I’m having this problem with almost every female. It’s almost one reason why considering marriage is a problem now... These women are not ready to declare their finances.

I hate asking any woman for money. So this isn’t a case of knowing her finances to ask for loans or something.

However, I love openness in a partner. Declare any and everything as I would. Conflicts in relationships start from secrecy.

Guys, what’s your take?

Remember the man's money is for all of us...

While the woman's money is only for her...

Anyway, it's bad for u to hide your finances from ur partner

Bigredmachine:
Remember the man's money is for all of us...

While the woman's money is only for her...

Anyway, it's bad for u to hide your finances from ur partner

We are used to this

AllKnowing:


We are used to this

The reason why men don't disclose again is because women don't disclose too

A man has no reasons to look into his wife's finances except they but have a prior mutual understanding to be open about it... It is all a matter of choice which should be agreed upon before hand.

A single man is a happy and healthy man.

dawnomike:
A man has no reasons to look into his wife's finances except they but have a prior mutual understanding to be open about it... It is all a matter of choice which should be agreed upon before hand.

Okay...

Are you implying that, quite normally, the woman has reasons to look into her husband’s finances?

When I got married to my wife...for a year I never ask her how much she earned. But as time went on, I asked her,she told me and for the past 6years I have never asked not until one day,she told me her upfront,her real pay and she apologised to me that she lied to me when I initially asked about her salary.

Today,she is the one pushing her upfront and salaries for us to invest along with mine. Women need to be treated with tenderness and understanding,if u can,u will win her heart.

ibechris:
When I got married to my wife...for a year I never ask her how much she earned. But as time went on, I asked her,she told me and for the past 6years I have never asked not until one day,she told me her upfront,her real pay and she apologised to me that she lied to me when I initially asked about her salary.

Today,she is the one pushing her upfront and salaries for us to invest along with mine. Women need to be treated with tenderness and understanding,if u can,u will win her heart.

Was there a point to this?

A man has no business with his wife's finances.

Some women are just selfish. so na only man need to spend hin money, why u women keeps buying unnecessary cosmetics.

Iyaebe:
A man has no business with his wife's finances.

Why?

Do men disclose to their wives what they earn?
Well, it depends on the dynamics of the relationship sha.
Some couples are open to each other, while others accord themselves some level of privacy and they’re fine that way.

AllKnowing:
I’m having this problem with almost every female. It’s almost one reason why considering marriage is a problem now... These women are not ready to declare their finances.

I hate asking any woman for money. So this isn’t a case of knowing her finances to ask for loans or something.

However, I love openness in a partner. Declare any and everything as I would. Conflicts in relationships start from secrecy.

Guys, what’s your take?

Oh yes everything has to be declared. Past, present and future must be declared if not something fishy is about to go down. As far as finances are concerned every wealth in my home is the commonwealth of the family. I have no personal finance. My wife has no personal finance. We both work towards building the commonwealth of the home. I know some would say "what if she divorces you" and my response to them is why marry a spouse with the expectation of a divorce? If divorce is on the table then marriage should not happen at all. I know this is farfetched for many but this is what I took to the LORD God in prayer before I met my wife and the LORD God made it beautiful in His time.

Iyaebe:
A man has no business with his wife's finances.

Little wonder why most of you female folk step into marriage with the one foot out the door!

Acidosis:

Why?

Because it's his responsibility to wholely provide for the family

It takes a level of trust for a woman to open up on her finances. Women will only share with you how much they earn if you have proven beyond doubt that you worth knowing. She may likely give you just an idea or range at early stage then give you accurate figure later on.


So calm down....and gain her trust first.

I don't pry but don't hide your finance from me because I don't hide mine, if we are partners even if not the total balance in your account at least I should no the details of your account for emergency sake.

Palema007:
It takes a level of trust for a woman to open up on her finances. Women will only share with you how much they earn if you have proven beyond doubt that you worth knowing. She may likely give you just an idea or range at early stage then give you accurate figure later on.


So calm down....and gain her trust first.

I beg to disagree...

Marriage is a partnership! My Mum spent years in the banking sector and in that time I saw first hand how much money banks make from deceased customers whose families/ spouses do not know the details of their accounts.

AllKnowing:


I beg to disagree...

Marriage is a partnership! My Mum spent years in the banking sector and in that time I saw first hand how much money banks make from deceased customers whose families/ spouses do not know the details of their accounts.

Me ehn, I beg to agree.

Your point no relate with mine but you are right.

Palema007:
Me ehn, I beg to agree.

Your point no relate with mine but you are right.

AllKnowing:
I’m having this problem with almost every female. It’s almost one reason why considering marriage is a problem now... These women are not ready to declare their finances.

I hate asking any woman for money. So this isn’t a case of knowing her finances to ask for loans or something.

However, I love openness in a partner. Declare any and everything as I would. Conflicts in relationships start from secrecy.

Guys, what’s your take?

If you want to be happy, just ignore that part from women

If you are lucky to have one that supports you at home, count yourself Lucky

frozen70:


If you want to be happy, just ignore that part from women

If you are lucky to have one that supports you at home, count yourself Lucky

If who wants to be happy?

Actually, it's because in this clime, finances has become the hottest topic in relationships due to the prevalent hardship. Transparency is trash when it comes to finances... *eerie laughter.

My friend's elder bro sent all his children abroad through education, built a house for another woman and relocated abroad without the wife after keeping quiet for a long time in the marriage. What he declares at home is what can be spent.

U think say u dey wise... *Wide grin

A man would keep back too when you're secretive. All you think you know is a shadow of all that there is. If you're not transparent then, be ready for the side effect. Zero accountability.

frozen70:


If you want to be happy, just ignore that part from women

If you are lucky to have one that supports you at home, count yourself Lucky

Mtttttcheeeeewww...
Rubbish...

AllKnowing:
I’m having this problem with almost every female. It’s almost one reason why considering marriage is a problem now... These women are not ready to declare their finances.

I hate asking any woman for money. So this isn’t a case of knowing her finances to ask for loans or something.

However, I love openness in a partner. Declare any and everything as I would. Conflicts in relationships start from secrecy.

Guys, what’s your take?

I grew up in a family where even I and my siblings knew how much our parents earned every month... My parents were that open with each other about finance ((amongst other things))...

They both knew how much each other earned...
They never made any major financial decisions without first running it through with the other party...
They were both accountable to each other about their finances...

I can clearly remember on 2 occasions when mum transferred her salary to dad....one. was when they bought their first land and the second was during the roofing process..

So I can't seem to grasp my head around where this concept of "his money is our money and her money is her money"... Like, where did it come from??
Ha!!!!!
And to think that there are females who actually think this way is quite shocking...

Well...
Let everyone carry his cross...
Buh as for me, I won't be comfortable if my wife keeps this from me ...
Cause I believe in openness, honesty and trust...

If I can be open and honest with my wife, if I can trust my wife with my finances, then I believe I deserve the same the courtesy from her, if she disagree with this, then there's no point being together in the first place...

That's why I'd always advice my guys who are about to get married, your courtship days is not for nacking, it's a time to actually discuss things like this, don't give no room for assumption, TALK ABOUT IT, so at least you both discuss your expectations from each other...

Favfables1:


I grew up in a family where even I and my siblings knew how much our parents earned every month... My parents were that open with each other about finance ((amongst other things))...

They both knew how much each other earned...
They never made any major financial decisions without first running it through with the other party...
They were both accountable to each other about their finances...

I can clearly remember on 2 occasions when mum transferred her salary to dad....one. was when they bought their first land and the second was during the roofing process..

So I can't seem to grasp my head around where this concept of "his money is our money and her money is her money"... Like, where did it come from??
Ha!!!!!
And to think that there are females who actually think this way is quite shocking...

Well...
Let everyone carry his cross...
Buh as for me, I won't be comfortable if my wife keeps this from me ...
Cause I believe in openness, honesty and trust...

If I can be open and honest with my wife, if I can trust my wife with my finances, then I believe I deserve the same the courtesy from her, if she disagree with this, then there's no point being together in the first place...

That's why I'd always advice my guys who are about to get married, your courtship days is not for nacking, it's a time to actually discuss things like this, don't give no room for assumption, TALK ABOUT IT, so at least you both discuss your expectations from each other...

Well said

It's good to be open about one's finances but sometimes women aren't to avoid hurting a man's ego. There're men who aren't comfortable with the idea of a woman earning more than them.

All women do. If you see any woman showing her husband her finances, just know that she is disclosing only 33%.

Favfables1:


I grew up in a family where even I and my siblings knew how much our parents earned every month... My parents were that open with each other about finance ((amongst other things))...

They both knew how much each other earned...
They never made any major financial decisions without first running it through with the other party...
They were both accountable to each other about their finances...

I can clearly remember on 2 occasions when mum transferred her salary to dad....one. was when they bought their first land and the second was during the roofing process..

So I can't seem to grasp my head around where this concept of "his money is our money and her money is her money"... Like, where did it come from??
Ha!!!!!
And to think that there are females who actually think this way is quite shocking...

Well...
Let everyone carry his cross...
Buh as for me, I won't be comfortable if my wife keeps this from me ...
Cause I believe in openness, honesty and trust...

If I can be open and honest with my wife, if I can trust my wife with my finances, then I believe I deserve the same the courtesy from her, if she disagree with this, then there's no point being together in the first place...

That's why I'd always advice my guys who are about to get married, your courtship days is not for nacking, it's a time to actually discuss things like this, don't give no room for assumption, TALK ABOUT IT, so at least you both discuss your expectations from each other...

You grew up in a very healthy environment, my brother!

In my family, there's nothing like my money or your money... Rather, it's our money. My money is our money while his, is also our money.

When you are in-love, money will the least trouble.

foyeks2001:
In my family, there's nothing like my money or your money... Rather, it's our money. My money is our money while his, is also our money.

When you are in-love, money will the least trouble.

I noticed some women claim to be in love but aren’t. Even in-laws don’t help. How do you explain that a mother tells her just-married daughter to shine her eyes in the marriage and not to “sidon look” financially in the marriage.