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Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MufasaLion: 7:26pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
IJEYdiamond: Known most times. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Jaqenhghar: 7:27pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
MufasaLion:Not until I exorcise that coon spirit in you Out you Coon [img]https://c./YE_-rWA4GcYAAAAC/holy-water-holy.gif[/img] 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by catice(m): 7:29pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Sincerely there are lot of them. My friend was going nut after his episodes. All he could say is "I was the one who suggested that we move to America". Very few Nigerian ladies will genuinely love you. Most are opportunists, selfish and greedy lots. They will Spoil your life for this abroad. In addendum: Bunch of Nigerian men are piece of sh#t. They are solely responsible for how these women treat them. Cheating & Financial are the main cause of problems! Mariangeles: 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by mrbenjame: 7:29pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
nanceeleecious: I have never oppressed a woman before. It’s not my nature. I’m only afraid of the opposite. I can be very caring and accommodating. Lemme shock you. I dated my ex for 4 years. She works. I’ve neber asked her how much she earns. And I do not request money from her since I work as well. Please don’t judge me. I’m human. 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by grandstar(m): 7:29pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
There are many reasons to deduce for the high rate of failed marriages overseas. One is that the man has not been frank about life overseas and she thinks it is all bed and roses. The lady has been fed to believe that her "husband" is a billionaire with the way he lavishes money any time he is in town. This also includes the way he sends money to her from overseas. When she now arrives "abroad", she discovers he is living in one dingy apartment. The wahala starts there. The same with women who bring men from Nigeria. I know an instance of a nurse in Britain who is spending wildly on her man in Nigeria. At that time, she was carrying his baby. The man, who looked like an angel who could not hurt a fly was spending lavishly and chasing women here and there. Nurses working for the NHS aren't paid much. What do you think will happen when such a man reaches "London". He will be completely unprepared for the hassle. Another, though similar, is not enlightening your spouse on what to expect. Many here think "abroad" streets are paved in gold and you just pick the money from the ground. Be open and honest with your spouse. Let her know the type of jobs open to her or him and so on. Do not sugarcoat things. A third is that the system in many Western countries empowers women and this can lead to disastrous consequences. Many women in Nigeria stick around in their marriages simply for the sake of their children. A divorce may leave her impoverished as the man is the breadwinner, so she stays. In places like America, many of our women become nurses and many may soon find themselves earning more than their husbands. This gets into the heads of some and they begin to dictate to their husbands, many of who they may have long despised. Also, women's rights are also enforced. Beat your wife and you will be arrested and thrown in Jail. She can kick you out of the house you bought with your own money and sweat. The woman may therefore become assertive and uncooperative. The list goes on and on. The best is to be reasonable in your expectations and also judge yourself as well. Many fail to do that and just put the blame on the woman. When married, be faithful to your wife and cherish her. Playing the field while married will cost you her love and respect and she may request a divorce. This isn't Nigeria. Be ready to swallow your pride. In Rome, do like the Romans. Be ready to do some house chores. You won't die. Learn to enjoy them. Before bringing her, let her know she will be contributing to the family upkeep financially. This isn't Nigeria where many women feel entitled. Also, shower love and affection on your spouse. Both your focus should not be about money. Your focus should be first the true God. When you make money the most important thing like many migrant families do (that's why they emigrated in the first place), the marriage, and the kids may suffer. My younger brother in Britain said that many Black boys who are engaged in crime do so because of absent parents who work many jobs at the expense of their children. What they do not teach you at home as the Yorubas say, you will learn it outside. He called those boys "the scourge of England". 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by larryking540: 7:30pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
MufasaLion:...some people are like that on nairaland |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by jrusky(m): 7:30pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
There are still good women out there but very few *BUT* don't dare marry her and take her abroad pls don't dare it. I'm a we experienced traveller and hold dual nationality pls I'm talking from experience if you don't believe me seek advice from other experienced travellers around you pls. Marry her let her stay here infact open business for her make her comfortable bro you are then the king but if you take her over there hhmm...bro I say it again don't dare it. My honest advise. Good evening. 6 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MufasaLion: 7:32pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar: Fvck you, slave. Keep barking! Slaves are kept for that sometimes. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MufasaLion: 7:33pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
larryking540: He's even a slave. He's in cage. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by ednut1(m): 7:34pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
pocohantas:con marry me. You must be submissive, and do house chores |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Signum(f): 7:35pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
socialmediaman: You said it all. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by abbey621(m): 7:36pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, platonic relationships, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, compatibility and trust. Now that I have given you the definition of a soulmate, adjust your stance and address me properly nigga, slow your role jabroni! 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by larryking540: 7:37pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: seriously bro , men don't give a fuvk if a lady wants to cheat ,,,don't just bring infection, another man's kid to my home , court is too far you will not even see my Shadow close to the apartment again in her life ... 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by abbey621(m): 7:37pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: You're reading meaning into nothing and putting words in my mouth, the response was to a MAN having doubts about marriage and bringing his spouse abroad. Whatever issues you've got with the male gender is entirely your own and has nothing to do with the discussion so miss me with the BS! 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 7:38pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
larryking540:Those marriages are not my dream. We know bad wives when we see them whether here or outside. But 90% of Nigerian men can't stand a marriage where the woman has an opinion. They prefer dolls and women they can oppress and because they grow up seeing marriage as a king-maidservant relationship, it's almost impossible for them keep a marriage in a civilised country especially when they are married to their fellow Nigerians. They would rather marry a foreign woman and practice her culture than marrying their fellow country woman and allowing her learn the foreign culture. 6 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by kaziblake(f): 7:39pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
ShaqFu:And the men nko? Bad people dey both gender Biko 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Raalsalghul: 7:39pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
abbey621: You can meet different people with these characteristics of the opposite sex and not just one person. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by JovialJune(f): 7:39pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar: You said it all, Nigerian men are okay with being domesticated by whites but see it as belittling and degrading if it is from Nigerian ladies honestly I don't blame kh.iaa for her insults on naija men in her comments here, their level of coonery needs psychiatric evaluation. 9 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 7:39pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Ghostmode2two: That will be unfair and demonically wicked! It will be better if you don't marry. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Stanleyville(m): 7:40pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
If you marry a parasitic woman and take her abroad,..sorry!. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Raalsalghul: 7:41pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
AutoChick4U: Are you with Cococandy and her partner? 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by abbey621(m): 7:43pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: No doubt but in life everything has grade, time has a way of exposing all things, someone might look like your soulmate today but end up being just a temporary gap, while one might look like just a fling and end up being mario and never leaving, not withstanding the definition still holds true, find someone you share a real bond(real or preceived) with and build a family! 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by ziondaughter247: 7:43pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Very toxic forum. But I have stopped being upset about the toxicity here because 99% of the small boys that spill trash here about women have no life. Forget oooh, most of the people here forming red-piller bulshit are actually in their village looking for snake to kill and mention lalasticlala. They don't even have hope of visiting this so-called abroad in this life. This is the only place they get to feel like men probably because it's a faceless forum. I just pity the SIMPs (probably part of the 1% who have a life) who listen to this bullshit advice for lowlifers and try to apply it in the real world. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BLoomfrancs(m): 7:44pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
pocohantas: The lowdown is that women are wahala. Fela na him tell me so. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BRATISLAVA: 7:45pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
abbey621: Read your initial post loudly and tell us what words were really coming out of your mouth, sir. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Chicky34: 7:48pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
I swear he's very right, it's happening to my brother inlaw right now in the USA, she even broke her own head and called the popo, they arrested and he was in jail for almost 2 weeks and now he hasn't even seen his children for more than 5 years, DO NOT THREAD THAT PATH MAN, BE WARY Legendrysailor: 5 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 7:48pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
larryking540:Are you married? And if you are, how would you describe your marriage? 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by pocohantas(f): 7:49pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
ednut1: Send me that iPhone and MacBook first. If I vex you, you go come open thread. For the ending you will add “my wife would be reading, she is a Nlder too” hahahaha! 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by abbey621(m): 7:50pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Those that can comprehend sees no ill intention, like I said your problem is your problem miss me with the BS....THANK YOU! |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Newboss(m): 7:50pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Klass99: You think people do what feels wrong to them? For your mind people are stupid. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by AutoChick4U(f): 7:51pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:You simply lack tact. Why mention Monika? 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Chukapage(m): 7:52pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Every family has atleast on relative that has paid for their Naivety of taking the "Nigerian good girl" abroad where she turns tigeress. Even my father's youngest brother is felt the heat so much he divorced and came back in Nigeria remarried in Nigeria now stays in Nigeria. He was warned but he chose to make a stupid choice he paid dearly for it. Any Nigerian man that imports a woman from Nigeria to abroad is just Naive or plain stupid. Infact it's a dangerous Dice to roll. Best bet is leave the Woman in Nigeria. Yes she'll cheat but even if you take her abroad she'll still cheat and throw your peace of mind away by taking the man's sweat. So best bet is allow her cheat in Nigeria do DNA..... 5 Likes |
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