Timekeeper:


Honestly, he Sud wife that lady B4 another man take the fruit of his labor.. He knows the lady parental status B4 dating her and while dating her.. I don't understand his complain now....

If he is nt careful, he will be the one to lose... Cox the babe no go lose at all, after all antoehr man go come carry her and her life goes fine...

You are right on your contributions
I believe that he is afraid of the responsibilities he will automatically inherit once he gets married to her

But my question is why spending so much on her while he is yet to decide, if to marry her or not

yinkaOdutuyo:


I help everyone around me bro

Prove it

But to talk truth guy man you fvck up well well

Back in 2011 in school I told my girlfriend (now wife) outright to get a job or I dump her ass

Infact when I call am fear no de let am tell me say she sit-down house

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJ_uSSorbbw

Bobo yi o wa Caring

You invested too much in this girl. With all that you've invested in her so far, what if she wakes up and leaves you tomorrow, what will you do?

yinkaOdutuyo

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

Breakfast loading Mr tortoise

Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

And please tell, why it is the sole responsibility of the male participant in a mutually enjoyed sexual experience to offer pecuniary gratification or favors in return for a mutually enjoyed encounter! Your mind and its opinion are fetid and reeks of a malignant sense of entitlement that is terminally fatal to its bearer and the unfortunate subject of its focus! Go learn a trade or skill and stop wallowing in the exaggerated worth of your vagina! It is no more than sex, something even dogs don’t consider a luxury! Be human, earn your due!!!!!

yinkaOdutuyo:


Her parent can't just do anything, but just at least to help her.

Open a poultry and let the parent work there, they earn salary and you make profit.

dennis7179:
Ahhh i wonder where some people get their brain if it was God who made it like other sane people too or an assistant when God was resting?How can you make monetize sex like the girl was doing her a favor?like she didnt enjoy it too?Thats one of the reasons nigeria will not progress when ladires like you think the only good thing and benefits they can add to this world is to have sex for what they can get in life.Success is far from people with that kind of thinking.

But it's ok to be having sex with someone's daughter that he hasn't pay dowry on abi? you all can downplay sex all you want but I IYAEBE STILL MAINTAIN WHAT I SAID WITH MY FULL CHEST. My posts are for people with deep wisdom, those are the people that understands where I'm coming from,I'm too old to be speaking like a child.

onyenatruchi:
Yoruba Ladies cannot do without men they depend on men for Pant Bra Tight Yoruba Ladies will seize to exist if there are no Men available Yoruba Ladies sha

even pant and bra you mean

yinkaOdutuyo:


Am not complaining, but I want to push her to her parent, at least talk to them to up their games,

Your money is sweeter than her parents money.
Oga, pls send her money.
Be your brother's keeper. She doesn't have anybody except you.
If you have the financial capacity to help the poor, please don't hesitate.
God will bless you abundantly and multiply your wealth.
Favour will locate you.

yinkaOdutuyo:


I expected much from you.

But what nairander called you is what you're.

lol... Stop the nonsense. D guy collected sex and in return he pays rent and feeding. Wtf is hard to understand.

Omo. Nairaland people are bias...... It's. A fucking transaction for Christ sake.

yinkaOdutuyo:


Ok what do you think I can do?

All you can do is leave her for another man you've groomed her for nau
Na now you just dey wake up

Favfables1:



Wahala man...
You don land ba...

Lol

Do I have "wahala?"

Don't ever start what you can't finish next time. Let this serve as a lesson for your future doings

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

You are having Sex with a girl who is not your Wife and you think that won't come with a price? someone you haven't paid a Bride price on and you are complaining of feeding her and providing financial support for her?
You want to continue having sex with her for free just like that?
All these Nairaland boys sha

KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

No simps in my DNA.
My future daughters would be independent.

Iyaebe:
You expected me to shy away from the bitter truth? it is the reason I'm always the odd one out in most opinions on issues because i spit reality,you are enjoying marital bliss and other conjugal enjoyments but you don't want to spend,are you her creator? As long as you are sleeping with her please don't complain of any demands from her,nothing is free,not even the air we breath.

Are you saying that sex is all she could afford?

Bellerophon:


And please tell, why it is the sole responsibility of the male participant in a mutually enjoyed sexual experience to offer pecuniary gratification or favors in return for a mutually enjoyed encounter! Your mind and its opinion are fetid and reeks of a malignant sense of entitlement that is terminally fatal to its bearer and the unfortunate subject of its focus! Go learn a trade or skill and stop wallowing in the exaggerated worth of your vagina! It is no more than sex, something even dogs don’t consider a luxury! Be human, earn your due!!!!!

Oga Bonaventure I still maintain what I said with my full back and front,it is only ladies that doesn't know their left from right that part their legs for someone over mere expression of some yeye feelings. Please call me other names as I'm so used to been called a prostitute on this forum,at least move with time because the word prostitute became a household word since 18th century. Do some research and come up with something mordern

Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

For real though..was her parents ever going to part her legs?

yinkaOdutuyo:


Am not complaining, but I want to push her to her parent, at least talk to them to up their games,

The earlier you guys realize that having sex with a woman who you have not paid her bride price is a Transactional relationship, that is when you will finally have peace

Keep deceiving yourself with your "world of reality"

Iyaebe:
You expected me to shy away from the bitter truth? it is the reason I'm always the odd one out in most opinions on issues because i spit reality,you are enjoying marital bliss and other conjugal enjoyments but you don't want to spend,are you her creator? As long as you are sleeping with her please don't complain of any demands from her,nothing is free,not even the air we breath.

Iyaebe:
You expected me to shy away from the bitter truth? it is the reason I'm always the odd one out in most opinions on issues because i spit reality,you are enjoying marital bliss and other conjugal enjoyments but you don't want to spend,are you her creator? As long as you are sleeping with her please don't complain of any demands from her,nothing is free,not even the air we breath.

Why she cannot spend in return for the adrenaline and testosterone expended on her pleasure in the course of coital conjugation bemuses me in a world of gender equality and egalitarianism! All humans are born free and equal regardless of gender or sexuality so reads the sacred creed of the feminist movement!! Only that they try hard to obscure their selective application of their own cannon in despicable hypocrisy when it comes to the commercialization of sex to favor their gender!

Why must the man pay for a consensual and mutual agreement to a sexual encounter??! You want to be equal when the odds favor you but to be the weaker vessel when it is time to pay your due! You are nothing but a brigand with an irredeemable penchant for criminal recidivism bordering on an irresistible desire to ALWAYS commit larceny through sexual pandering! Fool

yinkaOdutuyo:



Is not a problem, but I don't think is proper for me to be feeding her, even when she's in her parent house bro.

just marry her and so you can keep feeding her legally

Truth be told,what you have been doing for her is not a big deal."We rise by lifting others" so they say.If truly you love her,keep doing what you do but be 100% certain that the feelings are mutual.Be certain she loves you as much as you do love her and not because of what she gets from you.I did all you stated and even more.I knew my wife since she was in J.S.3 so you can imagine what i have done through all her secondary school days till she graduated from the university all alone.I even set up her parents even before we talked of marriage.i didnt want to get married the period we did but she encouraged it back then because she was scared of losing me.Now we are married with 3 kids and happy together.She is in UK now studying for her Phd.So the bottom line is do what you feel you can for her only if the feelings are mutual and you will never regret it.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

@Op you are not wrong for helping her all along. Neither are you wrong for asking her that question, but you'll be wrong if you did all that with the mindset of marrying her. There is a high probability of her jilting you for someone else, someone new. I know how it feels to be selfless, you feel someone is in need of something and you go all out for the fellow even if it's not convenient. Just draw the lines bro, ladies like her are leeches, they feed off ones good will.

kabnab:

For real though..was her parents ever going to part her legs?

Let him go and marry her or stop having sex with her until they are ready for marriage.

You're not even married to her and you shoulder all this responsibility, when you get married , you'd be the one to take care of all her siblings , parents and extended family.

I just hope you've also taken good care of your family (parents and siblings) the same way you take care of hers.

She doesn't regard you to be at her home and still ask you for feeding money, truth is, if she finds someone richer ,she'd do away with you, ask yourself what you gain from the relationship, are you saying if you're not around her family cannot feed or eat, how have they be taking care of themselves all this while.

Baba, kitten full everywhere, don't trap your destiny to anything that doesn't give u value

Bellerophon:


Why she cannot spend in return for the adrenaline and testosterone expended on her pleasure in the course of coital conjugation bemuses me in a world of gender equality and egalitarianism! All humans are born free and equal regardless of gender or sexuality so reads the sacred creed of the feminist movement!! Only that they try hard to obscure their selective application of their own cannon in despicable hypocrisy when it comes to the commercialization of sex to favor their gender!

Why must the man pay for a consensual and mutual agreement to a sexual encounter??! You want to be equal when the odds favor you but to be the weaker vessel when it is time to pay your due! You are nothing but a brigand with an irredeemable penchant for criminal recidivism bordering on an irresistible desire to ALWAYS commit larceny through sexual pandering! Fool

A man goes to a woman's house and ask for her hand in marriage, the man pays the bride price on her. That's the norms, so it's either he marries her or stop having sex with her till they are ready to get married.

KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

Amen in Jesus name

Most Nigerian parents would have been jailbirds in saner climes. How dare you give birth to children you can't raise? Abortion would look glorious compared to this evil.

yinkaOdutuyo:


But she's in her parent house now, why will be feeding her when she's with me and be feeding her again in her father's house.

Bruhh yo fault at the beginning but right now, you can't back out. Yoruba adage states "Ibere ki she onishe afi eni Toba Parie".
Meaning someone that starts work is not the winner but the one who finishes it.
If you leave her now all yo investments are gone like fuckin forget bout it.
Complete yo tasks and that's it.

Please house! What is the meaning of SIMP? Is it different from redpill? Am new here