Kobojunkie:
I am afraid you are here the one who missed the point. God did not set any of those prerequisites before you.... Men did so by their traditions and ways, in there attempts at adding/appending their own laws and ideas to God's Law - none of them sanctioned by God.

So it is up to you to decide whether you will do it as God commands - Genesis 2 vs 24 & Matthew 19 vs 3 - 5 & Mark 10 vs 5 - 9. - or according to the doctrines and traditions of men instead. Basically, "choose you this day whom you will serve....".

How does a woman leave his father and mother to marry if not by parental consent? What does the 4th commandment say? If none is sanctioned by God, how then is a woman supposed to leave? Get forcefully taken or leave inappropriately? Who determines a man and a woman is married; man or God? At what point is sex 'proper' in marriage and what point is it fornication? Who determines it is fornication and who determines it isn't?

Children were no more allowed to free themselves from the authority of others than were slaves, unless they had their parents consent. That very reality proclaims that this was fair and honourable, since, according to God, children owed their being to their parents, and hence they were counted among their parents’ goods on far better grounds than any slave or subject who was under their dominion or was bought at a price.

It is totally okay to not have an understanding of consent and how it works in tandem with God's word. What you shouldn't do is brandish a half baked idea.

TinubuGoQuench:
Any girl that tells me that I cannot carry out my matrimonial duty in bed as a husband after the traditional marriage, let the girl and her parents be ready to refund me the dowry money and every dime I must have spent on the trad marriage! Baascard! Who dey breath?

the pink (f)

Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

Yes it is important to be joined by His body...
However we must know that, the "body of Christ" is not a building that has been set aside for worship, it's the people of Christ that makes up the body...

So if the people that makes up the body are actively present in the joining of the couple, then they have been joined before "the body of Christ" irrespective of the location where it takes place...

Joyceaile:
My thoughts though, just wondering why church wedding has being made mandatory to new couples, Some elders told me it’s a white man's belief, that the most important is the dowry paid to the parents of the girl and the traditional, then to legally show or proof you are married, the court wedding comes in whereby you are handed the certificate of marriage.

So why the craze for the white wedding? Educate me, I am open to learning.

They will tell you is not important and still be the ones to castigate. I hate white wedding but I end up doing it. To spite that day, I wore my ankra while babe was on white gown. Just took it as reception cause I did trad on low-key, in order to keep gossips far from the real show.

So long as popsi and momsi from both sides are alive, attending these pentecostal better prayer they don't turn it to crusade. Speaking from experience.

Engagement na ehm be the koko

Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

oga u have not made any point. Where is it written in the bible that one must do church wedding, if u decide to invite your pastor or Reverend to ur traditional marriage to bless your marriage, is it a crime? You people should stop misplacing your priorities.

Sanchez01:

■How does a woman leave his father and mother to marry if not by parental consent? What does the 4th commandment say? If none is sanctioned by God, how then is a woman supposed to leave? Get forcefully taken or leave inappropriately?

■ Who determines a man and a woman is married; man or God? At what point is sex 'proper' in marriage and what point is it fornication? Who determines it is fornication and who determines it isn't?

■Children were no more allowed to free themselves from the authority of others than were slaves, unless they had their parents consent. That very reality proclaims that this was fair and honourable, since, according to God, children owed their being to their parents, and hence they were counted among their parents’ goods on far better grounds than any slave or subject who was under their dominion or was bought at a price.

■It is totally okay to not have an understanding of consent and how it works in tandem with God's word. What you shouldn't do is brandish a half baked idea.

■ I don't quite understand what you are asking there about none being sanctioned by God .

The first commandment given by God to the Jewish people, clearly indicated that they are all to honor God above all else(including parents) so I am not exactly sure where you get the idea that parents and what the decree somehow trumps God decree to the people of Israel.

■ God determines marriage, not men. God's Law is pretty straightforward about this - Genesis 2 vs 24 & Matthew 19 vs 3 - 5 & Mark 10 vs 5 - 9. Marriage is established on the agreement between the man and woman. Sex can happen right after or whenever the couple decides but the union itself is formed once a man and woman agree to it - no third parties necessary or required.

■ Children were not allowed to free themselves from authority? Where did God suggest this please so I csn better follow where you are heading in this.

From the much I get, you pretty much conclude that a young man and woman first need to obtain consent from parents before they can agree to be one. if you, however, carefully review this, placing God where He truly belongs, which is above even parents, you will see that parents are here powerless since God's decision as far as marriage is concerned is made once the man and woman consent to each other - third parties are meaningless as far as this decree is concerned.

■ This idea which is God's is not half baked at all, though you might believe it so since you seem to place men's laws and traditions above God’s decree.

Jemerson:
Church wedding and white wedding are not the same thing.

White wedding = social event after church wedding

you're confused I can see that.

To answer ur question bro in one word

SHOWOFF

It is pure shit....

This argument sef

Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

Philosophies of men.

Church wedding is oyinbo's traditional marriage. What's most important is when your people and her people gather to join you together in what we call introduction or engagement. You can now do court to cement it.

To me oh, its nothing, church weeding was just like practiceing another cutura lifestyle, besides who that one help
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Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

One religious brainwashed lost sheep is sighted above.
U keep mentioning jesus christ here and there. My question is why jesus didn't marry, despite attaining the age of marriage while on earth?
Since he didn't marry, those that claim to believe in him, should stay away for anything marriage.
There is nothing like church in the first place in regard to jesus not talk church marriage.
Jesus didn't worship or have anything to do with church but worshipped with his Jews in the temple.
The same Christians will tell you, the building itself isn't the church but the people. With this anywhere Christians gather and conduct a marriage is church marriage irrespective of the place or the people as far they are Christians. Not the white marriage, today called church marriage.

Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

This is baseless

Never see it as being disrespectful, but why do you need ask when you know the right thing to do?

Marriage is complicated in the sense that your spouse is coming from another family of different background and both of you already have different family pattern or problem.

Now the two of you with your problem decided to come together, then you say you are asking whether you should go to Church.

Where else would you go?

Is it the traditional marriage that wicked elders of your Father's or mother's house are already waiting for you to plant evil seeds so that your marriage will not work.

You need Holy people to pray for you in the Church so that you can effectively weather the storm that is coming in your marriage.

Marriage is not a cup of tea.

wedding adds nothing but stress to an african marriage: it makes u develope high BP,makes u a debtor etc.
The only reason ur church leaders still maintain that it is important is because of what they gain from it i.e all the money u pay for it.

virginprincess:
Yes, it is very important for we Christians, that is where the marriage is blessed in the Godly way with the name of jesus christ, for me, NO CHURCH WEDDING NO MARRIAGE.

So if the pastor attends the traditional wedding or court wedding and prays for the couple there, won't God hear and answer the prayer

Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

I totally disagree with u..... I'm a christian and I don't think it's important to have a church wedding.... The fact that u are joined in a church doesn't mean it's built on Christ... It doesn't mean it can't scatter.... The main thing that needs to be sorted out is that why is there so much trouble in marriages in recent times as well as divorce despite all the paparazzi and efficy we put before entering it.... Until we effectively answer this question marriage will keep failing even if it's been officiated by a very senior popular pastor

White wedding is culture and traditions of the white people.

God2man2again:
Never see it as being disrespectful, but why do you need ask when you know the right thing to do?

Marriage is complicated in the sense that your spouse is coming from another family of different background and both of you already have different family pattern or problem.

Now the two of you with your problem decided to come together, then you say you are asking whether you should go to Church.

Where else would you go?

Is it the traditional marriage that wicked elders of your Father's or mother's house are already waiting for you to plant evil seeds so that your marriage will not work.

You need Holy people to pray for you in the Church so that you can effectively weather the storm that is coming in your marriage.

Marriage is not a cup of tea.

Not every family is filled with witches...all these are theories churches and herbalist spread, to keep people depending on them. Which real power do church men have these days?

mediainc:

Not every family is filled with witches...all these are theories churches and herbalist spread, to keep people depending on them. Which real power do church men have these days?

You know the truth already.

engrajoo1:


I totally disagree with u..... I'm a christian and I don't think it's important to have a church wedding.... The fact that u are joined in a church doesn't mean it's built on Christ... It doesn't mean it can't scatter.... The main thing that needs to be sorted out is that why is there so much trouble in marriages in recent times as well as divorce despite all the paparazzi and efficy we put before entering it.... Until we effectively answer this question marriage will keep failing even if it's been officiated by a very senior popular pastor

A Christian that doesn't believe in Church wedding.

What is the meaning of the word "Christian'?

I believe you know the.meaning.

To answer your questions about so much problem in marriage.

The main thing begins from the root or the beginning of the marriage.

How did it start?

Was it by lust?

Was it by divine arrangements?

Was it by parental arrangements?

Was it by selfish ambition?

Was it by beauty or handsomeness?

Was it by the deceitfulness.of riches?

Was it money?

So all these must be considered to answer your questions properly.

It is more than these explanations.

God2man2again:
A Christian that doesn't believe in Church wedding.
What is the meaning of the word "Christian'?
I believe you know the.meaning.
To answer your questions about so much problem in marriage.
The main thing begins from the root or the beginning of the marriage.
How did it start?
Was it by lust?
Was it by divine arrangements?
Was it by parental arrangements?
Was it by selfish ambition?
Was it by beauty or handsomeness?
Was it by the deceitfulness.of riches?
Was it money?
So all these must be considered to answer your questions properly.
It is more than these explanations.

Where in scripture did Jesus Christ, the Christ in Christian command your church weddings or any wedding?

Where did God indicate any of what you have above in His marriage law - Genesis 2 vs 24 & Matthew 19 vs 3 - 5 & Mark 10 vs 5 - 9. ?

Joyceaile:
My thoughts though, just wondering why church wedding has being made mandatory to new couples, Some elders told me it’s a white man's belief, that the most important is the dowry paid to the parents of the girl and the traditional, then to legally show or proof you are married, the court wedding comes in whereby you are handed the certificate of marriage.

So why the craze for the white wedding? Educate me, I am open to learning.

In my honest opinion Traditional wedding is the actual wedding in the eyes of God and Man. The church wedding is just formality. Don't pay attention to those that will tell you that if it's not in Church God will not bless the union.

Just the shit am facing with the gal I want to Marry now. Have begged her for weeks now for us to suspend church wedding, d banny no gree de insist even if we run it uncode via our families alone n wear wedding dresses.

Mehn am tired !! Even feeling at a point am not ready to marry again. No matter how u run both traditional and white wedding, u can never avoid spending between 700k to 1mil.... I see this white wedding as a SHOW OFF avenue for ladies. They just want to show their friends they v done everything whereas they don't even think abt life after marriage.

Mehn!!! Am fvcked up real big time. Feel like suspending anything married until mid next year. Wanted to even marry her by jan2021 but d way things are now, e be like e don enter "God's time is d best"

Righteousness2:
If you Claim to Believe in JESUS Christ! It is.

GOD is a GOD of Order.
The Church is the Body of Christ and JESUS Christ is the Head of the Church.
GOD ALMIGHTY is the Institutor of the Marriage Institution. In Ephesians, HE likened the Love a Man should have for His wife to that HE has for the Church.
The Church is the representative of Christ on Earth.
If you claim to Believe in JESUS Christ, it is Very Important to for you to be joined by His body.

Please show me where in the Bible people did their normal marriage ceremony and still went to church to do another one?

Even the Jews don't do double wedding as we do here.

Kobojunkie:
Where in scripture did Jesus Christ, the Christ in Christian command your church weddings or any wedding?

Where did God indicate any of what you have above in His marriage law - Genesis 2 vs 24 & Matthew 19 vs 3 - 5 & Mark 10 vs 5 - 9. ?

You always go back to Bible as if we don't know Bible.

Jesus is the head of the Church and he attended one in the Bible which directly or indirectly approved his presence in the wedding.

Marriage law?

I am indicating realities of life.

If you need Bible verses I can give you.

God2man2again:
You always go back to Bible as if we don't know Bible.

Jesus is the head of the Church and he attended one in the Bible which directly or indirectly approved the his presence in the wedding.
Marriage law?
I am indicating realities of life.
If you need Bible verses I can give you.

But there were no churches when Jesus Christ was on earth.

You indicate realities of life that contradict the very Word of God?

How could Jesus Christ had indirectly approved something He directly indicated was of this world and not of His Kingdom - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36

Mehn whatever works for you ohhh... this topic is always recycled