article before commenting! You would have seen the part mentioned about the man wanting it for loan to start a project. The mindset a lot of you women of nowadays have is the the reason why today’s society is littered with single old hags who think like the poster in the article.You guys deserve every treatment you are getting from the men in the society for your flawed thinking which makes an average comfortable man not to see any difference between a prostitute and an average lady.Go and reread seun’s response again to guide you alright

Laeroy:
As for me, I don't have much to say, to all you boys and men shouting that a woman should support her man in all areas, especially in the financial aspect, I have some questions for you..

Are you ready to do some domestic duties at home?
Are you ready to baby sit the children when needed?
Are you ready to clean baby's poo?
Are you even ready to go to the market?

If you're not ready to do these things that tamper with your rubbish ego, then I don't think ya'll are ready for this conversation.

Taa! What's the big deal in all you put up there?

I bathe my kids and dress up for them
I regularly go to stores to buy household needs
I take my kids to school.
I engage artisans for domestic repairs
Pay for an housecleaning maid that comes 3 times a week
Wash plates sometimes and regularly arrange the house

Yet, apart from the above which I dont see as a big deal, I foot 99.99% of the family Bills and also support at least one of my wife's parents, brother or sisters financially every month.

And I am not an exception. Many of my neighbours (male) family are also set up like that.

The problem with most women is that they try to compare domestic activities which any uneducated Tom dick and harry can do with the gainful employment which brings in money which is hard to achieve.

Can you compare the value your maid that does all the domestic work brings in with the value your husband brings as a senior manager with an IOC? Very very unintelligent way of thinking.

pocohantas:


I don’t believe in any joint whatsoever. His money is his money and my money is mine. A joint account can be created for family expenses, in which both parties would remit a fraction of their individual income. Whoever earns more would do more. If I need help like the man in this story, he can come through. Acts of goodwill can also be done by both parties. Besides that, he should hold his money so I get peace of mind.

That’s fine. not a bad arrangement based on how our society views marital roles and who’s supposed to do what. It’s actually more than appropriate. Maybe even generous on the woman’s part.

Until these guys are really ready for 50/50 they speak of.

My post is based on an ideal situation

tunjilana:


But when such a man wants yonbe a MAN...Traditional man who wants her at home to.make his meal and raise his kids etc...u hear stuff like ......You want a traditional man who pays ur bills but u believe he shouldn't have the right to tell u to stay at home...u really wanna work and earn but u just don't want the earnings to be used at home....many women are like this....some even go as far as expecting the man to pay for maids and helps so they can have time to work and not be bothered with domestics(which is a gr8 thing) ...yet they don't even wanna pay for those maids talkless of use the earnings from their work to support the home....but when a man reacts, it is stuff like ego, toxic, narcissism that they will keep spewing...without checking their own selfish behavior

Women want it all. And can have it all, thank you.

So, again, NEXT.

cococandy:

That’s fine. not a bad arrangement based on how our society views marital roles and who’s supposed to do what. It’s actually more than appropriate. Maybe even generous on the woman’s part.

Until these guys are really ready for 50/50 they speak of.

My post is based on an ideal situation

Since when did men become the pioneers of 50/50, is it that you don't know equality propagated by feminist is whats tantamount to 50/50.

Men are pioneers of table, in what sense of equation is, asking a woman what she brings to table = 50/50. can you show workings.

Like i always say their is no place in the world 50/50 is in existence, it is not feasible cos one party will always bear more, even life no balance .. whats ideal is contributions irrespective of %. momii go n sit down

LyfeJennings:
Lemme share a true life story
My present girlfriend is richer than me
On like 3 occasion, she helped with some very funny bill
Yesterday, we dey talk
She jokingly seriously told me
"You no get money guy, U are a broke, U not even near what a man should be"
I swear I wan die
E pain me ehnnnn
My ego was bruised but she no lie

Sorry man

tunjilana:


But when such a man wants yonbe a MAN...Traditional man who wants her at home to.make his meal and raise his kids etc...u hear stuff like ......You want a traditional man who pays ur bills but u believe he shouldn't have the right to tell u to stay at home... u really wanna work and earn but u just don't want the earnings to be used at home....many women are like this....some even go as far as expecting the man to pay for maids and helps so they can have time to work and not be bothered with domestics(which is a gr8 thing) ...yet they don't even wanna pay for those maids talkless of use the earnings from their work to support the home ....but when a man reacts, it is stuff like ego, toxic, narcissism that they will keep spewing...without checking their own selfish behavior

Their money is for make-up, aso-ebi, nails, and Venezuela wigs

Acidosis:


Sorry man

Thanks fam but it's not that bad
It's just life
A man's worth is tied to his pocket

Pierocash:
A woman can earn more than a man in the Western world and there will still be peace in the marriage.

In Nigeria here, a woman doesn't even need to earn more than the man before their ego begins to play out. Nigeria women believe that once they can be financially independent ,they don't need a man so they start acting rebellious and arrogant.

I tell myself,even if she earns more than me,I won't ask her a dime of her money,I will play my role without looking at her purse. By so doing, I will know if she is a supportive wife,or parasitic one

It's a lie you will still ask her for money, money and more money

Senseless talk, she should give him money from time to time,

Can you also tell a rich man married to an average woman to give her money from time to time, are you sure you will not call her a liability and asked the man to kick her out?

My friend , you sound like a man that will do worst thing , than the woman .






















quote author=Seun post=107687156]The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.[/quote]

bukatyne:


But richer men give their wives random cash gifts: change your car, change your wardrobe, buy this diamond set etc. etc.

Why can't the OP gift her husband a new car or whatever toy that catches his fancy?

@OP:

A very complex issue.

This is where feminism, red pill and other ideologies fall flat under intense scrutiny.

Men & women don't think the same way and want same things.

Before someone comes to say that's how the men are brought up:

I am not disputing nurture however there must be something innate, natural that makes a significant number of romantic relationships where the women earns way higher an extreme sport. And this is across all races.

If the wife is not disrespectful, the husband's insecurities lets him see war everywhere while the in-laws are 100% certain that the man is emasculated.

The things the wife would get away with while poor becomes the most disrespectful thing ever and she has to bend backwards & stretch herself thin to keep peace.

This is where religion comes in: to subdue/kill that natural tendency to behave as the above.

From what I have read so far, it seems people have come to the conclusion richer wives don't help their husbands as much as richer husbands do.
The real fact is that a richer wife helps the husband a lot without emasculating him than richer husbands do to their wives.
A richer husband showering you with money and goods is all about power control. Subdue her with money. Then treat her as you want and get away with it.

2 married ladies who live close to my house in abj single handedly built their houses. See their husbands rides. I noticed that even though these lady have very expensive rides, their husbands ended up driving them. My immediate nebo trained the husbands nieces and nephews in higher institutions, helped secure work for some.
At a point, me that's still new in this game had to tell her to save for her child( she adopted a child at older age). The thing is that you will never hear women come out to say they were behind their husbands financial success, taking care of the house cos it takes away the man's pride and ladies love to protect their men's blokos. Because, the standard is man helping woman, it's assumed women don't. That they love their money too much.

People will be shocked at the number of women who house and feed their family yet the walk while their husbands drive cars bought by these women.

I'm so tired of people coming on here to bash women when we all know that these women can stoop so low, go extra miles to make things happen in their homes yet their men take all the glory.

Crossroad1:
not all women are created same way.. I believe you aren't married.

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