Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

She said spiritual, lol.

Team virgin or nothing should take note.

Tell her, you ain’t her spirit husband and she should stop expecting you to be spiritual.

Why don’t you consider Spanish goldfly stuff on her or make her desire for it bu other means.

But if na me be you, I go give an excuse whenever she’s in the mood too

Good wife...
Just control yourself husband o! Cos if na her body need am always like your body, na so so soo tiredness & stress you go dey form.

Let your woman be the remote control to activating sex. Na you go enjoy am pass aswear.

Funny enough this goes on in 80% of marital homes but nobody wanna talk.
Try parading ur gbola around the house more often..lol

Jus joking o ,maybe the next person has something better to say

Nilx:
She spiritual, lol.

Team virgin or nothing should take note.

Why don’t you consider Spanish goldfish stuff on her? Since she no won get sense

What is Spanish goldfish? Never heard that before

Na waoh!

Dats the problem with so many women.when dating them,they will be giving it to you like kilode.knowing you have high sex drive
Wife them.you start hearing " na food?,control your sexual urge"

Just like she's acting now.
Well,like she said..try control am.

SuperStriker:


What is Spanish goldfish? Never heard that before

Goldfly not Goldflish

When you carry your marital problems to Nairaland, be prepared to get all sorts of advice.

If Only you Banged her like this before marriage!
Carry your Cross, if you cheat, you might likely get disease from a possibly broken condom.
Check my Signature

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

you guys are not sexually compatible... you can either accept it or move along apart from one another (cheating isnt an option). so if you really need to stay together in this one sided marriage, then you need to bring a concubine to the household/family, who will replace her and take over her sexual duties.

MrBrownJay1:


you guys are not sexually compatible... you can either accept it or move along apart from one another (cheating isnt an option). so if you really need to stay together in this one sided marriage, then you need to bring a concubine to the household/family, who will replace her and take over her sexual duties.

That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

Lalasticlala, please help expand the audience.

SuperStriker:
That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

if you dont want to get a concubine to fulfil the void in your life (that your wife doesnt want to fulfill) then accept your fate and be sexually miserable for the rest of your natural life.

MrBrownJay1:


you guys are not sexually compatible... you can either accept it or move along apart from one another (cheating isnt an option). so if you really need to stay together in this one sided marriage, then you need to bring a concubine to the household/family, who will replace her and take over her sexual duties.

Hian, concubine to the house, wetin person no go read for nairaland.com

MrBrownJay1:


if you dont want to get a concubine to fulfil the void in your life (that your wife doesnt want to fulfill) then accept your fate and be sexually miserable for the rest of your natural life.

Hahaha, lol at be sexually miserable for the rest of your life

Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she says I ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

AngelicBeing:
Hian, concubine to the house, wetin person no go read for nairaland.com

by all means, do tell us what this sexually miserable man should do then...?! there is nothing wrong with a concubine, many africans have them, its in our culture, aint against the law and it has saved a lot of marriages.

Are you truly cute or maybe she's hungry and can't fulfill and satisfy your sexual urge,if non of these is her problems,then Send me DM let's see what's truly the problems and how we can solve it

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

She wants you to have a spiritual go ahead B4 putting your cassava in her hole...

Iyaebe:
Are you truly cute or maybe she's hungry and can't fulfill you sexual urge,if non of these is her problems,then Send me DM let's see what's truly the problems and how we can solve it

Stupid comment as usual.... You are always trying to stay relevant and unfortunately you are not...


So out of point

Just shut up

Kilotat:
If Only you Banged her like this before marriage!
Carry your Cross, if you cheat, you might likely get disease from a possibly broken condom.
Check my Signature

Unfortunately this is what marriage has being reduced to.
When you marry a selfish girl. Bros I sympathise with you

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

after4:
Unfortunately this is what marriage has being reduced to.
When you marry a selfish girl. Bros I sympathise with you

You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

A woman married to you is still a human being and not a sex doll or slave. Once you get that into your head, you will be well on your way towards finding a resolution to your marital problem.

If you really don't want to cheat on your wife , then the options available to you are as follows:

■ Find a channel through which you can expend the excess energy you carry around with you there self control and discipline aren't lessons only kids ought to learn. Adults benefit a great deal from having such lessons planted in them from childhood, and are still able to learn them. Take up exercise, Sports or a hobby that allows you focus on other things to take your mind off sex.

■ Work on improving the health of your marriage .i.e., communication, stress management for both of you
etc. You and wife can seek out professional marriage counseling to help you both figure out how to help each other in this problem

■ Also consider the aid of a sex therapist as a couple to help you get the best sexually out of each other.

after4:
Unfortunately this is what marriage has being reduced to.
When you marry a selfish girl. Bros I sympathise with you

Marry a selfish girl? Some of you don't even understand your partners are humans, flesh and bold, just like you.

áwú be m married.

You know what to do......I cannot advise you.

You will adapt with time.
It seems you just get married
Responsibility self never hit you, wey you go lose appetite for sex
My own if we had sex on Monday and on Thursday I made approach, she will remind me that we just had sex on Monday, that how many time are we going to be having sex in a week
Even during lockdown that I suppose to be enter without restrictions, complain too much.
She is lazy in sex and I accept her like that, cheating is not an option for me. I love my wife

You sef control your sef abi na food?

Anyways, no time to check time. If she dey do you shakara, check another place.

This situation needs therapy o. You both appear to be sexually incompatible from what you described, though there may be other causes of sudden change in sexual urge, but let the professional help you both figure it out. Bear in mind that this is how many marriages are possibly operating in Nigeria. The spouses have gotten used to it and resorted to other means of satisfaction like porn and self-stimulation or cheating.

My advise is to seek therapy. If she thinks you have a higher than normal sex drive while you think she has a lower than normal sex drive, there can’t be an understanding especially when no party wants to compromise