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Palema007:
Perhaps your wife overworks herself or she is nursing.. you see the later is number one libido killer for women.

Talk to a sex therapist together, that would help.

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Trash as always!

Gaggii:


Y are like that, shey na cruise abi dey actually dont like sex again

Sex is a job on its own so when a woman is tired, she can't stand sex

ahnie:
What of me that hasn't had sex close to a year?

9 months now and still counting. But I thought you're married.?

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Always make sure she doesn't over due things, women are very strong and resilient but when they are tired, you can't get them to submit to sex
Sex requires energy

LIVINGICON:
Are you sure you are really turning her on? Do you do pre-intimacy? Or na to just dive dey enter the pussy like that,go dey jam am like porn star. To the best of my knowledge women crave sex often, most especially if the man is skillful. Na she go dey disturb you for am.

So, go back to the drawing board. There are books on giving good sex and making a woman squirt or orgasm.

How married man go dey masturbate? Na 4uck up.

When you marry you go know

Dizzyyish:



Chameleon tactics. When they've gotten what they wanted (marriage/children) they now have leverage whereas the man has all the leverage before marriage. Their true character/behavior is often overlooked due to 'sex, looks or love' and later it appears like they've suddenly "changed".
That's why a keen eye and patience is necessary when vetting a woman because even if they're pretending there'll still be glimpses of their real character every now and then.

I feel you can notice most red flags in women before marriage.

Lol, you can't have a side chick because of financial constraints
Ra
Make I drop prayer for u
You will have all your needs ,you will not struggle but you will not achieve that financial ability wey go make u reason to get side chick���

Oya onto the advice, try to talk to your wife let her know what you have become because of the lack of sex. Marriage is all about understanding.
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Why are people like dis ,he is looking for a solution to de problem at hand ,he meets and talks to his wife all d tym and she says she is tired and u want him to tell his wife what he haz become bcus of her so she can laugh at him,do u think she dose not no ,dat he is passing through a lot please allow De guy plz

Help2020:

I jealous una wen dey masturbate without side effect. Me I non fit try masturbate for a day again, except I wan suffer for days.

Wetin go happen if u do

Acidosis:
You all should stop blaming your wives. She's not the reason you all couldn't control yourselves before marriage. If you're the type of guy that stayed away from pre-marital sex or sex with too many random women, living with your wife for months without sex during pregnancy or child birth wouldn't be an issue. 1 month after child birth, and some of you're thinking about side chicks. Is sex the only thing you all did with your lives as bachelors?? Just one month oo!

Some of you slept with at least 6 girls per month before marriage. Now as a married man, you want your wife to take over and do the work of 6 ol.osho while also attending to house chores and corporate responsibilities. More often than not, you guys are the problems in your marriage. By the way, this thread is disg.usting.

very very disgusting
They are always thinking of d pleasure nobody is talking about the consequences of the action.

No good girl will ever be an olosho called sidechick to a married man.

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Your home is already affected. LOL
Let me put it bluntly, you don't have a home.

Ndidi2:
quote me
U will regret ever cheating on that woman except she had slept with someone 'shusband
Cheating nearly destroyed and kill me .
I HV not recovered emotionally after finding out my loving husband is sleeping around.

I hate men that cheat on their wives for whatever reason.
Is heartbreaking finding out that the man u love could be opening his body for olosho in the name of side chick.

No good girl will ever have something doing with someone'shusband.

and starving your husband sexually is right abi? Abi dem no tell you sex is very important to man as much as money is important to woman ..


Dey there. Don’t do the needful . By the time u no see am for house again, your eyes go clear

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Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

They think the problem is pre intimacy. Lol

Kingjames:
Even after marriage she cant even think of it.

unless she wants to have 2 more assistance, and if she is not careful, one of those assistance will graduate to full wife.

what sort of manipulative move is that when i paid her diary!

abomination

You paid her diary ?
Is she a cow or what ?
Na wa

Some women are terrible and you don’t have to take it as a joke. Some change suddenly due to bad advice from their wicked friends that want her marriage to crash. Her refusal for sex is just from the above explanation.

Differentiate:

9 months now and still counting. But I thought you're married.?

Absolutely.

ahnie:
What of me that hasn't had sex close to a year?

That is why I don't believe people who try to tell the OP that his wife may be cheating outside.
The woman sex drive and that of the man is wired differently! Men tend to want to have sex at anytime (same in the animal kingdom) including when they are sick too! Seduce a man at any time and 98% of the time you will be bound to get him. It is a different story for the female folks. Women's sexual appeal is rather complicated! Women can stay up to a year without sex and still feel OK. Most of the times, husbands complaining here gets to meet their wives easily only when she is in her ovulation period.

Same thing can be said of flirting. Men flirts primarily for sex and without emotions attached to it. That is why a man can sleep with all the women in the world outside his home and still love his wife! But women? a different ball game altogether. Women mostly flirts for these reasons; attention, fun, desire to want something, making her husband jealous, with the least one as being tired of her marriage and sex!

As husbands, we tend to use our sexual nature to judge our wives. That is why sometimes I feel that polygamy was probably the only natural way of staying married.
Think of this; when you both started, you were having sex with her as much as you liked and she never stopped you. But the moment kids begin to come, sexual complaints from the husband begin to arise. What we husbands fail to understand is that a lot of changes coupled with boredom have set in and no matter how creative you become, she will still get tired or loose interest in you! It's a natural phenomenon. She only begins to get awakened the moment she notices or senses a competitor. But that will only make her to want to hurt you back later on by flirting openly to make you jealous. If she married you, knowing fully that you were polygamous, that would have been a different story! And for your information; whether polygamous or monogamous, they all have serious problems!!!

Differentiate:

9 months now and still counting. But I thought you're married.?

People like us believed sex is strictly for procreation .
Like play like play....I might be calibate for 10yrs.

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

If it domestic work that is making her tired, then get her a help or assist her in shores around the house and caring for the children, so that she will be less tired for couple night time .

seanwilliam:
and starving your husband sexually is right abi? Abi dem no tell you sex is very important to man as much as money is important to woman ..


Dey there. Don’t do the needful . By the time u no see am for house again, your eyes go clear

my husband own is not sex starving.he comes home wkends.during the week he will say holdup is too much,that hecant be coming week days not knowing he has a 31 year old fool that should be in husband house.

Shalommy:
Chaaiii... Men with sex. Is sex food or money? Man, go out and hussle hard then you'll realise that sex is nothing and you can stay a month or more with no feeling of it.

Sex is food to us... it is sexually frigid women like you who were either physically of hormonally circumcised that feel Sex isn't food...If you as a woman feel Sex isn't food ..you have a problem...you have a problem ...go and take herbs and roots and get a hormonal therapy ....but if u were physically circumcised, no one can help u...not even a 7 inch d*ck ....

Only one person has so far said what I am suspecting. You're wife might be a secret lesbian..they still get married for societal pressures. They still hookup with their lesbo pals, even under your nose.
" Hey, hunny...I'm with Rochelle and we're just going to be at home catching up on some ladies talk."
You, the husband won't know that they will have clit sex as soon as you leave for work. It happens alot.
OR
She is not feeling you on an intimate level. You said she wasn't like that before marriage. Could it have been that she was just giving you unlimited access to her body because she was trying to secure that marriage status? Now she has attained it, she couldn't be so bothered with her sexual life as it pertains to being a freak in the sheets for you.
Go visit a strong Alfa or clairvoyant. Let them monitor her for a week and see if she has some other side-guy or side-chick.
Don't think these things don't happen around our society. Definitely does.
Good luck. For now, keep watching mostly ebony porn videos and beating your meat, Sir. I hope this helps......Till a solution suffices.

Melkizedeck:



That is why I don't believe people who try to tell the OP that his wife may be cheating outside.
The woman sex drive and that of the man is wired differently! Men tend to want to have sex at anytime (same in the animal kingdom) including when they are sick too! Seduce a man at any time and 98% of the time you will be bound to get him. It is a different story for the female folks. Women's sexual appeal is rather complicated! Women can stay up to a year without sex and still feel OK. Most of the times, husbands complaining here gets to meet their wives easily only when she is in her ovulation period.

Same thing can be said of flirting. Men flirts primarily for sex and without emotions attached to it. That is why a man can sleep with all the women in the world outside his home and still love his wife! But women? a different ball game altogether. Women mostly flirts for these reasons; attention, fun, desire to want something, making her husband jealous, with the least one as being tired of her marriage and sex!

As husbands, we tend to use our sexual nature to judge our wives. That is why sometimes I feel that polygamy was probably the only natural way of staying married.
Think of this; when you both started, you were having sex with her as much as you liked and she never stopped you. But the moment kids begin to come, sexual complaints from the husband begin to arise. What we husbands fail to understand is that a lot of changes coupled with boredom have set in and no matter how creative you become, she will still get tired or loose interest in you! It's a natural phenomenon. She only begins to get awakened the moment she notices or senses a competitor. But that will only make her to want to hurt you back later on by flirting openly to make you jealous. If she married you, knowing fully that you were polygamous, that would have been a different story! And for your information; whether polygamous or monogamous, they all have serious problems!!!

true

HarunaWest:
Side chick and masturbation..Unfortunately me I get small change...So i chop my life mehn...Time go reach, na she go dey beg you for straff.

Lol
Zenith Bank come see something oooo

Differentiate:

9 months now and still counting. But I thought you're married.?

Funny...We all had that in common. If Annie is also being honest, that is...
Well, I broke mine yesterday. Exactly one year and one week of no sex.
I kinda feel regretful and down. But I'll leave with the consequences thereof..

Kpokpoogri:


Lol
Zenith Bank come see something oooo

If you dont gerrit, forget bour it

I will not advise you to masturbate or to get a side chick, rather both of you should come together and iron things out. Your wife is going through somethings, let her be opened to you so that solution could be found.

Then I should be thanking God for my wife, the only time I was starved was when she gave birth aside that she is doing a nice work

Take her out and talk to her about it in a tone she would understand, start by letting her know how you have missed her old self

Do not reason Side chick abeg masturbating is not good also up

Palema007:
Perhaps your wife overworks herself or she is nursing.. you see the later is number one libido killer for women.

Talk to a sex therapist together, that would help.

which sex therepist again in this matter is she a baby that don't know that man need to do what he enjoying doing.

Firefox01:
This is too extreme. Your wife has been maintaining a side dude for four years boss

Or side-chick.
Why must it be only a dude. You don't know the millions of lesbians in our communities now.
I know more than 15. And they'll end up getting married without disclosing it to their men. Imagine the consequent result. Maybe OP married one of such ladies.
Or this mans wife has made a blood oath, or just a strong pact with her lesbian partner to not sleep with any man anymore.
Or she belongs to an all-female secret society that specializes in dealing with their husbands in whatever way possible, just to feel pleased.
I've heard things in this brief life. Things are happening.

Address the root problem first. If she's overworked, find solutions to that and maybe your hands can be salvaged from an untimely death

Sex starvation ...!!!
That's bad . What I realize is that when one is married and you've had a child ,the zeal or passion of having frequent sex may not be there any longer unlike before marriage . Sit your wife down ,explain how you feel ,let her know what you do when you couldn't have sex. She will tell you things you don't know ,maybe your drive is not worth it or you are going to d extreme with which she can no longer bear ( if d woman had CS in giving birth ) this kills victims of their sex drive . Taking side chick is not the solution ,remember your vows to her or you seek a marriage counsellor or sex therapist.
Thanks