Kobojunkie:
I don't support this parent's approach to "fighting back" at all.

Build your child's self confidence instead. Teach him to understand that his value as an individual ought not to be obtained from how much he or his parents have. Make him understand that those bullying him are instead the defective beings since they seek to find meaning by inflicting hurt on others around them. Tell your children the truth - feed them wisdom- not get them to engage in meaningless battles.

Learning him to bully his bullies only makes him one of them.

Romanoff:
Even in fighting back, your child can get killed.

Many of us here were bullies, it is a very bad behaviour and if has messed up the mental health of a lot of kids.

It has nothing to do with boarding schools cause even day school children get bullied.

It has to do with failed parenting.

I think parents should also be held accountable for the behaviours of their kids.

hartoyebi38:
Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school.

They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there.

So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste.

My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us.

So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.

As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America).

Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.

Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

hartoyebi38:
Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school.

They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there.

So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste.

My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us.

So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.

As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America).

Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.

Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

Pinkzebra:
I am teaching my toddler , my son that's is okay if we don't have some things . For instance we don't have a car but most of his class mates families have and he would.look on so long to their cars while we wait for bike . I told him we are fine and no different from them as owing cars doesn't mean they were better off. I said when it is time that we can afford to own a car which is soon we would and if we don't , it doesn't mean we are poor . After all you attend the same school and we pay same fee.
I teach him to be proud of what he owns especially what he worked for . I teach him working hard is good as that is a good path to success .
I don't know where all of this is coming from, but if you ask him what he wants to do , he will say to buy and build big cars . Here what I do , I buy him several toy cars and he builds cars out of anything, name it pegs, slipper, books , his food anything! Rather than feel bad about us not owing a car, he has turn it to his passion .
If anyone has toy cars not used anymore and is willing to gift , I'm all open . My kid keeps getting fascinated with cars and now when we take our bikes , he smiles and sometimes he suggest we walk home .

Parents should build confidence in their kids and encourage to speak up when they do , don't shun them listen to understand.
I feel if parents get more involved with their kids , guiding them all the way , kids will turn out to be good responsible adults .
The best way to fight back is to build confidence not go physically or abusing back .
I am open for toy car gifting ooo ;

hartoyebi38:
Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school.

They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there.

So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste.

My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us.

So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.

As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America).

Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.

Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

crackhaus:
For a child to taunt another child for not having a washing machine or a dish washer at home, it's clear that his have parents failed.

Behaviour like that can only be learned from the adults in a child's life.

YorubaIsCursed:
Yoruba children self

Serebro94:
Irresponsible of you

Acidosis:
Contentment is a special recipe for confidence. Nothing builds confidence more than being content with what you have. It also a way to overcome certain kinds of bullying.

It is a very dangerous trend to build a child's confidence around material things. Very very dangerous. A lot of parents are in serious debt all because they want their kids to belong to a certain social class. The funny thing about life is that whatever it is you think you're spending to raise their "confidence", there are people willing to waste your entire net worth on wine and wristwatch. Spend as much as you want but make them understand that there's more to life..

Redemption77:
I am very disappointed in Christians/Muslims all over Nigeria! Shame on y'all!!

Kobojunkie:
I don't support this parent's approach to "fighting back" at all.

Build your child's self confidence instead. Teach him to understand that his value as an individual ought not to be obtained from how much he or his parents have. Make him understand that those bullying him are instead the defective beings since they seek to find meaning by inflicting hurt on others around them. Tell your children the truth - feed them wisdom- not get them to engage in meaningless battles.

Learning him to bully his bullies only makes him one of them.

Bossladyy:
mad oooooooooo

crackhaus:
For a child to taunt another child for not having a washing machine or a dish washer at home, it's clear that his parents have failed.

Behaviour like that can only be learned from the adults in a child's life.