Solatium:



Some of you always want to shift the blame,but guess what?A wife will eventually become a mother inlaw at some point

Mariangeles:


No dey talk wetin you no know. If you no understand, ask!

Wetin you think say omugwo be for? Vacation?
You think say na about food, and toys, and echetara'm na echetara'm?

Omugwo for Igbo land na to help woman wey just born pikin.

To help her with herself and the baby, until she's strong enough to handle things herself.

NemoDatQuod:
Send her packing? You guys are fortunate the Nigeria police does not do it's duty. Else it is you the guy who will be sent packing from the house. If she is smart and intelligent, even now, you will have to leave the house for her. She is not your subordinate. She is your partner.

GreatG:


Shift which blame? the op should tell us what happened instead of trying to paint the wife as a bad person. I just hate a one sided story

Vickyvice:
omugwo na plot my most mum in law and their daughter to turn her husband to puppet. I know many case

udemzyudex:


I can tell that you're a kid.

Skyview01:


With due respect, he is one of the most reasonable and sensible person on Nairaland. Go through his responses and you have a lot to learn.

udemzyudex:
s, I'm a critical thinker I don't have swallow everything put out there by someone.

Kobojunkie:
Her husband can and should adequately fill that post instead. After all, the baby was made by both of them in the marriage.

It ought to be the man caring for and helping nurse his wife back to health after the ordeal, unless circumstances don't allow for it - busy work schedule for example. Oyinbo husbands dey even take time off from work in order to care for wife and baby during such times. Rarely do you see them inviting a third partyover during those times and they take turns feeding baby during night shift and all.

Surely Nigeria husbands aren't shigidi that can't lift a finger to care for their own wife and kid in similar situations naw!

Kobojunkie:
Interesting claim you make of your person. Can you prove the above by pointing out exactly what portion of the comment below led you to conclude it was childish at best.
I am curious to know how critically you infact think these things through as a person.

udemzyudex:
1. You talk about Oyinbo husband taking out time to care for their wife and baby like some African men don't do same , you were so confidence and I begin to wonder how many years you've spend abroad to gather this data.

2. When it comes to taking care of child especially a new born baby, there is a lot at stake.
I don't know how it is done over there, I'm basing my assertion on the Nigerian setting.

Omugwo is necessary depending on the experience of the couples, take for example if they are just having their first child, the lady might be very weak and she will need someone to take care of her, in most casing they use hot water to press her body, attend to her wounds in the bathroom till she get her strength back. The woman that comes for the Omugwo will also be the one to bath the baby, I'm sure you've seen where a new born baby take his/her bath, they will have to help massage the body and all that.

3. An inexperience couples won't be able to do that, the wife will be able to do this on her own probably after the 2nd or 3rd child, by then Omugwo might not necessarily be important, they can decide to allow anyone to come or not and of recent the federal government approved paternity leave.

4. So comparing oyinbo way of doing things to ours doesn't make sense, their health system is different, and I believe you don't even know how it is done over there and saying they don't invite third parties over gave you over as a kid.

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.