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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Mrdike: 8:52pm On Dec 07, 2021
I am moved to comment in this write-up probably because the story really touched me. It is my earnest desire that God will intervene in ur marriage in Jesus name amen. I appreciate your effort to make it work and also assisting in house chores.

Pls continue to show her love and attention and pls don't get tired.
Inculcate the habit of confessing positively about ur marriage at any given time, place and have this absolute faith in God that you will win this battle.
Lastly but not the least,try to stop discussing ur marriage matter with friends, colleagues, family etc....they don't really have the solution but God only. If u can always pray midnight prayers against all forces fighting ur marriage,I believe in due time, u will experience joy again.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Nobody: 8:56pm On Dec 07, 2021
Just stay loyal and never change towards her,she’ll realize her mistake someday and come back to her own self. Try not to complicate things more bruv

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Goldentulip2: 9:14pm On Dec 07, 2021
I’m sorry to say but all these signs I’m sure were visible during courtship days. I wish you well Chale you may not value my advice so let me save it.
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by tiffanyfan(f): 9:28pm On Dec 07, 2021
I Know they will come for my head after this, but I wonder why some of us female has this stupid mentality that their mother in law is a witch, if your mother is a witch then your own mother is probably a witch too .. that's how one idiot came to NL to complain about her mother that she is turning her baby into a chemist. The woman that took care of your husband till you think he is good enough for you to marry is now a witch. Fine, some has the traits but abegii your wife should take a chill pill biko

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Crystalom3(m): 9:40pm On Dec 07, 2021
Bonesbreaker:
go and print fake divorce paper drop it for her to see give her two days to make up her mind on the way forward and watch the drama, remember when you give her that fake divorce do not sleep in the house make arrangement with ur friend or hotel to sleep over that night, ignore her food do not give her attention and watch the drama display she will come back on her sense
he's not in Nigeria.

That girl is ready to divorce the op and collect all his property as well monthly allowance.

Op probably married a career babymama.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Harddiskng(m): 9:47pm On Dec 07, 2021
50pseamer:


Op your problem is the foundation on which your marriage stands.

You want to erect a 21 storey building on a foundation meant for small boys-quarters.

If you didn’t do these things with your wife before marriage how can you expect it in marriage.

It is expected that before marriage each party must know what would be required: in short before marriage I may require my wife to sign a small contract cuz I like a ride or die; going to same church, raising children in the knowledge of God etc everything must be in our contract. If she doesn’t agree then I let her go.

But now that you are already married to an unwilling woman, it is an uphill climb. Very difficult, Only God can help you. Start engaging your God.

Shiloh 2021 has started, I would advise you to log-in into divine unction via this and reclaim your home.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Truvelisback(m): 10:37pm On Dec 07, 2021
Op, ur pressure on her is too much. Take it easy until she finds it comfortable to do all u wished. Besides, is a must that she must attend the same church with u? U may be even be the reason she had refused to eat in the same plate with u. If u had treated her well, u wouldn't have seen all these drama.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by lilyheaven: 11:54pm On Dec 07, 2021
Go to her and have sex whenever you feel Hot, you don’t have to seek permission.
You payed for it.
If you can’t do that, get someone to service you, or is it very hard to get one over there?
Anyways,
The butterfly feeling she had for you has disappeared.

For your mom, I’m sure you won’t watch her insult her. I don’t like children that watch others insult their parents.

Again, you’re not divorcing her, even if she serves you a divorce paper, she most marry you by fire by force.

Make yourself scarce at home, you can come back when you know she is already sleeping , or out.

Teach your mind to be happy in any given situation.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by lilyheaven: 12:00am On Dec 08, 2021
Truvelisback:
Op, ur pressure on her is too much. Take it easy until she finds it comfortable to do all u wished. Besides, is a must that she must attend the same church with u? U may be even be the reason she had refused to eat in the same plate with u. If u had treated her well, u wouldn't have seen all these drama.
Attended different church is not issue,
The problem is that, they have filled her brain with hatred. Which is affecting her relationship.
How can she share a bed with a son of a witch, it means her husband wants to destroy her destiny.

I honestly thought people used to leave this witch ideas behind before traveling abroad.
This thing has broken so many homes.
Pastor said this and that

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Kenturkey048(m): 12:04am On Dec 08, 2021
Mr. Poster. From everything, you've written. I only decoded one thing...Why would my wife call my mom a witch??If na me. I go scatter both the pastor, his church, and his generation... Pussy Men everywhere.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Kenturkey048(m): 12:14am On Dec 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
When my elder bro wife venture call our Popsy wizard,na from that day my popsman disown my bro and immediately rejected my brother's wife as his daughter in-law....Even the pastor wey see the vision for her too,we almost go burn him church,but na my popsman just calm us down undecided

Even if your mum na witch self, nothing suppose warrant your wife to call her a witch lipsrsealed

As for una marriage, op,I must tell you the bitter truth bro,that una marriage go soon reach battery low,shut down lipsrsealed

As in...The matter dey pain me on behalf of the momsy.... I wonder wetin dey do all these boys turned husband...How can somebody call your mom a witch and you aren't even ashamed to type that shit...... ??

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Kenturkey048(m): 12:15am On Dec 08, 2021
ChiefSosa:
You'll know what to do when you pull off your Skirt and start wearing a Trouser, like a real man and a family head should.

God bless you.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Lollifeanyi(f): 12:16am On Dec 08, 2021
They way am seeing that marriage it won't end well but with de help of prayers everything will be fine
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by jericco1(m): 5:33am On Dec 08, 2021
Marriage no easy bros, give her time but closely monitored
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by akinade28(f): 8:28am On Dec 08, 2021
lilyheaven:
Go to her and have sex whenever you feel Hot, you don’t have to seek permission.
You payed for it.
Do you know there is something called marital rape?, you want to get this man into big trouble. Even some states in Nigeria have some law against it not to talk of "abroad"

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Toks2008(m): 9:00am On Dec 08, 2021
50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Please what exactly is the problem here cos I honestly can't find one.

Bro Marriage is all about tolerance and making compromises.

I think you are the problem here cis you are seeing issues where there is none.

Relax, love more, complain less and be tolerant. Laslas your marriage go dey alright.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by 9jausedauto: 9:03am On Dec 08, 2021
You do all the chores and pay all the bills and she denies you sex, use ur head sir, divorce her now b4 she go change am for you later
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by drealcivilceno(m): 9:03am On Dec 08, 2021
Ebubechuwku:
I understand how you feel, she is making you feel less of an African man.

Just be patient with her, put everything in prayer, don't be carried away, love ur child.

And be ready for plan B incase she dump You... Don't be carried away at all, anyhow it happens, always learn to move on...

Cos if you don't work on the marriage, things may go south and since you are abroad not naija, it may hurt you the more and make you sad on and on.

Pray to God and have plan B incase she said she is ready for divorce, cos it's already showing...

You will die before your time!
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Nobody: 9:03am On Dec 08, 2021
50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?
What I know is that with time equation will balance, be looking at her avoid anything argument, don't expose her weakness to your mom even though she has showed herself and be praying for her
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by AfroKnight: 9:04am On Dec 08, 2021
angry
Na wa. This is why I avoid ladies that visit prophets.

How would my wife have the guts to tell me my own mother is a witch? So she means a witch raised the man she fell in love with? Then she too must be a small witch.

50pseamer Your wife is one of those gullible women whose pastors have made millions of naira from.

You need to defend your mother more and more. Don’t let one wife disrespect her like that. Also thread carefully as you are abroad. If your local laws favour women, then she can send you to prison with a few well placed lies and some basic manipulative actions.

Think 4 steps ahead.

Me, I won’t live with any woman who believes my mother is a witch and even has the guts to say it to my face.

I won’t talk on the fact that she is withholding sex to punish you.

It appears you have successfully married your enemy.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Tannhauser(m): 9:04am On Dec 08, 2021
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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by safarigirl(f): 9:07am On Dec 08, 2021
Kuriosmynd:
Simping in marriage will take u no where.
Those bullshit marriage councilors tell you, to do more, sweep more, fetch more water, cook more, clean more, watch plate more and all those bullshit will not a change a demonic wife. And if she's lost sexual attraction for you, to burst ur bubble, doing those houseboy work especially when u dont normally do it will only make her pvssy dry the more.

Most of u all never saw ur father do those bullshit, yet he commanded respect from your mother, but u want to become house boy to ur wife and think u will get her respect...shiior.

This is Africa..no matter the advancement, doing those bullshit will only bring premium tears and disrespect....except out of volition on rare occasion, not out of duty, or her expectations.

If she needs domestic helper, she should get a houseboy. simple. What does she do with her salary? She should pay for househelp paraventure a man doesnt have enough for that

.
Nonsense

Oga, he lives abroad, he is not in Africa.

No go dey give person advice wey go only work for Nigeria, make dem for no collect him house for abroad.

Tailor advice according to location please.
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Nobody: 9:07am On Dec 08, 2021
State your case and leave us to determine who the problem is.
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Nobody: 9:07am On Dec 08, 2021
50pseamer:

We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?
You mean your so called wife had the guts to call your own MOTHER a witch and she is still in that house? Sorry, you are too weak to be man. Continue crying over the internet, you deserve it.

Nonsense.
undecided

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by MARKone(m): 9:07am On Dec 08, 2021
50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Your mother is no Witch, don't even add "even" to it.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Romanoff(f): 9:07am On Dec 08, 2021
Amos 3:3.

There are some things that should have been discussed before marriage.

The church to attend, family altar, eating together, finances and how to raise your kids are examples.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by BlackyOne: 9:08am On Dec 08, 2021
50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Firstly, you will end up suffering HBO and dying of depression.

Secondly, did you marry her abroad or in Nigeria?
If Nigeria, then try to persuade her to come to Nigeria for a sweet and fun holiday then get a divorce and move on with your life but if you married her abroad then I weep for you!

Thirdly, YOLO... Try to be happy, she can't be your responsibility no more, I know you're in more pains than you can even express... Just get out of the bondage you are mistaking for marriage.
Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by Nobody: 9:09am On Dec 08, 2021
MARKone:


Your mother is no Witch, don't even add "even" to it.
The man shouldn't be married in the first place, that marriage will not work.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by ashjay001(m): 9:09am On Dec 08, 2021
50pseamer:


Not yet, I sent her the link, she is the one insisting on special criteria, so I asked to to look for it, I have sent her my own suggestion.


You Don enter one chance jare. Her kind of mindset don't get compromise. It's their way or the highway.

I don't see you winning unless something changes her mentality. Prepare for the worse case scenario. Reduce the number of kids, cos ladies like her will frustrate your relationship with them, once you get divorced.

Na dem plenty pass, entitled babes, that don't understand the first thing about having a marriage

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 9:10am On Dec 08, 2021
Datboredberry:


I want the op to even divorce her... Accusing his mom of witchcraft! That's the last straw... How can he even think of his wife with any affection? undecided

I would have gotten rid of her since... Imagine him even trying to please her...
Don't mind the simp. He is sounding like if the woman divorces the op his world will come to an end.

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Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by fabianiyobosa(m): 9:10am On Dec 08, 2021
My marriage is about a year and 2 months old and we have a son, I compliment my wife from time to time about how she is doing so much to keep our family together, sometimes we do not have enough, we just buy what we need the most and we live abroad.

I am physically stronger than my wife, but she is the one doing almost everything to take care of me and our son. Our baby is 4 months old now and to be honest, it has not been easy, but she is always there to carry him for long periods till he falls asleep, then she does the laundry, then she cooks, then she feeds him, bathe him, sometimes when I am busy with work, she goes in the cold with him to Drs appointments, shopping and almost everything that needs to be done, then after this hardwork of taking care of our SON, one basta*d of a lady with no home training will now say my wife cannot enter my sons kitchen when he finally gets married. Infact, they are both mad. Call my wife a witch, infact they are very mad.

OP, If I say you are stu.pid for even bringing this up, some will say I am harsh but it is what it is.

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