Women are simply an item u can buy at the store.....

lugrae22:
it doesnt make sense,bro u caused it,u guys were done and u alowed her to move to her aunts,bro phone talk and real time convo na diff,u already taught her how to live apart,and wats her rush,there is ntin like age factor,she gave in to havin feelings 4 d guy,yes finance is a factor,but hw wel does she knw d man she wan marry?women d craze ah swear

Na u dey craze bro.. I would have slapped d hell out of u if i be ur friend for dis mumu statement u just made. Wat she did is bad.. Û will be a loser staying around.. She wants to eat her cake and still have it.. I use God beg u.. Cut ties with her.. Dont entertain any form of communication with her.. She has used u and she still want to continue.. Dont u have ur own value , u seem to be talking like someone with no dignity.. Pls move on,,dats d best respect u deserve.. Supporting her in anyways is a shit.. Ur statement dey annoying guy

grevotech:
In my case it was her who said she wasn’t ready until after her masters but got married immediately after graduation.

This is really loud...if it were OP I'm sure he could ve passed out

The eyes of another nigga has opened.. hallelujah to Krishna

freesoul12:


Na u dey craze bro.. I would have slapped d hell out of u if i be ur friend for dis mumu statement u just made. Wat she did is bad.. Û will be a loser staying around.. She wants to eat her cake and still have it.. I use God beg u.. Cut ties with her.. Dont entertain any form of communication with her.. She has used u and she still want to continue.. Dont u have ur own value , u seem to be talking like someone with no dignity.. Pls move on,,dats d best respect u deserve.. Supporting her in anyways is a shit.. Ur statement dey annoying guy

You get sense

Clash01:


This reminds me of my ex. We dated from 2017 while in school, I finished HND in 2018 while she completed her OND thesame year. We lived together in my final year, we were really in love even after our graduation we kept in touch but last year she called me and reminded me of how broke I was and how she knew waiting for me would be a waste of time. She broke up Early September 2020, I was down for a while but I decided to focus on myself and October that same year I reconnected with my secondary school sweetheart and from there Doors of opportunities opened for me. We got married Asap and my child is just 3weeks old, I was able to get a car 2days after my wife was put to bed.

Right now my ex and that guy that was ready are no longer together. She calls me almost everyday on video calls to show me breast and puzzy.

Find money my brother. Women no too normal.

Haaa!!

You did the right thing.......now make sure u are successful, very successful.....
Move on quickly like genuinely quick, don't communicate with her but forgive her n be happy......don't bring the fears and happenings to the next relationship.


Things like this happens, don't be a bad guy to try to be intimate with her late or listen to her stories wen she is troubled!

Just move on, I tell you one thing....by January next year, you won't even think about all these stuffs. What should be in your menu now is how to stand on your feet. Don't even rush to marry, work and build yourself. All is well, infact nothing spoil
Even me, I have gone down that lane

felixzo1:
most ladies marry who is available when they want to marry. a man can get married even at 40 to a 20year old girl. women do not have that previlage ,their biological clock is not their friend. i will never advice any woman to wait for man. more 70 percent of campus relationship do not lead to marriage. finance is usually the major factor. I have a friend who dated a girl since his first year in school . They were always together, did everything together , they were even living together, their parents were even aware of their relationship. They behaved as if they cannot live apart. But after service year the story changed, the lady was willing to marry the guy but the guy was not ready due to finance. The parents of the girl were even willing to sponsor the wedding but the guy refused that he wanted to stand on his feet first. 6 months later the girl got married to someone else, went on to have 3 kids the ex boyfriend was still single. After 9 years the guy got married to a 20 year old girl. The ex girlfriend has grown up kids

Not the same

No worry , she go still come knocking on your door , I give the marriage 6months . You go dey hear different excuses.

Op is she Igbo? That her anty bring a rich man for her.

Doesn't matter. Be proud of her and wish her well

If you're not ready to settle down at least in the next two years, don't keep a lady waiting especially if she's above 25yrs. Remember their clock ticks faster.
You are a fresh graduate without a job yet, there's no need giving her false hope.
Long ago, when I graduated from school, I had a coursemate who almost committed suicide because his babe he had dated long ago who recently gained admission when we were graduating was getting married to an older bachelor from her church Assemblies of God who her parents compelled her to marry to ease financial burden of the family.
My guy looked devastated and couldn't eat. I had to talk sense into him. Two questions I asked him was "Do you have financial muscle to provide for her needs? As a fresh graduate awaiting NYSC, can you take care of someone when you are yet to take care of yourself? Guy move on... Obviously she's not meant to be your wife. God is preparing someone special for you." Though it's so devastating but it makes us stronger and gives us resistance to shock.

Moreign001:
This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me

Why are you still communicating with her? She knows that she's leaving her friend to marry a total stranger whom she knows nothing about. I guess she will find out while already in a marriage, lol.
Stop taking her calls, block her number and block her on all social media too and move on. You can't allow her to be using you for emotional support, she's the one who decided to marry a strnager. She wants to eat her cake and still have it, no way!

Is it not this same nairaland that women are called"evening newspaper? ". Bro move on! Only time heals

ikenna44:
Go and make money... Forget all these stories you're telling!

Those who have money doesn't experience broken homes, or they don't get their heart broken?

Clash01:


This reminds me of my ex. We dated from 2017 while in school, I finished HND in 2018 while she completed her OND thesame year. We lived together in my final year, we were really in love even after our graduation we kept in touch but last year she called me and reminded me of how broke I was and how she knew waiting for me would be a waste of time. She broke up Early September 2020, I was down for a while but I decided to focus on myself and October that same year I reconnected with my secondary school sweetheart and from there Doors of opportunities opened for me. We got married Asap and my child is just 3weeks old, I was able to get a car 2days after my wife was put to bed.

Right now my ex and that guy that was ready are no longer together. She calls me almost everyday on video calls to show me breast and puzzy.

Find money my brother. Women no too normal.

tunde82seidat:


Haaa!!

Very common than we realise. Who says this one can't end up in the same manner?
I had an ex who left me in 2009, only to come back two years later, too late.

blinkz4real:
I love this .........support her, we move no be God leave you.

Words on marble from a great friend

siofra:
Oga why are you generalising please?

Tremple8v:
No worry , she go still come knocking on your door , I give the marriage 6months . You go dey hear different excuses.

Stop wishing people bad! The world doesn't work that way... the truth is that the guy will get over it soonest. It will even motivate his Hustle.

Moreign001:
Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

At the moment, don't be far from that your friend, you are going to get hurt the more as the picture becomes clearer that you have lost someone dear to your heart and you are going to need more of his encouragement, don't be in a rush to enter another serious relationship no matter how serious the new girl appears, girl are never serious, I repeat they are never serious. What we misunderstood for seriousness from them is selfishness, there is something they see when you see them acting like that and once they see something better somewhere, they switch without delay.
Just imagine some dumping you and still crying that you shouldn't leave her, that is to tell you how selfish they can be. Maybe she wants you to come and wash plate on her wedding day.

Moreign001:
Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

Place yourself in her shoes.
What would you do?
If you were the one who met a lady that checked all the boxes you need in a wife. Would you stay or leave?

ikenna44:
Go and make money... Forget all these stories you're telling!

Why do we men think everything about relationships is about money? May be the opposite gender had successfully planted that belief in our subconscious and we have accepted it as our fate. That we should make money to please them?
Money money money!! How would you even know the real love when you are already swimming in money? I didn't have money when I got married, just struggling. Today, I'm 100% sure that my wife didn't marry me because of money but for who I was at the time. That's much better

That "we move no be God leave you" dey give me joy,who knows na you go laugh best.

fineboynl:
Op is she Igbo? That her anty bring a rich man for her.

She's Igbo ooo

baby124:

Not true. Many women are having kids in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s now. And they are all fine, the kids are healthy.

Women having kids in their 40s and 50s is not a good idea. You can Google it yourself

BABANGBALI:
as if you see better man with money now you no go say I do I do

I will na

But I'm still waiting for my tall, dark, rich, handsome, real Nigerian prince.

Myer:


Place yourself in her shoes.
What would you do?
If you were the one who met a lady that checked all the boxes you need in a wife. Would you stay or leave?

Vice versa, if as a man that I am, I'm ready to marry, I met a new girl that checked a the boxes and left my date for her, hope that's cool too?

Moreign001:
Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

Don't blame her guy,there might be chances that you might not marry her

OP I know u are very hurt
But pls don't generalize.
It was in this thesame NAIRALAND that I read a news of couples who started loving thereselves from JSS2 and they eventually get married. And other similar news of coursesmates who dated from yr1 and they still get married after graduation.
So sometimes life happens.
Take heart and move on.

siofra:


I will na

But I'm still waiting for my tall, dark, rich, handsome, real Nigerian prince.

Good morning

That ur nigga deserve bottle.. chilled one under a hot 12noon sun... Just find ursef another woman... Afterall na dis earth una meet una sef nobody sey u must marry her...