I’ll like to hear from the ladies abeg, just for records sake.

Cause me I don’t know how to go about it, so yeah, how would you like to be approached as a lady if a guys likes you?

Approached for what?

doggedfighter:
Approached for what?

If a guys like you now, you know what I’m saying

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Klass99:
You can begin with phrases like - Hi good morning, my name is Nathan what's yours? Or just say hi my name's Nathan what's yours? If she doesn't respond well to that, abeg waka pass, someone else will. Never start a conversation with - what is your name? That shit drives me crazy!

Take into consideration the scenario/situation as well and look for the best opening, e.g if she has shopping bags in her hands from the supermarket and is struggling with it, ask her - if you don't mind, can I give you a hand with that?

Fake it sometimes, if she's carrying braids or a hairstyle you like, compliment it and then ask if she can give you her stylist's number for your sisters sake. It's a conversation starter and if you think fast on your feet, you'll find a way to achieve your original intentions. Which I believe is to get to know her, abi?

Please smell nice, have fresh/clean breath and be confident. If you don't like the reaction/response you are getting ABEG waka pass o! No one should disrespect or give you attitude for trying. Be tactful about it and inject other phrases into your conversation like - Is it okay if I have your number or can I give you mine?

Really great, thanks.

Now that I think about it, it's been a really long time I "approached" a lady because I "like" her oo. Chei, life...
When men were boys...


I believe as a man, there's a certain stage you get to in life that conversations with the opposite gender just flow without really trying to make it into an "approach" per se... And from that first conversation onwards, a friendship could develop if one or both of you always keeps in touch.

The secret to any of this is in reading the cues, reading her non-verbal gestures...
You should be able to detect when a woman is open to you, likes you, or is minutely into you, even if you're just meeting her for the very first time.
Women who fit into this category are the ONLY ones your conversations can flow with easily, and you mustn't bother yourself with the ones who give off that 'stay away' vibe.


However OP, if you're really here looking for "procedure" on how to approach a woman from women themselves, then carry on and ignore my submission above.
Just sha know that you will end up trying what you've been told here and it won't work because every woman is different. For some, na ignore dem go just ignore you if you stick to "procedure".

Get my contact from a close pal or family member and call me in the cool of the night.


Walking up to me on the road pisses me off cos you make me look cheap and easy to get. Also if it happens that I damn you, the whole world will know and you'll feel embarrassed. Like i did to one guy last week.

I was strolling and this guy just came out of his flat and started following and asking for my number. I was so angry, I just told him I'm not cut out for such escort and questioning.

Also trying to chase me with a car makes me see you as a kidnapper or ritualist.
So, I'll rather you call me.

Do people still ask ladies out these days ...

Mercychen:
Get my contact from a close pal or family member and call me in the cool of the night.


Walking up to me on the road pisses me off cos you make me look cheap and easy to get. Also if it happens that I damn you, the whole world will know and you'll feel embarrassed. Like i did to one guy last week.

I was strolling and this guy just came out of his flat and started following and asking for my number. I was so angry, I just told him I'm not cut out for such escort and questioning.

Also trying to chase me with a car makes me see you as a kidnapper or ritualist.
So, I'll rather you call me.

Oh ok, weird but nice.

I mostly agree with everything Klass has said.

If you can't be seamlessly witty or make a joke (I don't mind this as long as it is not inappropriate), then please, keep it simple and just introduce yourself and be direct. Nothing beats that.

Compliments.

And you can use the situation too to your advantage to start the conversation. Perhaps she's reading. I'll definitely like to be asked what I'm reading. And no don't feign so much interest in the book I'm reading or start acting like you're one bookwarm scholar when you're everything but. Just be interested in or be wowed with *my love* for reading, initially. That has more to do with my person and not the activity itself and that's okay for me. And if I respond affirmatively, we continue from there.

Whether you're in a gadgets shop, or on a queue... You can always pick cues from these scenarios to strike a conversation.

Yes. And be sure of yourself. I don't need to say more on this.

Magnoliaa:
I mostly agree with everything Klass has said.

If you can't be seamlessly witty or make a joke (I don't mind this as long as it is not inappropriate), then please, keep it simple and just introduce yourself and be direct. Nothing beats that.

Compliments.

And you can use the situation too to your advantage to start the conversation. Perhaps she's reading. I'll definitely like to be asked what I'm reading. And no don't feign so much interest in the book I'm reading or start acting like you're one bookwarm scholar when you're everything but. Just be interested in or be wowed with *my love* for reading, initially. That has more to do with my person and not the activity itself and that's okay for me. And if I respond affirmatively, we continue from there.

Whether you're in a gadgets shop, or on a queue... You can always pick cues from these scenarios to strike a conversation.

Yes. And be sure of yourself. I don't need to say more on this.

Another great tip. Thanks

All these lecture notes on how to "corner" a lady.

People like us by our vocation talk to all types of ladies - tall, short; beautiful, ugly; clean, dirty; rich, poor; educated, illiterate.

We even discuss their private and public lives. That's how dangerously we are exposed to temptation. Thank God for grace.

Magnoliaa:
I mostly agree with everything Klass has said.

If you can't be seamlessly witty or make a joke (I don't mind this as long as it is not inappropriate), then please, keep it simple and just introduce yourself and be direct. Nothing beats that.

Compliments.

And you can use the situation too to your advantage to start the conversation. Perhaps she's reading. I'll definitely like to be asked what I'm reading. And no don't feign so much interest in the book I'm reading or start acting like you're one bookwarm scholar when you're everything but. Just be interested in or be wowed with *my love* for reading, initially. That has more to do with my person and not the activity itself and that's okay for me. And if I respond affirmatively, we continue from there.

Whether you're in a gadgets shop, or on a queue... You can always pick cues from these scenarios to strike a conversation.

Yes. And be sure of yourself. I don't need to say more on this.

Hello. There is a monicker callled SATANIST that claims you grew up together and are childhood friends. This true?

Favfables1:
Do people still ask ladies out these days ...

The thing sef dey shock me...

Favfables1:
Do people still ask ladies out these days ...